With her long dark hair, her unblemished skin and her slender, erotically-toned body, Andrea was the most beautiful girl I had ever slept with. And when you’ve met your ideal women it’s kind of hard knowing that after today you will never speak to her again.
But I knew only too well what I had to do.
Here’s the problem. Men get into game because they’re frustrated and unhappy with their sex lives. They read material on sites like ROK and in books. They watch pick-up videos on YouTube. They go out and practice hitting on girls.
Their first attempts are horrible. But over time they get better. Through sheer repetition and the implementation of game principles they find themselves getting positive attention.
They have sex, often for the first time. The girls aren’t of earth-shattering quality, but still. They start to feel that fabled sense of abundance that pick-up gurus always talk about. Their confidence soars.
Now, all of a sudden, they are getting attention from higher-quality girls. Real hotties. Then one day an approach is made. A girl who could be a model—perhaps she is a model—gives out her number. A date is arranged. Sex happens.
Success. And yet it is at this point, when they guy has finally got everything he wanted, that he is in the danger zone. Why? Because if he is not a natural who is used to the attentions of extremely attractive women then it is likely he will get obsessed, fixated, and develop what we often call ‘oneitis’.
And once he has that, he is in a very difficult position. He will be so unwilling to let go of his dream girl that he will endure all manner of henpecking and privations from her, she will lose attraction for him, and eventually she will dump him.
If you are someone who had to learn game, like I did, rather than having it down naturally, then the next stage in your journey is to learn how to walk away from girls too.
Romanian Hell
Years ago, I found myself in Romanian hell. Andrea. I still have a few old photos of her on my computer (not to be advised, by the way—really you should junk all reminders).
It would be impossible to construct a girl from scratch who was closer to what I thought perfection was than Andrea.
All men have their own individual idea of what a ten is. I’m sure mine is very different to yours. But for me, Andrea was a ten. In some way she was a culmination of all femininity that I had craved my entire life. She was the princess in the fairy tale I’d read at school and she was the porn star I’d coveted on screen. She was a raven-haired PhD with bewitching eyes, a gypsy wildness and a pert little ass. I was beyond smitten. She engulfed me.
The problem was she had a boyfriend—and it wasn’t me. I was her bit on the side. She wanted me for sex at weekends, and to go back to her boyfriend during the week.
Nowadays that would seem like an ideal arrangement, but back then it seemed intolerable (what was I thinking?!) You see game had given me the skillset to access hotter girls but I hadn’t learned to control my feelings around them—yet.
I still had that same scarcity mentality that had stuck with me since I was a kid. That sense that ‘if I don’t hang on to her I will never get another like her ever again.’ And because Andrea was my ideal, or so I thought, I wanted to lock her down. I wanted her to leave the boyfriend and come live with me.
I wanted to imprison myself with a girl who would brazenly cheat on her boyfriend.
At first our rendezvous were exciting because they were all about sex. We would meet in hotel rooms in the afternoon and have sex all through the night, the perfumed sheets crumpled, ripped and thrown on the floor. But I had to ruin everything by following the beta playbook: ‘If it’s this good then I want her forever. She has to leave him for me.’
I pressured her and she became cold. Once a source of stimulation to her, a nexus of sexual desire, now I was an irritant. She already had a boyfriend, someone to order her around and put pressure on her. I was the lover. I was the one getting all of the benefits with none of the accountability. Why didn’t I understand that?
She withdrew. I panicked. Intoxicated with oneitus, I tried ever harder to hold onto her. Predictably, this just pushed her further away.
In the end, I asked her outright to define our relationship now and to tell me where we would be in the future. This is of course precisely the opposite of the correct order of things. She should have been asking me those questions.
‘I can’t promise anything,’ she said.
It was at that point that I finally came to my senses. I realised that there was simply nothing in this situation for me any more. That I was not getting what I wanted and that there was slim chance and no guarantee that things would change going forward.
Immediately, I hardened up. This was it. There would be no more back-and-forth. When she messaged me that evening (she was still using me as an emotional tampon, even though she was no longer sleeping with me), I replied curtly. And then I deleted her number and all of her previous messages. Now I had seen the light. Whatever happened, we were done. However much it hurt in the moment, there would be no return.
Freedom
I had lost the girl of my dreams. I had had her, and, through my own naivety and lack of game-savviness, I had ruined everything. This was my worst beta nightmare come true. The removal of my ‘ideal other.’
