A Day In The Life
Wifey and the husband wake up at 6:00am and she starts to get herself prepared for the day. Then, she’ll get the kids up at 7:00 or so and see them and the hubby out the door by 8:30. What’s next? There’s an entire day of freedom from the little munchkins! She’ll go home, clean and tidy the house. It’s not even 10:00. She’ll go to the gym for an hour then head to lunch with girlfriends…maybe go shopping with them, or pick up a few groceries. She’ll pick the kiddos up at 3:00pm, then go home and “supervise” while watching whatever current garbage is on the HGTV network. At 5:00, she’ll start preparing dinner (if she bothers to cook). The husband comes home, and by 7:00 she checks out for the night as he does the dishes and helps the kids with homework. Maybe she reads them a story for an hour. Have sex at 10pm (oops, I forgot this was a marriage, so cross that off). Asleep by 11:00.
Please note, this is applicable to parents with school-age and above children. A toddler is a different ballgame, I would imagine.
These are very real stories that I’ve heard rehashed numerous times by some of my own family members and the wives of my co-workers. While they’ll never shut up about how mentally exhausting it is be a stay at home mom, and how they never get to sit down, it’s ridiculous that they think their life is somehow more stressful, or that they work harder than their husbands that deal with rush hour commutes, nagging bosses, deadlines, and the other pitfalls of a 9-5 career.
My mom stayed home and cared for my sister and I until we were both in middle school. She did things right: we had hot meals six nights a week, my dad read the paper after dinner (rarely doing dishes), and she did all the housework except for the manly stuff like mowing the lawn and changing the oil. She did not spend hours on Facebook or at lunch gossiping with girlfriends. On top of that, if asked, she always said without hesitation, “Dad works much harder and endures much more stress than I do. I’m very lucky to be able to stay home.”
That is the attitude a stay at home mom should have.
Do The Math
Total hours “worked” in her eyes = 6am – 11pm = 17 hours
In reality:
- 4 hours for getting the kids ready and then cleaning up/tidying
- 1 hour shopping for groceries
- 1 hour entertaining the kids in the afternoon
- 2 hours preparing a meal and then cleaning up
Once that’s all added up it’s only eight hours, and I’m being generous with that. Meanwhile, the husbands leave the house by 8:00, sit in traffic for an hour, get a measly one hour lunch, and sit in traffic for another hour to get home. Once home, they then have to clean up (because after all, she did the cooking) and then help the kids with their math homework because mom never studied anything that actually made her think, and therefore cannot help with math.
The most disgusting part about this to me is that I hear my these stay at home moms bragging about this to no end. Yet, they still hamsterize that they are somehow working harder and longer than their husbands. They also never acknowledge that the stress of the full-time workforce is far more intense than being a stay at home mom. While their husband is being chewed out by his boss, their biggest worry of the day is not burning the lasagna (assuming they can cook).
As Technology Evolves, Staying At Home Gets Easier
It’s too easy to be a stay at home mom because of ever-advancing technology. In other times, tasks would take longer and more of the mom’s day would be filled up doing other homely duties.
- Instead of making a scrapbook of photos of her children, she launches iPhoto.
- Instead of making several batches of a recipe to perfect it, she just searches Google for the easiest one.
- Instead of hand writing a letter to her mother containing pictures of the kids, she snaps a picture on her iPhone and sends it as an MMS.
- Instead of hand washing clothes and then hanging them up to dry, she presses a couple of buttons on the dryer.
- Instead of going to the farmers market for fresh produce, she has the groceries delivered straight to her home.
- And of course, she has a smartphone with Yelp that lets her order a variety of different meals so she doesn’t even need to turn on the oven.
Suggestions For The Husbands
If I wasn’t falling on deaf ears to my uncles and co-workers when talking about the red pill, here’s a few ideas I’d throw out to make sure that their stay at home wife is far more accountable and contributes her fair share to the household. I can see from the look on their face that they know they work harder, but don’t have the balls to say anything.
- Make her keep a journal of everything she does. Every day.
- Write down a schedule/to do list for her and make it clear that you expect it to be completed every day.
- If you can outsource some of your career work to her, do so. Make her edit your emails or reports to save you the time.
- If she’s got the drive, have her start her own business. Being a “mom blogger” doesn’t count.
- While she’ll probably throw a fit at the idea, have her get a part-time job. She’ll complain, “Nobody will hire me for what I’m worth,” and not look hard. Keep bringing her job applications from Starbucks and Wal-Mart until she finally gets fed up with it and looks for a job she thinks she deserves. If she has a Liberal Arts degree, I wouldn’t throw away the Starbucks application just yet.
- Make her bring you a hot lunch. Buy one of those boxes that delivery boys use to keep pizzas warm. If you live far from work and gas money for her to get there is expensive, get her a bus pass.
If she considers herself as an equal partner in the marriage, she should have no problem complying to the above, or getting a part-time job. If she fails to do either, then at least get her in the kitchen to make you a sandwich.
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Bill Burr certainly agrees with you:
I don’t have kids, but as a woman who has works and usually takes care of the cleaning and the cooking (my bf works like 12 hours a day, so I kinda feel bad) I really feel what this article says. This article is so amusing:
http://themattwalshblog.com/2013/10/09/youre-a-stay-at-home-mom-what-do-you-do-all-day/
I love how goes on and on how his wife’s “job” is so difficult, yet fails to specificially name the tasks that she has at hand. If I didn’t have a job, I would honestly be bored. Again, I don’t have kids, but I mean really a baby sleeps most of the time, and kids play, how hard can it be? I got some backlash when I tried to defend the “What’s your excuse?” fit mom. It’s like really ladies, you can’t squeeze an hour run in between mommy-blogging and the chores you have ?
Your to do list sounds anal retentive. A daily journal? Working a shitty job so she can bring her frustrations home? None of that makes any sense.
Here’s mine. She does:
Laundry
Cleaning
Grocery shopping
Cooking (from scratch of course) all meals
Homeschooling (public school is brainwashing and private school is pricey)
Live near work, I come home for lunch every day for sex and steak. Simple. One car.
Ahh, I get what you’re saying. And agree.
My list was more pertaining to husbands whose wives are claiming they work “so hard” when in reality they just slack through and shove much of their domestic work to the husbands anyway. My list was more in the mind of “if she thinks she works soooooo hard, put her in her place and let her get a more realistic taste of the world.”
Once she goes through my list, your list would be the next step (and at that point she’d welcome it).
This is it right here, ladies. Provide these two things willingly and regularly, and you’ll never have to worry about keeping your husband pleased.
Your life is that simple.
It’s almost shocking how true this is.
I would like to add “Stay relatively within 15 pounds of your first date weight or less than it”. Staying fit is a huge requirement since sex regularly is fantastic but if she gets fat it is more unwelcome than welcome.
Whoaa, gonna disagree there.
Give her an inch and she’ll take a mile. Same philosophy applies.
Then enforce the inch, dump her if she fails… So long as you are not married… Scratch that, if you’re married and can get out early and notice these signs then dump her too. The one who gives an inch needs to enforce it, no exception.
better yet, encourage health. do not just “dump” a woman for gaining a few pounds. sometimes weight gain is stress, sometimes it is genetic, sometimes it has to do with having children or medication or a health problem that is beyond control.
Wait, I’m confused. Many articles here have railed against women trying to fill what were previously men’s roles in the workplace, or women trying to “have it all” i.e. job plus raise children. Now this?
This is railing against stay at home mothers who make their husbands work their ass off while making bullshit statements about how hard they work.
I babysatt for a lot of upper middle class families growing up and it’s sad to say that most of the stay at home moms didn’t even do what you described. They have housekeepers that clean and nannies to cook dinner and entertain the kids. Yet they were always complaining about being stressed and “busy.”
Everytime I look at a comments section here, I see more and more girls. I don’t know if I’m happy or the world’s coming to fucking end. Either way welcome.
Definitely be happy, the majority of female commenters are on your side & don’t like the PC liberalism that’s taking over the US.
tradcon =/= redpill
American guy =/= fucked
Any woman that comes on here seeks to disrupt the group dynamic. One of the things that made this site so good logic and reasoning rather than pity emotional bouts like feminists….but slowly by slowly we see feminists, westernized women and white knights destroying the masculine dynamic that makes RoK so good Hope that stops soon.
Do not be one of these women…let us men be men.
Actually, no.
Male spaces should remain male spaces. As as been stated in literature and all modern forms of media, the presence of females destroys a healthy dynamic that men need to be men. Modern single women whine incessantly about “where have all the good men gone.” and then consistently invade male spaces with their presence. These women believe that they have just as much to contribute to the male perspective as a man would. That is entirely wrong, just as wrong as a man claiming to have something to contribute to concepts of motherhood.
There’s nothing stopping you from agreeing with whoever you like.
But you should stop yourself from interfering with an activity that GENERATES MEN from healthy interaction with only other men.
“just as wrong as a man claiming to have something to contribute to concepts of motherhood.”
Lets not get carried away.
Clearly stating that women will be banned has not deterred them from wanting to participate.
heh.
Don’t worry, though, all of these ladies commenting now have points of view so special and interesting that the stated rules of the site clearly don’t apply to them.
Just ask them.
you’ll have to run id checks… send in a photo of your dick with ROK written on it…. hmmm maybe not……
I wouldn’t put it past some dedicated Jizzabelle to convince one of her beta orbiters to snap that pic for her, so she could slip in under the radar and detonate her ideological stink bombs when no one’s expecting it.
Then again, it’s entirely possible that I’m crediting this hypothetical female with far more cleverness and resourcefulness than her genetic coding would allow.
