The Most Important Concepts The Manosphere Taught Me

An interesting thought recently crossed my mind. What would have happened if I stumbled across the manosphere in my late teens?

Back when I was a blue-pill high school greenhorn, clueless about women and with a mind set on “neutral,” I was destined to be just another cog in the big government machine. Simply put, I would have been the dog’s bollocks.

But having all these resources served on a silver platter would not have given me the hunger that I have for life today. I would take this things as granted instead of considering every opportunity as the last one.

Dwelling on those thoughts is not good. What I can do is to keep writing so other young people and lost men turn their life around for the better. If I must condense the most useful things I have learnt:

On Game

Logistics are key


Get a private room or an apartment within 20 minutes walk of the date location or party district. Check that the security will not cockblock you. Have alcohol and music ready at your place. Clean it. Have condoms stashed. Get taxi numbers, a local SIM card etc.


Keep an abundance mentality


Stop “over-pursuing” as Quintus puts it. The sheer number of women cruising around prevents you from being needy. Showing this weakness to women NEVER works in your favour.

Next the time wasters. If it is not her, it will be another. Stop dwelling in the past, stop keeping the number of dysfunctional girls from previous bangs. Keep moving forward.


A bad approach is better than none


This should be carved in every man’s brain. What is the worst than can happen? You have balls, use them. Who cares if you mumbled a bit. Smirk and carry on.

If you don’t act, the opportunity is gone. Don’t count to three. You see, you jump.


Always escalate


Never apologise for being a man with a healthy sex life or hesitate to be sexual. If she calls you out, double down, fuck it. You are not here for a peck on the cheek or listen about her output on life.

One of the sentence that stayed with me and still is in a corner of my head to this day is “Think of it as the last time you see her.”


On Women

Red flags exist for a reason


The danger that they can signal is non negligible. Slutiness and mental instability go hand in hand. Heed the story of the Australian man accused of murder, whose Tinder lay fell from his balcony and the countless false rape accusations that you heard about on ROK.

Recognize the warning signs. Remember not to stick your dick in crazy. The promise of moist holes is not worth putting your life at risk.


Women need leadership


Despite the rubbish that the media spews, they love it. It’s ingrained in their membrane. You lead, they follow. If one refuses, leave her where she stands.

Women are children in adult bodies, deal with them as such. They want a firm hand and no heavy decisions. No need for long, clever plans. Use non-verbal communication and try to go caveman.


Be the villain


Dominant dangerous bad boys are to women what electrolytes are to plants (or kratom to ROK commenters). It is what they crave. We don’t make the rules of the game. Use it as a facade for romantic purposes although you are virtuous in character. A poon hunter’s Taqqiya of sorts.

Be rude, don’t call back, cancel plans, display amused mastery, do not give a single fuck. Men want young, pretty women. Women want unpredictable, strong, exciting men. They will forgive everything if they are in the palm of your hand


On Business And Lifestyle

Create and be regular in doing so


Regular efforts (even modest)  amount to a great deal in the long run. Always be after progress and aspire to more. You have to get out of the hamster wheel.

Getting stuck can happen. Doing nothing to get out of this spiral is criminal and failure is not an option. Sentences like “I am bored” or “I have nothing to do” should have been banned from your vocabulary long ago.


Money matters but…


Money does not buy happiness.

That said, you can hate the concept all you want but it is through money that one gains freedom. Free yourself from the nine-to-five grind through cash. No way around it.

But bear in mind that a man that trades his dignity, his word or his loyalty for money is the lowest of the low. Dogs are worth more than him. The weak treat money as God when it should only be seen as a tool.


Be independent and self-reliant


One of the pillars of what being a man means. You need to shelter yourself and your family from the bludgeons of fate or the malice of your foes. When you go against the narrative, they go after your money and your means to acquire it.

Get your finances in order. Avoid debt like the plague. Create alternative and passive ways to earn income. Learn about new ways to invest. Become bullet proof.


Time is your most important resource


The only thing as important as time is health. More on this below.

Money comes and goes, so do women. Time, spent in the company of the wrong women or men, is gone forever.