And yet, surprisingly, I felt light and free. The most terrible thing in the world emotionally (or so I thought) had happened and I was… okay.
In the days and weeks that followed I began to smile and laugh again, something I hadn’t done for an age. I started hanging out with friends once more. I enjoyed life anew. I was filled with a new sense of excitement and purpose. I traveled to Ibiza and had one of the best summers of my life. I began writing a new novel. I slept with more girls than ever before.
Perhaps most significantly of all, I realised something huge. That I didn’t actually want a girlfriend. That I didn’t want to be tied down to ‘someone special.’ I wanted freedom. I wanted to experience life with boldness and magnificence.
If You’re Riding A Horse And It Dies, Get Off
That whole experience taught me a huge lesson. There is no one ‘ideal other’. And the loss of some girl, no matter how ‘hot’ you might think her, won’t kill you. In fact, it might just be a weight off your shoulders. And from that point on I was never frightened to walk away from a girl again.
After all, the worst had already happened. I’d already lost my dream girl. And I had not only survived, I was thriving.
There is an old saying ‘if you’re riding a horse and it dies, get off.’ It contains a lot of wisdom. Consider whatever situation you find yourself in. Are you happy? Are you getting what you want out of it? Because if you’re not then you might just have to face up to the fact that your horse is dead and that it’s time to get off.
And trust me when I tell you that doing so might just be the best thing you’ll ever do.
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I like to think that in cases where I broke up with a girlfriend, it was ME who ended it and walked away with the upper hand, but if I came to the decision that I had no choice to end it, she already broke up with me emotionally, and acted in a way she knew I would not accept. The only difference between getting dumped and doing the dumping is that in the latter case at least there is no surprise.
Certainly, allows the rationalization hamster and justification monkey to clear their conscious toiling away in her mind. “See, that jerk broke up with me.” Poof, written off by both parties, the unspoken mutual understanding.
This was my divorce. She made me do the paperwork, and then her lawyer didn’t ask for a dime at the end, letting her be charity. Pissed me off. I was out thousands. I’m glad it’s over. Best part of breaking up with any girl is dating her old jealousies, her friends… her sister. I didn’t lay her sister, but we spent a night in the same bed at a shabby hotel at the beach. I could have turned it into something probably. I wish those girls didn’t have the same mother.
I had the same hot sister opportunity, didn’t go through with it on some flimsy moral pretext and regret it to this day, two decades later. Fortunately I have her pornalike kirsti klenot to console me when it gets really bad ,,,
Not very related to what you guys are discussing, but in Highschool I had a girlfriend, and I was pussy whipped. I was also brainwashed by movies that you’re supposed to be a loving faithful man and that women are capable of love and honesty and they can do no wrong.
I was presented with a once in a life time opportunity to bed two virgin rocker chicks at the same time… I didn’t take it. And I’ve regretted it for the rest of my life.
Turns out it’s a sin to nail a bride and then her sister. Who knew? I’m glad I didn’t sometimes.
I learned a powerful lesson when I was a young man. Women *need* the confrontation, drama and conversation of a break up. If you are strong enough, don’t give it to them–disappear and watch what happens. My high school and college sweetheart, a girl who turned heads faster than an exotic sports car, cheated on me for over a year while I worked long hours. Then one day, her key didn’t turn the lock at my empty condo; 2) she dialed my number and got a disconnect message; and 3) she opened her parents’ garage door and saw all of her possessions (and gifts to me) cleaned and neatly packaged, completely unharmed. There were no loose ends to tie up. I had already moved and disappeared without a word. I returned to my hometown six months later on vacation and met an old friend for a beer at a restaurant/bar. Suddenly I heard a shriek from behind me followed by a series of “Oh my God’s.” There she stood. I spurned her attempt to hug me and declined her invitation to talk. She wept openly, had an anxiety attack and followed me to my car, groveling in front of her new husband and her friends. By not confronting her and abruptly cutting her out of my life, I made sure that I would be remembered as the one who got away.