There is a very important rule of manhood : NEVER LET WOMEN INVADE A MALE SPACE!! The reason for this is that women always tend to pollute a male space with sensitivity and emotion and try to change the dynamic of the male space that makes it so grounded for us male. I am okay with some of these traditional women coming here….but when you get too many then the group dynamic will change a bit and women will be getting too much attention.
WYB?
Pretty sure the “babysitter” posting on a pickup site is actually some cop trolling for “predators”
No such luck, this is my real name/photo (unlike a lot of you anonymous commenters). And I’m not here to be snarky or bait anyone into arguments…though it seems like some of the more bitter men are trying to be inflammatory. A friend actually sent me some of the ROK articles which made me interested in checking out the site.
Really there is absolutely no need in todays American society to be bitter and inflammatory about the wonderful and kind and fair treatment we receive at the hand of your females. Now get the fuck out of here you fucking cunt.
Nothing good can come from this infiltration by the ladyfolk in the long term. Many of the ones that are here now claim to agree with the values and points of view that ROK puts forth.
However, we’ve already seen attempted thread-derailings by the femme-bot babies flinging their “OMG why dont u guys just fuck men lol” about the place like a shit-filled diaper.
And since women are lemmings who go where the herd goes, it’s only a matter of time before this place is crawling with snarky feminists and their mangina pegging partners baiting some of us — especially, newer members — into pointless back-and-forth ‘tard matches instead of us engaging in fruitful discussion of the articles.
Also, I’m betting that, before long, we’ll see men’s natural tendency to compete with each other for the attention of females rearing its pointy head.
Either way you cut it, there goes ROK.
Oh, and I’ve certainly been guilty of some of the “back-and-forth ‘tard matches” with dipshit female commenters on here.
Thus, I feel it’s likely to become more widespread with time.
Yeah… Roosh and the gang will soon be writing cosmo articles on how to treat your girl on Valentines day and how to color co-ordinate your shoes with your belt…
ROK has to go TOR like SilkRoad… kick ass…..
Massive internet points, though, to the first ROK denizen to nail one of these thirsty sluts.
Ah, I see a way to refresh rooshv.com forums with fresh meat…
And clairvoyant, too.
Woman:
Get the kids up – If your kid isn’t a heavy sleeper this takes no effort and only yelling (which she likes to do)
Make whatever frozen breakfast she has or a bar of whatever the fuck they can shove in it or maybe crack two eggs on a hot pan (none of which is difficult)
Get dressed – Only difficult for females, shocking isn’t it… Most kids are willing to go to school is pajamas yet they insist everything match and look good, I guess pedophiles are thanking the mothers in this regard.
Drive to school – The hardest this will ever be is drive slowly for short period of time with relaxed drivers, nothing like rush hour. (average is 30minutes back and forth)
Spray a liquid on counters and take one papertowel to wipe across it, if it is a really bad day them vacume for 10 minutes and your done…. ON A HUGELY BAD DAY they clean the toilet. (Living alone I can attest that this takes 20 minutes)
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The – equal her free hours to do whatever the fuck she wishes, go to the mall, watch a movie, go bang another man, or whatever.
Pick up the kids and then let them go play video games or watch tv and occasionally have to speak to them, oh the hardship of talking to my own kids.
Make Dinner (not even 2 minutes of effort if you are one those shit women that make frozen meals)
Overall: 2 hours, generously given.
Man: 8 hours minimum working with women in most regards, regardless of the job working with women alone is 100x more than your “JOB”.
Infancy is the only time a mother ever truly works today, and the only other times after is when she makes trouble like telling a kid to clean up their room (which is bullshit since who gives a fuck if it is just their room… You are purposely making trouble overs something that doesn’t matter). I raised an infant, and want to know something? It was unbelievably easy. He watched me play nazi zombies or Battle Field or CoD Multi or any other video game for hours on end and when not would watch netflix for hours… This was when I was out of work and for gods grace she was able to worked… If raising an infant is hard then you are making it hard, since when I was at home I had very little work to do and could do whatever even during this part… Women have no excuse to complain or room. I read somewhere about “The world toughest job is being a mom” and I just had to wonder what those guys in the army or working over at oil rigs or miners were thinking about that…. Hell what that guy who worked at Mc Donalds was thinking at the time was bullshit.
Yeah, I was really generous.
As housework gets easier by a push of the button women complain more. I bet their grandmothers didnt complain at all including the fact they also had more kids and less luxury
the problem with house work is you have to self manage, prioritize and discipline yourself, non of these things are taught to women any more… they rather study sexual sciences, sociology, history of art and other useless things like marketing, that leave them high and dry when it comes to simple house work…. it also makes them feel like a lowly maid, doing what should be a wonderful and relaxing life and enjoying their children….
nothing wrong with doing both so long as things that need to be done get done.
That’s not an excuse to complain about it.Society is all anyone knows.
By the sweat of man’s brow and the depth of his ingenuity and need to innovate, modern life was sculpted — some would say, twisted — into the worry-free, cupcake-laden, reality show-filled paradise of constant Facebooking and Instagramming that today’s baby-shitters take for granted.
Woman was cold, so Man invented a blanket to keep her warm.
Woman was hungry, so Man went and slayed a beast to fill her tummy.
Woman needed a way to fulfill her biological inclinations, so Man knocked her up.
Woman felt unsafe in a world of cutthroats and scoundrels, so Man made the laws that protected her.
And then?
“More,” she said. “It’s not enough. I’m still not satisfied. LOL.”
And so, Man capitulated even further, re-molding the very civilization that He’d built to suit her whims, until that civilization could scarcely be recognized, until it was but a shadow of its former self.
And still, She complains. Even when She has virtually nothing to complain about, she still must satisfy her chromosomal imperative by inventing problems.
Make space for women in corporate America, often putting men out of work and restructuring the modern work environment in order to do so? “WAAAAA WAGE GAP GLASS CEILING SEXUAL HARASSMENT UNFAIR TREATMENT!!”
Allow women to live at home on the sweat of their husbands’ brows, and all that’s asked of them in return is to throw some hot food on a plate, drag a vacuum cleaner across a carpet a few times, and make sure that little Johnny doesn’t crawl out into the street and get flattened by a truck? “WAAAAA I NEVER GET CREDIT FOR ALL THE HARD WORK I DO I WANT TO DO SOMETHING FULFILLING WITH MY LIFE!!”
File all dealings with women under: Damned If You Do, Damned If You Don’t.
Two choices, one coin. The first is tails, this is what you wag at your woman overlord as you bow before her. Next is heads, which is what you hold high while over looking the pathetic she-pig we call women. Regardless of which side of the coin you are on, you are still wrong… In a society with only two choices of how to be men and both being wrong in womens eyes there is no victor other than the women. I wonder how long things will last, I give it 100 years.
why do you think men engineer huge wars every so often ? When they are finally frustrated and fed up with being bitched at all day long, they start dropping bombs and tearing down all their hard work, just to prove a point….
And people are worried about a female president doing what again? lol. legalize weed. anti hate. pro peace. I won’t say the ‘f’ word but yessir I’m an equalist. I don’t quite fancy being raped or beaten…not my deal.
One of the finest posts I have read here. Thanks.
Worth repeating, Sir.
By the sweat of man’s brow and the depth of his ingenuity and need to innovate, modern life was sculpted — some would say, twisted — into the worry-free, cupcake-laden, reality show-filled paradise of constant Facebooking and Instagramming that today’s baby-shitters take for granted.
Woman was cold, so Man invented a blanket to keep her warm.
Woman was hungry, so Man went and slayed a beast to fill her tummy.
Woman needed a way to fulfill her biological inclinations, so Man knocked her up.
Woman felt unsafe in a world of cutthroats and scoundrels, so Man made the laws that protected her.
And then?
“More,” she said. “It’s not enough. I’m still not satisfied. LOL.”
And so, Man capitulated even further, re-molding the very civilization that He’d built to suit her whims, until that civilization could scarcely be recognized, until it was but a shadow of its former self.
And still, She complains. Even when She has virtually nothing to complain about, she still must satisfy her chromosomal imperative by inventing problems.
Make space for women in corporate America, often putting men out of work and restructuring the modern work environment in order to do so? “WAAAAA WAGE GAP GLASS CEILING SEXUAL HARASSMENT UNFAIR TREATMENT!!”
Allow women to live at home on the sweat of their husbands’ brows, and all that’s asked of them in return is to throw some hot food on a plate, drag a vacuum cleaner across a carpet a few times, and make sure that little Johnny doesn’t crawl out into the street and get flattened by a truck? “WAAAAA I NEVER GET CREDIT FOR ALL THE HARD WORK I DO I WANT TO DO SOMETHING FULFILLING WITH MY LIFE!!”
File all dealings with women under: Damned If You Do, Damned If You Don’t.
I love how the dealings between men and women in this example are equal, with each contributing an equal amount. I love how women are considered to be autonomous human beings capable of creating and shaping the world just as men do.
Did you know that women created the first calendars? Did you know that most cave paintings were also done by women? Did you know that a skeleton was recently discovered, buried with all the trappings of a warrior, and DNA testing proved the skeleton to be female?
I’m relatively sure that Man was also cold and hungry and in need of sex, not just acting off of the complaints of Woman. Were this not true, Man would be a creature without a need for warmth, sustenance, or any other trappings necessary for survival. Man was borne by Woman, and yet he sees her as nothing but a complaining bitch.
