Couple of weeks ago I published an article on types of things that men get angry about but shouldn’t. But since I haven’t offered a way to deal with anger itself, I have decided to compile some tips into this article. Most—if not all—solutions to anger that are available out there involve seeking professional help (which are pathetically unhelpful) and don’t address the specific type of anger that men experience. So, instead, this here is a zero-nonsense guide written by a man who has battled his own demons. I can’t promise you the results, but you must promise yourself dedication.
1. Accept the nature of anger
First, you must understand the nature of anger—specifically the one you possess based on your own life circumstances. Know that there are two types of anger: chronic anger due to past experience or living in a state of dissatisfaction, and acute anger which is the explosive anger of a man with short fuse. Of course, most men have a combination of the two, but I will be focusing mainly on chronic anger for this article.
Second, unlike those who say that anger is something problematic to be ridden of, know that anger in itself is not a bad thing—it’s an essential emotion for humans. Think of it like pain. Pain is an unpleasant but a necessary part of our existence. We feel pain so that we avoid and defend ourselves against things that harm us. Pain doesn’t become “bad” unless you feel it needlessly and without a way to stop it. And if that’s the kind of anger you are experiencing, then it is something that needs to be corrected.
Speaking of pain, anger is exactly that: an expression of emotional pain used to defend yourself. This is especially true for men who cover their hurt and despair under anger for the fear of being seen weak (this is also why most depressed men appear irritable or stone-cold rather than sad and in need of help).
So, don’t feel guilty about your anger; it doesn’t make you a bad person.
2. Be present minded
Much of your anger is caused by your mind drifting away from the present moment. Maybe you get angry by remembering something awful from the past. Due to our power of imagination, the bygone events will seem real and immediate. You can even get angry about something that might happen in the future when you let worries overcome you. By focusing on your life towards the present moment and living in the reality—as opposed to being inside your mind—you will be free of the phantoms that haunt you.
3. Understand the root cause of your anger
This doesn’t work for everyone, but understanding the root cause of your anger can be liberating and help you deal with your anger better. As a personal example, I know that whatever rage I feel towards manipulative and abusive women (even if the victim is another man) is augmented by my childhood experience: when I was seven and eight years old, I had female teachers who would pinch, slap, beat, and terrorize me non-stop. One abused me on a daily basis until I got too sick to go to school—all because my parents didn’t pay her the bribe she wanted. And that’s just one example from series of harsh experiences with women that I’ve been through in my life.
I understand that my horrid past exaggerates whatever anger I feel in the present moment, so I often remind myself to sever whatever I feel now from the past to not let it get out of control.
4. Ask yourself the Anger Question
Taming anger doesn’t mean you’re being a listless wimp who enjoys getting shoved around. As I’ve said before, anger exists to help you. You’re either using anger to solve your problem or you’re just getting pissed because you can’t do anything about it. Really, what’s the point of getting angry if you’re not going to take action? So, whenever you find yourself burning up from the inside, ask yourself the Anger Question: Is my anger helping me? If the answer is no, cool down and disengage.
5. Change your mindset and thinking
Ever got angry by a specific situation only to realize that you made a mistake and there’s nothing to be angry about? Did you notice just how quickly you cooled down? You can do the same with much of your anger by changing your mindset and perspective.
If you suffer from chronic anger because of your victim mentality that makes you feel as though you’ve been screwed over all your life, change it by being grateful for what you have and see yourself as someone who overcomes challenges. You are what you focus on. It’s also helpful to write exactly what’s pissing you off and why they’re making you angry. You’ll be surprised by just how different things appear when you take your thoughts out of your mind and onto a sheet of paper. Through that process, you’ll free yourself from distortions and gain a more realistic perspective.
Also, reading books on Buddhist thoughts and stoic philosophy can do wonders for your mind as well.
6. Remove or avoid the source of anger
You probably have specific things that cause needless anger whenever you encounter them. In my previous article I used spectator sports as an example of something I decided to disengage from when I realized how frustrated and bitter I would get from watching them.
Catalog things that often anger you and either completely remove them from your life or decrease your exposure to them. Or, if you can’t completely avoid them, find a way to deal with them effectively before you even engage them. Just make sure you’re not running away from your problems.