In front of her husband! That is one horrible women. Pure toxicity
You just described the relationship that taught me everything. Thank God she did it when I was very young. The word is I broke up with her. She was able to play the poor me game. The truth is. You know the truth, it was her doing, her choice. Every time I think of her I thank her. She broke me and taught me to never to let that happen again. No woman respects a broken man. If a woman has broken your spirit. You need to leave her
Where I live its rather easy to find a girl for hot great sex. Some guys do get attached to a partner, but that being said a woman who does this sort of thing is not good LTR/Wife material. You have to assume there will be a point she will bow out of the relationship. And if you are in Europe its easy to find other fish in the sea.
you don’t mention if you found an equal or better one, can try to deny scarcity, but “personal 10s” are in fact hard to find
Ok and? Life still goes on ffs
Relatable, I had recently dropped the hottest girl I’ve ever hooked up with, like super model hot. A small percentage of girls will have that “it” factor that is intoxicating, it’s different for every man, and she definitely had “it” for me. Me three years ago would have put up with her flaking and emotional instability but after “takin the pill” I don’t put up with any bullshit from girls so I cut her loose. Still kind of aches a bit though, but probably a good move in the long run.
I had a personal 9 a few years back that still makes me wonder. There were a lot of drawbacks though.
I feel you. Just gotta look at it through a rational lens
Dropping hot girls for even slight misbehaviour adds to your value.
You should never agree to be someone’s side piece. It’s a lose-lose, in my opinion… Either you catch feelings (you swore you wouldn’t) and she won’t leave the boyfriend and you part ways *or* she does end up leaving the guy but your relationship will fail because it was never be built upon trust (obviously she has issues with loyalty and fidelity and who wants that in a potential wife?) and she’ll wind up doing to you exactly what she did to her ex.
If she’s single and wants to slut it up with you, awesome, but if she confesses she has a man just leave and find another woman.
That’s my two cents anyway.
women GTFO Return of Kings comment section, that’s my two bitcoins anyway.
Modern women want to be involved in everything that men do. We can’t have anything of our own, not even a message board. Where as we couldn’t give two shits about what they or their friends are involved in.
THey get women’s only gyms and fitness centres but they have to invade all men only spaces – it’s because they can’t allow anything to happen without knowing about it – women’s innate need for gossip is due to their paranoia
No Shitsky! Everytime i make the poor choice of GF some chick, bam!, I’m quickly reminded as to the error of my choice. I start having conversations in my head, with my self, sarcastically and sometimes belligerantly bantering with myself about the stupid ass boring nonsensical gibberish that spews from her oral cock hole. Then I get angry at myself and begin the rapid approach toward. Dissolution. It isn’t pretty breaking their so called hearts but it must needs be done, expeditiously. I guess it’s the regularity of whatever speciality she had that ensnared me, i.e., nut draining skills beyond reproach.
They are probably talking about makeup, hair and boys.
I completely disagree with any gender-exclusive spaces. I think it’s ridiculous. The only reason someone of the opposite gender should be banned is if they are legitimately harassing or assaulting patrons (and if that happens they’re usually arrested and removed in cuffs anyway).
Right on cue, you proved Skeptics point….
Not really, no. I would be saying the same thing if you came to website (or public space) catered to feminine women and wanted to respectfully add your thoughts.
Skeptic said :” …. they have to invade all men only spaces – it’s because they can’t allow anything to happen without knowing about it”…
you said:” I completely disagree with any gender-exclusive spaces. I think it’s ridiculous. The only reason someone of the opposite gender should be banned is if they are legitimately harassing or assaulting patrons”
Apparently the obvious disconnect is working..Men want gender specific gyms BECAUSE the women invade and turn the gyms in hostile atmospheres for men, because vagina.
Hello?
WOMEN get their own damn gyms ( cuz they demand their safe spaces) and insist on bringing their silly stupid narcissistic crap to where the men are DESPITE having their own safe spaces..they do it because they cannot abide ANY PLACE anything that doesn’t allow them to ingratiate and annoy and try to control MEN..Feminism proves itself daily to be the most annoying cancer upon mankind. Invade and disrupt and destroy cry victim cry misogyny and so on ad nauseum…..
Men don’t go to your feminist websites, therefore your premise is already flawed, save maybe beta simps and cucks that cater to vag.
“My feminist websites?” Unless you count the blog Notes from a Red Pill Girl as a “feminist website” you’re assuming (and completely wrongly, might I add). You have no idea the websites I may frequent.
You said: “I would be saying the same thing if YOU CAME TO WEBSITE (or public space) catered to feminine women and wanted to respectfully add your thoughts.”
