When it comes to being alpha, everyone loves to focus on the verbals—what to say, how to say it, and the perfect responses to common quips and tests. But often underappreciated and ignored is the value of body language in being alpha and demonstrating your masculinity.
Your body language is highly indicative of your inner state and says a lot about you. In fact, it says much more than words ever will. As such, you can optimize your body language and over time reprogram your thought patterns and who you are as well as using it to communicate a great deal to the outside world without a single word.
With that in mind, here are three quick and easy alpha body language fixes that you can – and should – begin implementing right away.
1. Slow Things Down
Have you ever seen those squirrely guys who fidget and sway all over the place in a constant state of pressure and paranoia? Slooooow thiiiiiiingsssss downnnnnnnn. Rushing and fumbling about communicates a lack of control and increases that same sensation in your own mind, leading to that anxious, hectic feeling within you that sets off a domino effect of weakness. Make your movements more deliberate and graceful.
When you speak, don’t be in a hurry to get it all out on one breath. Whatever you do, take your time. You are in control of time and space; not the other way around.
Take that nugget of alpha wisdom to heart because it speaks volumes. You are not reactive. You demonstrate poise, control, and confidence in everything you do.
To practice, take the conscious effort to slow things down in your day to day tasks. Even dip your toes in the waters of slowed down absurdity just so that you can experience what it feels like. It’ll put you in the present moment and give you more enjoyment of everything you do. You’ll notice how moving slower will give you that little oomph of confidence and surefootedness that cranks up your masculine aura. Alpha sloth is alpha.
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Walking from point A to point B is about the only thing you should be doing quickly. But with momentum, drive, and purpose. None of that mall walker jumpsuit disco man business. This demonstrates power and confidence. The rest? Slow it down.
2. Lock Your Eyes
The eyes can give away everything about your inner state. Are you googly eyed quickly looking here, there, and everywhere? A shifty gaze indicates anxiety, insecurity, and weakness. Why are you looking around all over the place like the boogeyman is about to jump out from behind the corner at any moment?
Remember: You are in control. Act as if you knew everything about everything and everyone in your vicinity and put them there on purpose. Why would you be nervous or paranoid?
When you walk or talk, keep a fixed gaze. When someone is in front of you, look them right in their eyes. Connect with them on a deep level. Don’t let your eyes shift around like they’re in a pinball machine. As I said in point #1, when you decisively change where you look, don’t be in any rush to do so.
3. Keep your eyes and head at neutral or above, never below
When you look down – either with your eyes or your head – it shows sadness, lack of self-esteem, weakness, and other undesirable things. Stand up, walk down the hall, and try it for yourself.
In one instance, walk with your head held high, and in the other, walk with your head dipped downwards. In which one do you feel more confident, happy, and powerful?
To train yourself to do this, there’s a very simple trick: Pretend like there’s a block of wood attached to your neck right under your chin that physically prevents your head from dipping below neutral level.
Use this same idea with your eyes like you had some freaky surgery or whatever floats your boat. Or that there were laser beams shooting out of your eyes and underneath neutral level there is an innocent child who will be blasted with flaming photons if you look down. Neutral or above. Never below.
question for the audience. Alpha or beta?
Even when you text, hold your phone more out in front of you rather than down by your lap. Instant de-betafication tactic. Or better yet, just stop texting so damn much altogether.
Conclusion
Body language is a monster of its own, but these are three simple tweaks that you can put in play today. What are some simple tips and tricks of your own to tune up your body language?
Read More: How To Display Masculine Body Language
So what you gonna do? Constantly think about these things and self-correct yourself on the go? It ain’t gonna work.
Slowing down. It will come naturally to you if you’re grounded or “down-to-earth” as they say. Meaning your body energy moves downwards. Do dual-focus meditation.
Lock your eyes. It’s a question of how strong your eyes are. You look like a freak if your eyes are weak and you lock them on people. Not pleasant. Weak eyes = weak liver. Do coffee enemas.
Keep your head and eyes up. Posture related, spine related. See a chiropractor. A good one does wonders, a bad one can cripple you for life, hehe. On the cheap, do spinal twist exercise.
“waaaa, it’s all too hard”
yep, being aware of what’s right and how you fall short is half the battle
the rest, keep yourself in check til it’s autopilot
What on earth are you talking about…..?