Someone on his deathbed will not say “I wish I spent more time reading blog posts.”


On Health And Fitness

Ditch the soap and shampoo


You don’t need soap unless you have spent four days in the mud of the Burmese jungle. Exercise, sweat, rinse with clear water, apply baking soda, repeat.

Buy a pack of it today. I have been using it for a year and a half as a deodorant and hair cleaner, it is amazing. Go further and get some apple cider vinegar and Vitamin D.


Fitness needs proper nutrition


When I was a student, I would hit the wrestling mat 4+ times a week. My technique improved but the muscle mass after a short period of progress would hit a plateau. Even with more rounds and training like a madman, the gains were hardly noticeable.

I was poor so I ate cheap, processed meat, bread, pasta and sauce and my staple diet: fucking couscous semolina with butter and salt (still smiling when I think about that).

Now I train less and results are better, because my diet is on point. Read what you need to do to bulk up or shred down and stick to it.


Keep it simple


Regularity is where it’s at. Progressive overload, more reps, reps to failure or higher intensity. Sounds like I am stating the obvious but how many of us still do not follow these principles?

A few years back, I would just do the same stuff, day in day out without keeping track and be surprised that no progress was visible. Don’t be like past me.

Stick to the basics that work. Get rid of unnecessary and expensive supplements.


On Culture And Politics

You are not alone


For all the dark, evil shit that can be found online, there is one positive outcome: we discovered that we were not the only one thinking that there was something wrong in our system.

In this day and age, we are no longer voices preaching in the desert and our numbers terrify the establishment as we can expose their lies and question their policies only with an internet connection.

But they won’t go down without a fight. Be armed, surround yourself with worthy men and strike first.


Distrust the mainstream media



That is how you call individuals who sell themselves and others for a narrative, money or fame. Truth is of little importance as soon as the narrative is kept safe and the mastermind stays hidden behind the curtain.

Their aim is to make men weaker, women more damaged while we should open doors and applaud invaders and freaks of nature. Such people should hang from trees.

Smash your TV set with a pickaxe. Torch your subscription to mainstream written press. Read books. Find other ways to inform yourself.


The government is not here to help


Your survival is not their goal. You are a pawn. When you are done being used, you will be put back in the box like the others.

If you dare defy those in charge, be prepared for the consequences. This is what their useful idiots are here for and they will come down on you like a ton of bricks.

Trump is right in saying that the system is rigged. He is not the perfect candidate but he is the best available. Do not forget that he still remains a politician. You can count only for yourself in this world.


Des bases solides pour une vie meilleure

I now live a happier life thanks to those principles and intend to pass them on as I go to the people that I deem worthy. I wish to all the men at Return Of Kings a long and successful life and send my sincere thanks for the inspiration that they brought me and so many others.

Choose the path of strength to live in peace. Happy late birthday, Return Of Kings.

Read More: 10 Life Lessons That Should Be Taught To All Teenage Males

141 thoughts on “The Most Important Concepts The Manosphere Taught Me”

  1. I’m going to keep this post and refer my awakening (male) friends toward it. What a great collection of articles and concepts that I’ve found valuable over the past few years.

      1. Serious time:
        Yes, and it is a very effective drug. There are various strains with different intensities, durations, and balances of effects (energy v. focus v. relaxation). The strains I used were usually medium duration (2-4hr) energy-focus blends, and they were better than ephedrine with a much less intense come-down.
        End Serious Time:
        AND I COULD f*** CONCRETE!

      2. I have…it was fun…fucked for several hours. Good happy fun times. Kind of an energetic euphoric high.

  2. Uhm, no soap? Wait what?
    The rest of this is pretty good but use soap. I am not paid by big soap, I am not a soap spokesperson but yeah, soap, shampoo. I get that not everyone here will do down the full American psycho road with me with various skin creams and facial peels and masks etc but for the love of peat, use soap, use shampo, use nuclear grade deodorant that almost assuredly will cause cancer and brush and floss your teeth.
    We are trying to have a civilization over here

      1. I’m weaning myself back off shampoo lately because my hair is getting really greasy really quickly…again.
        Honestly, a good hard scrubbing in clean water is usually enough for me. But I was trying to get with this one hairdresser…

        1. First thing the Germans did when Jews got to Auschwitz is make them wash with soap. Soap is literally Hitler.

    1. Gundog’s Homemade Man Groom:
      1 oz. beeswax
      2 oz. shea/coco/mango butter
      2.5 oz jojoba/hempseed oil
      15 drops essential oils
      Bring the first three together in double boiler, add the essential oils and pour into a container. Great hold and moisturizer for both hair and beards.

