The following article is sponsored by Man’s Guide To Well-Being.
Depression is a liar. It has no soul, no conscience. If depression was a person, it would be among the ranks of Bernie Madoff, Frank Abagnale, or Victor Lustig.
Depression will come knocking on your door dressed in a nice suit. It will try to sell you the concepts of self-pity, low self-worth, impatience, and low hope, among others. You must be prepared when depression does show up trying to sell you these lies. If you buy them, it will return day in and day out knowing that you put food on its table and gas in its tank. Depression’s only job is to survive and, when you fall for its sales pitches, you are a means to that end.
One of your greatest defensive measures against this con-artist is asking questions. Ask enough and surely you will start to catch it lying out of its teeth. When you can separate the lies of depression from the truth of reality, you can begin to piece your life back together.
Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free – John 8:32
Let’s prepare for the days depression shows up at your door…
Depression Sales Package #1: Self Pity
Depression will approach you and do its best to convince you that your life sucks. If it successfully makes the sale, it gains a position of authority over your thoughts.
You’ve probably already bought the premium version of this sales package. When unboxed, it looks like a victim-mindset: “Poor me. I’ll feel sorry for myself, continue my behavior, and wish problems away.”
Buyer Beware. This isn’t you.
This is depression telling your subconscious what to say. It then repackages it as if it was a thought of your own. From there, it nets you in a cycle of temptation and torment.
First, depression tempts you with pity and presents instant gratification as the best fix. Then come the side effects of self-pity induced instant gratification: weight gain, low energy, health problems, debt, etc. More things to feel pity over.
Just as the sun rises, this tormenting cycle continues unless noticed and acted upon.
Here are multiple sets of questions to break down the lies of self-pity. Each question will break it down like a Russian nesting doll, exposing its inner content.
First question set
- Do I contribute to the problems I don’t want in my life?
- Has my inability to say no to instant gratification brought me down this road over the years?
- Would constructive daily disciplines improve my situation?
- Do I demonstrate any discipline or do I live strictly off of my moment by moment feelings?
- How long would discipline centered improvements take? Days? Weeks? A few short months?
- Do I have any goals or strategies to better my situation or am I floating aimlessly wishing for better?
Second question set
- Is my life really that bad?
- Do I have things other people around the world would envy?
- Have I delegated my happiness to material possessions?
- Do I depend on circumstances to be a certain way in order to be happy?
- What changes do I have to make today to set a better sail today?
(This article is an excerpt from Man’s Guide to Well-Being: Take Control of Your Mood and Life.)
Depression Sales Package #2: Low Self-Worth
Depression wants to taint your self-perception. It knows that the less you believe in yourself; the less confidence you have, the further away change is.
This sales package hides an obvious fact: we were all born for great things. However, the low confidence depression sells us limits our efforts and it is our lowered efforts that destine us for failure. Then, our inevitable failure lowers our self-worth and self-confidence even more. Eventually, we stop trying new and better things completely.
Hopefully, you are starting to see why depression may as well be selling you heroin. It grasps your psychological reasoning and skews life results, forcing you into a depression addiction.
Here are multiple sets of questions to combat this. Each question will act as a full swing of a battering ram, destined to bust open the door of truth and free you faster than a 12-step program.
First question set
- When was the last time I tried something convinced and determined on success?
- Do I regularly sell myself on defeat before putting forth 110% of my effort?
- Does this pre-sold defeat cause me to abandon methods before even attempting them?
- Does my perception of myself align with what others think of me?
- What methods can I use to improve my self-worth and shut the door in the face of depression?
Second question set
- What events of the past have led to my low self-worth?
- Have I been holding on to them for too long? Have these events unknowingly latched on like a leech, coming everywhere with me?
- Is something that happened five years ago even a tiny bit relevant today?
- Does a specific someone in your life perpetuate this false identity? Is it okay to smack them? (joke).
- How easily can they be removed from your sphere of influence?
- What steps are you taking today so that you can cultivate your greatness moving forward?
To read sales packages three (Impatience)and four (Low Hope), check out Man’s Guide to Well-Being. If you are depressed, this book is your solution.
Unless the “new way forward” is “none at all”, let’s not bother.