You don’t understand the reason why slowing down is so important. It’s to give her the maximum time to check you out and assess you and then give you the eye. How many girls have you picked up who were walking 100 miles an hour while staring at their smart phones? Exactly.
You don’t understand the reason why locking eyes is so important. It’s to give her the opportunity to assess your confidence and to give her the opportunity to smile back. How many girls have you picked up without making eye contact with? Exactly.
I won’t even dignify your comment about posture. What I will say about posture, though, is it’s hard to slouch with an 8-pack.
Papa Zel. You lost me at “coffee enema.” I didn’t know you liked Starbucks that much.
umm that’s coffee f3lching…uggh. Don’t ask, the internet has some rather bad corners. Some times curiosity has bad outcomes.
Probably tastes like Kopi Luwak.
Eeeh I dunno. Enemas end in a pot full o coffee soup. Maybe that’s what Papa Z meant.
Some people become addicted to regular enemas. The benefits of intestinal and liver cleanse are outweighed by the addiction. Coffee enemas are the new crack of enemas and this couple is severely addicted, homebound, (hosebound), almost like the the Asians who a century ago would lay around in opium dens for all hours of the day.
Yeeeah you’d pretty much have to be set with a woman who is a co enema addict and just binge with it at home. Otherwise it’s pretty hard to hit the pavement day gaming with dribble running down your leg. There’s got to be a better way if this stuff is as great as they say. Hmmm Starbucks could remodel and add on a SIT DOWN cafe out back. . . ‘Starbucks BACKDOOR’ . . . heh . . . . dang . . . sheeit . . the cups got like a squeezy straw design . . dang. A lot of chicks are apparently getting into this thing. I’m not going to speculate where pickup venues are headed soon. It won’t allow for much club dancing like I knew.
When you focus on your bowels, you are not getting sex of any kind – Old Nurse Quote.
That is an EXIT, not an ENTRY.
Stuffing ANYTHING up your ass is ghey af.
Even a colonoscopy teeters dangerously as being queer.
question for the audience. Alpha or beta?
common man, they look alright together.
You are clearly a member of the (Tribe) who is using this site for the purposes of infiltration.
Excellent work brother. Keep feeding the stupid goyim these lines until we fatigue them on them the JQ and make our enemies appear foolish with their accusations.
We must continue to denigrate and make joke of the ((())) brackets that expose our kin. It is most damaging to our cause. L’chaim death to the infidel goyim.
Non sequitor. You need to explain what the Joos have to do with it.
Captain Morningwood is the main reason why I keep on reading ROK.
The guy’s comments are out of this world.
It’s like watching a comedy. He has to start his own show with the same name. I’d pay to see it, man
Спасибо хороший человек. You have to have a sense of humor in upside down world, otherwise you’ll go crazy. Hope you are doing well, bro! 🐸
Captain is great. Also like Marz, Automatic Slim, Clark Kent, Jomsviking, Weimar… hell, I guess I like most peeps here.
Lol even Gen xile sometimes
When he’s not talking about black dick
When is he not?
BILBO
Many blacks will rape white girls or form relationships with teenage white women. From a genetic standpoint it seems to be from their viewpoint to be to their evolutionary advantage. The kid is a little lighter, maybe a little more intelligent (Not always though), capable of being slightly more socialized.
Most white women who enter into relationships with black males will come to a bad, bad end. At best, they are simply single mothers chasing child support from a man who will always have more kids than he can pay for.
At worst there is domestic abuse or criminal association. Another words the police burst through the door and the girl has her name on a lease of the apartment with a kilo of cocaine it.
Finally, it will all come out of the taxpayers account. One some level, perhaps the black male likes impregnating the white female mudshark and leaving the taxpayer to cover the cost of 18 years. He has had his revenge against white men as surely as dropping a puppy off on some strangers door.
Clark Kent is emeritus, I believe, by this point.
BlueEyedDevil, I think you’ve been here for a long time, right? You and Clark Kent always come to mind as specific and consistently on-point posters when I think of RoK.
Shoulders back, eyes foreword and last but not least, manspread.
All of these are good for young people or newbies in the redpill sphere, but for middle or aged redpill men, well it’s nothing new under the sun.
These are all largely unconscious by-products of high T. No need to try to consciously change them, they should come more or less naturally as a masculine man.
Should, yes.