Quite frankly, I’m amazed any of you get any pussy at all. It’s very easy to treat women as equals and have them be absolutely in love with you. They like it when men take initiative and challenge them to keep up. They love to prove that they can do things. Let them win sometimes. Realize that they have talents you do not, just as you have talents they do not. Femininity is not lesser than masculinity. They are both equally necessary in the world we live in. The sooner you realize that they are not any lesser than we are, the easier it will be to avoid the imminent fallout. The more you avoid emotion and sensitivity instead of realizing that it is imperative, the more likely your arguments are to fall flat. Cold logic isn’t something we men are good at either; most of the comments I see here are extremely stupid. If this stupidity is what passes for logic in these modern times, I hate to think about what the future might bring.
Whoa. That was beautifully written. Reading old posts pays off.
HAH. Men did not sew blankets when we were cold, they told us to shut up make a sandwich and do it on our own. Why do you think feminists exist, they didn’t start their cause because they were HAPPY.
These articles are always good when one is in need of a good laugh. 😉
I wake up at 6am each day, iron my boyfriends work clothes, make him breakfast (if need be), get his gym clothes packed while he takes a shower, and then kiss her before he leaves for work. Each morning. I don’t go back to sleep after, I stay awake, make myself breakfast, unload the dishwasher, cook dinner for that night, and then get ready for my own work day. Adding children into that mix would make me even more busy, so I don’t understand these “stay at home moms” who bring up every excuse in the book to still have an untidy home, and unruly children when their husbands come home.
Women are born organizers, so how are some stay at home moms so lazy? That I don’t understand. But one of my friends is a stay at home mom, she keeps a clean home, always cooks healthy meals, takes care of her daughter, keeps herself in SHAPE, and even makes her own homemade lotions and creams for her baby and her husband. She’s a prime example of a woman who genuinely takes pride in her home and family. I aspire to be like her one day.
women born organizers ? many that i’ve known have messy apartments that would make any drug addict proud…. and when i was 16 i had a job cleaning the streets, the boss put me on public toilets because he wanted me to quit, i lasted a couple of weeks, and the ladies was always an absolute disgrace…. shit, piss, paper, used tampons, underwear, shoes, god knows what… wall to wall… i think that was where i found my first red pill… i thought women sit down to pee… so sitting down to poop ought to be obvious, but from my experiences they clearly prefer standing and often can’t even find the bowl…
Those are not women in my opinion, but children… I’m sorry for those experiences you’ve encountered…
Lol. Thanks a lot. You know I just had lunch.
I know what you mean though. Been there done that. Had a hot GF that really had no idea what “cleaning” was all about.
either that or the house has to be picture perfect like an ikea show home so you can’t even take a dump or have a shower without being made to feel guilt about using the facilities…. oh my god… a skid mark and a wet towel…. we’ll never win home of the year award…..
btw Ashley if you read a few more articles on this site you will see that what we are all talking about is how women ARE children, not some but basically ALL. Different shades of crayon, but all kids none the less…. driven by emotions, sentiment and an over inflated opinion of themselves, and some kinds of weird idea that men are not part of the same team, that built humanity to make it comfortable for everyone, but somehow on another team that has to be in competition…… go figure…
Fair enough, Ray 🙂
I guess I will never understand a woman’s desire to be owned and enslaved by a man. To add to that, I don’t want to look back on my life and reflect on what a nagging, cunty, lazy piece of shit I was for being a fucking housewife for 40 years.
Guys, I would never, ever fucking get married if I were you. Get a girlfriend, sure, but there is no need for legal slavery. The odds are not in your favor. Protect your mental and financial health. She will take your kids and your money with an air of entitlement, and you’ll be living on the 20k you have left from your annual salary paying child support and alimony and living in a rat’s Shangri-La.
Marriage is not necessary. Your parents can’t force you into it, and neither can your nagging girlfriend or jealous pals. Don’t do it.
Sincerely,
A woman (who will never get married)
Id aspire to find one bitch that could actually be a wife and not a dishonest, disloyal, cheating and lying slut.
I respect all that you do…but to say that the women of today are born organizers is not true. Many of the women I have had one night stands or as f**k buddies have such messy room. Had to step over make-up kits and hand bags and I-phone cables and soft toys just to get to bed. plus most of their rooms smelt like fast food…this was bad since I was dieting trying to cut down and I could not have a past fast food addiction acting up. It was very rare that I met a women who keeps her room clean…and it always happened to be an non-American Asian or a European. White chicks by far had the messiest rooms.
I shouldn’t of assumed that all women are clean and organized. I was always surrounded by women growing up that were tidy, and my friends are all clean women. So, I’d naturally think that women are born organizers. But ever since getting into a relationship, my nesting instincts have skyrocketed.
Sorry sweetheart but he’s your BOYFRIEND and y’all have NO kids. I am a mother of two an infant and a toddler. Your friend also only has one child. I
Sweetheart the reason you are able to cater to him is because yall are just that…boyfriend and girlfriend also you have no kids. As for your friend, she has one child. I have an infant and a toddler and my husband is military. I am a SAHM. There is always something to be done. After being up breastfeeding my newborn all night and waking up my toddler who refuses to go back to sleep I am not going to be up at the crack of dawn to cater to my husband. I make all the meals I make dinner enough so there is leftovers that he can take to work with him. I do all of the laundry but the first few weeks we had our newborn with our toddler he had to do his laundry and help out with things here and there. His uniforms require special care so he did them and I did mine and our kids and his civilian clothes. I was lucky if I got five hours of sleep and yes sometimes the house was messy hello, I have an 18 month old and I do not expect to keep my house looking like a magazine house. Anyway, I did make dinner and breakfast but sometimes my husband has to settle for ego waffles or cereal. I do all of the arrands and I am constantly cleaning and very seldom did I nap when they were napping. I also make sure I take time to spend with my kids because after all, I am a stay at home MOM not a stay at home SLAVE! That means spending time interacting with the babies not throwing them in a pack and play while I clean all day or throwing them in front of a TV. I’m sorry but you’re a 22 yr old punk shovenistic pig! Get real.
HI,
I don’t usually read this blog but came across it in looking for something. When you search for Return of the Kings , you find not just the movie but this blog as well.
Firstly ,congratulations to someone so young having your head on straight. I have been a traditional homemaker for more than 20 years. Our kids are just a few years younger than you.
I too, home-schooled and cook from scratch. I even make our bread each week.
When the kids were babies, I nursed them myself as do so many mothers today.
I think sometimes it is hard when young people like yourself see women who claim to be homemakers but who do not do much except to shop, go out with friends and to watch TV. I know I barely have enough time , and when I look at all the years of writing my own curriculum, correcting schoolwork, cooking and baking from scratch , planning our school field trips and teaching all the different subjects and guiding through the college process and scholarship process, plus all the housework and raising kids with a moral worldview, well.. this is a lot of work. To the young lady who asks how hard it could be. Well… may I say that feeding kids and bathing young kids and taking care of their basic needs is not hard, no. What is hard is to instill a moral and good worldview on their souls despite the corruption of this world . Our teens always had questions and believe me, as their teacher I had to have the answers. It was not easy; the culture does not make it easy.
But I understand the frustration myself when women claim to be home-makers but don’t really engage in the running of their households. Once, homemakers knew how to be busy, and then feminism came in and denigrated the work and told us all that these women were brainless and did nothing all day. After women had a taste of feminism and realized how hard men’s lot were, they wanted to try home-making. Only problem is they don’t really know how. They never learned how to cook and keep a house well, nor be a good wife, nor how to raise and teach kids.
Thanks for letting me have a say. Good luck to you !
I don’t have anything to reply other than +1 to you.
Thank you Dan!
Great comment. You are an example of how it should be done.
Sadly you are the exception, not the norm, from what I’ve seen.
Thank you. I have not read any of your other articles (I am sure they are good )as I am searching for sheet music for the Lord of the Rings movies. I came across this blog accidentally. I think I will come back later when I have more time and read some. Have a nice day!
I look forward to those comments…
Be careful staring into the abyss. It just might stare back.
You are the lady I strive to be! My husband and I just got married in March, and he likes to joke about how I am the opposite of every wifey stereotype (since we got married, I have LOST 30 pounds, and I do more from-scratch cooking and housework than ever before!). I do work part-time, but my home and family will always come first. If we are blessed with children, I intend to homeschool them and write my own curriculum as well. I never fit in with feminists and “modern” women, and I suffered for it, being literally and figuratively spit on by other women my age. I can’t say I enjoy the coarse language and over generalization of women on this site (ladies like Home-maker and I really are out there!), but it is refreshing to know that there are men who are still men, and appreciate a woman in touch with her femininity.
So just exactly how many women would that be? About 3?
Admittedly, I don’t really know many who share my views. It’s only now dawning on me how pervasive the feminist mentality has become. I always knew I was in the minority, but I never realized until recently how much of a minority! I remain hopeful, though. I do know many women out there who want to be good wives and mothers, set an example for others and play their part in building a healthier society, but they have been so poisoned by the previous generation of women that raised them, they don’t know how. If I could rediscover my womanhood and find peace and joy in it after the childhood I had, I believe anyone can do it!
There are feminist mothers you know in same sex and opposite relationships
OMG !! Please let there be more 18-25 year old women like you out there…swear young women these days can’t even make a simple meal…I have to cook…this is why I don’t date and just got for sex from them…playing with their I-phones…unrealistic expectations…wearing like sailors…banging tonnes of guys until they are past the wall and wondering why they can’t find a good man …Kinda wish I could travel back in time an marry a homemaker.
You can.
It’s called “life abroad.”
