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Detachment Is The Best Way To Maintain The Attraction Of Hot Girls

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I have a hot female friend I’ll call Anna. Anna is blonde, sexy and mysterious. She’s a blogger and content creator and has a lot going for her besides her looks, being intelligent, creative, a singer and so on. The other day Anna was messaging me about this guy Rodri she knows.

‘I just can’t stop thinking about him,’ she said. ‘I’ve never known anyone to be so blase before.’

Apparently Rodri had been in the friendzone with Anna for a few years. They’d worked together on music. Then he’d disappeared for a bit. When he came back he was different.

‘He had a different attitude,’ Anna said. ‘He intimidated me a little bit.’

This renewed mojo sparked attraction in Anna. They spent around a week together as some cheesy quasi-couple, going on trips to the park and making out. But no sex. Rodri had a kind-of girlfriend, so things were complicated.

Anna gave Rodri a blowjob one night, but when it came to the moment for D in V he was unable to perform. Maybe it was the drink, maybe it was nerves. Anna didn’t really know. But whatever. She made it clear she wasn’t bothered, and prepared to give things another try next time.

They spoke on the phone every night, met up in the daytime once or twice. They even arranged a night out together. And then . . . nothing. Rodri had disappeared.

‘I don’t understand it,’ Anna said. ‘I just can’t understand what his problem is.’

Now Anna is not a girl who is used to guys flaking on her. Quite the opposite. Usually they become obsessed and won’t leave her alone, sending her flowers and chocolates and badly written poetry. But this guy, this Rodri, had the temerity not to fall in line. And as a result she was obsessing over him.

You might assume that Rodri pulled back out of embarrassment over his little erectile disfunction episode, but I don’t think it was that. I think Rodri simply isn’t that bothered about Anna. He has another girl, after all. Something else going on. His mind is already occupied. And predictably, Anna is drawn in as though by some powerful magic.

Soft Nexts

This illustrates something I’ve been thinking a lot about recently: the power of detachment. Basically, the more detached you can become from the women in your life, the more attractive you will be to them. Detachment is a subtle tool, harder to utilise than a blunt instrument such as a ‘soft next’, but if you get the hang of it then it will benefit both you and your relationship with your girl.

I have written before here about the power of the ‘soft next’. This is where you withdraw your attention completely from a woman for whatever misdemeanor she has committed, typically between four and seven days.

Without any doubt, soft nexts work. Girls who are used to the validation you provide them with are shocked when it is removed. They feel withdrawal effects markedly, and worse, as you will not communicate with them they have no idea when, or if, the soft next will end.

This rallies them into action. You will start receiving texts, Facebook messages, calls and so on. And when you finally do see her again you are likely to end up having wild sex.

However, there are drawbacks. ‘Soft nexts’ are blunt instruments. They are obvious. Women know what you are doing. They may resent you for it. And your actions may well come back to bite you in ways you don’t expect.

Detachment

Detachment is different. Detachment is not the sledgehammer blow that soft nexting is. Instead, it is a subtle removal of investment in her that is implied rather than explicit.

In order to properly detach from a women with whom, say, you have oneituis for, what you must do is first make the decision to detach. Spend some time writing about your relationship with her, about the ways in which her behaviour unsettles or annoys you. Then decide there and then that you are going to detach.

Another useful exercise recommended by Melody Beattie, the author of Codependent No More (amongst other books), is to write a list of those things you would and wouldn’t be doing if you weren’t spending your time and mental energy fretting about this girl and trying to control her.

Once you have your list then follow it: do the things you would be doing—perhaps working out more, working more on your business and so on—and stop the things you wouldn’t be doing, like checking your phone every two minutes, looking at when she last logged into Facebook and so on. Physically writing the list down will really help you to maintain focus.

After that, detachment really comes down to the changed manner in which you handle the relationship. This gets increasingly more difficult if you are married or if you live together, although it is never impossible to detach. All you have to do is subtly place more importance on your life and what you are doing, and less on hers. Once you make this mindset shift then it will be reflected in every aspect of your demeanour and behaviour.

If you don’t live together then it may be as simple as the way you message her. If you were previously in the habit of messaging one another every hour or so then you will cut that out for a start, as you will have other, more pressing things to do.

The content of your messages will also alter. Rather than questioning and cajoling, fishing for compliments and validation and otherwise trying to control her behaviour, instead you will instead take a far more neutral tone. Texts will be more functional. You won’t ignore her or seek to shut her out, you will always remain polite, but the neediness that was evident beforehand will have dissipated. Your new mode of contact will be commensurate with what you are—a busy man with other or better things to do.

By making a conscious effort to detach mentally and emotionally from any girl you are seeing, particularly one who is causing you trouble, you will save yourself a hell of a lot of emotional pain and, counter-intuitively, make her hotter for you than she was before.

And remember, the ‘ideal alpha’—if such a man really existed—would be the most detached in the world. Because when you have multiple options, and multiple sexual opportunities, then why would you ever get bent out of shape over one girl?

Want to find out how jerks and badboys get the hottest girls? Read Troy’s latest book How To Be An Asshole 

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135 thoughts on “Detachment Is The Best Way To Maintain The Attraction Of Hot Girls”

  2. Every time I’ve detached it seems to be when a woman isn’t making time for me. And detaching is simply making things easier for her to ghost. In that case, it saved me from wasting time. But it doesn’t solve the problem of her wanting me more. They just disappear as well.