For those who don’t have it yet, be aware of where you falter and “fake it til you make it”
Just like using canned lines in game til it becomes second nature and a part of you. Once you feel the difference and start getting results, you don’t need em anymore because experience and outcome independence is already in motion
But that’s the point. It’s not natural for some men, so this article is giving them quick and easy pointers on how to consciously do it until it BECOMES natural. That’s why young women used to attend finishing schools (and some still do) where they learn how to walk, sit, laugh, carry on conversations, etc. It’s why you’ll hear friends and family members remark on how their son “walks differently” or carries themselves differently after they graduate from boot camp – a major thing they push while you’re in basic is military bearing. Not everyone takes it to heart and you still see some guys in uniform slouching or walking with their heads down. But 95% of them do.
beta, definitely beta.
Nice, simple guidelines. Eye contact is a biggie…it instantly sets the narrative that you are forthright, gentlemanly and vigilant.
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This might sound idiosyncratic, but I find all three of these body language issues are made easier — and greatly enhanced — by a good night’s sleep. Insomnia or sleep deficit increases the propensity to twitchy, chicken-headed, unfocused, garbled and generally weak body language. Strangely, I also find eating a meal that is too large (belly too full) dims my body language awareness and creates slack in my outward demeanor.
Lack of sleep also directly affects your mood. There have been tons of studies that show an increase in listlessness, depression, anxiety, etc. caused by sleep deprivation. I can see it myself when I get less than 6 hours of sleep.
Oh so now I see, someone rakes through RoK comment lines and does a “thumbs-down” parade on all posts w/o reading them. Or we were just strafed by by the anti-sleep, anti-eye-contact demographic. Brutal.
Much of the downvoting and shitposting is coming from (((Steely Dan))) who has been making trouble here for some weeks. He/she/it is also impersonating some of the regulars here to make idiotic posts.
DEVIL:
Answer to the question, is he alpha or beta, it depends on what he was doing on his phone.
a) sending a dick pick to another girl while his girlfriend waits? ALPHA.
b) sending a message to his friends LOLing about the dick pick he sent a girl while his girlfriend waits? ALPHA.
c) playing candy crush? OMEGA.
The “locking your eyes” one is something I definitely need to work on. I have two problems that might sound unbelievable. One, I don’t want the mental image of people in my head when I walk away from them, especially if the person’s a guy. No lie, that happens more often than not. And two, I’m very self aware of how it looks when I’m talking to a group of people and I stare at a single individual for too long, especially if she’s a woman, especially if she’s an attractive woman and there are other females in the group who know she’s attractive but these females are attracted to me. I’m one of those dudes with very transparent expressions. With big eyes and strong brow muscles that react to almost every ounce of data I perceive, I really do have to put on a James Bond mask in every meeting to conceal my thoughts.
We wuz alphazz.
4. Take up as much space as possible. Spread your legs, when sitting.
I stopped by a local breakfast joint, this morning. Took a booth, even though there were seats at the bar. I want space. I refused to take the seat at the bar, even though I was asked by the waitress to do so. I want space. Later on, I got the “You look like Jason Statham!” thing (again), from the waitress. She looked like a fun little spinner; I might pursue it, next time I go.
I met eyes with a very gorgeous girl recently. The type with piercing eyes from heaven. I looked away quickly cuz my confidence was sh1t that day, she immediately exhibited a subliminal rejection I could feel. It all happened in a 1/4 of a second.
When you speak, do so as if you have just been crowned King Of The WORLD. You are addressing the inhabitants of Earth for the very first time. They hang on every word you say.
Speak as if you intend for every word you say to be heard and understood the very first time. Clearly. Boldly. Confidently.
A man who doesn’t make himself understood when he speaks, someone you have to ask him to repeat what he said, who mumbles rather than speaks, is a man it is hard for me to take seriously.
Seriously!
Speak plainly. Make every word you say understood. Speak as if you are the King Of The World.
Are you not the King of your world?
Then act like it, in part, by speaking like it.
BODY LANGUAGE ON THE STREET
1) If in urban centers like Detroit keep your eyes forward and don’t look at anyone.
2) Long eye contact is a sign of aggression.
3) When thugs are staring at you on the street move your feet but keep your eyes up and use peripheral until you are far enough away to know they cannot touch you.
You guys all live in some MADMEN fantasy world of the 50’s where men all act like Hugh Hefner and the pool lights are on in the grotto.
Going around eye-fucking people in real life is going to get you in a fight.
madman marz
The article and my comment are aimed at men who are making themselves better, not thugs.
