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Why You Should Know Your Environment

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I’ve been beating the self-improvement drum here on the manosphere for some time now. From promoting the consistent questioning of what you bring to the table to outlining the need to build effortless attraction, the theme I’ve advocated for is clear: young men need to consistently identify their faults and, through doing so, take control over their own romantic futures.

Left out of this discussion, however, are a few crucial realities that relate to things that even those most devoted to the cause of self-improvement will find entirely out of their control. The first of the realities relates to our culture, which is inherently hostile to many of the goals sought by the self-improving male. The second and less well detailed reality relates to the mental state of those that so many of us seek to approach romantically.

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As I put quite simply many months ago, many young American women are simply not alright in the head:

The USA has long had the highest rates of mental illness in the world, but the latest reports on the extent of it are still pretty shocking: mental illness struck one in five U.S. adults in 2010.

Among the highlights, people in the 50-plus age bracket had the lowest incidence of any mental illness (14.3%), while those ages 18 to 25 had the highest, at 29.9%. Women had higher rates than men: 23% versus 16.8%.

When broken down by racial and ethnic groups, the highest rates of mental illness were seen among people who reported two or more races (25.4%), followed by whites (20.6%), blacks (19.7%), Native Americans or Alaska natives (18.7%), Hispanics (18.3%) and Asians (15.8%).

This is an important story for American men looking to maintain perspective: at least a quarter of the women you run into at any given time are not going to be alright upstairs. When you take into consideration that the highly sought after 18-25 demographic has even higher illness rates and that many of the mentally ill go undiagnosed, you could be looking at a vastly higher proportion of not-entirely-ok girls, possibly approaching 50%.

Alright, so that’s been said. What does all of this mean for you?

1. Don’t take girls too seriously.

Remember, if you’re 18-25 then it is entirely possible that half of the women in your age group are operating with some sort of mental issue, and that means that for many of them odd, irrational behavior will be run-of-the-mill. Expect this behavior and take it in stride. Do not let it impact you.

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2. Don’t get so down on yourself as a young guy.

You may think you’re a loser because you get shot down by these girls more than you’d like, but this isn’t always the case: you’re often dealing with not-entirely-alright girls with illogical criteria.

This isn’t an excuse, mind you. This doesn’t mean that you aren’t doing many things wrong and should stop examining and mercilessly eliminating your faults, but it does mean that you should never be too hard on yourself and must always be ready to chalk some losses up to the way of the world. Even the right moves can be the wrong moves in the eyes of someone who isn’t mentally alright.

3. Don’t try to argue or reason with them.

If you’re 18-25, you will in many cases be dealing with someone who is fundamentally incapable of being reliably rational. You’ll get nowhere playing by their rules, so play by your own. Don’t get sucked into madness.

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4. Take girls off the pedestal.

This is tough for young guys, but it has to be done. It should be made easier by the realization that many of the women men seek to place on unrealistic pedestals don’t even have their own minds sorted properly, a fact that should clearly preclude them from receiving worship. This is just another reminder of what so many thirsty males forget time and time again: these women are just humans, imperfect beings like you and I. Nothing more, and nothing less.

5. Crazy works with crazy.

Dysfunctional treatment is often welcomed by dysfunctional people, and many of those with mental issues fit that bill. Since we’ve already established that a very large number of young women fit into that category, you should not be surprised to see so many of them respond positively to dysfunctional behavior.

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It is not uncommon for young men to adopt some of these dysfunctional behaviors, find increased sexual/romantic success with their female peers as a result, and then feel guilty about it all. Such guilt is understandable (they don’t like the fact that morally degraded versions of themselves are more appealing to girls in general than the men they actually prefer to be), but ultimately unnecessary—there is nothing a man can do about the female proclivity to welcome such behavior except adapt to it. It is the result of factors much bigger than him.

Self-improvement is important, but knowing your environment is crucial too. You can’t help everyone, but you can help yourself to better deal with those around you.

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74 thoughts on “Why You Should Know Your Environment”

  1. “young men need to consistently identify their faults and, through doing so, take control over their own romantic futures.”
    The Greeks called this sophrosyne, which is often translated as “humility,” but which really means “Know yourself” and “Nothing in excess.” It also means knowing your limitations.

  2. They mean nothing to me because I have nothing to do with them, and could care less about their stupid bullshit.
    BOYCOTT AMERICAN WOMEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

      1. haha, grow some balls, MAN UP and marry/date those sluts.
        Well, what if I am unable to get an erection for American women, especially white women? Why would I choose such disgusting creatures over the graceful, petite, sexy, submissive Asian women?