    1. Uh.
      The point is to not care about the outcome. If you truly do give a shit then you’re not detached at all and need to find another girl. They are all fucking expendable. All of them.

    2. Yes I will admit that (his) detachment has worked in my favor too when I have liked a guy enough as a person to not want to hurt his feelings but not enough for a relationship or dating. It is a great way to weed out those girls who ‘just aren’t that into you’ that way.
      “Soft nexts’ are blunt instruments. They are obvious. Women know what you are doing. They may resent you for it. And your actions may well come back to bite you in ways you don’t expect.” –yes, because this is emotional blackmail. Bad behavior at best and abusive at worst. This is is sort of thing that makes girls worse people. Don’t do it. It’s especially awful in ltrs and marriages. If you have a problem with someone, tell them! Handle it maturely and responsibly.

      1. Please do not post Christina. Even if I agreed with your perspective, the fact remains that you are openly posting as a female on a website that has stated “Women and homosexuals are strongly discouraged from commenting here.” I am bending unwritten rules by even replying to you. Read RoK if you wish. I wouldn’t deny a woman knowledge and thus defense against players if she is wise enough to seek it out, but posting as a woman on a male only website is just attention whoring.

        2. If the girl wants to write a comment she can. There is no obligation we have to listen to her. Denying a person a chance to speak their mind is no better than what an Antifa thug would do. And if her ideas are good enough I will listen. If they sound like something a feminist wrote they will easily forgotten.

      2. wow, a woman giving dating advice to men. One of the reasons why we are here is because women’s advice has NEVER worked. If it did then flowers, gifts, and blowing up your phone would work.

    3. I agree man. I detatch easily and the broads tend to ghost me. Don’t forget that she also has numerous dudes that she can fuck or get intimate with. Women always do.

      1. Exactly, if a woman is in the mood for sex she will get it and if you’re not around well than it’s your loss – detachment only works conditionally as in you need to stay focused on your self but still be available when she needs it. Most girls are only a phone call away from a fuck-buddy so take that for what it’s worth.

  3. I try doing this with my wife. I am detached and tell her “even though you are upset, I am not going to react. At all”. She calms down.

  4. its great to see all these articles and this website exposing red pill truths and the nature of women. however, i live in los angeles- which is a completely different beast. This alpha shit doesn’t work all women care about is money. Male thirst is the problem, if we could all come together and agree to not validate instahos with likes, comments, etc. Also, its all about money. Forget about everything and the declining society, the degeneracy, the whoring… all of it. We all want things to improve and want the “good old days” back, but they are not coming back. We need to just focus, make money, create ourselves and our own lives and buy the woman we want. Also, once we have a surplus of cash we should invest in the sex robot revolution. Not for personal use, but to quench male thirst for a reasonable price and to begin to evolve from feminism and gynocentrism. Women cannot make money, they cannot produce, only consume. Once we stop giving them attention, which eventually equates to money- their value will exponentially decrease and we will regain control. The Kings will Return.

    1. I’m here in San Diego, and I will attest that Southern California is another planet of gold-digging species.
      Here are a couple tricks that work for me:
      1. Punk chicks usually don’t like yuppy, wealthy professionals but rather cool guys in dive bars, bands, cool tattoos, drugs, booze etc.
      2. College chicks are new to the marketplace. They don’t know how to gold-dig just yet, and will fuck a fun party boy just for the sake of saying they are enjoying college.
      3. For club game, get drunk at home. Spend the cover, but try to make friends with the bouncer so you don’t have to next time. They let all their broke friends in anyways. Don’t buy shit inside. Go caveman. Let the rich betas pay for the girls’ drinks. Just be the cocky, fun guy who loves to dance. Black guys do this like clockwork. Stay there until everyone is wasted. You’ll number close at like 90% and if you have your own pad, you can invite people over for the after party. If you have drugs and booze, your percentage will go up on that.
      Or you can be a conquistador and date foreign girls online until you can visit them. I’ve hooked up with tons of chicks from mexicancupid, latinacupid, and using the pro tinder version to drop me in different countries. Then I just plan a quick vacation and crush.
      Now if you want a quality woman, you’re right. Save money, and leave the country for a good catholic girl.

      2. “…, and using the pro tinder version to drop me in different countries. Then I just plan a quick vacation and crush.”
        So don’t buy drinks at the club (less than $50-$100), but pay $500-$1000 to travel for the POSSIBILITY of sex? WHITE BETA LOGIC. Could you be any more of a lame-o? Honestly, this is many different degrees of pathetic. Its bad enough to aimlessly chase tail here in the US (as a boss should never chase), but you are travelling thousands of miles (on a dime no less) for the opportunity for sex? You white guys are just sad man. Too funny. Lucky for you, you don’t live in Manhattan, like me. No game having CUCKS like you guys can’t bang even the 5’s out here. LOL. Thanks for the morning laugh!
        #Trump2020

        1. You’re Black and in Manhattan? So in other words you’re banging hoodrat mamis from Hawlem. Good job, b. Now go clean your timbs.

