3 Ways To Find Out What Your True Passion Is

Motivational speakers and others like them often advise us to “follow our passion”, sometimes telling us to do so as a full-time vocation and sometimes just as a hobby. Indeed, such individuals routinely claim that we should do whatever we can to work toward our life’s main purpose and ultimate goal. And while for a man, the general purpose of life is the same as that of any other man—namely, to seek out truth, to strive for greatness, and to do our part for the maintenance of our family, our nation, and our civilization—it is also true that each of us, as individuals, do have particular gifts and capabilities which allow us to fulfill this general purpose in unique ways. So the idea of following our personal passion is a sound one. And indeed, great joy can be had when the activities that we perform on a daily basis are also the activities that we truly enjoy performing.

But while many people tell us to follow our passion, one thing that I have often found lacking is any advice concerning how to find out what our passion might be. And while, in most cases, a person’s passion is simply intuitively known to him, the fact remains that for some people—and perhaps especially for younger people still uncertain of their future—having a means to help determine what your passion is, would be a great asset. And having had some experience in this field, and also just in case you have not done so yet, let me thus offer you three strategies for finding your particular passion and purpose in life.

Strategy 1—Refusing A Billion Dollars

Is there something that you would be willing to refuse a billion dollars for? Then that ‘thing’ is your passion and purpose!

First, imagine an activity that you engage in for which you would be willing to forego a billion dollars. Indeed, imagine that someone was willing to offer you a billion dollars right now but to get it you had to completely stop doing a certain activity for the rest of your life, and you, loving that activity so much, would literally be willing to turn down a billion dollars just to keep doing that particular activity. Now, whatever that specific activity would be, it is most likely your life’s passion, and so doing that activity is your purpose. For me, for example, my passion is apologetics and philosophy, and one of the ways that I realized this was when I came to understand that I would truly refuse even a billion dollars if it meant that I could never write on philosophy or apologetics again.

Now some might think this insane, but that is besides the point, for it is my passion, not yours. After all, I would consider it insane, for example, to refuse a billion dollars just so that I could keep practicing and playing music, and yet I think that there are a good number of people who love music so much that they would refuse even a billion dollars to keep playing. And so, whatever the answer might be, the “Billion-Dollar” test is one of the ways to help you find what your passion is.

Strategy 2—Death And Regret

At the end of your life, what is the one thing that you will truly reject not having done? That ‘thing’ is your passion and purpose!

For the second strategy, imagine that you have just been diagnosed with a fatal form of cancer; in fact, you are going to die tomorrow—morbid, I know, but death helps clarify one’s thinking. Now ask yourself: What is the one thing that you would really regret not accomplishing in life? I am not talking about spending more time with your family or visiting a country that you always wanted to visit; I am, rather, talking about what is the one task, linked as it is to a specific activity, that you would truly, genuinely, and primarily regret not having completed in your life at that point.

Again, whatever that task is and whatever activity it stems from, that is a good indication of where your passion is. And note that this particular “test” can work for you at any point in your life. Thus, even if you have accomplished a great deal of what you had previously taken to be your passion, this test can still help you determine what your current passion is going forward.

Strategy 3—Early to Rise

What is the one thing that you would be willing to seriously suffer for? That ‘thing’ is your passion and purpose!

Now, finally, imagine that you are in a situation where you have to work the entire day, at a job that you don’t exactly enjoy (and pretend that, at this time, you have no family). In fact, for work, you have to rise at five in the morning and you work until you go to bed at ten in the evening. Thus, the only free time that you could even possibly have comes from sacrificing sleep, rising two hours early, and working on some personal activity from three in the morning until it is time to get ready for work at five. Now, in such a situation, is there any activity that you feel so strongly about doing that you would indeed get up and work on it from three in the morning until five?

If so, then again, that is a solid indication of where your fundamental interest in life lies. Truly, if you would really be willing to forego sleep and work on something from three in the morning until five, even though you had a full day of work ahead, then this would indeed be an indication of what activity your passion and purpose in life was. I, personally, would not be willing to get up so early to play video games or to practice cooking, but I would be willing to do so to write on apologetics and philosophy, and I have actually done so for real. Thus, again, this was a good indication of where my true passion was.