7. Talk to people you trust
I was reluctant to include this one as it seemed like a feminine way of dealing with problems. However, talking can be helpful in healthy dosages when done with the right people. Just don’t make a habit of it and seek attention and sympathy every time you face a problem; people will start to despise you for it. Also, try seeking someone wise whom you can trust. Just because someone cares about you, it doesn’t mean they’ll be helpful. Their best of intentions can make you feel even worse when they prove to be feckless.
8. Don’t repress, refocus and re-channel instead
Lot of men make the mistake of repressing their anger. Repressing damages your physical health and does nothing to solve your anger problem. Yes, sometimes you need to stop yourself from doing something you’ll be sorry for, but you can’t make repressing your default state. If you do, you’ll repress all your positive emotions along with it and suck your life energy dry. Instead, release when you can and simply re-channel or refocus your energy towards other activities that bring value to your life. It’s not going to be easy, but that’s part of the process.
9. Change your physiological state
Although it may start from your mind, anger is a physiological response and you should treat it as such. When you feel burning up, change your physiological state by doing an intense workout or by taking a cold shower—see if you’re still angry when you’re pushing your limits by placing yourself in mercy.
10. Practice meditation
You can do all the above tips to temporarily relieve your anger and loosen its grip over you, but if you truly want to master not just anger, but your mind as well, you must practice daily meditation. Meditation is simple, but not easy.
To start, find a quiet place to sit, close your eyes, and breathe slow and deep breaths. Make an effort to become aware of your own internal state. Note your thoughts and how you feel, and find where you feel the tightness of anger. Imagine breathing into that area to release the tension.
The more you practice and the more consistently you do your meditation, the better your results will be.
11. Accept the mastery of your mind as a journey
Some of you may be frustrated that I haven’t really given away the “how to” for stopping and controlling anger. “Disengage, avoid, refocus, but how?!” some may ask. How? You just do it.
Really, there’s no trick to it, all that requires is your will. If you’re looking for some sort of mind hack or secret method that will make you go “Ah-ha!” and solve your anger problems in flash, you’re searching in vain. Nothing you read, including this article, will do anything for you unless dedicate yourself.
Like any mastery, mastering your anger is going to take time, effort, and discipline. Think of how much effort and energy you have to invest to maintain a strong and healthy body. Think of the patience and focus it takes to play a musical instrument at a professional level. How many hours and how many years does it take to master them? In comparison, how much time and effort do you dedicate towards mastering your mind, the most important and difficult thing of all to master? Think about that and only then will you begin to appreciate what it takes to master anger, your mind, and your self.
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12. Find a SJW and break his jaw.
13. Put a cupcake on a high shelf and watch Trigglypuff try to get it.
I wonder if that blob realizes she’s been turned into a caricature. You see her on a ton of YouTube videos where she is always ridiculed.
People like her don’t give a shit about anything. Otherwise she wouldn’t come out in public looking the way she does. In fact, for her, any attention is good attention.
If you can’t get good attention, I guess you have to settle for bad.
She truly is the kind of person to make you ask yourself, “That’s the sperm that won?”
That line is pure gold. Thanks for the laugh.
She was badly trained.
lol
She’s on Youtube with her lawyer.
That poor lawyer. I know there’s a ton of jokes about all lawyers go to hell, but he can’t at least enjoy his life BEFORE the sentence to hell kicks in?
It’s a female lawyer of course.
My level of sympathy just decreased.
Are you talking about this video? If so, I hope you know it was a joke.
https://youtu.be/cGRjJsFyelU
It takes multiple sperm to pierce the membrane surrounding the ovum. It’s the sperm late to the party that make it through by building off the earlier sperms success. Or the super tough sperms.
Makes a lot of sense, really.
Yup, this. I have read an interview of her where she was asked this exact question. Her response was that she kind of likes the attention.
I hear there’s some great gang brawls to be had in France at the moment.
nah dude…you see the size of that bitch.
You know how when you wake up in the morning before your alarm clock and all of a sudden can do math like Russell crowe in a beautiful mind figuring out how much longer you have to sleep?