Pretty awesome stuff, too.
Hey I was a SAHM and had very little free time as I made meals from scratch, line-dried all our clothes(4 people) except for winter months and was a classroom volunteer for school assemblies, class celebrations and chaperone for field trips, in addition to assistant coaching soccer & tball. I also took my (now ex) husband hot meals to work on occasion believe me SAHM’s WORK
Work in the oil fields if you call that work, even officer work at a high level ( accountant/lawyer/manager) for 12 hour is more stressful than that. It is mentally draining.
The physically draining Blue collar jobs are more physically taxing, and unlike your job, very very dangerous.
Do not complain about your work and how hard it is when us men work hard and go through more stress than you.
FG, I was not complaining whatsoever and agree the occupations you listed are physically and mentally taxing and yes dangerous, just that I had no time for “Mommysphere” B.S.
I dated aspiring models who didn’t know how to boil an egg.
I swear, one particularly stupid bim’s refrigerator had nothing but water bottles and those “lean cuisine” high sodium microwave meals.
As i got older my smaller brain called the shots less and less, thanks to the bs of attractive but hopelessly stupid and useless vapid females.
This vid sums up what every Man goes through in that circumstance.
You sound useless yourself.. you know what they say birds of a feather..
Keep up the cooking from scratch. It’s time-consuming, no doubt, but you will absolutely love it, I guarantee it!! It will get to the point where you absolutely will not want to eat processed food. And your husband will love it also!! The coarse language (and seemingly bitterness) used by women today is highly unattractive, and yet is often hard to avoid.
Men want wives, not co-workers. A woman devoted to her meaningless career at Encorpera pollutes her marriage with rules and regulations defined not by traditional mores but by cowardly corporate drones ever eager to ensure their own job security through creation of webs of rules to restrict the happiness of others. No man wants to come home after a hard day’s work to an exhausted wife griping about her vicious co-workers or her need to get validation from her pear-shaped supervisor.
http://www.the-spearhead.com/2012/02/20/a-man-wants-a-wife-not-a-co-worker
So a man can’t do all that ? Wow . Dude , get your values out of the 50s and learn what equality , equity and egalitarianism is. There’s nothing wrong with being a stay at home or working spouse. as along as it’s your choice . For the record, I’m an egalitarian , feminist and potential masculinist who wants equality and equity for humanity including for all gender identities , something you don’t want, so up yours. I also hate sexism in general
Why does it have to be her choice? I don’t have a choice to work because money is required to stay alive in society.
Staying at home or working can be a choice for a parent of either gender identity but I see your side too
Sorry but it’s a huge turn-off to see a SAHD unless he’s running his own business or going through tough times. Men that act like men are desirable just like ladies that act like traditional ladies are desirable to so many males. There was absolutely nothing wrong with the values and marriages of the 50’s. My family members that were either married in that generation or held onto those values were the only ones that actually stayed married until one of the spouses passed.
While their may actually be “ladies” like you out there, its extremely rare. Most of us guys are invisible to you. After all, the studies pointed out that you women find 90% of us to be unattractive. So yes, we generalize you women because ITS TRUE. Do you honestly think we are all so unworthy of your kind that you deem only 10% or less of us acceptable? And sorry about the “coarse language”. Id love to see how you feel at the end of the day when you cant even make eye-contact, get a smile or engage a conversation with another person of the opposite sex because they are so “busy” and glued to the smartphones, busy acting stuck-up satiating their overblown egos to even realize that their may be kind, nice, successful, intelligent people that may want to meet them — see how you would feel. American women cause men to lose their focus. Thats why websites exists to teach men “Game”, a stupid for-profit means of helping men trick your stupid asses into giving us some attention. When men think about your stupid pussies and “game” they are distracted from doing the productive and noble things in live that have built this civilization that you parasites live off of. So yeah, fuck you. I dont give a fuck about your husband and kids. Goody gumdrops for you.
Your grammar is awesome, dude. You must have a dazzling intellect. I can imagine with that go-getter attitude, you’re pretty successful, too. And clearly a charmer. Who in her right mind wouldn’t wanna make sweet, sweet love to you?
You just generalized . You can’t blame all women or men
You cause your self to lose focus.. You’re the reason you are alone. If you are as ugly as your mouth has been then I’m sure you are correct in saying that more than 90% of the women find you unattractive.
You cause your self to lose focus.. You’re the reason you are alone. If you are as ugly as your mouth has been then I’m sure you are correct insaying that more than 90% of the women find you unattractive.
“it is refreshing to know that there are men who are still men, and appreciate a woman in touch with her femininity.”
This is the dawning of the age of Aquarius.
I know the site can sometimes be rough on chix (I can’t stand to call most modern girls “women” or anything like it), I’m sure that actual ladies like yourself and Home-maker, above, know that this is because most modern women are simply dreadful. In case you don’t hear it enough here, or anywhere: God bless good women like you, who are striving to do the right thing. Men appreciate women like you, and are glad to defend your honor, care for you and build lives with you. When both genders do their duty by each other, love, family and healthy societies result.
Well said. I am 31 . When I graduated college I began working as a leasing agent 6 months later was promoted to assistant manager after 2 years I was running 3 apartment communities. I later began working as a commercial property manager. We decided to have a baby- after my son was here I made a conscious (not selfish) decision to stay at home with him and manage the home. I breast fed cloth diapered, made baby food from scratch. I make shakes in the morning and at lunch for my husband, prepare meals for my son. Dinner always on the table. I manage all of our finances, my husband comes home and gets on his Xbox. I do not mind bc I know the stress as I have been there. I take out the trash, I do all our landscape work . I weed eat and cut grass. I do not mind. I grocery shop , iron, mend holes,sew buttons. I resale items we do not use on eBay. My son is 2 and I do look forward to getting back to my career and yes I am taking a major hit in my field of work losing precious time there but I know that it is for the best despite the lashing out of young men that just do not get it yet. I understand what they may be seeing on the surface. Women will use some elbow grease when they know they have a supportive man behind them. I mostly like the last sentence in your comment. When both genders do their duty by each other …
So women who don’t do that have automatically ( I don’t have a problem with stay at home parents ) lost their feminity, if they identify their gender representation that way ? What about men. They can’t do that if they choose t and still identify as masculine, if they want? Are they less of a man? You have some outdated notions about gender ,identity equality and equity
Thats what some of us here on this website try to do as well – “instill a moral a good worldview” to other young men. That means making sure they know they are fucking idiots to ever get married to a lazy American cunt.
It sounds like you are a good mother and wife. However, you will see things on this site you will likely not understand. The typical woman (age 20-35) has likely had about 50+ (some in the 100’s) sexual partners. They do not intend to have their pecker parade interrupted by children or a husband. They have a pile of debt they can never repay by 28. Need I go on?
I know it is hard to believe. I think you are likely a religious woman from some of the things you stated and I wonder if you have any exposure to the culture of dildo tupperware parties, drunkenness, slutty behavior, trading sex for free dinners/drinks etc etc.
I am in my early 40’s and can remember when women like you were common. Now they are an endangered species. I miss those times.
The lack of wife-able women are the main reason men turn into tail chasers and end up in manospere.
Yeah, wouldn’t it be cool if any of that would true, to justify your lack of a meaningful partnership with anyone.
Sure, it’s not you. It’s them and their penis parade.
Naw… it’s the types the guy is talking about.
Awww, look at the nutcase feminist getting her panties in a bunch over a comment — and claiming that the commenter is turning away good people of the opposite sex.
Pot, meet kettle!
50 to 100+ sexual partners? ummmm
Write a short book on being a home maker?
OMG !! Please let there be more 18-25 year old women like you out there…swear young women these days can’t even make a simple meal…I have to cook…this is why I don’t date and just got for sex from girls…Kinda wish I could travel back in time an marry a homemaker.
I don’t really like most people of my gender, but you’re the kind of woman I admire! I bet your kids have grown up to be great individuals. 🙂
Hahaha. This is spot on. I have twin toddlers. The wife is living on easy street staying at home with them. Compared to the stress of a full time job, then having to deal with twin toddlers when I get home, she has it way easier.
you reminded me of an episode from the tudors where Henry was banging his mistress while his wife was giving birth and the baby was born and shipped off to some country house miles away to be raised… he visited on it’s 5th and 10th birthdays or something… it’s not called Return of Kings for nothing bro….
“My mom … did things right” NO. No, she did not. The fact that write for this website is a testament to some very serious, fundamental flaws in the way that you are raised. There’s no mother (or decent father, for that matter) alive that wouldn’t feel like a failure knowing that they raised a son who thinks/behaves the way that you do.
you mean someone who thinks for himself and lives his own way…. ?
No, somebody that has no respect for others and takes his own lack of confidence out on everybody without genitalia that matches his so that he can justify his failures.
Would somebody just go ahead and ban this bimbo?
Sheesh..
Please go away
It’s rather curious how you seemingly are not able to respond to a statement without some attempt at ad hominem.
Don’t talk us about what is pathetic please.
You’re right. I’m SUCH a failure. Could you please outline a step by step life plan for me to turn my life around?
Seriously, you provide no substance here. Take your complaints elsewhere.
that’s rich coming from a chic on a man’s website….. see this is exactly what we are talking about…… so nice of you to let yourself in…. i expect you want to be editor in chief starting on monday isn’t it :-)~
Not my intention, just infuriates me too when I see girls like that. I’ll scale back.