        2. Uh……………. who said anything about marriage and dating sluts? The, “Grow some balls, pussy,” comment is in response to the modern day classic beta mantra: “Let’s fuck Asians.” Sure, some guys might find Asians the prettiest but as for the rest it’s a case of, “They are subserviant.”

        3. Well Mr Cunt Stretch Jr, by the way, I knew your father, Cunt Stretcher Senior.
          Men who date asian women are betas? Actually I think it’s the other way around. Any man who is BETA enough to be able to tolerate the bullshit of white American women is clearly a mangina with no balls and no self respect or dignity. Otherwise, he would not be able to tolerate such women to begin with.
          Lastly, I am already living in Southeast Asia. Am I supposed to just actively seek out white women just so that I fit your definition of an alpha?
          What if white women do not arouse me sexually? So if all other races of women are off limits, you are damning me to impotency.

        4. I have to second that thought. Any man willing to submit in the manner necessary to “game” the infantile, preening, man-squerading dirigibles and flat-assed stick figures known as American white women is surely no Alpha. I don’t know how any man wouldn’t find the mannishness, de-facto sterility, and self-centeredness repulsive.

        5. that’s it, man. even though i knew a couple of decent white girls back in my hometown, in a suburb in Texas, still, they aint shit compared to indian or asian women. Bitches aint shit, my nigga. MEIN NIGGA!!!!!

        6. When they “woman up” I might then half-assed consider manning-up for their chewed up and spit out asses.
          Wait, too late!

  3. All this was intuitively known by my alpha male friends back in college, unfortunately, it would be years before it finally hit home and my lightbulb went off. And had I not spent a considerable amount of time overseas banging foreign chicks (Peace Corps), who knows how much longer it would have took for me to finally get it.

  4. Man this acticle is bang on!! I was banging a chick that was on Prozac and she told me in advance that she’s sometimes going crazy. And of top of that her best friend was the biggest feminist of Toronto ( that’s a recipe for disaster I know) But still I tried to use logic with her: BAD MISTAKE!!! Had to learn the hard way I guess!! Thanks for your article, wish it was around 4 months ago

    1. This story deserves some elaboration. I’m sure its elaboration would be well received on this forum.

  5. I’ll freely admit to not having broad enough historical experience with women. I have heard statistics like this for a long time, specifically pointing to depression. The question I have: Is this new or has the field of abnormal psych just ramped up the identification of ‘disorders’? Maybe these diagnoses are just manifestations of naturally occurring fragility.

    1. Good question. I think one should beware how the psychiatry bubble distorts stats like these.

    2. Then again, there are also secondary causes from misdiagnosis and misprescription.

  6. When I was an alcoholic-drug addict who didn’t give a shit about school was when I got the most attention from females. When you’re sitting in detention is when you get the most attention from females. This is because in high school, the most attractive and popular women ALL date losers (this comment should be engraved in stone). Living like a loser, however, provides no solace and leads to no place that is comforting. This is why it is important to remove women from the pedastal: I do it by looking at all women as wild stray cats. But beleive me when I tell you it is possible to be a good person according to your own terms and still be a “bad-boy”. It’s like when Brandon Flowers sings about how it’s OK to dip your toes in the devil’s water every once in a little while. But be careful: being bad can be a slippery slope to becoming a true loser..

    3. And these feminists expect me to just take a woman’s word for it when she says she’s been raped.
      I don’t think so. If there’s a 1 in 4 chance this bitch is insane, then there’s a 1 in 4 chance she could be lying through her ass.
      You are innocent until proven guilty. And your guilt must be proven beyond a reasonable doubt. That is the basis to a fair justice system.

    4. Are you really saying that it’s ok for someone to rape a woman because she’s “crazy”?

      1. 1. She SAID she was raped BECAUSE she is crazy.
        2. Do NOT stick your dick in “crazy”.
        Forget about “crazy in the head, crazy in bed”. Crazy in the head is
        CRAZY . IN . THE . HEAD.
        Crazy will kill your dumb-ass and never think about you. Perhaps she’ll write a song about it, but she’ll be thinking about how it affected HER, not about YOU.
        Do NOT stick you dick in “crazy”.

  8. “1. Don’t take girls too seriously.”
    This is a good universal rule to follow. The only exception would be in a court of law when she lies about you.