Well, you put a cupcake on a high shelf and that fat cunt will jump up there like bruce lee to get it.
How much longer you have to live?
Like Woody Allen says in annie hall:
“Two elderly women are at a Catskill mountain resort, and one of ’em says, “Boy, the food at this place is really terrible.” The other one says, “Yeah, I know; and such small portions.” Well, that’s essentially how I feel about life – full of loneliness, and misery, and suffering, and unhappiness, and it’s all over much too quickly.
No. How much longer do you have to live before the beast attacks.
With that kind of mass, she generates enough gravity to have the cupcakes fall towards her.
good. and let the anger flow without restraint.
Find a globalist and hang ’em high.
I’m going to tell you what I am getting tired of people threatening me because they think what I am saying is racist. If that behavior continue there is going to be problems
Tell them to “fuck off”.
I just get tired of the threats. At some point I will probably go after someone with a blowtorch
#15. Crush your enemy totally.
LOL this is great. Also good article Corey. I’d like to add one of mine which is similar.
http://bit.ly/YourAngerIsImpotent
I come from a long line of angry men.
Whenever I failed to control it I pretty much got laughed at.
Don’t provide free entertainment for your adversaries.
Quite true. Drives the bitches crazy when you don’t lose your shit.
The closest thing I’ve come to a hack for shutting off anger is going into a hyper analytical frame of mind. I assess the current situation, the events leading up to the situation, and what my actions (or lack thereof) will have as I move forward. I go through as many responses as I can realistically imagine, speculate on how the other individual(s) will react, and plan until I reach a resolution to the situation. I find this shuts off (or at least dampens) the emotional side of the brain and allows me to stay calm as I process everything. A lack of control in your life leads to stress and anger. I’ve found this process helps give me a level of control so that I do not go ballistic.
Good article. Anger is a bit of a beast but the strongest way to deal with it is to use it. Venting the anger doesn’t remove it but stokes the flame of it. However, exposing yourself in a way that can hurt you, martial arts, dancing, pursuing goals actively, dating, are the main ways I can think of that help you in the rage state. When you are angry your mind often wants you to view yourself as superior and humbling yourself with a failure helps to put things in perspective. You don’t need to fail but just realize their is another level of joy or skill that you can always attain.
For a tool to remaining present, while martial arts is amazing, I would also add Eckhart Tolle’s The Power of Now, namely the audio book. Listening to him drone on has a way of silencing all voices and refocusing you on the here and now. Sorry to say, but as someone who deals and has dealt with anger, the only way out is through.
That’s a great book and a related point I have realized as I have gotten old is how much I enjoy seeing children because they live in the now. I am always carrying a lot of preoccupation with my own personal gradue but when I see kids it blows that away and for a moment I can just laugh at their antics. Having raised a couple of sons myself it very often brings back the good times we had together when they were young. That is one reason I urge all of you to consider having children.
That is ultimately my goal. Always preferred the idea of a beautiful wife and kids than living without a resting space. Great point on children. They really show you the value of time.
Kids are a lot of work, but are very rewarding. My only advice is building up a large nest egg to assist with medical costs, etc and being in the right place with your life and your wife. Don’t let expectations rush you into it before you’re ready. Also, find a wife that wants to stay home with the kids. Makes life so much easier.
Will do. Know a guy who showed me the costs from just his first son’s birth. Somewhere near 27k. And that was before taking him out of the hospital!
Yeah, honestly the hospital costs are the most expensive part. Unless you go crazy with toys and top of the line diapers, the day-to-day expenses aren’t too bad. Where they really nail you is on hospital visits/checkups.
I was wondering about that. So far the wife’s about four months along and eying all sorts of expensive shit. My attitude’s been, “Let’s check out the thrift stores for clothes.”
Goodwill is your friend. I believe it’s Saturdays that you can buy baby clothes for $1 a piece. Also, set aside as much money as you can for the hospital costs ahead of time.
Ah yes, the expensive shit phase. Turns out, all you really need is diapers, food, a good blanket and a couple of outfits, a few goofy toys and baby shampoo/soap. Throw in a crib and stroller that you can get at a second hand store for pennies on the dollar and you’re golden. All the rest of the bullshit they try to sell you is lunacy.