I said : ” Men don’t go to your feminist websites, therefore your premise is already flawed, save maybe beta simps and cucks that cater to vag.”
What part of this do you not understand? Your comment I quoted verbatim. I get from your comment you frequent them because YOU made the comparison. You can’t even follow your own comments and logic. Yet you come onto ROK to offer advice…….Go back to your safe space, please! Being that you can’t stand not being an attention whore on a mens website offering “advice”…
I think women should have gender exclusive spaces and so should men. The Country Women’s Association for example should be for women. The Freemason Lodge should be for Men. We shouldn’t have female sports broadcasters inside male locker rooms. I bet Male Coaches of Female Sports Teams don’t address them in the change rooms
Also – I’ve been banned from many supposedly open spaces that were in fact female controlled – THe Mama Mia Website for example – oh yeah and HuffPo and Jezebel – I wonder why?
Her comment is reasonable though
Thank you, Brian. I’m not trying to “invade,” I’m simply adding a RPW’s perspective on these articles. I’m always curious to hear from RPM in general. Done respectfully, it’s always good to hear from the other (like-minded) gender. If your sounding board in the comments is all RPMs (especially ones who may be reeling from heartache), they’re not likely to garner any solid advice or perspectives for finding and locking down traditionally-minded women. 🙂
You ran to the defense of women fast enough by flipping the roles around.
Apparently women are NOT the initiators of these side baggage attachments, in your mind. Whats amazing is you invoke “finding and locking down traditionally-minded women” and how do they also slut around as side pieces, or as you said ” You should never agree to be someone’s side piece. It’s a lose-lose, in my opinion… Either you catch feelings (you swore you wouldn’t) and she won’t leave the boyfriend and you split *or* she does end up leaving the guy but your relationship will fail because it was never be built upon a solid foundation”
What traditional minded here? Nothing…
Where did I claim women aren’t the initiators in those sorts of agreements? The average woman/women are far from angelic in today’s world.
Funny you mention that section of my comment because my initial writing was completely gender-neutral (ie. boyfriend/girlfriend, one, someone, people, etc.) because I know both sides can be equally bad. But as I *am* on an article and site aimed at men, I decided it was better to do an edit and make it gender-specific.
And no, for the record, no traditionally-minded woman would ever knowingly be a side-piece. That’s unethical and amoral.
Your original comment is in moderation (thankfully), but then you suggest we are mind readers as to how you originally wrote it, but then opted for it in the form I quoted. then this; “And no, for the record, no traditionally-minded woman would ever knowingly be a side-piece. That’s unethical and amoral.” Well, you could have stated that at the beginning of your first comment and not been ambiguous to start wiith, but all of your comments have been exactly that ambiguous and going in opposite directions.
Then you thank the simp and say; ” Thank you, Brian. I’m not trying to “invade,”…. ” and then this winning comment; “If your sounding board in the comments is all RPMs (especially ones who may be reeling from heartache), they’re not likely to garner any solid advice or perspectives for finding and locking down traditionally-minded women. :)”
Wow, condescend much, do you?
Here is what you did. Invade ROK comments, condescend to men and “advise like minded people” (certainly from a confused and ambiguous position)…yep, sure accomplished those two things, but as any intelligent reader would get from our exchange that you are also engage in presenting your points in opposite directions. Advise on “side pieces” then about morality, advise about “like minds” and then present conflicting argument to your own posts, then proceed to tell me I am wrong. Well Hell I must not be able to read either, right, Advise that too?
Wonderful example of live attention whoring…classic. That’s why you are here and why men are NOT on your websites. Needle and nag (as you say “advise”….)
The Horse is dead…Im calling the dogs so they can eat. I m done here.
“She’ll wind up doing to you exactly what she did to her ex.”
This is one of those red-pill truths about cheating women that more men should understand. Guys get excited when a woman “nexts” their previous lover or relationship for him, thinking how flattering it is and how special they must be.
Then later they’re surprised when she upgrades again and does the same thing to them that she did to the first guy. You can always tell how a woman will treat you based on how she treats other men in her life.
A wise man will notice a girl trying to “upgrade” to him from her previous man, and subsequently keep her at a level below “serious relationship” now that she has revealed what kind of person she is.
Sure, I think it’s good that you expose yourself to other ideas, knowing that there will be ‘hell’ to pay in the form of angry comments.
American men’s rage is understandable enough; decades of being basically ridiculed might be OK if there was enough sex to go around, but the situation is pretty dire over there in that regard.