And so, the long and short of it is this: it is indeed valuable to pursue what you are passionate about, but to do that, you must first find out what you are genuinely passionate about, and the best way to do this is to imagine yourself—or even really place yourself—in situations where great sacrifice and suffering are involved in order to do a certain activity, and yet, even so, you determine to do the particular activity anyway. For if you are genuinely willing to make great sacrifices, and thus forego certain pleasures, in order to complete some activity that you simply cannot live without doing, then you will have found what your passion is and what your life purpose is too.

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103 thoughts on “3 Ways To Find Out What Your True Passion Is”

  1. This does not have to be your career. Frankly, engineering is not my passion. I work in a cubicle, put together drawings and read though various specifications to make sure the drawings conform. Not an exciting job. But, what I am passionate about is my family, playing in the mountains, and my religion. My job is just a means to facilitate those passions.

    1. They say that if you do what you love, you’ll never work a day in your life. I respectfully disagree – if you make what you love your job, you’ll often learn to hate that job. I’ve seen it many times – an artist has been doodling for decades and decides to enter the market, then within a year they hate drawing. Or the video gamer, who turns his hobby into a review show and learns to hate playing video games.
      Finance your passions as you must, but never do anything to compromise that passion.

      1. My brother did that with computer programming. He loved tinkering on a computer as a kid, then he got a job making a program to calculate hunting lotteries. The next fall, he switched his major in college.

      2. That is the exact reason why I study engineering and not art/literature.
        Art/Literature is my hobby, I don’t want to ruin it by getting a liberal professor to dictate me what to paint (modern art garbage) or read (a bit of Fromm and Marx probably).

        1. It is good to make a decent family wage and only put in 40 hrs/week and regular hours.

        2. I think its good to have perspective though. if you have your passions and spend some time doing “what is expected” you will realise or appreciate it when you begin to work towards your passion as a career. That’s where i am coming from these days.
          Just work as close to home as you can to avoid that commute, that is where the time goes.

      3. The solution is to be a masochist. You love the pain of being forced to do something you love. Don’t get me started.

      4. It’s like I say; if your job was fun, they wouldn’t need to pay you to do it.

      5. So true. The golden mean applies here. Don’t take something you love and do it so much you end up hating it. I used to love tennis, but after playing tennis for 3 years in high school, I ended up hating it and never play anymore.

    2. Truth. I’ve been painting since I was a child, but the world is full of unemployed artists. I like being a lawyer just fine and do a crack up job at it, but to say it is anything but a vocation is silly.

    3. It sucks how much time we have to spend “facilitating’ what we enjoy none-the less.

      1. true…. I am not sure if you believe in God or not, but this is my take:
        We are put here on Earth for a reason, it is to learn to recognize good and evil and to choose the good. Doesn’t always happen, which is why Christ came. Here, we are given trials, pain, temptations to learn to appreciate the good times. If you ever had to go through something that really sucked but are glad you did it, you know what I am talking about. If everything was peaches and cream, we would get sick of peaches and cream.