    1. Yeah they roll their eyes at my crazy stories…I roll my eyes at their crazy life.

  9. Which goes to show why the modern “progressive” state offers women psychiatric meds and dubious counseling services, in addition to abortions and contraceptives. The ruling class knows on some level that it has created an unnatural and unhealthy situation for women by discrediting patriarchy, even though that system has worked all along to keep the human race in business in our harsh and dangerous world.

  10. The articial socially engineered environment goes against human nature and results in the social dysfunction of the West that we see today. Many of us have been removed from concepts such as masculinity, community, social contracting, responsibility etc… When a person experiences mental dysfunction, 9 times out of 10 it is due to them deep down feeling the disconnect between this social environment and what works/what they know to be right. This social environment has been fostered by the banking community to further disempower people so that future generations can be more easily manipulated. Return of Kings and sites such as this in many instances represent the natural core of masculinity and free debate that has in large part been removed from our modern socially engineered society.
    A real society values family, community, masculinity, producers not takers, social contracts and ethics; and being a sovereign citizen. Guess which values its hard to find in modern society? Hence the dysfunction.

    1. I’m on the fence about my current GF for this very reason. She is high quality but perhaps not high enough. It seems the best a thing a man can do is to focus on himself and being successful and enjoying the shit he likes until he is older and more financially secure. Then if you want you can breed with a younger, more attractive, and more submissive woman.

  11. Not a surprise. As many have noted, women are herd creatures. The mental illness of many modern women comes from being programmed since infancy about their amazing, fantastic, have-it-all victimhood, when most of them really just want to make babies and live the home life. Many men have the ability to just shrug off propaganda but women suck it up like a sponge and attempt live their life by its directives. No wonder they are crazy.

    1. Agreed..someone who is so easily swayed by propaganda (realityshows, music videos (destinys child, spicegirls etc)) should not be allowed to vote.
      You need to be able to think for yourself to have even the slightest power in this society, And 90% of them..just can’t. Sad.

  12. I would suspect that the 23% of crazy women are the ones responsible for driving the 17% of men nuts. I know that the simple advice and truths like those in this article would’ve spared me years and years of frustration and depression as a young man. The red pill is an effective substitute for all anti-depression meds.

  13. This would have been such a good piece to have discovered in my late teens/early twenties.

  14. Another good rule is to take precautions with sexual health as STDs are very common.

  15. It should come to no surprise that the indoctrination of young, modern American women into the femcult of ‘you go girrrrrl’, thrusting them into solipsistic pursuits of self-indulgence and empty hedonism, fueled by the hypergamy hamster on roids, kicks out a 25% failure rate. A good portion of the the mind f*cked 25% are no doubt a direct result of their failing to fully absorb the absurd and dissonant empowerment doctrine.
    But as long as they accumulate credentials and random cocks that don’t get in the way of their individual pursuits, they should be “happy”. They can thank mommy and daddy for that. But somehow they just aren’t happy. So here come the pills.
    My yoga classes are full of these new-new-agey chicks who are batshit crazy, desperate to flee from their perfectly constructed, “successful” lives in which they are somewhere between miserable and lost, playing the drone or the succubus, where they long to be led, subordinate those silly wants and needs to a real man that they have no idea how to identify or attract. Instead they lay in a calm “childs pose”, attempting to quiet the dissonance of a life constructed on a foundation of lies and then go home and watch TV and obsess in Facebookland. Repeat.
    Check out the NYT “story” on college women and hookup sex and you can see the origins of the upcoming batches of crazy.

  16. Yeah when I was chatting with a lady about a made up scenario I created in my head in which she was involved… I got told I was a liar.
    Something that never existed, just something for fun to let my imagination run wild…and I was a liar. That was a great laugh for me.
    In the end…I just agreed with her. I am a liar.

  18. There was a time in my life I worked in a nursing home with people who had Alzheimer’s and dementia. And that was just the nurses.

    1. I remember this self-righteous bitch. She completely ignored the rights of men for some privacy and only thought of her own ambition.

  21. Holy crap, one in four girls my age is actually clinically mentally ill. This explains a lot.

  22. The surest sign that American white girls have gone off the deep end is this.
    Since they don’t know what to do with their maternal instincts anymore, instead of having a baby like the thousands of generations before them, they’ve opted to get a pet. Usually a dog. In fact, in San Fran-sicko and other affluent locales, you’ll often see white girls pushing around dogs in baby carriages.
    It’s truly an amazing sight to watch these poor white girls take care of an animal with the dedication of a mom, the way a normal woman would take care of her infant. But they wouldn’t want a nasty little baby to come and take away their career, now would they?