I’ve been under that impression. My attitude is that children, especially infants, have huge growth rates and their clothes will be too small in a matter of months. It’s best to use hand me downs from friends and relatives or utilize Goodwill as you mentioned.
I always told people to buy my girls clothes for their birthdays. I usually wind up with enough clothes to last them until their next birthday (or Christmas) and the toys usually just get tossed to the wayside anyways. I don’t think I’ve bought them an outfit in over a year.
Yep. Be sure to ask for clothes for them on their birthdays and Christmas as well. Read my comment above in response to GOJ.
Yep, that’s a good call right there. They grow so fast that investing in expensive clothing is a huge waste of money.
Agreed. We already have the crib taken care of, as a family friend is getting rid of theirs and it can be adjusted for toddlers as time goes on. I was thinking that secondhand stores were best for the strollers and we have plenty of blankets, given that the women in her family love to get together to make quilts. Hell, we even have the feeding chair taken care of.
It’s just talking her out of getting the new clothes, ugh.
even when there are 17 of them?
I’m triggered.
That’s when you call an orphanage
I worked in a thrift store. Good shit for cheap. Especially baby clothes from people who buy it new and the kid doesn’t get to wear it. Your wife needs a fry pan up the side of the head.
Give up the lot of them for medical experiments.
I use to work at Goodwill. Check out tag day/week specials (50% off) or when they have there super sales. Get there early, real early. Also some stores have a way better selection than others because the stores are located in family intense neighbourhoods.
We went up to Amish country last time and had a midwife do a ‘tub birth’ in a water tub. They gave her calming and pain relieving herbs out the ass and these midwife chicks, get this, they massaged the hell out of her hole getting it big and ready. The baby came out in the water all clean like ”splash-kablooop”. What a deal, all clean and the whole deal was $700 cash. They gave me (dicko-daddyo) instructions a month before to play with her twat three fingers, four fingers and if I could, fist her to get her big and loose. If you’re a survivalist, your gear and skills are essential but if your clan is bent on surviving, it’s good to have one gal that’s either in the clan or at least she’s a close trusted friend that can work a pussy and do a clean kablooping. We don’t need no stinking hospital. They got goddamn socialist workers in hospitals. Fuck that. They got germs out the ass in hospitals too.
Yep. Thanks for the clarification. I knew you could get baby clothes dirt cheap there, just didn’t remember when exactly you needed to go.
Sorry…I can’t get past the word “kablooping”. I’m losing it.
Heh, I already have thought of that a few times.
How many recognized the Monty Python’s “The Meaning of Life” reference?
Meditating is also pretty good for calming the mind. I don’t do it too much, but I have recently downloaded a meditation app called Headspace. They talk you through a 10 minute session. I come out feeling mentally refreshed.
I suck so bad at meditating. I once spoke to a meditation person who told me that my problem was that I was trying to be good at it….I was essentially trying to win meditation.
You’re probably the only person I know that has tried to “win” at meditating.
I would make it a contest in my head. Everything I do in my head becomes a competition. When I first started using the sauna at the gym I could only stand being in there for 5 minutes. Now I can get 20 minutes. I am winning the sauna
I can see you sitting there going, “Ok brain, this is it! I’m going to meditate the fuck outta you!”
http://thepolyman.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/03/how-charlie-sheen-is-winning-with-tiger-blood.jpg
pretty much.
doesn’t he have the hiv
Probably. The pre-coming out Sheen was awesome. The new one needs to go away.
Glad to hear I am not alone. Everything is a competition. Even when I am painting and supposed to be creative, I am trying to beat my last project.
It is one of those things that is good for you, I think, but only to a point. The line is fine between inspiring yourself to be better and obsessing to the point of insanity.
I just can’t turn off the mind chatter.
I grew up playing sports with boys so competition is just second nature. My softball team is full of participation trophy millennials who do not have a competitive bone in their body. No wonder we are 0-7.
I got booted out of field hockey. I thought the whole idea of the game was to kneecap the opposition.