Whenever I feel bad, I just go running/hiking/cycling, makes me feel better in no time at all. https://imgur.com/QKPBfRl
Sponsored articles are depressing
the so called “social networks” too
I consider depression as a defence mechanism. Subconciously one is not happy with the current state of life and needs a change. The problem is that people do not understand this and do not realize it is their body asking them to change their thinking and consequently change their ways. They treat depression as a cancer that is attacking and sabotaging their well-being, whilst it is quite opposite. We need to learn how to consider it as a stimulous rather than a dejection.
It’s not depression that can stimulate change, it’s dissatisfaction. Depression hampers your progress.
Yes.. depression is like pain in that respect, telling you something is amiss and to change your situation/environment quickly. Unfortunately unlike pain, there is no autonomic response to depression, like jerking your hand away from a hot stove.. quite the opposite in fact. Depression’s oeuvre is to have you wallow in it.
Something i have noticed is that the depressed want their unhappiness enabled. Never fixed. You could ocfer them want they “want” but they will most of the tine say no. I feel for them, but after a while it is a energy drain amd highly annoying. Especially the recently broken up who told their significant other to find someone else.
Well, yeah. If it’s a condition, it’s someone else’s fault! That’s just what they want.
It’s important to remind your female ‘significant other’ from time to time that their purpose for existence on this good green Earth is to BREED, to TIT FEED and to SERVICE thy patriarchal master. Some women you’d swear have never heard this line before in their lives and have certainly never before heard it from their man face to face. For a woman to hear this for the first time, especially a woman who has sunken and slipped into the feminist dogma and auto think to hear “your job is to BREED, to KEEP my balls drained until the cows come home and to pursue dilligently the other domestic details attuned to your specific skillsets” – it comes as a shock to her to hear these divine golden words of truth. It’s like a double barrel shotgun between the eyes for a feminized woman to hear the trumpet of the patriarchal vicar and to be stared in the face with a loaded penis along with a large body with mass to pummel, spank and deliver true purpose to her being.
A WOMAN IS WHOLE and her flaky compromised soul finally becomes fulfilled and complete when she is dominated mind body and soul by her patriarch master. The man masters and commands his true purpose in the universe when he dominates with grace.
The woman communicates to her patriarchal master more with her clitoris and her services than with the training she’s received to use her yapper for extraneous nonsense. In full domination of thy woman there is order and the man exercizes his full masculine energies of the builder, the creator and the grand architect. When fully smacked and dominated, she will come at you when her clitoris is abuzz and you can look at her and tell when she’s squirly down there. You hammer ye nails that stick up. We are biological/spiritual creatures and all systems function symbiotically.
I liked the article. I imagine the book has greater insights still. Didnct read like a sponsored post. Read like half of something.
Problems aren’t the problem.
It’s the same grinding boring problems continuously for years on end.
They say if you want to ruin a man, leave him with no problems. The mind and body have nothing to work against. You need resistance in life, psychologically, just as you need resistance with weights in the gym.
The idea is to continually find *higher quality* problems to confront, or at least new problems. Like the way you progressive work with heavier weights. But they can’t be too trivial or too tough, just challenging enough to keep you working at them with some optimism of being able to solve them.
The meta-problem is getting those types of problems while dodging the ones that will wreck you completely or just stymie you.
But this is sort of tangential to the depression issue. That seems to be a deficiency of the will, in which you just can’t motivate yourself to confront any problem, big or small.
I find the best medicine to depression is start looking back at your prior successes. I mean look back and see what went right today, this week, this month. It gives me energy and moves my attitude from “I can’t do anything right” to “I did this right”. It’s like a mini shot of dopamine to the brain and boosts positive thinking. For me at least.
Your intuition is right, the only way to grapple with depression is to fill yourself with positive emotions. Unfortunately sometimes it’s too late to deal with it without medications.
It comes as no surprise that a woman is the first to bring up “medications.” Why don’t you go offer your valuable insights on a Reddit pregnancy/std forum. Don’t let the door shwack your fat ass on the way out.
Is that all you got? Do you even know what depression is?
