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The Secret To Approaching Older Women As A Young Man

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As discussed in Gaming In School Is Not Enough, the most important game advice for young guys is to cold approach as many women as possible. In order to do this, school and college-aged guys must expand the pool of girls they approach and start going after slightly older women, making slight adjustments to their game as they do so.

For young men, the norm of dating girls their own age or younger severely reduces the number of available women for them to approach. Since for young guys, “older women” for them are still young and in their prime, it makes sense for them to pursue this demographic

In order to do so, young men will need to have these women think that they are the same age as them or slightly older. Often times, a girl who suspects that you are younger than her will ask how old you are early in the interaction, particularly with night game. The problem with the girl asking this is that it forces you to guess their age. If you think she is 23, and you give 22 as an answer to your age, swooping her will become more difficult when she says she is 24. If you say you are one year younger then it usually won’t be a big deal, but any more than that and it may harm your chances.

With girls you suspect of being older than you, it’s very important that the first personal question in the conversation you ask is “By the way, how old are you?” Do not do this too early into the approach, but make sure she doesn’t ask before you do. When she tells you her age,  say that you are the exact same age or a year older and then note that you look young for your age. If she makes a point of agreeing with you, ramble about how annoying it is getting carded at venues all the time and how people mistake your younger brother for being older than you, but how you won’t be complaining when you’re in your 30’s and 40’s preying on nubile younger women.

This little routine will be less effective if you take a pause after saying your age and the girl interjects saying you look younger first, so do not give her that chance. The smaller the perceived age gap is between the two of you, the less this is needed. Running this on a girl only a year older than you could backfire, as the gap between what you look like and your claimed age is small enough to be believable without explanation, so providing one unnecessarily will raise a girls suspicions.  On a girl who is three or more years older than you however, it will go a long way to reassuring her that you are as old as you say you are.

Warning: There is a limit to how much older you can claim to be. The oldest I have gotten away with is 7 years, and that was with facial hair and being dressed well. Individual variance will play a big role here, your mileage may vary.

Past the initial approach, there isn’t much you need to adjust in your game. If you need to number close her, do not try and Facebook close instead because she’ll quickly realize you lied about your age. If she doesn’t want to give you her number but wants your Facebook instead, tell her you’ve deactivated it. If you do have a Facebook, make sure you’ve changed your privacy settings so that only mutual friends can find you via search.

Lastly, on subsequent dates you need to be able to remember and elaborate on the backstory you told the girl when you first met her. The easiest way to handle this is to pretend to be studying or employed in what you plan to do in the future. This makes sure that your personality will be congruent with your backstory.

If young guys approach women older than them, with a few minor adjustments to their game to account for the age gap,  they can massively expand the number of girls in their dating pool and get more sex as a result.

Read More: It’s Easier To Shine When You’re Younger

25 thoughts on “The Secret To Approaching Older Women As A Young Man”

  1. I can’t agree with the suggestion to lie about one’s age. One of the hottest and best lovers I’ve had was 29 when we were dating. I was 23 at the time and she was fully aware of my age.
    I would even suggest to young men to go for decent looking women in their 30’s and 40’s. They love getting nailed by young studs and it’s one of the best ways for a guy to gain sexual experience.

    1. Do you know WHY they like getting nailed by young studs? It’s nothing to do with ability or anything. They know their value is dropping faster than the 2008 stock market, and if a young stud does nail them, it just gives them a little bit more time for feeling pretty that’s it. No self respecting man would want a woman past her expiration date. Go ahead and raise her kids with another man if you want. These women should be practice girls, only.

  2. There’s always exceptions, but women strongly prefer dating guys at least their age or older, which you can see by looking at marriage statistics. I’ve never banged a woman in her 30’s or 40’s, but my boners would rather me fuck a tight 20 year old over a used up 40 year old any day of the week.

    1. “There’s always exceptions, but women strongly prefer dating guys at least their age or older, which you can see by looking at marriage statistics. ”
      Pfft! We’re not talking dating and marriage here. He said older women “love getting nailed by young studs” and they do! Dating and marriage is not on offer.

  3. Solid advice, very similar to what I did to snag a 22 year old college cutie when I was 17 (I told her I was 23). Unfortunately, a man can only refuse his girl’s offer to go out for drinks so many times before she starts to get suspicious, and eventually I came clean about lying and made up a new story that I was actually 20 and would be turning 21 in a few months (Plan B was tell to her I’m a closet Mormon). I kept seeing her on and off until she graduated and moved to Texas. A month later I graduated high school.
    Now I’m 19 and in college, and I’d really like to step up my game and start banging those sexy 22, 23 year old seniors and grad students that I see heading off to bars and clubs while I’m on my way to another shitty frat party. Got any idea how I can lie about my age and dance around the alcohol issue at the same time? Besides getting a good fake I.D., of course.

    1. Don’t get a fake ID dude. What I did when I was underage was I got a guy who kind of looked like me and paid him the cost of having his drivers licence replaced by claiming it was lost and then I used the original.

      2. Nope. They never even held it up and compared it to my face. All the bouncers did was check to see if it was real and squint at the date of birth. Make sure the skin tone, hair and eye colour on the photo are the same and you’ll be fine.

  5. If we are talking about skags who are cougar aged then the secret is to simply show up. Thats a no-brainer.

  6. I recently approached a junior college girl and told her I was a freshman in college, thinking I couldn’t get away with saying I was her age. Turned out to be a mistake… got a fake number.

    1. You didn’t necessarily get the fake number because of saying your school year instead of age.
      How’s the rest of your game?

  8. How about an article about game for men in their 50s? Most of the focus here, understandably, is on young men. But game tips for helping us “mature” guys land a hot 30-something or 40-something would be educational and entertaining.

  9. How about an article about game for men in their 50s? Most of the focus here, understandably, is on young men. But game tips for helping us “mature” guys land a hot 30-something or 40-something would be educational and entertaining.

  10. I like asking Women that in their 20’s and 30’s if they are in their 40’s just for the Fun of it !!!

  14. I would always do this, without all the technicalities. You don’t need to ask them first, just lie about your age to be somewhat close to theirs. Use your common sense. You can tell about how old a woman is. If they look about 29, say 26… if they look about 25, say 24, if they are in their 30s then say the oldest you can get away with, (maybe 27 if you are 22 or so) and yes lying is necessary. Some women will shut you out because of age if they are not a cougar (ie. 25-29 range)
    General rule of thumb for a young guy going for girls in their 20s: try to match their age. Tell them that you are whatever you think they are.

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