To your comment, and the reaction here generally – men certainly have less leverage in choosing their status, so it’s not always as straightforward a choice as you outlined.
Good job for calling her out on the condescending. It was basically her saying to ROK readers, “You guys are my friends with no benefits, now show me more attention.”
Oh please let them come, let them learn. Just don’t let them forget that this is a mans place.
“to be someone’s side piece” is more like friends with benefits.
it’s a win-win for both imo.
I suppose if you can sleep with her over an extended period of time and not form any sort of attachment and have a clean break it could work…but that’s pretty rare from everything I’ve heard and seen from friends and acquaintances who have done it. Honestly, if you are the very rare ones who can numb yourself to only deriving physical pleasure, then I applaud you lol
‘American Psycho’ style breakup. Be 100% casual about it (you’re not terribly important to me), have a tinge of dread game in your presentation, and get up and walk away if she starts the water works treatment. Just come up with a more modern excuse instead of “I need to return some video tapes”.
I disagree. An old timey excuse should freeze her in confusion for long enough for your graceful exit. “I need to find a phone booth to call my roommate and till him to videotape the new episode of Seinfeld. I hope the line isn’t busy from his dial up modem.”
Haha
Except you don’t need to say “dialup modem.” It’s just modem. 28k if you are a commoner. 56k if you are a superhero. “I need you to record Knight Rider while I’m gone. Try to leave the commercials out. I have a new 4 head VCR so it will look really good if you do it right.”
Ding-ding-brrrrrrr-beeeeeeeeee
Magnificent. This will make her pine for you doubly as bad because what odd sorcery is this?! Sort of like if you slide over to Ch. Heartiste you’ll see old posts about sending weird emojis with cats and birthday cakes. Almost non-sensical but keeps that hamster spinning in overdrive.
Thing is, relay to her she is not special, not to you or anyone. Bitches be plenty.
Classic!
Hell no. I will still use Return Video Tapes….just to add that extra dick to the situation. Haha
It’s 2017 and I’m still using the “I have to return some videotapes” excuse when I don’t care to explain where I’m going. Try it. It’s a classic.
“I wanted to imprison myself with a girl who would brazenly cheat on her boyfriend.”
A girl I was seeing on the side awhile back asked me if I would ever leave my wife for her so we could be together. I looked right at her and said, “even if I did, would you EVER be able to trust me?”
She said yes, cause she still didn’t think I was a bad guy. Right…
Whos a bad man?
Jeez, a wife & a girlfriend, huh?
You must be doing something right.
Have to ask, are they both hot,like 7 or above?
Not trying to be a d*ck, here, just curious.
If they are both hot, what do you think is their attraction towards you? Facial appearance, muscles, fighting and/or mechanical ablilty? Once again, just curious, as I have been on the other side of the fence (unwanted) my whole life.
I think the correct answer should have been “Shut up, quit talking, keep sucking”…
Similarly, a hot girl who I knew at work asked me the same question twice in nine months but she missed out the “… for her” part. It was soon after that it sunk in that she has a malignant npd… .
Roosh the most valuable lesson I have taken from you with regard to hot women is that they are all like oil wells – know deep in your psyche and loins that the well will dry out. Troy gets it. And it prevents all-out Oneitis that all men risk. But wow – to have that memory…
My fellow ROK’ers, I’m here relaxing from a dive, on the white sands of Mactan Cebu. Divorced myself from wretched hell 16yrs ago and have never looked back! I agree, the well will always dry up! Every article on this site about dating and woman, every worthy comment of experienced wisdom from all contributors that follows, confirms this. How masculine and vindicating it is to experience moments like last night. Chilling at the beach lounge enjoying my beer followed with a ULTIMAT (best vodka ever) martini, shaken not stirred of course LOL. Enjoying the evening alone, save for the entirely cute 5’3″ virgin oozing newbie waitress (shhhh let me indulge in some falsehoods) lingering and conversing with me. It was as if each topic of conversation she had with me was “game” practice, checkers if you will, she was not chess worthy mind you. My point here is that I had NO GF OR BIATCH (nor was I the loser white guy with his fugly whore he’s chosen to companionize for his trip, I may write an article pertaining to this and it’s egregious pshycology) giving me shit about being myself and being a man. The HeShe DJ Nische and I shared a toast and the night was just plain enjoyable. I am free to only concern myself with MYSELF. This life has and continues to yeild joy. Men are that they might have joy…I’m having it gentlemen, doing it my way, as Sinatra lyric’d. This is a good article and reminder that we should all heed the danger of oneitus and niceness. BTW beautiful Korean and Chinese girls everywhere here…time to make some ME Infused sushi! Laters!