        1. Replace the butter and oil with bacon grease. Replace the essential oils with essence of bacon.
          Then eat a pound of bacon to imbue your essence with manly bacon aromas.

    2. “I get that not everyone here will do down the full American psycho road with me” hahaha. Laughed loud.

    3. Dude, I just scrub kratom all over my body…shampoo? Soap? Pssshhhhh… get with the program, or GTFO.

    4. Ain’t a damn thing wrong with soap, shampoo or toothpaste! I’ve lost count, the amount of times I’ve been behind somebody in line at a store, or at the gym or even out at a nice restaurant – the stench emitting from every orifice, fold and flap on their disgusting bodies… it’s hard to even pinpoint.
      Good hygiene seems to be something that so many people are lacking these days. It’s not just about good health, it’s also how the world views you. In many cases, you’ll be treated by people according to the “package” you present and having a “polished” appearance should do nothing but work to your benefit.
      And another thing about soap… the older I get, I actually prefer the “scent” of soap on a woman, as opposed to too much perfume. Soap at least indicates that she washed her ass, while too much perfume can be an indicator that she may be covering something up!

      1. Totally agreed. I am really serious about hygenie as well as grooming and skin care. I also think men should spend some time to find the right cologne for them and make it a signature scent

        1. I’m partial to Zegna Acqua di Bergamotto, but the ladies really love Burberry Rhythm.

        2. @lolknee:disqus
          YES, skincare, especially as it pertains to the face. This guys face and back must look like a pizza, and even if it is not, 10 years of scrubbing his face with baking soda will result in a skin complexion and texture similar to someone who worked in a coal mine all their life.

        3. Any true black man already has rhythm, he doesn’t need to buy it from the “other” man…

        4. hey kneeman, do you have any suggestions about how to find the right cologne? Maybe you finally found the topic worth writing articles about … uhm man-care?

        5. I found mine the old fashioned way. I sniffed a bunch and then tried a few until I got one that worked well with nybbidy chemistry

      2. Good hygiene has nothing to do with using mainstream commercial products filled with toxic, cancer / disease causing shit just because it’s what’s most fools do. Think outside the box, go natural (but effective too) and enjoy better health while saving money.

        1. Absolutely Brother – I agree with you 100%. I’m all about maintaining optimal health, consuming whole foods, maintaining my own garden, organic, etc., and I do accept the natural route as well… no parabens, toluene, octinoxate, anti commercial crap, etc. My main point was that good hygiene is severely lacking in today’s society. And there is absolutely no excuse for it with the huge selection of products and information available.

      3. “Scent of soap on a woman.”
        I was wishing for that last night. Brought home a halloween lay and she smelled like fermented cod liver down there.

    5. I don’t agree on the deodorant. I switched to lemon juice, and my armpits no longer go nuclear an hour after waking up. The cancer thing is a secondary benefit.

      1. I go straight up old spice. When I was a kid there was a green spray bottle whose name I can’t recall and that shit was legit toxic

        1. I used to use OS. I woke up a week ago with big red circles on my armpits. Did some research, apparently it’s not uncommon. In worst cases, it can chemically burn you. Used to be that if I woke up and didn’t apply within an hour that I’d smell like a rancid onion. Since I’ve switched off, to lemon juice, I don’t have to bother applying every single day, even though I do when I leave home.

        2. It’s quite weird. I’d been using the stuff for over a decade without issue until recently. Same with most of the folks involved in the class-action lawsuit.