I’ll check it out. Used to use a few audio books to get out of my own head for meditations. Physical meditations, like sparring or exercising have always worked best for me, but meditation is a must if a person ever wants to truly quiet their rage. I imagine Headspace to be a rough listen when commuting to and from work.
Yeah, it’s one of those apps that require you to close your eyes and sit still. I usually lay in bed and go through a session right before bed.
In my experience, the first person to lose his cool will lose an argument/fight/debate/anything else.
As much anger as I have, my desire to win always trumps it and my experience shows that remaining cool and dethatched will always lead me to increased chances for success and victory in all things.
Of course, I will probably stroke out before I retire or, at some point, randomly beat someone to death…but whatevs.
I heard nature immersion is great for calming the mind.
Nature immersion is great. Sometimes I like to take a walk down 5th avenue near the park and soak up the sounds of nature …. like the chatter of a few thousand people, the sounds of cars, busses, construction, sirens, etc. It really clears the head.
Yeah…that’s great and all, but this is what I had in mind:
Forget the name of the space, but a good spot for nature and dates, is the other side of the bridge, Manhattan Bridge, on the Brooklyn side. I think there are areas where you can actually hit the water. Aside from the off putting highway, there are tennis courts, a pizzeria on Cobblestone street, and a wine and cheese place, all hidden back there. It is kind of a respite from the daily grind. I want to say the Dumbo area but I am not certain.
Actually I really enjoy HIghline Park, really relalxing and cool views, and it’s amazing how much quieter it is just a couple of blocks above street level, although I suppose it’s full of tourists.
is that from the classic PS2 game Bushido Blade?
Yeah! In real life!
I used to take naps in central park on Fridays. I was what is known as “nuts”. I look back and go oh my God. I also used to nap on the subway and wake up at my stop on the F train at Park Slope Brooklyn. OMG.
Highline sounds super-cool I never got to visit it.
yes, dumbo (down under Manhattan bridge overpass). I really like going there. The best way, imo, is to take the water taxi. I forget what it costs, but it is negligible and on a nice day you can ride the water from Manhattan over to Dumbo. Grimaldi’s is the pizza place (one of the plaes old enough to have their coal burning oven grandfathered in through he environmental laws). There is a really nice boardwalk, a homemade ice cream shop and a lot of fun stuff. I usually get there a couple times during the summer.
Another place for great nature time is Ft. Tryon park which is almost in Westchester. It has the cloisters museum which is an entire medieval abby brought over and reassembled with it’s tapestries and shit. The park is awesome too. I can get there by bicycle in just under an hour from my place and have a snack in the park and then go down the west side high way to Chelsea piers and go to the driving range and launch some balls in the river.
I also go kayaking over there.
See…it’s not all concrete.
highline is great. Have you been there since they did the huge renovation a few years ago?
I didn’t know they had a liquid form of concrete…amazing.
I am very susceptible to falling asleep on subways. I grew up like 20 feet from a train and my entire home would shake every 10 minutes. It took my mom years before she just gave up on putting things on the walls. Without exaggeration, the damn house would shake like it was an earthquake for a minute every 10 minutes or so for the first 15 years of my life. lol. Now the subway always puts me at ease.
I would have no problem falling asleep in the park but it never happens. I always wind up reading and checking out the “scenery” of the great lawn
what is this real life you speak of?
actually, its chock full of fake buddhist monks panhandling. Reporter tried to bust em on tv, and one got violent
looks like the woods from the movie “The Howling”…
I went there maybe 3-4 years ago, and honestly I thought it was a brand new thing. But it looked like it was new, so I’m supposing it was post renovation. I liked how there was a pervert hotel where both voyeurs and people who want strangers to see them fuck go get naked in this hotel with glass windows facing the park. Anyway that whole area (is it Chelsea?) seemed fun, but super expensive. It’s the kind of area you’d expect supermodels to walk around the corner at any second, great food, more laid back than the financial sector, which is what I think of when I think of NYC… rich banker fucks.
Most panhandlers in D.C. are supposedly spies hoping to overhear some chatter on the street… people instinctively ignore bums and will talk in front of them without thinking.