That is indeed a whole other Universe of Masculinity – avoiding the Nag Factor. Say ahhh… they will come (hehe) if you are solid, stay on top of your bod, and have no monkeys on your back.
“they will come (hehe) if you are solid, stay on top of your bod, and have no monkeys on your back.”
IN a 3rd world country like the Philippines or Thailand? Haven’t been there (yet!), but I think you may not need even the first two things. Just a somewhat non-hideous appearance and a wad of cash. I am thinking that is enough, if all I have heard is true.
Nice post (although the “heshe” part was a tad odd).
Reminds me a little bit of the type of stuff former ROK poster “PJClark” used to write about.
Seems like reasonable advice. Personally I am always somewhat mentally prepared to leave someone, almost regardless of SMV, because I have strong pride and some fuck you money in the bank account. Still I think that I would think twice and solve things if a serious problem occured. Rationality balances primordial masculine emotions.
Come to think of a “princess” that I met when I was 14, in late elementary school. I was early with kissing cute girls and having “relationships” but had not yet scored at that time. I was a cute and quite popular guy with a sense of cool skateboard fashion and jerkish attitude, but didn’t have the extreme level of confidence, partly due to virginity. Seems natural.
Anyway, this girl was like the prototype of the perfect 15-year-old Scandinavian princess, with long blonde hair, beautiful face, and a well-developed firm female body. She showed up at our school and said to a friend of mine that I was cute, and I was happy as hell but didn’t dare to go and talk to her. Pathetic I know, but I was literally Hitler young. She then had sex with two bad boys who pumped and dumped her and that was that. Later I met her, we got to know each a but, and we hugged a bit but it didn’t really happen anything.
She and a brown-haired Swedish girl that I met in Greece, one of whom was 100% interested but still I managed to screw up, are my “dream girls” that never happened. But I get at least 8s somewhat later in life so I am not sorry. Those kind of mistakes would never happen to a single guy again becasue he knows that he cannot afford to mess up like that.
I like blackdragons approach. Just ask for some space and eventually turn them into a fuck buddy that you see once a week.
Good and it helps to have some extra deniability (work, travel).
Just make sure there’s others firmly in the rotation.
A solid tell, of this story is:
1) If she’s going to cheat on her boyfriend and allow you to openly know about it and not hide it, she’ll cheat on you when / if you become the boyfriend. Guaranteed. Girls that hot are never satisfied or content. We all know smokin hotties always already have a man. The question is if she hides him from you or not. If she does, she might be trying to make an honest switch to a new boyfriend. Past early 20s, you’re always stealing away another man’s women, so the temptation to do so is very natural.
2) Gives total support to the claim that a girl will decide whether she’s going to fuck you, and how things will go from the first few moments you lay eyes on each other, and from that point forward, especially in the 8.5-9+ range. Planned obsolescence is often cooked in, and it becomes a game of who beats who to the knock out blow and keeps their feelings most in check.
In a FWB situation, whether other collateral players involved on the DL or not, you truly have to give no shits about that person any further than you’d save them from walking in front of a bus like any other stranger.
Stop looking for or believing in the perfect girl. They have so many dudes texting them, its not worth the time trying. Unless you catch her when shes young, drunk, naive etc, she will usually be leveraging her value. Feel free to approach, but dont waste too much time or money on them.
Id rather fuck one girl with a pretty face.
Then one with big tits.
Then one with a nice ass.
And rotate.
Its much easier than gaming a perfect ten, and you can keep your leverage.
Ditto
Indeed. The combination of 24/7 sperm production and a penchant for different dimensions of female beauty can be devastating for a taken man. If I have a European I would like an East Asian. If I have an Oriental babe I would like a Scandinavian etc. If she has great ass but small tits I would have the one with nice, large tits etc.
The girl in the first picture would be pretty tough to pass up. Unless she is a “butter-face”.
Most American females look like the one in the last picture. The one laying on her back next to Elliot Gould.
You know what they say…variety is the spice of life
She was a 10 AND ”’She had a PhD”’ . . . . .