        2. So true. See a ton of dudes with no money banging a ton of women. One neighbor (Blacks – our nick for him NYC old skool ) banged a ton of women driving Range Rovers and BMWs . They bought him a ton of stuff and paid his bills. Dude is smooth. A ton of beta dudes about if you have money. Shit dude. Bang is one thing, marrying is another. Ill stick to banging. I see White dudes banging and marrying Latinas buying them with money, fancy cars and house. Same Latinas sucking dude dicks with metro cards and Bus passes in their pockets. And still do. I live in Boca Raton, FL. I see a ton of these dudes dating and marrying recent arrived Puerto Ricans Latinas by impressing them with Mcmansions and BMWs. Same Puerto Rican women that were earning $8 hr and sucking some poor Puerto Rican or Black dude cock with no money. They have no game. Their game is all about how much money they throw at them. And still they cheat or look to cheat on them with a dude with game. And then call these women gold diggers? Dude, you made them gold diggers! Most young women these days are self sufficient. They may not marry you but boy will they fuck the shit out of you.

        3. Anthony,
          They don’t get it! You can’t civilize these White BETA savages. Funny enough, what they started this website over is something that has been known since the dawn of time by Black and Latino men!
          Now, money isn’t as free flowing in the US for the middle class, and these lame White dudes are trying to march to the beat of “game”.
          Still, most of these dopes that exalt foreign women don’t get the fact that they are getting them because the women are desperate. WATCH 90 DAY FIANCE, THAT TELLS YOU ALL YOU NEED TO KNOW ABOUT CLUELESS WHITE BOYS!! You lames wish you had Trump’s moxy! #Trump2020

    2. Women want to be taken care of, men want good looks. What’s the problem? I have never understood why people think it’s okay for men to go after looks mainly but then get all upset that women go after resources mainly.

      1. Not exactly true. Women go for looks just the same. In fact, fake tinder profiles have been created with male models and the girls just ate up whatever he said, even if “misogynistic”

    3. Sex robots? WTF
      A robot, no matter how advanced the AI is made of plastic, carbon fibre and metal.
      No way I stick my dick in that. And it also just lowers your SMV.

  5. It’s not only about detaching, but detaching at the right time, in the right amount, with the right frequency.
    If you detach before they’re interested in you, she just won’t care.
    If you detach too much before they have a high level of interest, she’ll move on.
    If you detach in predictable patterns, she’ll know something is up.

      1. He cares about getting laid. He cares about the already invested time put in and wants the best ROI.
        You can counter and say the problem is THAT he cares. You would be wrong. He doesn’t care about them… he cares about his time (our most valued priceless asset). Of course when I was in my 20s time felt cheap, i now know better. (I’m not hanging around until 4 am to see if I get laid)

    2. Thanks. Because we are all prude retards around here that don’t understand the “art of detatchment.” 😂😂😂😂

  6. Troy, thanks for your submission but come to LA and try to pull hot girls. Gaurantee you won’t pull a 6. Half of your female examples are made up and game is dead. Unless of course u wana bang nasty hos. Look at all the girls in the pics, no way the girls you speak of are that hot. Maybe this was 20 years ago. Keep it real Troy, stop bullshitting these good folks who read this wonderful site. If you have money, good job, nice living area and nice car in LA you still won’t get pussy because you got leo dicaprio and dan bilzerian having crazy parties 5 minutes up the road in the hills. Be happy there isn’t competition like this. Lets come together and start a revolution. It is not that hard, we do not need to go mgtow. We can simply stop validating girls and giving them attention. Unfortunately the beta cucks will hold us down. If anyone is a successful male in the LA area and wants to disrupt shit, I’m all in.

        1. You’re hiding behind a fake name and fake picture providing no value. That means you’re the troll.
          “you can’t get women in SD ”
          Never said that. But the latinas do love a tall, handsome gringo like me who speaks spanish, so why not capitalize on both worlds? Jealous?

    3. Blackpiller, I also got a hunch troy is a bullshitter. Some of the articles seem to be lame advice so can tell stories (brag) about boning hot chicks. Give it a fucking rest Troy lol.

      1. Troy gives solid advice. if you don’t want to take that advice because you feel he exaggerates the truth you miss out. Solid advice is solid advice, and this advice is solid.

    4. Be like some of these American dating coaches and run away to Eastern Europe. That’s where you can use your economic advantage over the locals. Then delude yourself into believing that you’re getting girls because you have incredible game

      1. Having an economic advantage is the biggest game in town and not just for gaining the interest of women.
        Even the dudes who created the integrated global central banking system and the dudes, who created and run all the businesses, companies and corporations that have emerged, or are emerging from that foundation, know this to be the case.
        Money is just a physical manifestation of value emotion, Anyway.
        Women generally prefer economic advantages over economic disadvantages all day long. Really, they do.
        Don’t knock economic advantage. It comes in handy for many aspects of a man’s life.

  7. There is saying in Mexico that goes: ‘Entre peor las tratas, más te quieren’, and which can be translated as ‘The worse you treat them (women), the more they love you’.

    2. “It is a general rule of human nature that people despise those who treat them well, and look up to those who make no concessions.”
      ― Thucydides

    5. My dad said women and children are like puppies, the more you beat them, the more they love you.

        1. Fuck that.
          Belting them kids when they deserve it is a sure way of de-pussyfing them.
          As for animals is a must if you want them useful not just eating/pooping machines aka pets.
          Your kids will end up gay.

  8. I see this in the phenomenon where the first girl comes after hard work but getting a second or third somehow seem to just happen, magically. Before I knew it I was rotating three regular girls with a filler or two here and there.
    The less I cared, the more women became attracted to me.
    I’d tell a girl I’m not looking for anything long term but made it clear that, “I don’t need anymore Facebook friends” either.
    She knew I only wanted her for sex and worked extra hard to keep my attention because I never gave her all of my time.
    Troy speaks truth, listen and learn.