Depression or at least clinically diagnosed depression is a real thing. What many people call depression is not clinical depression, but it can develop into clinical depression. Some people need a kick in the backside, but if that doesn’t work after a while you might have the real deal. It will curtail your ability to think clearly, logically, and realistically, which can lead to suicidal ideations. No dime store, positive thinking advice is going to get you through it.
In these cases medical assistance is probably necessary. See a doctor, don’t rely on opinions from the internet to cure you.
If you suffer from the real deal, all I can say is to bear with it, like you would a storm. It might take a while many months or even years in some cases but eventually it will pass. So don’t do anything stupid in the meantime.
You are perfectly, it can kill a person. :/
It should have been: you are perfectly right.
Doctors and big Pharma are in the business of making $$$ off of depressed people. And I too would be cautious about a sponsored ad from someone selling something.
The effectiveness of drugs to treat depression has been called into question lately. Things such as healthier lifestyle choices can be helpful. Some swear by the Wim Hof breathing techniques which is easy to learn and can be done each morning (takes more or less than 10 minutes each day) and supposedly one can feel the results within 3 weeks. But each person is going to be different as to what works for them.
But the net is not without some good sources – for example a discussion forum where people talk about what has helped them get better, as opposed to a bedwetting victim fest.
There have already been some editorial articles written on ROK on depression – this might be a jumping point for those seeking help. Just use ‘depression’ keyword in the ROK site search.
People suffer from depression due to modern living. Depression goes away when your active, out in nature and living your life! Go primal and eat and sleep and you will be over it in no time! Secret is to stay active all day like our ancestors!
Maybe these reasonable advice would be useful with dealing with sadness or dissatisfaction with life but when real depression sets in, reason won’t help you much. I could and still can rationalize all my fears, sorrows or angers but I could not win with terrible, overwhelming thoughts.
The second set of questions really spoke to me. I definitely get feelings of situational depression that are triggered by things that remind me of past events in my life.
Written by someone who’s never experienced depression. It is, literally, a killer. At best, it is a crippling disease that hampers growth and progress.
Depression is a female condition.
Okay Benito it was a funny throw away line, I give you that.
Seriously, plenty of famous male leaders have suffered from depression Boris Yeltsin, Winston Churchill, Abraham Lincoln. Also prominent scientists Charles Darwin, Robert Oppenheimer, Isaac Newtown. Other sportsman, artists and entertainers who had depression Mike Tyson, Frank Sinatra, Ernest Hemingway, Hulk Hogan, Edgar Allen Poe, Leo Tolstoy, Mark Twain. There is a shitload more men that also have it.
Failing the Depression Test:
First question set:
Do I contribute to the problems I don’t want in my life?
– Nope, but I am still in a land owned by corporate banks who finance the government, media, corporate powers, feminists, foreign invaders and other scum who make life un-livable.
Has my inability to say no to instant gratification brought me down this road over the years?
– Is the opposite of depression instant gratification? Do I now Not have the right to seek contentment or happiness?
Would constructive daily disciplines improve my situation?
– Maybe I need squats and girlie lists. Yeah, that’s it- I will cure my exploitation by working even harder!
Do I demonstrate any discipline or do I live strictly off of my moment by moment feelings?
– I study, prepare a career, work long hours and yet every day there is some new fee, tax, regulation, law or social pressure to confound my efforts. Great incentives.
How long would discipline centered improvements take? Days? Weeks? A few short months?
– How much money, time, high-level global contacts and political power do I need to overcome this world of foolishness?… Answer- INFINITE amounts.
Do I have any goals or strategies to better my situation or am I floating aimlessly wishing for better?
– My goal is to be is to start a tax-free, sovereign business and live in a place with no left wing scum, religious zealots or dangerous muds… What? there is no such place?
Second question set:
Is my life really that bad?
– Yes. I am typing this at 3am as if anyone will read this and benefit by it.
Do I have things other people around the world would envy?
– Sortof. This is the new communist argument. You have a nearby McDonalds and working toilet so you have NO “right to complain”.
Have I delegated my happiness to material possessions?
– 10 years ago I was supposed to kill myself to get all the new tech toys and take on an untenable mortgage so I could live in a non-mud community with my high-maintenance bitch wife. Now, post-Obama, I am supposed to rent an overpriced city apartment and leave it empty. If I see the word “minimalist lifestyle” once more!…..