Go flap your man-jaw somewhere else. Disgusting.
this article is absolutely correct and with day care and so forth many mothers have the kids off their hands before they are even out of diapers… i know some that started at 18 months, just after they could walk….
the only thing i would say is that little kids can be very demanding… they can get sick, vomit all over the place at 4am…pee the bed, etc… and they tend not to leave you alone and have annoying tantrums, cry alot and make your house into something cross between a frat house and a low security mental hospital…. they are also extremely messy, break things, climb on stuff, write on the walls and so forth… it’s not quite as easy as it sounds…..
there is also the issue that there is NO DAY OFF !!!… It was proved during world war two that workers in the ammo factories made less ammo in 7 days work, than in 6… the drain on your system psychologically can be intense, and co-habittating with a couple of children is never ending… dad has his peace – even if he’s in rush hour traffic, momma has two bawlers in the back demanding horrid kiddy music, throwing things, crying, spilling milk, and so forth
a mother is thrown into this childish world where things happen not because they make any sense but because the kids just feel like it that day…. getting them dressed some mornings can be a manic struggle… whereas dad only has to cope with a couple of incompetent feminist secretaries at work…. at least logic and authority can still be applied and there is a drive for progress…
small children is like running the monkey pen in the zoo… at least until they are 5-6 years old….
Yes, raising kids is hard — for a few years. Then it stops being hard. It gets time-consuming once they learn to crawl, because then they need constant watching. So from about age 1 to age 4 (when they start preschool), it’s a full-time job. Of course, they sleep about 10 hours a day and have two parents, so it’s not just Mom watching them full-time. But after that, it gets easier and easier. So just deal with it.
Not bad, but you should have looked at the graphic chosen for your article to understand the reality – upper class moms don’t even do the work you describe, they delegate it.
First, you get a cleaning service to do the heavy lifting – once per week deep house cleaning. Then, you have a studen or other cheap help come starting around 2 o’clock to shop for food, pick up the kids from school, do laundry and prepare dinner (yes, she can do it if she’s efficient!).
Then, when hubby comes home, complain about some other little task you did. Now you’re a modern housewife, an a role model for all of the women yet to come!
These days, I would consider it child abuse if a woman allowed her children to attend public school.
good point; homeschooling sounds like a good use of time.
In Australia (and much of Europe I believe), not only do MOST stay at home mums not work that hard, they also get thousands, or even tens of thousands every year in paid parental leave, baby payments and other welfare. Sickening and all the more reason to opt out (i.e. opt out as in expatriate to greener pastures, not opt out as in become a MGTOW quitter)
So true.
I have done “male work,” like counseling fucked-up teenagers, and being an enforcer in a locked-in psychiatric facility. It was my job to restrain violent kids until they calmed down.
I have also down “female work,” like housekeeping.
It is absolutely insulting to imply or say that cleaning up a household is “difficult” or “exhausting.” It is the easiest fucking thing I have ever done, you basically hang out and listen to music and use your phone all day, occasionally folding a towel or vacuuming a carpet.
I, too, am a stay-at-home mom. I admit, my life is not stressful, but it is ridiculously busy. And a tremendous amount of the “busyness” comes from the amount of paperwork that flows into our home on an almost daily basis, paperwork that has been created by the system. You can’t simply relay information to someone or request something by phone or mail, now a form needs to be filled out for everything, from doctors to schools to insurance. This wasn’t the case 20 years ago. I spend a majority of my time simply going through paperwork. The role of stay at home mothers has changed over the course of the years. It used to be that one would actually stay at home and be somewhat productive at home. That doesn’t happen anymore like it used to–it’s run, run, and more running children to every activity possible, normally during the dinner hour. The best thing anyone can do is try to avoid it, if at all possible. This certainly, in many ways, accounts for the lack of cooking. It’s much easier to grab fast food when your child has to be somewhere at 6:00 p.m. And then people want you to volunteer for things because they think you have all this free time on your hands. I really don’t believe children are nurtured like they used to be because mom is working, now they are coddled due to mom being at work. Raising decent human beings who have morals and respect for others is really important to me, but I digress. Some of the writer’s opinions in this article are spot on, while others not so much.
Paperwork? please thats the best you can come up with how you spend your time.
Also 99% of moms have carpools especially stay at home moms which cuts down big time on your expectations to drive the kiddies around.
No, it’s not the best thing, but it’s a big factor in the “busyness.” Carpool, once in a while, but not to regular evening activities or school. We live in a rural area with no bussing and have to drive. Schedules fluctuate. I know we tend to think that everyone falls into one general box, but it simply doesn’t happen in a lot of situations. Take care.
I don’t particularly agree with what you said in your post, but good on ya for keeping your cool and remaining tactful and respectful in your responses to the assclowns above.
Paperwork lol.
You drive a minivan. You’re a not a secretary collating legal documentation in triplicate. A permission slip takes 7.8 secs to sign.
You can cook on Sunday and reheat during the week, fyi.
Most meals are prepared fresh–not reheated. Weekends are spent with family and church activities, and Sundays we try to do our best as a day of rest. Children with high medical needs have multiple surgeries and doctor appointments, along with paperwork and meetings from school, not just simply permission slips. Adopted children, typically, will have paperwork that can last for several years. The term “paperwork” sounds very simplistic, but it simply can devour a lot of time. Our highly regulated system in the U.S. has gotten to the point where a signed piece of paper is required for practically anything anymore. It’s become ridiculous. When I take our daughter to the hospital, I have to answer an entire set of questions that a nurse enters into a computer. Then they hand me a lengthy questionnaire which asks the same questions all over again. We just got a request from our insurance agency to fill out paperwork in regards to our teen son and driving habits, along with needing a copy of a certificate. When our son started working this past summer, he had to have all these documents signed and submitted in order to work. I keep copies of everything in case something gets lost. I don’t think people really understand how time-consuming paperwork can be. Again, it’s not a one size fits all…..that’s the last I’ll be saying about paperwork in the home. Take care.
Well your children going to hospital all the time is a sign your genes are weak. Don’t take them to doctors…let Natural Selection take care of them.
To be fair, I have noticed in my area (NYC) a rise in children being born with low to high levels of autism or mental retardation (usually from the women giving birth in their late 30s to early 40s. Raising a child on the autism range involves a lot more work. My friends’ wives are constantly meeting with teachers, changing schools, fighting for services, dealing with psychologists, and lots of other crap. Its exhausting listening to their tales, and I am definitely sympathetic. And even the kids who aren’t autistic but just have mental issues, its crazy what teens are going through these days, and its as if this generation of women simply do not know what to do with them!!
Unfortunately, it’s a well known truth that many suburban “Stay At Home” Moms smoke pot and/or self medicate. Things to be done end up falling by the wayside during the day as a result.
Or they bang delivery men / canvassers / grocery store clerks / guys with a MILF thing… God bless their underemployed hamsters.
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Its actually mentally exhausting dealing with a toddler. Its hard to process at their level for extended periods of time. Which is probably why there is an inverse correlation between nurturing and IQ.
I do know a few stay at home mom’s that really do/did put in the effort even with school age kids. My aunt for example grew her own produce which was responsible for about ~60% of the produce they consumed. All their herbs and spices, canned jams, tomatoes (diced, stewed, sauce), made her own sauerkraut, had a chest freezer to store green beans, peas, carrots, etc.
But I would agree that you aren’t going to find that level of commitment in the city or suburbs these days. I mean somebody made Oprah a billionaire and it wasn’t people that worked.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rwPg2oarG_c
I was playing golf with a buddy one weekend and he was confiding to me that he has “no friggin idea” what his wife does all day, besides shop and have lunch with her girl friends. Each night while he’s on the way home from work (an hour+ drive, one way), she asks him to stop by the store and pick up some milk and eggs or some other shit. Next, he needs to stop and pick up dinner somewhere. He tells me, seriously; “I swear, i think I do all the grocery shopping, 9 items at a time, 5 days per week.” Then he comes home, starts laundry and picks up the house. They “take turns” at night, dealing with crying kids or kids wanting to sleep in the parent’s bed. Taking turns is “fair” she claims. (by the way, all kids are school age, so she’s alone from 8AM-1:30PM).
Probably 75% of my friends and coworkers are in a similar situation.
While the author’s “Suggestions for Husbands” list sounds like something from a D/s relationship and is over-the-top-controlling, most of the problems between a working husband and a stay at home mom can be handled with an “up front agreement” that divides activities appropriately. For example, I rarely got up to take care of any late night infant/toddler problems. I had to work the next day – and I don’t know about you guys, but I can’t nap at work, while my wife most certainly can nap when the kids nap. I didn’t do grocery shopping. Most meals were cooked by her, or on occasion, together. Dishes were done by her. Housecleaning was done by her. Most of the bill paying and domestic stuff (insurance, Dr. visits, home decoration) were also her’s. The important fact is that this was worked out PRIOR to having children, by discussing what sort of life we wanted (two working parents+nanny/daycare or stay-at-home mom). In the end, we settled on the mom-at-home being the healthier option, then set the rules around what that looks like.
I can’t describe the intense satisfaction and the daily joy i experienced walking into a clutter free, chaos free home after 8 or 10+ hours at work and a 2 hour commute. She took as much pride in doing her “job” as i did in my “job”
I expected no less from the person I chose as my partner.
The only stay at home moms who can truly claim to “work” are those with 5 or more kids.
Here’s a better idea. JUST REFUSE TO GET MARRIED! Seriously don’t put yourself in that position in the first place. Also care for an infant isn’t a whole different ball game. They just sleep most of the time.