  9. Yes, detachment works. Here’s a little story. I was 21 and dating a girl who was an E grade celebrity (was on Temptation Island). I never found her attractive, though most of my friends, girls and guys, did, and was only dating her because she was a nympho with seriously dark sex fetishes.
    One day I was hanging out with my friend at my pad, sitting on the balcony, smoking weed while she sat in my bedroom bored. She came to where we were and saw me about to pull a bong and said, “Don’t smoke weed, come have sex with me instead.” To which I replied, “If I had to choose between you and weed…” then pulled the bong and blew it in her face. Naturally she grabbed her things and stormed out of there.
    30 minutes later I hear my doorbell and, sure enough, she’s back crying, asking why I didn’t come after her. I just shrugged my shoulders and said, “I was smoking weed with my friend.” From that moment onwards in the relationship I was the boss.
    Detatchment works, chaps.

  10. Troy , hot women have a lot of options including alpha options . Quit trying to sell your “blasé” books . Anna is probably not so hot

    1. Ok and? Does this change human nature? She may have a lot of options but it’s the ONE option that ignores her that she pines for. That is exactly the point of the story. Is anything that he said wrong?

      1. If she is pining for that one alpha it’s not just the ignoring that triggers her. That guy has all the other traits as well or at least looks . Looks and money get in the door ( a combination of them ) and the ignoring / game playing keeps them
        An ugly guy ignoring a hot girl is meaningless to her . Just get a phone number from some chick who is only half way interested in you . The ignore game matters little to her

        2. Ignoring doesn’t get girls and doesn’t necessarily keep them . That’s how it differs. It’s called push pull which is an old easy pua tactic . He is just regurgitating old b.s and again the 2 most important factors looks and money are what really keeps her .

        3. I don’t disagree with anything you are saying. I have historically lacked on the money department (hence me going into business by myself) but I have been able to to get away with downright clingy behavior just because I had looks working for me. Many girls will tolerate “loser” behavior if the guy meets their hypergamous goals.
          You’re not wrong. All I am saying is when you read this article and responded it seemed a bit knee jerk and on the offensive for no reason. Troy didn’t say anything inaccurate. I think the atmosphere here can breed a contempt for game theory. However just because ignoring doesn’t work in the case of women who aren’t into you, doesn’t mean it isn’t a legitimate strategy nor does it mean that it shouldn’t be employed even when the girl is disinterested. The way I see it, even if it results in a girl ghosting you, you effwctivelt saved time by giving her a chance to chase even if she didn’t take it.
          Ignoring works two ways by getting interested girls to chase and uninterested girls to not waste your time. I see nothing wrong with ever using it.
          Can you name me a negative from the approach? Seems no matter what the outcome is good. Why the fuck would I spend time chasing some uninterested cunt anyway? Chase yes girls.

        4. Well the guy did camp the friendzone for a long time, remember? Girl dont just friendzone anyone, only useful but not sex material. What the guy did was take a leap from the friend ladder to the option ladder and made it. The article could be reframed as “take a step back to have some air and hold your frame better, don’t drool all over your oneitis”

      2. I’m a little older so I made a female profile on a dating site just so I could check out the competition. It was a no picture no nothing profile and it got bombarded by thirsty guys. I was surprised, but I doubt any of them ever got anywhere. They weren’t very impressive. Doesn’t matter how many Herbs throw themselves at women. Oh, it’s a nice little ego boost for them I’m sure, but that’s all, the ladies are still looking for a guy that makes them tingle.

  12. Troy, you have a female friend who is “Anna is blonde, sexy and mysterious.” as well as “being intelligent, creative, a singer and so on.” and you haven’t married this unicorn?
    You’re full of shit Troy.

    1. He is full of shit. He has a lot of time to meet women and have a slew of them he talks to . Who stays friends with women anyways ? That’s a losing game . And he has claimed he is direct with women , but not in this case ?

  13. I don’t get these replies. “This doesn’t work on the girls I know!” Ok geniuses then what does? Clearly you pining over her was so successful then? What is with the negativity over facts being told?
    If you ignored a girl and she didn’t like you more and that bothered you, then clearly you didn’t detach yourself enough (because you are outcome dependent like a motherfucker). How detached can you say you were when you still give a fuck?
    Realize that detaching yourself from a woman is purely done for your sake. It is done because you’re sick of dealing with her bullshit and couldn’t care less if she kicked rocks. Unfortunately too many of you can’t fathom not caring about whether a woman likes you or not judging by the comments.

    1. Ignoring does work if she is attracted to you . Ignoring does not work on girls who friend zoned you or didn’t think you are attractive to begin with

      1. My friend you are missing the main point which is to not give a fuck. If you ignore her and it bothers you that she didn’t care, then did you truly ignore her?

        1. Don’t bother with these guys. Their lack of success is clouding them. The fact is if a girl flirts with you, like she does with every other guy because attention whoring is the rage, and you’re the one guy who gives her a quizzical look before getting on with whatever you were doing, she’s going to think, “WTF’s wrong with him? I’m hot. Who does he think he is?” And it’s at this point that she’s curious.
          I’ve done this a thousand times. The fact that it’s never worked for them is probably because despite how much they think they’re being detached in their actions they’re still giving off an odor of desperation.