Yeah hi line has been there forever. When I was a kid it was pretty much just a place to buy and use drugs. The renovation was awesome so you must have gone post reno.
There are a ton of models and wanna be models in that area. I actually go to a dinner ever year called fashion meets finance. It’s pretty hilarious. A room full of corporate types and 20 year old models with a very high end bar.
I work with a guy who is down there all the time. Maybe I’m getting old but I can’t stand it most nights.
That voyer hotel is seriously fucked up & went there once years ago. It’s really crazy.
Funny to me that you imagine financial district when you think of Manhattan. I always refer to that area as “New Jersey” and other than the job I had down there during college have never gone that far down town. To me New York is always Central Park .
Nature immersion is great. And the graphics are getting better every day.
Be a Zen buddhist Nietzschean social darwinist fascist like me.
remove the Buddhism and replace it with what I am now calling active nihilism and remove social Darwinist and fascist and replace that with tautologically conscious narcissist and you have me.
A Zen master visiting New York City goes up to a hot dog vendor and says, “Make me one with everything.”
The hot dog vendor fixes a hot dog and hands it to the Zen master, who pays with a $20 bill.
The vendor puts the bill in the cash box and closes it. “Excuse me, but where’s my change?” asks the Zen master.
The vendor responds, “Change must come from within.”
Man with hand in pants feels cocky all day
No, be a stoic elitistic spartan dharma warrior. https://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/e61e4b2af6b497c6658cce8c701461c49da3b36fc5b9ab2f26c4af85b10418bb.jpg
fuck that noise. that kid already annoys me and those sandals look uncomfortable.
This article really pisses me off….
…oh, wait…
don’t get him mad.. you wouldn’t like him when he’s mad.
As autistic as it may sound, i found that playing through an insanely hard videogame is a good lesson of controlling anger. As a kid i remember playing through Resident Evil, and i learned that acting on emotions is irrational and gets nothing done.
I would have to agree. It’s sort of like vaccinating yourself. Play the most infuriating game that you can find and then other things in life aren’t nearly so bad. Mega Man 1 for the Nintendo is excellent for these purposes.
Anger is energy, a tremendous outburst of energy. And by destroying that energy through any means, you are destroying the very expression of life itself.
there is a big difference between destroying the energy and learning how to control and focus it.
I suggest the 30 Days of Optimism plan coupled with pullups. A real winner from what I’ve heard.
Beta men control their anger.
http://www.eyeswideart.com/_assets/keep%20calm%20black.jpg
I would go the other way and say that only Animalia….uncivilized human beings like the ghetto blacks….let themselves be controlled by their passions.
If you have a 600hp engine and don’t know how to handle that power you will get beat off the line by a guy in a corolla.
Learning how to master your anger and focus it and let it work for you is how civilized people created the world. Letting it go unchecked and just being an animal is why there are no great cities in African jungles.
Anger always wins, which is why all great cities eventually tumble back in the jungle.
and rise again. If you want to be a jungle barbarian rather than a civilized human that is a perfectly valid choice….I, for one, however, do not want to join the horde of unwashed savages and live like an animal.
Yes, because civilization is keeping the anger in the box.
Which is why civilizations do such atrocious things and justify them, because that is the only way to protect your way of life and your way of thinking. These two things go together. Why do you justify that? That is insane.
why? because I enjoy a civilized world. I don’t really care about its consequences and have no time or patience for savages and people who want to live like animals.
The civilized world is not manly. No wonder the women crave black dick.
we are at an impasse it would seem. You feel it is beta and not manly to live a civilized life and I think it is childish, cowardly and weak to allow oneself sink back into the animal kingdom and being a filthy savage rather than a civilized human being.
We won’t convince one another and therefore end now. I wish you luck in your gathering and foraging, picking nits out of a possible mates hair and shitting in the woods.
And you enjoy your toxic world and especially old age when your civilized body turns to cripple.