    4. I’m also an engineer, well i’m actually finishing my dual degree in mechanical/industrial. And it’s frustrating knowing what my future will be like. I mean i love manufacturing, cars and planes but i don’t know if i will land a job in the field since my country (Venezuela) is having a very serious economic crisis, my career depends on big corporations while a computer scientist can make cool stuff from their home and earn heavy shit. I live with the daily stress of many things since 3 years ago, too much stress for a 22 year old guy. Yeah getting the degree wasn’t flipping pancakes. I faced many struggles like hard courses, getting F’s, good and fake friends comming and leaving, a girlfriend that put me throught shitty situations like cheating me (For being nice to her) or her dad stealing my tires ( There is shortage of tires in Venezuela) when i seriously crashed my car and parked in her house before taking it to the shop.
      My cousins were raised by beta dads like me. I mean, he never made me learn about plumbing or basic mechanics. To him, it’s easier calling the guy who does it. I learnt to cook, clean and expand my mind trought reading by myself. No matter, he made sure that i had a very good education and talked a lot to me of values, politics, economy and many other philosophical shit. He is a well valued engineer in many countries. But i feel that i’m comming out to the reality being so weak against the world, my parent always said that i need to figure out myself like they did. In reality, they didn’t ,they lived their 20’s in a stable economy with more support from their parents as they didn’t have to move to another state. I lived by myself since i was 17 in the most violent city in the world. Sure, they sent me money, but i faced the reality of making my own space in this world without any social/emotional support. I faced what any american can face when moving to a big city like NY, people can be mean to you for comming from a small town. If you don’t have money, you’re nobody. I consider myself manly, because in my school i learnt to be tough and violent when needed, to groom well and to have self confidence. But as the years go by that confidence has gone really low. because people like judging and i had really hard time with others opionions. I can’t afford go clubbing for gamming since it’s expensive, so i dedicated the last two years to finish my degree and smoke weed on a daily basis(Weed is really cheap here). I also read a lot of entepreneurship and daily bussiness so i consider myself a guy with a lot of knowledge that nobody gives a shit in the end. I can’t dream affording a new car and a house in comunism, i have to rely on my 97 sedan while girls go wet for a guy driving a Tacoma or a Lexus. I suffered depresion from this, i thought of my self as ugly, even thought some hot girls find me handsome. I’ve become a bit socially akward to make the right moves, i had more game being 13. I have pulled hot girls, i won’t deny, but in my mind there’s no protocol to do that like many players here. Right now i’m comming out of the breakup depression but i have no faith in myself. I haven’t figured out how to make a living for the next 10 years. I decided to stop weed and partying to dedicate exclusively to make a start-up, but i don’t have 20k to start them, there are pretty good ideas, they need hard work to function, but they aren’t like: DUDE I HIT GOLD. I guess Steve Jobs didn’t know either that when he started apple. But life it’s no easy, it is not what TV tells you. I had to switch to a private college since the publics are running out of budget as they don’t support the goverment. I had to start all over again and again and again.
      I know you need carbon to turn iron into steel, but man i don’t daydream anymore like when i was young and getting into adulthood is painful to the soul. Some people say that i need to relax, that i’m just a kid, that things will go right in the end, that i can’t be so hard with myself. But i don’t want to wait, i wanna grab life by the fucking balls and make it into something. I have the thirst, I have the desire because i see that my generation is really messed up with social media and excesive self-masturbation. I’m also afraid of fake women comming to me in the case that i grow into a big man (Money, status, looks). It’s like, this shit is so shallow, i wish they loved me being poor.
      I don’t know, i wish i had a good life mentor/friend who i can show all my ideas, so he can take me to the ground to make the changes that need to be changed. Someone who i can also share my vision of life after living two decades in a comunist country. You see, comunism is shit, but i don’t have plans moving to america since people there are getting really racist. I get it, you NEED to protect your economy, i really understand that. But i hate the way americans thinks they’re cultural-genetical superior to people in the south. Yeah, the lowest classes are the one giving troubles up north, but you shouldn’t throw all the fault in an entire continent. We also have white people, we also have valious people. We can learn from you guys in the north as you can learn from us, we can do great things together.
      . We are living strange times, and i’m telling all this to let my mind empty of many racing thoughts i have daily. Finding a true passion, like having a pizza shop(I love the food bussines), owning a boat or working for a F1 team for me it’s like a far far away dream since i have many other things to tie up.

      1. “it’s frustrating knowing what my future will be like”
        You don’t know what it will be like. Outside of convicted felons, nobody does. Just from reading your post, I can tell you are a stress bucket. Chill out and don’t take life so seriously. Who knows, you just might enjoy it.

    5. Amen to that Jim. Speak the truth, that is what its all about. Religion is all the matters in the end (note, religion comes from the latin word religare, which means to bind or to tie, meaning that religion is all about our relationship with the creator). At the end of the day, social justice wankers, commie scum bags are a bunch of miserable losers that want everyone else to be as miserable as them.

    6. Live long enough, and you’ll find out your passion is you, expressed in your own desire for the following, in no particular order: sleep, sex, shelter, and food. All other “passions” are mere distractions form what becomes an meaningless meandering through life. THen you die

    7. Personally I found engineering too nitpicky. Perhaps it was solid works 2010 derping on me with formatting …
      But as an “artist” I can do “art” that looks suspiciously like engineering and get away with it.