I lived on the streets for awhile a long time ago. In Los Angeles. 1990.
Never mind very many details. But I was never scared of anybody I met there. Whenever anybody played the eye-fuck game with me, I looked dead into his eyes and smiled. To this day I have never been successfully mugged. Nor did anybody there get physical with me.
Compton. East LA. Downton LA.
It seems to me you are easy to scare.
Anyway!
I aim to keep my comments less bitter, only better for the rest of my time visiting ROK.
So I recommend unless you actually have something to say that is within topic and helpful, feel free to remain silent. Even in Asia you have the right to remain silent. You know, keep your thoughts to yourself!
Most of your comments help no one anyway.
Enjoy your weekend pal.
Return of the Kings!
LOL
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Good Gosh, is this how Gen Y dating goes? You have to text for two days and send a “dick pick” and then hope that she pulls your name off a list like a flyer on a bulletin board?
Back when I was young, you met a chick, talked to her, determined then and there whether you were going to get laid or not.
Also, after you did the deed, you could not be found. No social media trail. If you chose not see her again, she never found you.
EYE CONTACT!!!
Gentlemen… and betas, I cannot express the importance of eye contact enough. In fact, I’ve built at least 75% of my game around eye contact alone. NO. I don’t have baby blues, I’m not 6’0 tall (5′ 9 1/2″ actually), and I’m far from rich. But I’ll tell you this- I have always been able to tell within the first look whether I could pull the chick or not. That’s ALL I do! I scan the room, the first one that I catch giving eyes (6/7 or higher) GETS IT. That’s all. Don’t pull away! Just look back, smile and go in for the intro. It’s great when you catch them off guard, approach quick, then slow things down.
Eye contact with an attractive woman is very powerful. Not so much with men though. Many men will take eye contact as an act of aggression(like Marz mentioned). Fags will think you are a fag too. Other guys might question your sexuality if you make excessive eye contact.
I only make eye contact with men if I am asking a question or listening to their answer. An extended conversation with a friend, or if I’m out in public I will be trying to also pay attention to what is going on around me.
Try and understand body language, sure, there are good books on that.
But it’s foolish to try and control your body language.
It’s an involuntary response from your limbic brain.
Controlling something that that will only make you look unnatural and out of synch.
This neurotic self-monitoring will provoke much more awkward responses from people than whatever it was you were doing before.
If you’re slouching, or leaning in to people when they speak, it’s not your body language that’s the problem; it’s your disposition that’s the problem.
Change that and your body language will invariably reflect this.
Treating symptoms rather than causes is the hallmark of an ignorant mind.
Staying physically fit helps maintain good posture, which in returns grants confidence.
The key is to look good on the outside to summon the confidence on the inside. Being in a constant neurotic state of mind where you have to keep reminding yourself to walk like a lobster will just make you look beta unintentionally.
Having sex with woman is beta
Whereas you feel pretty alpha after working another dude’s balls, right?
OH SHIT DUDE
I LOL’ed at that.
“there is an innocent child who will be blasted with flaming photons if you look down”
i wouldn’t care.
otherwise, truly great advices.
One major alpha quality is that, the alpha males have a tight grip over everything in their lives because they have a sense of responsibility. Example of a firm grip of hands over the stearing wheel of a heavy loaded truck over a dangerous mountainous road or a tight grabbing of fragile hand of a child while crossing a busy traffic road shows a true sign of alpha male quality.
Even at business interviews, a firm handshake is well appreciated.
This gripping part is like a natural instinct for alpha males, while others tend to learn this quality over time, normally by making foolish mistakes throughout their lives.
Not arguing with you, just curious about something. I’ve been reading in the manosphere for a few years now and there seems to be two distinctly different ideas of alpha. Have you noticed that?
1. patriarch – wise, responsible, masculine, competent, serious
2. player – physically attractive, hyper-sexual, loafer, shiftless, callous
I can’t reconcile these two concepts. Alpha can’t be both of them, it has to be one or the other. Just speaking from ignorance here. Which do you think it is?
Alpha mostly resemble to patriarch characteristics. However, as human beings, we can possess some other qualities as well. But, patriarchal qualities are meant to be an integral part of alphas.
Why would they not be both considered “alpha”. Just as such with most things – there are stages of alphadom. The “player” alpha is just a unrefined alpha that hasn’t reached the patriarch status yet.