Not an impasse, its an over simplification of the point. Being “calm” and controlling your anger are two different things. I can control my anger and get my displeasure across to the displeas-er. I’m on the defensive if it were in a situation where a physical altercation is possible. Not to be confused with “being defensive”. Showing your anger too soon and too carelessly is a sign of weakness in every situation possible. Its taught in martial arts, in war strategy…etc. Facing an altercation in a controlled manner vs. facing an altercation in a wreckless way and retreating, are 3 completely different things and also the difference between a leader among alphas, an alpha and a Beta.
exactly correct which is why I started by saying that there is a difference between destroying the energy and focusing it. I can use my anger in ways that effect my world positively and not just be an angry dog.
The Body of the Warrior will breakdown before that of the King.
I really hope you are trolling, because your point is ridiculous. Simply look at the longevity of an average boxer and that of say a Mayweather, who is always in total control of the ring. Civilized one might even say. Or the body of an old Football player vs that of a martial artist at the age of 70. What a strange point to try to get behind.
Modern day obsession with longevity is making everybody’s lives miserable.
There are now more than 5 million demented Americans. By 2050, upward of 15 million will, quite simply, “have lost our minds.” Expect the rise of “death panels”.
Civilization always leads to idiocracy.
You would be a lot more convincing in your tirade against civilization if you were not using the apex technology of civilization aka the Internet/computer, nor the alphabet, which also derives from civilization.
True but no one is perfect.
That’s your version of Civilization. Speak for your own, the miserable ones at that age are the ones like you buddy. Don’t get it twisted.
I concur. “Back to the Future 3” showed how Marty McFly was prone to impotent anger that would do nothing but get him into trouble and that’s a lot of guys act in real life. They think they’re being strong when in fact they’re being exceeding weak.
this is absolutely correct. Marty’s response to being called “chicken” quite nearly brought on a global catastrophe.
He almost erased his own existence and knew the consequences.. talk about not being in control. Jeez McFly.
As Victor Pride says:
“You want to make me angry? I’ll take a bite of that anger and shit success.”
That’s a pretty wank quote to be fair. I wouldn’t be taking much pride in that if I was Victor.
Not the best visual, sure, but I like the message behind it; Take whatever people throw at you and use it as fuel for your fire.
1). Rack a fat Kratom line, snort that baby and get back in the race.
Steven Seagal knows a thing or two about anger management:
met him once. a HUGE guy, about 6’4″ or so…
from what I can tell he is 6’4 in both directions now.
Anger is the antidote to depression.
In ancient China, a famous doctor was asked to cure the emperor’s depression. He got the family to agree to protect him, then he when to the throne room and disrespected the emperor. The Emperor was really pissed off and chased him out of the room and through the palace.
Lo and behold, he was cured of his depression.
He then had the doctor beheaded.
I have to send this to all the blue pillers I know. One HUGE beta male trait I’ve found is misdirected anger or taking out their anger on others around them in unhealthy ways. I lived with a guy who was the epitome of blue pill who, if he had a bad day at work or got into a fight with someone I didn’t know, would end up taking it out on me and the other roommates when he got home. And of course once he apologized and said he shouldn’t have lashed out I’d give him suggestions on how to cool off that he would shoot down – He didn’t have time/was too afraid to go to the gym, he didn’t have any healthy outlets, etc. This is why most murderers tend to be blue pill types, they just don’t have a healthy way of dealing with negative emotions.
One way to lose some anger is to forgive and let go. People make mistakes and you should make allowances for people who treated you badly in the past. Also, you should forgive yourself for your own past mistakes. If you can, apologise and make amends.
Don’t harbour anger towards political opponents such as SJWs. They are just misguided people whose future is likely to be bleak. They are worthy of pity.
I agree with W. C. Fields; “I never hold a grudge. I get even with the son of a bitch and then I forget about it.”
We’ve all been there…
I am LOLing
Once, anger was my raison d’etre. That was a learning experience.
Sometimes I wonder where my temper went… maybe I should check lost and found?
Lift weights when you’re angry. Break your PR’s and leave the gym feeling elated and ready to conquer the world. If you leave the gym angry, you didn’t train hard enough.
As an Aspie who has a Savant Memory,I need to take these things to heart one day at a time.
I recently listened to an audiobook about the mysteries of psychology. They put an emphasis on #2.
#7 is damn near impossible.
Great Post – very practical.