Do I depend on circumstances to be a certain way in order to be happy?
– Yeah, I can just ignore the “circumstances” of my Company going out of business.
What changes do I have to make today to set a better sail today?
– I don’t know… steal a yacht maybe?
Third question set:
When was the last time I tried something convinced and determined on success?
– There is no choice. Today you Win Small or you Lose Big.
Do I regularly sell myself on defeat before putting forth 110% of my effort?
– If 100% of my effort means everything I can possible do what is the additional 10%?? (((taxes?)))
Does this pre-sold defeat cause me to abandon methods before even attempting them?
– I once waited for the US Patent Office to respond to my original Patent for almost a year. Guess what happened? A (((company))) based in Maryland had a Chinese-manufactured product on the market before I got a response. Was I “pre-sold”?
Does my perception of myself align with what others think of me?
– It seems the world thinks I am a Privileged, CIS, homophobe, anti-semite, fascist, Confederate. oppressor, domestic terrorist, rapist… should I “align” with that?
What methods can I use to improve my self-worth and shut the door in the face of depression?
– Hmmm.. maybe a scorched earth? Return of Jesus? Locust Army from the pit?
Fourth question set:
What events of the past have led to my low self-worth?
– WW 1,2,3-, British and Roman Empires, United Nations, Vienna School, Frankfurt School, NASA, Feminism, Obama, Hollywood, Gladio, CIA/IRS/NSA/DHS/TSA, DACA, SJWs, etc….. whew! I could type this list for a day or two!
Have I been holding on to them for too long?
– Which of the above mentioned can be “overcome and let go”?
Have these events unknowingly latched on like a leech, coming everywhere with me?
– Yeah! There are only a handful of cities in the world where you can safely walk around after 7pm.
Is something that happened five years ago even a tiny bit relevant today?
-Yes. Americans actually believed that an undocumented, Communist-Indonesian was RE-elected.. and it was over.
Does a specific someone in your life perpetuate this false identity?
– Everybody reading this knows a family member who voted for the Communist and/or Hillary.. and gets teary-eyed about Oprah! We are DOOMED!
Is it okay to smack them? (joke).
– If only God’s Angels would pour from a tear in the firmament and start running scum through! Oh.. wow.. on THAT day I would be happy!
How easily can they be removed from your sphere of influence?
– See the above comment!
What steps are you taking today so that you can cultivate your greatness moving forward?
– I calculate that if WW3 starts this year that I am close enough to a major city to be collateral damage. The Creator himself will soon say “Pass or Go”.. and it will be finished!
I literally cannot wait for it! 🙂
Wow.. that was fun.
Initially I was not that depressed.. but after reading this article and taking the “quiz” I am officially “mentally ill”!
Hooray!
Whoops.. sorry.
This wonderful Reply system broke all my formatting… I had spaces, bold lettering, and clever italics.
Now it looks like shit.
I was laughing as I typed it all but now…
I am depressed 🙁
I’ve felt depressed since I was a child, perhaps because it was clear to me even then the raw deal I would grow up to receive. Let me tell you, there’s no ‘cure’ for depression, it only comes back- though you can learn to live with it. Even when you’re achieving and doing what you love, and have more freedom than 99% of people, depression can pop up to bite you in the ass. Here’s the thing though, depression only has a power over you if you allow it to have power over you, just like a woman. Make fun of it, give it a whiny voice, call it a faggot when it tries to tell you that you should’ve gone the other way with that decision.
Oh! To be in unencumbered by critical thinking and reflection!
Am I really inb4 Kratom?
Hello Men,
I stumbled across this website and It looks like you are all in search of answers. That’s good so am I. The difference is I’m 55 and I have found some answers men. If you are depressed ask yourself “Is this internal or external” If your Dad died two months ago and you just got diagnosed with cancer and your depressed, Well you have reason to be.
Work our way through it, time will help. If everything in your world is pretty good and your depressed. Anti depressants can help a ton. But here’s the deal. If anti depressants help you it’s because you actually have an imbalance usually in serotonin. Stay strong, get out there and take on some responsibility. It will serve you well.