        2. Too true. I get puzzled when people say “this advice doesn’t work for betas!” Well, I don’t know how many betas would even ignore a chick. Usually betas fawn over women and overthinking the fuck out of interactions. It’s always “does she like me?” and the oft-repeated “what do I do in this situation guise???”
          Their inner game is little to non existent. They are self defeating. They think “why bother ignoring women if they already don’t like me?!?!?” and so they push harder and harder and girls pull back even more. The mindset behind some of these posts I don’t get. Like fine you don’t want to ignore her. Well then go ahead and send her 10,000 text messages so she KNOWS you are interested because “you’re not about the games” or the “aloof bullshit”. Then they come back with “well a girl has to like you in order for it to work!!”. This misses the point entirely. If you are ignoring girls in PRETEND LAND then yes, it will do nothing because in your own head all this time ignoring her is eating you up because you wish you could just communicate with her nonstop. So then once these fakers stop ignoring the woman they come back with their super thirsty game full force and then the damage is compounded because the woman’s first impression was already bad and then second time is worse.
          At the end of the day the choice is to ignore a girl or not. The way I see it, if you feel interactions with a girl aren’t going great, I have no idea why the hell you would continue dealing with her. If things are going great, then Fucking push until you get what you want since all lights are green. Hell if things are going great you can even ignore her just for kicks to see if she will play along and chase you. Conversely if things are going shit you could either be a wuss and start declaring your love for her or you could ignore her and get on with your life, knowing full well she may not come back but you have no reason to care.
          The problem is with these men is they care too much. “But dude! She will ghost you!” Then fuckin let her she’s a dime a dozen cunt. I am of the belief you should give girls opportunity to ghost you anyway since you’re weeding out all of the scum without manners.

    2. I know. Did this site just get popular at a highschool or something? Tons of inexperienced, jealous kids commenting.

      1. It could be that this site is oft mentioned by the screaming writers of mainstream media.
        This may have aroused the curious “which-pill ers” who can’t quite swallow the blue pill that’s been sitting in their mouths from toddlerhood, but who are now looking at the dozen “red pills” on offer and wondering which one is the real one.
        So, whilst they may be criticizing some of the information, some may also be consciously and subconsciously processing this information alongside their own experiences and sophistry they grew up immersed in.
        They may not have swallowed a genuine red pill, but at least the mirror is beginning to wobble. So that’s something at least.

  14. True, and most experienced cocksmen probably know this, but it’s always good to be reminded. The only issue with this is that it’s impossible to fake. Spinning plates definitely makes it easy

  15. I mean, I’m never that hung up on another girl in the first place (these days).
    Once you know that women are rarely loyal, you can handle them as they are and not get tons of feelings messing up rational thoughts.
    I now care about myself too much to let another person mess that up.

  16. Who chose the pictures for this story? The pictures aren’t of women, but of really young girls. Wrong and uncomfortable.

    1. they look like 18-21 girls to me, what´s wrong with that? They are models so, who cares? The guy more concern about the age of the girl is usually the guy who is more horny seeing them, but they are ashamed because is immoral so they cry PEDOPHILIA to the sky for girl who are 19 years old hahaha, just so they can hide their secret erection and love for young pussy like ALL MEN.
      Please don´t be that guy, I seen those cucks cockblocking and overprotecting 21 years girl from older men, that the girls are obviously attracted to. That is all fueled by jealousy and the realization that they will never be with that girl. So they will ruin the party for everyone else. Follow the law, ignore the cucks, fuck girl above the consent age. Let them drown in rage for being the guy they wish to be, the 40 years old dude fucking 18 years old fit women, and let them in misery with their fat old modern western sterile wife and let them masturbate to the girl Instagram photos when you are actually having sex with her.

      1. Either that or these women have no hips and just have an all around unfeminine shape to them. I am not saying men should be into BBW or any of that nonsense but these girls have no tits or ass. Their only feminine feature is their childlike face.

  17. I’m naturally aloof and rude. I’ve always done very well with girls with little to no effort. It signals value. That I have better things to care about than them. That there must be a reason for all the “attitude”. It’s also refreshing for them versus the ocean of beta faggots putting them on a pedestal.
    Tho obviously you have to fulfill the basics of being fit, well-groomed, and not poor. Some fatass neckbeard trying aloof&rude game will only face harder rejection. Or I don’t know. Maybe he should try it on low-tier girls and it’ll work on them.

  18. If you were hanging out with a bunch of your mates and one them starts whining, complaining, throwing tantrums, making demands, and generally acting like a cunt you’d tell him to fuck off and wouldn’t bother hanging out with him anymore.
    Why is there any difference if you’re hanging out with/dating a girl? What, because she’s got a vagina that you want to jam your dog into? Are you just giving them a free pass on their shitty behaviour because you’re worried that the spear-time door might close forever if you offend her? That seems a bit manipulative and creepy.
    Tell her to get fucked and stay fucked. If she doesn’t apologise and start behaving in a courteous manner, then you’ve probably already lost power in the relationship and it’s doomed in the near future.

  19. Big issue over a little pink tissue. The detached don’t care approach always works. The clingy call or text every 15 minutes never does.

  20. Age reveals all. With each passing 2,5,10 year block of time, if it doesn’t slap you in the face progressively harder – Do I want to spend any time pandering to some dumb cunt when life is so damn short? – then you’re a lifer idiot. 95%+ of ALL Westernized women are not worth your time other than physical release to fuck at your will. Even the conservative girls conveniently pick the points of feminism they benefit from and exploit them, whether you’re there to see it or not… it’s happening. So fuck ’em. Literally, but that’s it.