Everyone red pill should have heard a rattlesnake’s rattle right there.
Its all fun and games until the cobra bites you in the face. Dead is dead, don’t kiss a snake, especially a cobra.
Appears like reasonable advice. Personally I am always somewhat mentally prepared to leave someone, almost regardless of SMV, because I have strong pride and some fuck you money in the bank account. Still I think that I would think twice and solve things if a serious problem occured. Rationality balances primordial masculine emotions.
Come to think of a “princess” whom I met when I was 14, in late elementary school. I was early with kissing cute girls and having “relationships” but had not yet scored at that time. I was a quite popular guy with a sense of cool skateboard fashion and jerkish attitude, but didn’t have the top level of confidence, partly due to virginity. Quite natural.
Anyway, this girl was like the prototype of the perfect 15-year-old Scandinavian princess, with long blonde hair, beautiful face, and a well-developed firm female body. She showed up at our school and said to a friend of mine that I was cute, and I was happy as hell but didn’t dare to go and talk to her. Pathetic I know, but I blame my young age. Later I met her, we got to know each other a bit, and we hugged much at a party, but it didn’t really happen anything.
“and some fuck you money in the bank account”
Very, very, very important.
Especially to realize it and begin to accumulate it in your 20s.
What’s it all about, , , , Alfie ? ?
I guess I was spared the trials and tribulations of a hot chick in my younger daze. But I enjoy reading the comments here, on this particular subject. Cheers !
Chad’s problems…
I disagree with ditching photos, esp nudes. They keep you warm in middle age and eventually you can show your sons to prove you know what you’re talking about as you stop them making dumb cuntstruck decisions.
Sounds like she was only your ideal girl in looks. Was there anything else about her that was compelling? Maybe you didn’t lose as much as you thought. There will be an even better one that has the looks (or close enough) and some other important qualities too. Like…single for one? 😉
Impregnate them
being there done that Tony. except that 1. she was my superior in my -then- office 2. she introduced a lot of sentimental bullshit in the mix 3. we had 5-6 on-offs within 18-months period. however, i should admit that -as in my case, as well- you/we didn’t actually “broke up” with the “our hot girls”, because they never were OUR girls, we just happened to be guys they cheated with. plus, they actually refused us to see them as anything more than that. therefore, you wrote an article about “cutting loose” a hot girl, not breaking up with her. the fact that you don’t seem to realize this truth may mean that you try to rationalize and beautify the fact that she never gave you “relationship status”.
with all the liberty provided by the sad fact that I have been in your shoes, allow me to point out a factor that you don’t seem to consider in your article: lack of respect on her behalf and yours as well.
yes friend, a non-married woman not breaking up with her bf, although she shared with you much more than a couple of ONS, is a woman that does not respect either her bf or you (because she actually deems you as unsuitable for LTR status, although YOU desired that). being in such a “parallel affair” status (although you have been already aware of her bf from the very beginning), asking -much later than when you started the affair- her for “commitment” and pushing the things so as to receive as a result (of your own behaviour) answers such as “i cannot promise anything” (i want to puke) means that YOU showed no self-respect. and believe me “breaking up with”/cutting her loose isn’t a form of enforcing self-respect but a forced situation she imposed on you given that you -at least- kept a last line of defense by not keeping up with being her tampon AFTER you heard what she felt about you.
in other words, you should have tried to restore the situation not just walking away as the defeated party. i.e. you should at least inform her bf about the whole affair and teach her a lesson about disrespect. of course, i don’t assume that her bf would break up with her but at least you would “scar” her “ideal pretty wonderful life”. but of course, you didn’t (although i am sure you thought about that) because you were actually afraid of loosing any potential to get back with her sometime.
The hot woman, who knows she is hot will have power over you if you let her. Sometimes the tactic of being seen with beautiful intelligent educated women drive off those who only have a good body. They know they cannot compete.
There is an old saying: winners hang with other winners. No matter how attractive,a woman who is in the death spiral will drag you down with her. Even if your “white knight” obtains a bit of what he really wanted once “rescued” she will take her new found togetherness and leave.
all good till “she had a boyfriend”… id stay away from that stuff guys… and look out for those diseases and “oops, I’m pregnant” moments… know I think about it, id stay away from any intimate relationships with women…. the momentary joy is not worth it IMO, check out the fleshlight….