    6. what a load of pussies… some excellent advice and the discussion turns to what brand of soap to use.
      the best advice you can find on the internet is not listening to anyone… especially those that are making a living out of spewing (useless) advice. try that.

    7. Western civilization existed a long time before soap was introduced. They used olive oil for cleaning.
      Guess who invented soap? Those filthy Gauls…

      1. Western civilization also existed before toilet paper. If you want to be a filthy savage that’s up to you. I am evolved

        1. You are evolved? What a strange thing to brag about. As if your evolution is somehow your achievement…

  3. “Be rude, don’t call back, cancel plans, display amused mastery, do not give a single fuck. Men want young, pretty women. Women want unpredictable, strong, exciting men. They will forgive everything if they are in the palm of your hand”
    Boy, I am so glad I was never attracted to “big nad boys” who adopted such way of seducting women. How pathetic. Only stupid women engage with relationships with such men, and, unfortunately, they end up with children who have no father (a “big bad boy” a terrible role model).
    “You can count only for yourself in this world.”
    The mentality of a caveman. How can it be that in XXI century anyone can cherish the idea of EVERYONE being either a loser or a winner? We have to cooperate and help each other. But hey, it’s so unmanly…

      1. I always thought VG was a painter. 🙂
        Sorry, I don’t read Cosmo. I read bulshitt like this to make fun of it. You’re SO absolutely deluded. Know nothing or little of what is good and what is wrong…

        1. There’s something special about you, though. For some reason, you don’t act like the normal girl. That is: Reading it, becoming angry, then debating how terrible it is with your girl friends. In other words, gossip.
          What can we conclude from this? Possibly, that you don’t have girl friends? Possibly, because your indignation is not only played, but sincere, and that makes you an outcast to the girls who ‘get it’?

        2. Look, Tom, I know you suffered so much from your mom that you would embrace ANY sort of so-called “manly wisdom”, even if it was a complete bullshit. But I don’t have to buy it, all right?
          What do you mean by “gossip”? If it stands for you for “exchange opinions”, then yes, I do, as I always judge others and share my judgments with the world.
          I was never surrounded by girls. Not a “sex in the city” girl at all. I am fiercely against the stupid idea of having friends of one sex only. When women mingle with women only, they become drastically unaware of a man’s needs. The same can be said about men. If you hang out with guys only, you can’t possibly know what a woman wants.
          Plus – yes, I am sort of outcast. Do what I consider proper and look with pity at those who in their pursuit of gaining others’ respect abandon their own moral values.

        3. PS. I could understand a girl’s wish to mate with “bad guy” but once a girl turns into a woman, she SHOULD make better choices. After all, isn’t it what these “big boys” above you constantly repeat? They say: if a woman makes a poor choice with men and ends as a single mommy, she can only blame herself. 🙂

        4. big boys? You know that planned meetup back in February wasn’t supposed to take place at the urinals

        5. If you don’t give a shit, stay away from their vaginas. You’re not suitable for a father.

        6. That may be true. I mean, my boys are red meat eating, free thinking, respectful individuals. My daughter bow hunts, backpacks, and is so close to having an academic scholarship in the bag.
          You’re right, I am a terrible father. Guess I better get the grandbabies on a better path.
          Miserable twat.

        7. Great. Many single moms’ kids do pretty much the same. That’s not the point. You said you don’t give damn about women’s feelings. Either you were lying or you DO care. Every healthy relationship is based on taking into account other person’s feelings.

        8. Divorce is so expensive because it’s worth it.
          Go away and spew your collectivist nonsense elsewhere.

        1. Tak więc, jesteś nie tradycijna, nie liubisz mężczyzny I jesteś niegrzeczna? ja pjerdole, to nie jest niezpodziaka, że jesteś na anglojęzycznych stronach! Jestem pewny, że nikt nie chce cię w Polsce. Wracaj do Anglii, karuzela jeźdźca.

  4. The manosphere has reinforced my notions that life is not a game, unless one is gaming a woman. Women game men for money, status, etc. It only makes sense that a man fight fire with fire in that regard. The rest of it – self-actualization, self-empowerment and self-realization – that is serious business. But women are frivolous, fickle and fatuous, never to be taken seriously. They are disposable pleasures, unless they prove otherwise – which rarely happens. Sound wisdom, all the way around.