    1. Agreed. Therefore I cannot comprehend people like my sister, who already in the twilight of her fertile years, is proudly turning into a crazy old cat lady – has never had a real career.

  23. I discovered my wife self-harming one day in the bathroom, it scared the shit out of me at the time but it lead to a clinical diagnosis of bi-polar disorder. I stuck by her and tried to help as best I can but fast-forward a few years and we’re going through a divorce. Ironically this was initiated by her and I was down on myself in a significant way over where I had gone wrong.
    Freedom from my own self has come through the realisation that there is nothing wrong with me, she is the one with a diagnosed illness and I’ve done my best to help her. I former boss of mine had a similar situation, getting out of the relationship was the best thing for him and I can see a silver lining to my own dark clouds.
    Word of advice gents, don’t go getting too involved with females with mental health issues. It is just not worth it so get off your white horse. If they are to be saved it is up to them, not you.

    1. The best way to save them…keep popping their balloon sized ego everyday.
      It’s how I was led to the path of salvation.

    2. Your only fault was in getting married to her in the first place. The rest is on her.

  24. i know whats causing mental illness in younger girls than the ilder ones just like mixed have more than asians. its tje liberal irresponsilbe single mother. asians are less likely to follow in that then white black n mixed an as a result are menatlly healthy they aelre more likely to have a father figure. same with old women they are more sane cuz they had dads while the young generation did not. single mothers make their kids fucked up while fathers assume respinsiblities and solve the priblem. women cantlead inly men lead the household.the traditional way (asians n elderly) is better than the single mother way(white black n mxed). tradiuonal man leadin the family is better than the liberal single mom n the data proves it

  25. Our weakness, oh young brothers, is that crazy pussy can taste just as sweet, crazy pussy can be just as wet, and crazy pussy can be just as tight as pussy with a normal head attached.
    Worst, crazy pussy can be even easier to lay and even wilder in bed.
    However, I would like to be a bit more precise – “crazy” might not be the right word and psychotic is definitely not the right diagnosis either. “Neurotic” is closer to the point as many young women have little incentive to be work at living in a long-term reality.
    So the advice is the same as always – be the best man YOU can be and filter the craziness of others. And that can mean walking away from a really hot piece of ass – hard to do!

    1. Once again where was this advice in my 20’s?!!! Also in my opinion, career women are the worst. I guess they drive themselves to neurosis trying to “Have it all.”

  26. Thinking more about this today, it seems likely that it conflicts with women’s evolved nature to have a series of sterile hookups with men they have no intention of marrying. Combine that with the chemical meddling with women’s natural hormonal cycles, and I can see why so many women experience depression and anxiety, despite having so many of the things their feminist indoctrination tells them to want.
    At least the lower-class women who form families of multiply-fathered bastard kids have let nature take its course.

  28. If you are a White American man, they are your own.
    These are your sisters. Fix them up.
    Who holds American media, pharmaceuticals, education, food and bev companies, etc. that created the Honey Boo Boo’s?
    Fix it up. You can do it.

    1. Translation: “MAN UP!”
      This is just the same tired shaming with the same tired attempt to absolve women of all responsibility for their actions and put the onus on men to just deal with their behavior regardless of how out of line it is. This kind of white knight imperative is also what fuels the entitlement and other gender issues that sites like these are built to respond to.
      The sooner these ideas become obsolete, the better.

  29. So….what’s really behind all this? I get all of the feminist imperative nonsense that is being spouted out left and right but how did they all get so far down this evil path, so fast???

  31. The mental health industry is BS. I would be worried about dating a girl buying into that crap especially if she’s on some kind of medication. I wouldn’t try to use reason and logic even on a mentally healthy women. Treat a women like a women if you want her to be happy.

  32. This seems more to do with drug companies and the DSM lowering the criteria for one to be classified ill, in order that they shift more pills, than a predisposition towards actually going crazy in the US.

  33. This seems more to do with drug companies and the DSM lowering the criteria for one to be classified ill, in order that they shift more pills, than a predisposition towards actually going crazy in the US.

  34. What this article fails to mention is what is defined as a mental illness. The article it links to includes a definition: any mental, behavioral, or emotional illness as defined in the DSM. This includes PMDD, which only women can get, and does not in any way make a woman “crazy.”
    Maybe women would be nicer to you if you didn’t assume they’d turn into a three-headed monster every time you looked away.

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