  21. Additionally, what you’ll find with age is as you get older, be it with money, detachment, permanently removing iffy people from your life, is you’re virtually “buying your time back.” Consider, whether you’re a straight up pussy slaying player, a stable family father, or somewhere in between – you put in a LOT of time associated to relations with women. So to ignore them is merely divesting because chances are, no matter what role you’ve played to get laid, or have a stable woman, you’re over-bought… far more than any previous generations’ men ever were. This I can promise is a fact.

  22. Couldn’t perform? Rodri killed it during the bj phase. Just slow on the reload, that’s all . Check, please!

  23. After visiting L.A. a few times, I must agree w/the commentators above who spoke about that city being a different beast. But for us in the real world, Troy is speaking truth, detachment works. I remember back to when I was messing with this one girl. One day she called to tell me she was coming over to which I obliged. She didn’t come for 2 hours. When she did come, I forgot all about her & a friend already stopped by. She was already in the apartment building so I let her in my apartment but I did not kick my friend out, so it was the 3 of us hanging out for about an hour. She was furious & kept texting me to kick him out. He only left because according to him “I was being rude to the girl”. From that point on it was as if I was the carrot on the string for her in the relationship

  24. Hey guys Im sick of not having a wingman for daygame. If you feel the same I made a Daygame Facebook LIVE support group. Where anyone can go live while infield, give each support and constructive criticism on where to improve. Join here http://bit.ly/2jRWivP

  25. Men are so fucking stupid. Just learn not to suck ass in the sack and all this lift, game, 20% yada yada bullshit is irrelevant. You’re being ghosted because you fuck her like a 15 yo who just lost his virginity last week.

    1. Stop giving the virgins so much credit. Most of the time these guys are taking girls on endless dates and getting nowhere. Girls just think of them as nice guys and they don’t give them tingles. They’re too busy trying to prove how stable/ sane/not like other guys they are. They want credit for things they don’t do. They’re all like “hey! I have no tattoos, I have no rap sheet, I have no crazy tendencies” all the while being boring as fuck to women and never even seeing the pussy.
      The others who do get laid probably just make love all the time and don’t make girls feel like sluts in bed.

    2. Hell yeah ahahaha. Girls want their ass ate and shit and cock across their forehead while these guys are ducking around missionary style asking If she’s ok with switching positions to her being on top lmao

  26. This is nonsense. If you are not an alpha male, then women will not notice you not noticing them. If they notice you long enough to observe your lack of interest, they will interpret it as homosexuality.
    Just for once I’d like to see an article on this site about what women can do to make themselves attractive to men. It is emasculating to us that we have to accommodate their interests, rather than the reverse. That tells us who’s really calling the shots. Patriarchy my ass.

    2. Uh huh. And can you tell me what reading.comprehension level you have? Because nowhere in this article was it implied that flirting is bad. Did you not read the story of how the guy got a fucking BJ? Did you not read how he was aggressive when he reintroduced himself to Anna? Holy fuck I feel like you guys just WANT a reason to bitch

      1. FITZ
        You imply that Eddie Murphy or Morgan Freeman are born more braod-shouldered and muscular than Lundgren or Scwarzegger so I do not know what to make of your judgement bro. It seems slightly off.

        1. Not sure what that has to do with the article, but since you must know, your comparison is terrible because you compare two White men who lift and take roids to two Black men who likely do neither.
          What about comparing Arnold to any Black bodybuilder? What about Sergio Oliva that actually beat him in the competition? Ronnie Coleman. Kai Greene. Your examples are disingenuous. Frank Zane was a steroid master and was nowhere near as big as his Black contemporaries.

        2. No black ever beat Shwarzenegger when he was competing. Lundgren et al don’t take steroids any more than blacks due.
          Lou Ferrigno, an Italian, wiped the floor with every black bodybuilder in the 1970’s.
          Americans from Old Colonial Puritan stock are descended from weedy religious English stock.

        3. Really man? No black? Google Sergio Oliva 1969 Olympia and come back with this “no black ever beat Arnold” bullshit.

  27. That wasn’t the moral of the story, my emotive friend. It’s that his detachment (which may have been caused by a medical condition) is what kept her interest. Rodri had the mojo to make it to home plate. If you can’t make it that far, detachment will work against you.

    1. Well then since you read the story and understood the purpose of detachment and take to use it, what is the problem? Still need to bitch, Madeline?

  28. The Whore Monger Speaks:
    I started using prostitutes at an early age (19). Once you begin to use prostitutes it deconstructs the importance of the human female down to her essential parts-a mouth, a vagina and (if that is your thing) an anus.
    When I was in college I was always going into the red light district or “backpacking to Holland” to use prostitutes while my roommates went to Ladies Night at the local campus meat market.
    Post-college when I was sharing an apartment with other bachelors they would go on and on about how they had spent a load of money on some shallow white young woman. I just went into the local red light district and for $40 got what I wanted.
    It is a bit like being thirst. Water tastes great unless you are swimming in a lake.
    Also, for all the young men out there who try to meet girls on “Ladies Night” at your local “Meat Market Bar” take a trip to Amsterdam and pay $50 to the pros. You’ll realize what you have been missing.