    8. Not to discredit the intentions of the author’s article here, but I believe that Passion and Purpose are two separate entities. You can be passionate about a lot of things – playing the violin, traveling, sarging different women, working out, etc. But one question that we have to really ask ourselves is, what is our purpose? Some may answer “get rich”, “become famous”, “travel the world”, etc. But that really is not purpose. Look at all the wall street millionaires. They are rich, but if you ask them what is their purpose in life, or what is it that they want to be remembered by when they leave this world, they have no answer for it. You made a million bucks, but what is your real purpose? Money is just an indirect result of people who derive a purpose in life that people pay for. For example, look at all the notable people that came from nothing: Steve Jobs had a purpose to put every computer in every household; Mark Zuckerberg dropped out of college because he wanted to build a platform to make everyone connected; JK Rowling lived off welfare and wrote in coffee shops to write Harry Potter to share a story with children and adults; Larry Page and Sergey Brin wanted to improve the internet search industry; Stephen Spielberg wanted to make films using specialized camera techniques and showcase great movies to entertain people; Michelle Phan wanted to showcase how women should wear makeup and started with simple Youtube videos. All these people did not care about the money in their intentions of driving their purpose. They took risks, but at the end, they just wanted to do what they truly believed in, even if it meant they wouldn’t become rich out of it. We have a limited amount of time in this world, and we have to ask ourselves, what is our true purpose? What is it that I am doing that is going to leave a meaningful impact on others? As I said before, money is just an indirect outcome. Trump was a billionaire. But he felt that his true purpose was to become President of the United States. He did what he had to make that possible. When you stop worrying about whether what you’re doing is going to make you money or not, that’s when you will have fully dedicated to serving what your purpose is in life.

  2. Let’s say, for argument’s sake, you do all three of these exercises and you just cannot come up with anything.
    Does that mean you are low T?

    1. It means you have a quest – to find a passion.
      I, myself, often flit from hobby to hobby. I’ve found little to become truly passionate about, except my faith (now that I think on it). Having had some trouble with the tests, myself, I’m resolved to figure out what it is I value above money, what it is I’ll sacrifice for, what it is I want on my tombstone.

    2. Had the same thought. It’s kind of hard to think of something without a billion dollars in cash sitting in front of you with your name on it.

        1. As is working hard to retire at 65. I aim to retire mid 50’s latest and do what I want with my time..
          Fuck that propaganda! I aim to retire mid 50’s latest and do what I want.
          Why should I keep working harder than, most to pay for these lazy cunts, any longer than I have too?

        2. What are the possibilities of having a billion dollars or having seen it since most of us are not in the top 1%?

        3. I’m with you. Retire early 50s and run my own business. I’m laying the groundwork for that now.

      1. maybe he’s saying Putin has a drug habit and from now on all his tweets will contain references to David Bowie lyrics

      2. not yet, Its more like Soviets lose the Olympic gold to the American hockey team in 1980-low

    1. My confidence in Trump is at an all-time low, but I still tend to think that this is probably a message to the Russians, not to the American people.

      1. He’s a lot worse than a regular politician because his lies are so easily proven false. A good politician lies in a way that he can’t be caught (e.g. Bill Clinton).
        But the incompetence is even more stunning. Honestly, I can’t think of a single president who either failed to enact or reversed position on FIFTEEN different major policies in the first 100 days.
        It’s unprecedented.

        1. like i said this morning.
          the off the cuff trumpist talk has been replace by political shite:
          1st, 2nd, 4th, and 5th could go up in a puff of EO.
          it is troubling…
          seems like the perfect honey trap…
          china trade -will remain as is – the controllers make the cash on that slave trade.
          russia – IMO — is same as past 50 years of fear mongering. nothing will happen.. run by same people as USA

    2. There’s more. In one afternoon:
      1. NATO is suddenly “no longer obsolete”. He won by complaining that it was obsolete.
      2. After a ten-minute talk with Yi, he has decided NOT to label China a currency manipulator. Labelling China a currency manipulator had been at the top of his 100 days memo. (Note: he changed his mind in TEN fucking minutes. Unbelievable.)
      3. He cancels HIS OWN EXECUTIVE ORDER and lifts the federal hiring freeze, because after 80 days it was a disaster.
      ROFLMAO at anybody who believes a word that dribbles out of his tiny orange mouth.