I have plenty of time to”homemake” once I herd the kids in their respective cages. Once I found the extra large dog cages, I knew I was on my way to perfection. I even started wearing heels and eyeshadow to match my apron while I vacuum. I also realized that keeping my dear hubby happy should be my most important role in life. When the kids start to complain, I’ll squirt them with water & say, “No!” *squirt squirt* “No!”
I mean, I occasionally feel like there must be something more than this provincial life, but then I say that nasty f word and grind my high heel into my other foot while counting the pearls on my necklace. I eventually look at the clock and realize my hubs will be home shortly and want me to congratulate him on the size of his weenis. Because heaven knows men never get tired of hearing about their pee sticks.
Fucktard.
Nice vitriol. You really have a gift for it. Cunt.
This post is delusional. If you’re married, and your wife doesn’t already do this stuff she never will in most cases. The list where you recommend to “make her” or “have her do__” is tantamount to self sabotage! If your wife isn’t already motivated to serve you and is too busy bitching about how hard doing dishes is…she never loved you.
Wow. You’re only 22? And you have this whole life thing figured out already? You’re super special. And an uber-douche. As an at-home mom to two teens and two toddlers, let me say to you, “Shut the Hell Up, you Moron!” My day begins at 2am, 3am if I’m lucky. I don’t belong to a gym because I have no time for that, nor do I waste money on such crap. I cook and I clean, and I plan, and I shop. Bathing kids, dressing them, shuttling teens to their various activities, Teaching my toddlers, helping my teens with school work and school issues, life issues, teaching a toddler class twice a month for MOPS, giving my children a life of adventure, education, fun, compassion, exercise, understanding, that’s work. And it goes on all day every day. Cooking for my husband, listening to his play-by-play of his day, understanding his frustrations with family and work, sharing my time and love with him, that’s as big a part of my day as we can manage. I’m not just babysitting over here, asshole….I’m creating and developing and nurturing human beings who will live among this society and contribute and thrive. That’s my calling; that’s my job. I spend some time each week, cleaning up shit, puke, snot, playdoh, legos, crayons, fingerpaint, spilled juice or noodles dropped to the floor. not glamorous, but it’s my job. And sometime, like you and every other human, I get sick. But even if I have a fever, or snot, or the shits, or I’m barfing….I don’t get to call in sick. Nope. My husband goes to his job and I stay here and do mine. You’re a judgmental little asspimple. Good luck in your endeavors.
Thats what you get for not keeping your legs together.
And sadly, YOU’RE what your mom got for not keeping hers together.
Not much of an insult, using the exact same joke.
Did you even read the article?
I think she might have been too busy cleaning up snot, playdoh and legos to actually read the article. Gee, is this the marital bliss and loving relationship stuff I’m missing out on? What a shame. Her hubby must be such a lucky guy.
I think she might have been too busy cleaning up snot, playdoh and legos to actually read the article. Gee, is this the marital bliss and loving relationship stuff I’m missing out on? What a shame. Her hubby must be such a lucky guy.
I think it’s pretty clear you didn’t read the article. He wasn’t speaking to women who are truly stay at home moms who are running the household, but instead to women who phone it in and complain that they have it hard and that the husband should help out more around the house despite the fact that she hasn’t cooked dinner all week or done laundry since last month.
Hi Dawn,
Can you smear my cock with butter and then back your massive ass right into it?
4 hours for getting the kids ready and then cleaning up/tidying
1 hour shopping for groceries
1 hour entertaining the kids in the afternoon
2 hours preparing a meal and then cleaning up
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One hour in the afternoon with the kids and that’s it? So if the kids are home around 3 and they don’t go to sleep til 9, the father is with them for 5 hours, feeding them, playing with them, helping them with homework, fighting the battle to get them to brush their teeth and take a bath, bathing them, getting them ready for bed, fighting the battle to get them to go to bed and then finally getting them in bed and laying them down for some reading before they pretend to fall asleep and get back up again?
Moms give much more than just 1 hour of time to their kids in the afternoon.
Nobody gives a fuck. Cant you find another website to inhabit?
Nobody gives a fuck. Cant you find another website to inhabit?
If your wife is a stay at home mom, cancel the cable TV. If she complains that the kids will not have anything to watch when they come home from school (oh, because she needs to distract them since they make her work so, so hard), buy a box load of cartoon movies on DVD.
If you are thinking, “But how will I watch sports on the weekend?” Answer: Go to a sports bar, alone. You deserve the down time!
Points for use of word ‘hamsterize’.
“Being a “mom blogger” doesn’t count.”
But being a creepy neckbeard woman-hater blog DOES? You poor overworked bastard.
(1) Not creepy
(2) No neckbeard
(3) I don’t hate women; I freakin’ love ’em.
“Being a “mom blogger” doesn’t count.”
But being a creepy neckbeard woman-hater blog DOES? You poor overworked bastard.
Aww, look, the MRAs have a new blog (notably without advertisers) ironically lamenting the pitfalls of a 9-5 job while simultaneously complaining that some don’t work hard enough.
Wait, where’s my tiny violin for all the dudebros who don’t get their hot lunch served to them as a thanks for letting a woman birth and raise your kids.
Ladies, just because you sew and cook “from scratch” (whatever that means to you) doesn’t mean you have to align yourself with the infantalizing misogyny of this ridiculous, self-contradictory post.
I fully expect the usual barrage of mouth-foaming, knuckle-dragging threats because that’s what you guys do, but I won’t be here to see it. Maybe Suzie homemaker will, though.
“I fully expect the usual barrage of mouth-foaming, knuckle-dragging threats because that’s what you guys do, but I won’t be here to see it. Maybe Suzie homemaker will, though.”
LOLZ. That usual deluge of crazed hat-i-tude comes from your sisterhood of femmies. You’ll be around. Trolls always hang out here for the attention they don’t get from the dozen cats they live with.
knee and the tall, Yea I’m going to go out on a limb and guess youre dick is the size of cashew.
….and you need to stop about noble savages. Your book was “meh”.
The proof you are a moron is that you think this is an MRA blog. Nope.
Can you jiggle your titties against my shaft?
I don’t have kids yet, but I definitely plan on physical photo albums once I do. It’s so much more meaningful to have two or three special photos of life events than a 57-item Facebook album.
Googling a recipe is no excuse not to experiment. Just because “it came out fine” the first time is no reason not to add more onion, or less pepper, or replace the beef with a beef/pork mixture, add some garlic powder, garnish with bbq sauce… my god, even a simple baked mac and cheese has DOZENS of EASY ways to change things up next time you make it.
Referring back to the first point, yeah, I facebook/email my mother a lot of pictures, but she is definitely getting physical copies too. Texting pictures to somebody is for a quick laugh to be forgotten about ten minutes later, not anything important.
The washer/dryer thing I’m guilty of, but it’s been that way for my family my whole life and I’m pretty sure that’s the standard across most of middle-class America, regardless of who’s married or has any kids to take care of.
I don’t do the farmer’s market anyways, but unless I’m too sick to stand up, I’m going to go grocery shopping as necessary. Getting food delivered seems… really lazy, and that’s coming from somebody who hates putting effort into getting things done.
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I’m not going to keep a journal. I’ve tried, many times, over the course of nearly thirty years. I keep losing the damn things.
A to-do list would actually be really helpful. I’m a flake.
My boyfriend works offshore, so I can’t really help him with his work. I do the chores while he’s out, we do the chores together while he’s in, I do most of the “real” cooking either way.
Starting my own business sounds great, and I do have the drive… but not the attention span. I’m the sort of person who’s constantly rotating between miscellaneous little projects instead of committing to one big one. I could probably make some money off the odd bake sale, though…
I currently do have a job, so that I can pay for my phone bills, student loans, oil changes and keeping the tank filled, and credit card debt. I’m not a climber of the corporate ladder but I do like HAVING a job, and my job is going to be one of the biggest sacrifices I make, early into being a mother. I have every intention of returning to the work force once my child is old enough to not require constant supervision.
The “bring him lunch” idea doesn’t really work for the wife of an offshore worker, but assuming he gets a desk job at some point, I’d actually really like taking him his lunch or even taking him out to lunch every so often.
Jesus, when you lot meet a girl with an inkling of intelligence you must be astounded! Not sure how a woman who can’t do simple maths (because she didn’t do a degree that requires thinking) is expected to know how to do all of these things you require of her? Starting her own business! This poor woman can’t do maths so she certainly can’t handle money, how is she supposed to start her own business?!
Jesus, when you lot meet a girl with an inkling of intelligence you must be astounded! Not sure how a woman who can’t do simple maths (because she didn’t do a degree that requires thinking) is expected to know how to do all of these things you require of her? Starting her own business! This poor woman can’t do maths so she certainly can’t handle money, how is she supposed to start her own business?!
Jesus, when you lot meet a girl with an inkling of intelligence you must be astounded! Not sure how a woman who can’t do simple maths (because she didn’t do a degree that requires thinking) is expected to know how to do all of these things you require of her? Starting her own business! This poor woman can’t do maths so she certainly can’t handle money, how is she supposed to start her own business?!
Jesus, when you lot meet a girl with an inkling of intelligence you must be astounded! Not sure how a woman who can’t do simple maths (because she didn’t do a degree that requires thinking) is expected to know how to do all of these things you require of her? Starting her own business! This poor woman can’t do maths so she certainly can’t handle money, how is she supposed to start her own business?!
Jesus, when you lot meet a girl with an inkling of intelligence you must be astounded! Not sure how a woman who can’t do simple maths (because she didn’t do a degree that requires thinking) is expected to know how to do all of these things you require of her? Starting her own business! This poor woman can’t do maths so she certainly can’t handle money, how is she supposed to start her own business?!