  29. So according to last few articles on this crap website you should be an Impotent, Aloof, Non-Political, Evil, Bearded like Roosh, under-employed Pseudo-fag who does Squats in the Woods while dreaming about Satanic Apollo? Maybe if you ignore feminists, foreign invaders, and the taxman they will just all quietly leave you alone? Maybe if you lazily present your flaccid D your dream-girl’s V will be ‘moistened by your incompetence’?? Is this Cracked.com or is the internet broken??? Idiots.

    1. D in V
      All Gen Y are a joke (Though Roosh himself is closer to my age, born in the 70’s) and I learned the following about a generation that was in elementary school when I left the US (I was too good for it) in 1999:
      Number 1) JOOSs are responsible for everything including the fact that Gen Y all jack off to internet porn multiple times a day. My Generation at least went out and paid for prostitutes.
      Number 2) Gen Y has never traveled. At all. They have never been out of their freaking NEIGHBORHOOD. In fact they LIVE AT HOME at 22!
      Number 3) JOOs are responsible for the fact that white girls are taking Big Black cocks in every hole (Apparently). Good Gosh, is the US going to look like Brazil with a load of orphaned Mulatto kids running around like stray dogs.
      Number 4) All Black males can fight like Mike Tyson and have dicks as big King Dong and all white males are weedier and less masculine. Ghetto blacks get all the chicks…Except for JOOOS.
      Number 5) Muslims are going to mass immigrate to America across the Atlantic from their desert toilet bowls and out-breed Caucasians (I lump JOOS in here).
      Number 6) This is all a plan of JOOOS although I presume that if this occurred the JOOS know they would be killed first-imagine ISIS chasing “Pajama Boy” down Crooklyn in NYC. Muslims like Hispanics who burned JOOS to the stake are secretly “Tools” of the JOOS (As is the black man who burned every single Jew out of Detroit in 1967).
      Number 7) If anybody wants to control the entire white population all they have to is make lousy movies and television shows written by some Jewish screenwriters in LA apartments over a bottle of Tequila and some Peruvian flake lines. Because whites will believe everything they watch on a Flatscreen.
      Number 8) I guess girls born in the 1980’s and 1990’s don’t put out to whites at all. They only want to suck BBC’s. Must be the internet porn. Oh well, blame that on decadent Gen X-ers who made movies like Boogie Nights that glamorized porn.
      Number 9) It is not Amerindian from jungles but Arabs who will “swamp us” and therefore we should spend another trillion dollars “fighting ISIS” in Middle Eastern toilet bowls.
      Number 10) Always “Breed” even if you are a Gen Y without a pot to piss in so that you too can be like blacks and Mexicans with a bunch of children crawling around dependent upon public charity who will grow up being victimized in public schools and eating off Food Stamps.
      Number 11) But don’t worry about the blacks and the Hispanics because the biggest enemy is Hymie the Hotdog vendor on Coney Island or your local Jewish divorce lawyer who looks like Sarah Silverman crossed with Amy Winehouse. Yeah, these people are going to North America in with their machete beheading and ghetto rioting.
      Number 12) “Kratomize your Sperm Count” (So you can admire your Peter North-sized loads by yourself jacking off to internet porn since it appears so hard to get laid for Gen Y).
      Number 13) If your old lady is not in the kitchen naked you are a “Cucked-Out Beta Homo”.

      1. You are correct GENX. My point was the writers of many of these crappy ROK articles are always hyping stupid ideas as clever “solutions” to the major societal problems we face today. Any chick who ‘turns on’ to “detachment” should be banished from the world itself.

    2. D and V
      “Impotent” Well they would be with all the porn they have been masturbating to on the internet all of their lives. Their erogenous zones are chafed from the stroking. But this is because of Ron Jeremy and other He-blew Studs, right?
      “Aloof” I get the feeling these Gen Y would jump some weedy Jew like Pajama Boy but blacks intimidate them along with the stupid fucking Hispanicized Amerindians.
      “Evil” That’s for Jews. They are the evil masters who secretly want to import Muslims (Who hate their guts) or poison the drinking supply.
      “Squats in the Woods” Well, unless you’re black. They are born muscular.
      “Under Employed” Thank Goodness as a 74-born Gen Xer I came of age when it was still possible to make real money and have a job. I get the feeling most of these Gen Y have never run their own business or held a decent job unless they have the college equivalent to a trades degree (Nurse, technician, engineer).
      “Satanic Apollo” This I do not understand.
      “Ignore Feminists” What are Feminists going to do? Rape you up the ass with their strap-ons?

      1. You missed my satirical points. This article claims you get attract chicks by being the very opposite of what a REAL man would do and be. No intelligent or mature man could sustain this fake “game” act for long. The rest of my post referred to other stupid ROK articles you can search for in the top right hand corner of this webpage. One recent article praised Squats as a masculine priority, another claimed we could learn from Apollo.. which is literally another name for Satan. Ignore is all this GEN loser America male populace can do when confronted with EVIL… get it yet?

  30. For decades I’ve said “women play hard to get because they think it works. And they think it works because they realize it works on them”

    1. Johnny C
      Women only play hard to get from 18-25, 30 tops. After that, either they will reproduce with you or they won’t.
      Most people on this site are probably teenagers pretending to be young adults or under 30 (Cannot tell because Gen Y is really immature and live at home when they are 25) so of course young women can play hard to get.

      1. Welp, if you must know, most men here whether 18 or 60 only are interested in high SMV young women who are not post wall. So there is that.