    3. I hate to say, I foresaw all this well before he even got elected and posted it here only to get banned (few times), got laughed at, called names, etc, etc.
      This is the tragedy of our times – the con of democracy. Stop voting people, you only legitimize and encourage them.

  3. Speaking of early to rise, in the past few years I have become a huge morning person and I highly suggest it. Now I naturally wake up between 4:30-5 without an alarm. Weekends, I sleep in until 6. Since my work day starts at 8 it give me 3+ hours of me time before work to work on a passion – walk and train with the dog, work on a project in the workshop, etc.

    1. Yep same here. Up between 5 and 6. Like to send out quotes and invoices before seven. Quick to quote,quick to bill!

    2. This is 100% true. I used to try to workout after work. With kids and a crazy schedule, I’d often blow it off.
      Decided to get up at 5:00am and do my routine. It’s a great way to start my day, and feels good accomplishing something positive to start your day. Plus, there are little distractions in the early morning.

      1. I found that if I worked out in the evening, it kicked my metabolism into high gear and I couldn’t get to sleep before midnight. That doesn’t work for me, I need a good night’s sleep. So now I’m up between 4:30 and 5:00, make coffee, check my email, get amped up on caffeine and hit the weights hard. I’m ready to go and feel great all day after that!

  4. I feel like for a lot of you boys, “getting laid” will be one of these passions.
    Congrats, you’ve made it to the right site!

    1. If getting laid is your passion in life, you will be too desperate, and fail miserably at it.

    2. Typically, as a female, the entire point of this article has flown directly over your head.

      1. It is not the point of the article that flew over her head, it is the point of the website or the entire manosphere as a whole.

        1. Just waiting for her to turn 18 so I can punch her mama in the mouth and get a newer model. (kidding)

    3. “Boys”? You don’t understand who you’re talking to. A lot of the commenters are well-established and wise in the ways of women. I’m 41. Many others are older than me. Several are married with children.
      Most of us don’t have any problem getting laid, but we’ve all learned through experience that chasing poon takes a backseat to more important passions.

    4. Getting laid is the easy part for most of us here really. Mining the deeper layers of existence to pursue a masculine life well lived? Well, that takes some doing.

    5. And so what if it were? A lot of YouGoGrrrls! are all about slutting around, be webcam girls for easy money and party all nights. It’s a bit easy to criticise men who’d like a bit of the fun pie.

  5. I work in a creative field that’s fun and never really feels like work, and my criteria for whether or not someone has “it” is if they make excuses to not do their job or pull their weight, which immediately makes me lose respect for them. This isn’t a shitty office job or McDonald’s, it’s something tons of people wish they could do. And hell, once they start making excuses I wonder if they’d be better suited at McDonald’s.

  6. For me it would be reading, I would absolutely never give up reading for a billion dollars.

  7. Well I know what my passions are: writing, motorcycling and shooting. I suppose I could write about shooting and motorcycling, but there are already a lot of competitors in that field. I’ve been working on industrial control systems so long, even though it isn’t my passion, it’s kind of like a well worn pair of old boots. I’m comfortable in it now. I’m nearing retirement, so who’s to say, maybe I will take up writing about guns and motorcycles. I’m not dead yet. I just wish I had pursued these things from the start as a young man.

    1. I wish, once retired, or wealthy enough to have another life in the mountains – shooting etc…have great envy over that lifestyle…
      Can’t do it in NYC…

      1. Lolknee and I had a similar conversation recently. I think if you ride over to Camden, NJ you can do a little shooting and nobody will even notice a few extra gunshots. 😈

      1. Thanks for the encouragement. I do a pretty good job of irritating “progressives” on the gun rights issue alone. You’re correct, I need to hunker down and take the fight to them with the written word, before we all literally have to take the fight to them.

  8. Making a passion into a job might not be a good idea. Guess what is the LAST THING most OBGYNs probably want to see when they get home?
    Truly though I almost quit hiking after five summers fighting forest fires.