Jesus, when you lot meet a girl with an inkling of intelligence you must be astounded! Not sure how a woman who can’t do simple maths (because she didn’t do a degree that requires thinking) is expected to know how to do all of these things you require of her? Starting her own business! This poor woman can’t do maths so she certainly can’t handle money, how is she supposed to start her own business?!
Jesus, when you lot meet a girl with an inkling of intelligence you must be astounded! Not sure how a woman who can’t do simple maths (because she didn’t do a degree that requires thinking) is expected to know how to do all of these things you require of her? Starting her own business! This poor woman can’t do maths so she certainly can’t handle money, how is she supposed to start her own business?!
Jesus, when you lot meet a girl with an inkling of intelligence you must be astounded! Not sure how a woman who can’t do simple maths (because she didn’t do a degree that requires thinking) is expected to know how to do all of these things you require of her? Starting her own business! This poor woman can’t do maths so she certainly can’t handle money, how is she supposed to start her own business?!
Jesus, when you lot meet a girl with an inkling of intelligence you must be astounded! Not sure how a woman who can’t do simple maths (because she didn’t do a degree that requires thinking) is expected to know how to do all of these things you require of her? Starting her own business! This poor woman can’t do maths so she certainly can’t handle money, how is she supposed to start her own business?!
Jesus, when you lot meet a girl with an inkling of intelligence you must be astounded! Not sure how a woman who can’t do simple maths (because she didn’t do a degree that requires thinking) is expected to know how to do all of these things you require of her? Starting her own business! This poor woman can’t do maths so she certainly can’t handle money, how is she supposed to start her own business?!
Jesus, when you lot meet a girl with an inkling of intelligence you must be astounded! Not sure how a woman who can’t do simple maths (because she didn’t do a degree that requires thinking) is expected to know how to do all of these things you require of her? Starting her own business! This poor woman can’t do maths so she certainly can’t handle money, how is she supposed to start her own business?!
Jesus, when you lot meet a girl with an inkling of intelligence you must be astounded! Not sure how a woman who can’t do simple maths (because she didn’t do a degree that requires thinking) is expected to know how to do all of these things you require of her? Starting her own business! This poor woman can’t do maths so she certainly can’t handle money, how is she supposed to start her own business?!
Jesus, when you lot meet a girl with an inkling of intelligence you must be astounded! Not sure how a woman who can’t do simple maths (because she didn’t do a degree that requires thinking) is expected to know how to do all of these things you require of her? Starting her own business! This poor woman can’t do maths so she certainly can’t handle money, how is she supposed to start her own business?!
Jesus, when you lot meet a girl with an inkling of intelligence you must be astounded! Not sure how a woman who can’t do simple maths (because she didn’t do a degree that requires thinking) is expected to know how to do all of these things you require of her? Starting her own business! This poor woman can’t do maths so she certainly can’t handle money, how is she supposed to start her own business?!
Jesus, when you lot meet a girl with an inkling of intelligence you must be astounded! Not sure how a woman who can’t do simple maths (because she didn’t do a degree that requires thinking) is expected to know how to do all of these things you require of her? Starting her own business! This poor woman can’t do maths so she certainly can’t handle money, how is she supposed to start her own business?!
Jesus, when you lot meet a girl with an inkling of intelligence you must be astounded! Not sure how a woman who can’t do simple maths (because she didn’t do a degree that requires thinking) is expected to know how to do all of these things you require of her? Starting her own business! This poor woman can’t do maths so she certainly can’t handle money, how is she supposed to start her own business?!
Jesus, when you lot meet a girl with an inkling of intelligence you must be astounded! Not sure how a woman who can’t do simple maths (because she didn’t do a degree that requires thinking) is expected to know how to do all of these things you require of her? Starting her own business! This poor woman can’t do maths so she certainly can’t handle money, how is she supposed to start her own business?!
Jesus, when you lot meet a girl with an inkling of intelligence you must be astounded! Not sure how a woman who can’t do simple maths (because she didn’t do a degree that requires thinking) is expected to know how to do all of these things you require of her? Starting her own business! This poor woman can’t do maths so she certainly can’t handle money, how is she supposed to start her own business?!
Jesus, when you lot meet a girl with an inkling of intelligence you must be astounded! Not sure how a woman who can’t do simple maths (because she didn’t do a degree that requires thinking) is expected to know how to do all of these things you require of her? Starting her own business! This poor woman can’t do maths so she certainly can’t handle money, how is she supposed to start her own business?!
Jesus, when you lot meet a girl with an inkling of intelligence you must be astounded! Not sure how a woman who can’t do simple maths (because she didn’t do a degree that requires thinking) is expected to know how to do all of these things you require of her? Starting her own business! This poor woman can’t do maths so she certainly can’t handle money, how is she supposed to start her own business?!
Jesus, when you lot meet a girl with an inkling of intelligence you must be astounded! Not sure how a woman who can’t do simple maths (because she didn’t do a degree that requires thinking) is expected to know how to do all of these things you require of her? Starting her own business! This poor woman can’t do maths so she certainly can’t handle money, how is she supposed to start her own business?!
Jesus, when you lot meet a girl with an inkling of intelligence you must be astounded! Not sure how a woman who can’t do simple maths (because she didn’t do a degree that requires thinking) is expected to know how to do all of these things you require of her? Starting her own business! This poor woman can’t do maths so she certainly can’t handle money, how is she supposed to start her own business?!
Jesus, when you lot meet a girl with an inkling of intelligence you must be astounded! Not sure how a woman who can’t do simple maths (because she didn’t do a degree that requires thinking) is expected to know how to do all of these things you require of her? Starting her own business! This poor woman can’t do maths so she certainly can’t handle money, how is she supposed to start her own business?!
Jesus, when you lot meet a girl with an inkling of intelligence you must be astounded! Not sure how a woman who can’t do simple maths (because she didn’t do a degree that requires thinking) is expected to know how to do all of these things you require of her? Starting her own business! This poor woman can’t do maths so she certainly can’t handle money, how is she supposed to start her own business?!
Jesus, when you lot meet a girl with an inkling of intelligence you must be astounded! Not sure how a woman who can’t do simple maths (because she didn’t do a degree that requires thinking) is expected to know how to do all of these things you require of her? Starting her own business! This poor woman can’t do maths so she certainly can’t handle money, how is she supposed to start her own business?!
Jesus, when you lot meet a girl with an inkling of intelligence you must be astounded! Not sure how a woman who can’t do simple maths (because she didn’t do a degree that requires thinking) is expected to know how to do all of these things you require of her? Starting her own business! This poor woman can’t do maths so she certainly can’t handle money, how is she supposed to start her own business?!
Jesus, when you lot meet a girl with an inkling of intelligence you must be astounded! Not sure how a woman who can’t do simple maths (because she didn’t do a degree that requires thinking) is expected to know how to do all of these things you require of her? Starting her own business! This poor woman can’t do maths so she certainly can’t handle money, how is she supposed to start her own business?!
Jesus, when you lot meet a girl with an inkling of intelligence you must be astounded! Not sure how a woman who can’t do simple maths (because she didn’t do a degree that requires thinking) is expected to know how to do all of these things you require of her? Starting her own business! This poor woman can’t do maths so she certainly can’t handle money, how is she supposed to start her own business?!
Jesus, when you lot meet a girl with an inkling of intelligence you must be astounded! Not sure how a woman who can’t do simple maths (because she didn’t do a degree that requires thinking) is expected to know how to do all of these things you require of her? Starting her own business! This poor woman can’t do maths so she certainly can’t handle money, how is she supposed to start her own business?!
Jesus, when you lot meet a girl with an inkling of intelligence you must be astounded! Not sure how a woman who can’t do simple maths (because she didn’t do a degree that requires thinking) is expected to know how to do all of these things you require of her? Starting her own business! This poor woman can’t do maths so she certainly can’t handle money, how is she supposed to start her own business?!
Jesus, when you lot meet a girl with an inkling of intelligence you must be astounded! Not sure how a woman who can’t do simple maths (because she didn’t do a degree that requires thinking) is expected to know how to do all of these things you require of her? Starting her own business! This poor woman can’t do maths so she certainly can’t handle money, how is she supposed to start her own business?!
Jesus, when you lot meet a girl with an inkling of intelligence you must be astounded! Not sure how a woman who can’t do simple maths (because she didn’t do a degree that requires thinking) is expected to know how to do all of these things you require of her? Starting her own business! This poor woman can’t do maths so she certainly can’t handle money, how is she supposed to start her own business?!
Jesus, when you lot meet a girl with an inkling of intelligence you must be astounded! Not sure how a woman who can’t do simple maths (because she didn’t do a degree that requires thinking) is expected to know how to do all of these things you require of her? Starting her own business! This poor woman can’t do maths so she certainly can’t handle money, how is she supposed to start her own business?!
Jesus, when you lot meet a girl with an inkling of intelligence you must be astounded! Not sure how a woman who can’t do simple maths (because she didn’t do a degree that requires thinking) is expected to know how to do all of these things you require of her? Starting her own business! This poor woman can’t do maths so she certainly can’t handle money, how is she supposed to start her own business?!
Jesus, when you lot meet a girl with an inkling of intelligence you must be astounded! Not sure how a woman who can’t do simple maths (because she didn’t do a degree that requires thinking) is expected to know how to do all of these things you require of her? Starting her own business! This poor woman can’t do maths so she certainly can’t handle money, how is she supposed to start her own business?!