  32. I’ve had temporary erectile dysfunction before. Its when Im really attached to my main chick and my dick wants my girl’s pussy and not new pussy, but after 30 minutes of resuscitation my ego came through and I was able to add a notch.

  33. According to my experience this technique works really well but only with girls that are already attracted to you…

  34. Guys, slightly off-topic, but how come “manospherians” don’t believe in breasts? Every site like ROK has nothing but photos of tit-less chicks over and over and presents the Kate Moss type (as the fashion industry also promotes) as what must be aspired to by “puas.” Why? No variety? Not even a b-cup?

    1. Too true man. I am all for hot teenagers but can we at least get some Instagram style quality in here? Tits and ass, man. Even one of the two will suffice. I can see ribcages here men and how is that hot! Aaaaaand the tanned girl in the third pic has no hips at all. Sexual dimorphism not even once. If the shoulders are broader than the hips, we have a fucking problem. Then again I notice many guys here love bodybuilder masculine chicks.
      I will pepper my angus for the upcoming downvotes for posting these “hambeasts” and “fatties”.
      https://i.pinimg.com/originals/95/07/5a/95075a9d2283b28cac985a5e6d7673aa.jpg
      http://www.vh1.com/news/wp-content/uploads/blog.vh1.com/2014/01/f363b81244e611e39efa22000ae90e92_8.jpg
      https://pbs.twimg.com/media/BsOEAaLIYAAMFx-.png
      http://www.trimmedandtoned.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/03/dizzy_fitness-Monique-De-Dios.jpg
      And my favorite
      https://pmchollywoodlife.files.wordpress.com/2016/12/kim-kardashian-instagram-return-clevage-booty-pic-ftr-1.jpg
      Too many fatties for red pilled men who want their women “thin and feminine” (code word for looking like a boy)

      1. Amen brother. I mean there is room for all body types, but most manospherians have a complex about flesh as they feel it diminishes their status games that they are playing with other manospherians whom they don’t know, can’t see and really shouldn’t care about. Some D and DD (or even bigger) breasts can be a great thing guys. After all, aren’t manospherians/PUAs/game guys supposed to be about quantity and variety?
        Don’t fear the flesh my brothers:
        http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-VHwQ3FglCkE/ToF6JKZH-OI/AAAAAAAAC50/vpT9Jshmk3c/s1600/bc14.jpg

        1. Here is a tip on breasts. If you’re hitting on girls in the below thirty age range then big ones are fine, but as you get older and end up with older women you realize that boobies aren’t immune to gravity, and that skin can stretch a long, long way. The solution to this problem is to never get old.

      3. None of them are fatties. See photo below, from JJ, of chick on the right for a fattie to be avoided.

    2. a theory
      * smaller breasts are considered more athletic than larger breasts. Think female track stars, female gymnasts, female competitive body-builders. They have the booty but not the breasts. In this fitness-obsessed culture, smaller breasts ( the breast size of the more-fit ) are preferred. Or at least considered more “healthy”. If I am not mistaken the per capita rate of breast reduction surgery has increased significantly over the past 20 years and the rate of breast enlargement has decreased. Or, if enlargement has not decreased in popularity the size of enlargement has physically decreased. That is, women who are having enlargement are choosing not to go as big as women used to.

  35. Detachment is a great tool, but like all instruments needs to be used in correct measure for the best effectiveness.
    Success is the most effective aphrodisiac.
    Who here is reading, working out, improving their craft, business, or intellect to their own satisfaction?
    Detach at regular, planned intervals from your smartphone, technology and whatever evacuated cranial cavity resting upon a hole that you are pursuing at the moment. There will be temporary withdrawl but those with the strength to pass through this period will not believe how effective and productive they become. It is similar to periodic cleansing and fasting. Use this time to better and strengthen your mind, body, business or however you elect to challenge yourself. Challenge builds competence, competence builds success, success builds confidence….and confidence IS game…
    Project real calm and confidence, you will find what you seek, and generally when you least expect it in the most unlikely places and not actually looking for it…..

  39. This detachment gig works great for married guys. My wife used to run over me like a steamroller. I always just wanted to avoid conflict because I was exhausted after work every night. I soon realized that spending my evenings in my workshop perfecting my furniture building skills was much more enjoyable than being upstairs. When confronted by her on the matter after two or 3 weeks of being MIA, I calmly explained that it was much more enjoyable than spending time with her. She had a tantrum and I just went back to the workshop.
    This was about 3 years ago. I still spend the lions share of my evenings making my family furniture we could never afford otherwise and my wife has been much more pleasant and even supportive. The kids often work with me in the shop so it gives her a break and we actually enjoy our time when we’re together now.
    Plus my 8 year old daughter can do pretty good dovetail work with a chisel and handsaw. She’s doing pushups every night to get strong enough to use a smoothing plane. I think it’s awesome.

    1. Exactly right. Soft dread game is very good as well. Time to build a harm of orbiter yes girls. Abundance my friend

  40. The piriguetes in the above photos would make an okay Brazilian fuck- but living with such a tuned bitch on a daily basis would be insufferable. Instead of seeing such chicks as potentially “joe’s girlfriend” your mind would automatically think, “who does that fuck-pig with the huge ass belong to?”

  42. How can a red pilled man not recognize Rodri has a porn problem? She is initially attracted but over time he will continue to struggle unless he feels dominant (ie. blowjobs).

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