      1. I don’t. Wouldn’t trust them even if they appeared to be more than that. Only met one in my entire life who might have been an actual unicorn. And I still didn’t trust her, I thought she was just really good at game…

        1. It’s funny. A part of me hates women for being what they are. But at the same time, I know I wouldn’t be able to love or desire them the same way if they weren’t exactly what I hate them for.

        2. Btw, regarding subjective reality:

          When we are kids, we are taught how to ‘correctly’ draw things. And yet, everyone, adult or not, can easily recognize this thing as an elephant. So what makes us say it is ‘incorrect’? Why do we not judge caricatures the same way as ‘incorrect’?
          And another interesting question: Do elephants ‘truly’ look the way the one on the right looks? Or have we just started to see them that way after we learned that they ‘really;’ look that way?

        3. Homer golfing with Mr Burns stuck in sand trap
          Burns: come on! Use an open face club! A sand wedge.
          Homer: mmmmmmm open faced club sandwich

      1. I’ve seen that scenario quite frequently regarding people from my school days. At least half of the women, pretty or not, have porked up to a great extent.

  5. Great article Jean.
    PS- Baking soda has alot of functions (eg. brush teeth, skin allergies, etc..) which I learned from my upbringing. I always keep a box in the house.

  6. I’m all for the various uses of baking soda but….
    Oh… right, Normandy. NEVERMIND.

  7. In my case, the most important things I’ve learned were the manipulative nature of females, the shit-tests, and the hamster. I learned the correct ways to deal with their bullshit, and now it’s second nature for me, I can smell a shit-test coming even before she opens her mouth and I react in the proper way automatically.
    I learned how to act and behave around them and how to hold my own and not let them manipulate me.
    My current girlfriend is amazing, very respectful and obedient, but I still get some minor obvious shit-tests. Now, I can have fun with it, I use it to make her giggle, it puts both of us in a good mood and makes the relationship better. After my attrocious monster of a first wife and my severe oneitis, I now feel like I’m playing this on easy mode. And best of all, I learned it all before I even turned 30.
    Thank you TRP, thank you manosphere.

  8. “Free yourself from the nine-to-five grind…”
    Who works a 9-5 job in America except ridiculously paid government leeches?

  9. 1. Patriarchy is the natural order with alpha males overcoming challenges, and then nurturing the young to do the same.
    2. Beta males tend to pedestalize parasitic females, which leads to a matriarchy, which leads to a collapse. Marriage was simply put forth as a solution.
    3. There is no such thing as equality, and minorities have to put in the required effort if they want parity.

  10. one thing manosphere taught me was that modern day men can easily backstab you just like a women.
    In fact, modern day men cannot control their sexual urge and will backstab their male friend easily in split second over a pussy and that thirst is very real.
    Modern men do not develop abundance mindset when it comes to pussy and women and that there are plenty of it and they don’t have active approach skill and will try to think that any pussy is “lucky” one for them.
    For me, I can reject any women and have no problem and no regret. Similarly, I have abundance mindset with women and 10000 rejections will not phase me. If I want to date, I go approach even if there are girls in multiple group. I don’t wait for them to approach or even throw “signs” at me for interest. That is feminine trait.
    REAL men go to strike conversation with any women he wants to and if she rejects, I don’t care. ABUNDANCE MINDSET.

    1. You are correct. Many men do not have abundance mindset and will surprise you with attempts to get with their friend’s woman. It has reached a point where you have to be very careful with the male friends you surround yourself with.

  11. Be The Villain. This is the one concept that changed everything. Im smarter, stronger, and braver than anybody in any of my circles when I have that view of myself. Im the villain. I say and do what everybody is scared to. I get away with murder. Women want to be with me and guys wanna be me. The hero dies alone and embarrased. The villain gets the girl, and the cash, and the glory. Im the fucking villain!

  12. A very good article. Lots of great points I’m going to work on.
    Also added baking soda to my shopping list!

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