  9. Who said it? “An intellectual is someone who has found something more interesting than sex”

  10. “there’d be no janitors, because no one would clean shit up.” – michael bolton office space
    So that leaves, “two chicks at the same time”

  11. Thanks Tony Robbins! Captain obvious would like to thank you!
    It’s obviously more complicated than that.
    Strategy 1: I would refuse a billion dollars for god-like power.
    Strategy 2: I would regret that I didn’t attain god-like power.
    Strategy 3: I would rise early for god-like power.
    The Buddha, Lao Tzu, and Aristotle all taught that there must be balance. The middle way, yin-yang, the golden mean. Passion itself must be balanced by practical considerations. Otherwise we are basically like the SJW liberal arts majors.

  12. My true passion is drinking and whoring.
    (Not sure if that counts as two …… they certainly seem to go together)

  13. “Now ask yourself: What is the one thing that you would really regret not accomplishing in life?”
    I would regret not murdering my first wife.
    But if I’ve still got a month to live, it’s not too late, tomorrow and I probably couldn’t get there in time.

    1. My passion is sex too. I wouldn’t forego a billion for anything other than sex and usually a billion helps you get more of it.
      Maybe a twist on this is would you forego sex for anything in life and my answer is clearly no.

  14. We need to take time or even a test to know what our “passion” is? Shit, I am in trouble, I have no passion. I just do what I do with gratitude for being able to do it.

  15. Maybe to some of you guys what I am about to write will be of help, hoping that is the case, here goes.
    At first, I wanted self improvement. I wanted to obtain courage, masculinity & masculine power.
    After studying several great men ( foreign men from abroad ) I then started to ask myself – how come there are very few men of my kin that are like that.
    Then I discovered my kin, my people, my culture and how I am a part of them & it.
    Then I discovered how we are being sistematically impoverished, reduced, discouraged, and degenerated- women – sluts- men- weaklings.
    Then I discovered who ,,they” are.
    Now I have fallen in great love with my people.
    I would sacrifice my life for my people.
    In the meantime I fight to be the best I can so that people around me take my example and exceed it. Afterwards, we will all be sorrounded by powerful, masculine, courageous, intelligent, cultural men & women – imagine what we could learn from our fight with life.
    My purpose is my culture.
    But I still have to slave away at my 9-5 until I’ll be able to monetize it.
    Until then, gentlemen, thank you all for striving and posting. Other men are reading and taking example.
    P.S.
    Be aware that sheckle masters/ j000s/ mafia men are reading these posts too.
    P.P.S.
    Second-time posting, first time, was ,,detected as-spam” for some reason ?!
    OY VEYY !

  16. What about if my ambition is to make a billion dollars. I’m hardly going to turn down a billion dollars for that.

  17. Damn I have no passion indeed. There is NOTHING I would forego a billion $ for except perhaps sex as that is exactly what I hope a billion would get me: unlimited sex.

  18. I think my passion is almost certainly porn after doing these three tests. Well, fuck. How do you capitalize on that?!

    1. Go to Japan they have a chronic shortage of male actors – doesn’t pay well though

  19. Whatever it is, it all comes down to creating something beautiful and righteous, and stepping back to admire it.

  20. Passion? This can be moved down the road. Maybe your grandkids can entertain such thoughts. The dawn of the hour of the white man’s vengeance is upon us. I, nor any man can quell it.

  21. Passion? This should be pushed down road. Hopefully your progeny can entertain such thoughts. For the dawn of the hour of the white man’s vengeance is upon us. Neither I, nor any man can quell it.

  22. “I would truly refuse even a billion dollars if it meant that I could never write on philosophy or apologetics again.”
    – Silly counterfactual. This has not happened. It is simply a figment of your imagination.
    – Once someone gives you that kind of money; let us know what you chose to do. I bet it is not philosophy and apologetics. You will be offering philosophy and apologetics on why it was a good idea to accept the money.

  23. Self improvement on a daily basis has to be the most ignored passion. No matter what job you do. No matter where you do it or how you do it, if you’re not improving internally your passion will amount to nothing. Self improvement has a knock on effect with everything you do.
    It is the lack of self improvement which leads to a loss of purpose and focus.

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