Jesus, when you lot meet a girl with an inkling of intelligence you must be astounded! Not sure how a woman who can’t do simple maths (because she didn’t do a degree that requires thinking) is expected to know how to do all of these things you require of her? Starting her own business! This poor woman can’t do maths so she certainly can’t handle money, how is she supposed to start her own business?!
Jesus, when you lot meet a girl with an inkling of intelligence you must be astounded! Not sure how a woman who can’t do simple maths (because she didn’t do a degree that requires thinking) is expected to know how to do all of these things you require of her? Starting her own business! This poor woman can’t do maths so she certainly can’t handle money, how is she supposed to start her own business?!
Jesus, when you lot meet a girl with an inkling of intelligence you must be astounded! Not sure how a woman who can’t do simple maths (because she didn’t do a degree that requires thinking) is expected to know how to do all of these things you require of her? Starting her own business! This poor woman can’t do maths so she certainly can’t handle money, how is she supposed to start her own business?!
Jesus, when you lot meet a girl with an inkling of intelligence you must be astounded! Not sure how a woman who can’t do simple maths (because she didn’t do a degree that requires thinking) is expected to know how to do all of these things you require of her? Starting her own business! This poor woman can’t do maths so she certainly can’t handle money, how is she supposed to start her own business?!
Jesus, when you lot meet a girl with an inkling of intelligence you must be astounded! Not sure how a woman who can’t do simple maths (because she didn’t do a degree that requires thinking) is expected to know how to do all of these things you require of her? Starting her own business! This poor woman can’t do maths so she certainly can’t handle money, how is she supposed to start her own business?!
Jesus, when you lot meet a girl with an inkling of intelligence you must be astounded! Not sure how a woman who can’t do simple maths (because she didn’t do a degree that requires thinking) is expected to know how to do all of these things you require of her? Starting her own business! This poor woman can’t do maths so she certainly can’t handle money, how is she supposed to start her own business?!
Jesus, when you lot meet a girl with an inkling of intelligence you must be astounded! Not sure how a woman who can’t do simple maths (because she didn’t do a degree that requires thinking) is expected to know how to do all of these things you require of her? Starting her own business! This poor woman can’t do maths so she certainly can’t handle money, how is she supposed to start her own business?!
Jesus, when you lot meet a girl with an inkling of intelligence you must be astounded! Not sure how a woman who can’t do simple maths (because she didn’t do a degree that requires thinking) is expected to know how to do all of these things you require of her? Starting her own business! This poor woman can’t do maths so she certainly can’t handle money, how is she supposed to start her own business?!
Jesus, when you lot meet a girl with an inkling of intelligence you must be astounded! Not sure how a woman who can’t do simple maths (because she didn’t do a degree that requires thinking) is expected to know how to do all of these things you require of her? Starting her own business! This poor woman can’t do maths so she certainly can’t handle money, how is she supposed to start her own business?!
Is this article serious? Are really, completely serious right now?
God, it must have been nice in your household since you seemed to have a perfect house-wife mother. But, let me tell you, unfortunately not everyone has such a person or the needed conditions.
I’ll start off by saying I was privileged enough to grow up with a stay-at-home mom and it was great and all. But it was by no far the easiest job to have for her. She was exhausted ALL the time: doing laundry, cleaning the house everyday, making meals, shopping for the food, and a bunch of other stuff while also taking me and my sibling to and from school when the buses wouldn’t come. She made time for doing dishes, for talking with family and friends, and for the little things like watching a novella while she did other chores (I grew up in a Puerto Rican/american household and this was just one of the few things she ever did to treat herself). Do you know how EXHAUSTED and just weary she was by the time she went to bed? She was in the same state as my Dad by the time night rolled around. And yet you think a hose-wife’s job is easy?
Yes, my Dad brought in the income with a military job (still does): gone from 6 am until most times late at night because he couldn’t catch a break with co workers (and that’s not counting years he was sent overseas when told to go fight in this war or serve there away from his family). But he ALWAYS acknowledged that my Mom had JUST AS TOUGH as job as he did. Yes, they were different jobs, but they were just as hard.
While he dealt with paperwork and e mails and professional things, he always acknowledged the fact that if that got to be too much he could quit. My Mom couldn’t. There wasn’t a day she could just stop being a mom and doing chores. And she knew and accepted that (she always said she loved being a stay at home mom). But dealing with kids is hard, dealing with teenagers is hard, and dealing with your children when they’re grown is HARD. Having to take care of a house and do everything for your family 7 days a week and almost 24 hours a day is fucking HARD.
And don’t you dare try to tell me otherwise.
And you know what? I DO want to be a housewife, a stay at home mom if I can – because I loved taking care of my sibling and the next door neighbor’s kids when i babysat for them (and I love cooking and a million other things) – but don’t you dare tell me it’s not difficult enough.
Don’t you dare say that watching that woman, my mother, get up at the crack of dawn each day and cook and clean and take care of everyone but herself for YEARS is not a full job in and of itself. Maybe you should try taking on those roles. Balancing your family (not just your immediate, my mom often had to act as a medium – a balancing act – between my immediate family and her relatives). I RESPECT being a housewife because I saw how HARD it was and because my Dad saw how hard it was. Try it yourself sometime, no help just you (while also having most of your hard work ignored, belittled, and often times having to start over because of some interruption or rude asshole who just messes things up) , for a week or two and see how you feel.
I want to be a house-wife not because it’s easy, but because it’s something I respect. And I would NEVER even consider taking care of a man (if they’re even deserving of being called “men”) that doesn’t acknowledge the work of a house-wife or respect it.
Despicable.
Ni te lo digo en Ingles, pero perdon por el mensage tan largo. Pero este tipo tiene que aprender, y lo tiene que aprender protno porque si no se queda atrasado. Y si no? Pues pal Carajo con el. Acaba con estas tonterias!
I don’t think you actually read the article. He completely agrees that the stay at home mom used to be and still can be completely a full time job but he is saying that he takes issue with the fact that less time has to be spent doing the same/similar jobs than in the past while more often than not the stay at home member of the family does less of the activities that used to be done (getting take out instead of cooking, hiring a cleaning service, etc) and expects the working member of the family to help out around the house more than was expected of that same member in the past.
Is this article serious? Are really, completely serious right now?
God, it must have been nice in your household since you seemed to have a perfect house-wife mother. But, let me tell you, unfortunately not everyone has such a person or the needed conditions.
I’ll start off by saying I was privileged enough to grow up with a stay-at-home mom and it was great and all. But it was by no far the easiest job to have for her. She was exhausted ALL the time: doing laundry, cleaning the house everyday, making meals, shopping for the food, and a bunch of other stuff while also taking me and my sibling to and from school when the buses wouldn’t come. She made time for doing dishes, for talking with family and friends, and for the little things like watching a novella while she did other chores (I grew up in a Puerto Rican/american household and this was just one of the few things she ever did to treat herself). Do you know how EXHAUSTED and just weary she was by the time she went to bed? She was in the same state as my Dad by the time night rolled around. And yet you think a hose-wife’s job is easy?
Yes, my Dad brought in the income with a military job (still does): gone from 6 am until most times late at night because he couldn’t catch a break with co workers (and that’s not counting years he was sent overseas when told to go fight in this war or serve there away from his family). But he ALWAYS acknowledged that my Mom had JUST AS TOUGH as job as he did. Yes, they were different jobs, but they were just as hard.
While he dealt with paperwork and e mails and professional things, he always acknowledged the fact that if that got to be too much he could quit. My Mom couldn’t. There wasn’t a day she could just stop being a mom and doing chores. And she knew and accepted that (she always said she loved being a stay at home mom). But dealing with kids is hard, dealing with teenagers is hard, and dealing with your children when they’re grown is HARD. Having to take care of a house and do everything for your family 7 days a week and almost 24 hours a day is fucking HARD.
And don’t you dare try to tell me otherwise.
And you know what? I DO want to be a housewife, a stay at home mom if I can – because I loved taking care of my sibling and the next door neighbor’s kids when i babysat for them (and I love cooking and a million other things) – but don’t you dare tell me it’s not difficult enough.
Don’t you dare say that watching that woman, my mother, get up at the crack of dawn each day and cook and clean and take care of everyone but herself for YEARS is not a full job in and of itself. Maybe you should try taking on those roles. Balancing your family (not just your immediate, my mom often had to act as a medium – a balancing act – between my immediate family and her relatives). I RESPECT being a housewife because I saw how HARD it was and because my Dad saw how hard it was. Try it yourself sometime, no help just you (while also having most of your hard work ignored, belittled, and often times having to start over because of some interruption or rude asshole who just messes things up) , for a week or two and see how you feel.
I want to be a house-wife not because it’s easy, but because it’s something I respect. And I would NEVER even consider taking care of a man (if they’re even deserving of being called “men”) that doesn’t acknowledge the work of a house-wife or respect it.
Despicable.
Ni te lo digo en Ingles, pero perdon por el mensage tan largo. Pero este tipo tiene que aprender, y lo tiene que aprender protno porque si no se queda atrasado. Y si no? Pues pal Carajo con el. Acaba con estas tonterias!
Found your site from a complaint article in HuffPo. LOVE IT! Keep up the good work!
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Sounds like someone who’s single and bitter. It must be pretty easy to put all this effort into these articles when you repel women so easily. Get your head out of your ass and hop off your horse buster because while you sit here wondering channeling your bitterness into poorly written and horribly ignorant articles society keeps moving forward *gasps* Men washing dishes? The horrors! You can post irrelevant articles all you want hun but it’s not going to make any woman want to come within ten feet of you. There’s this thing I think you should try: it’s called thinking with your brain instead of your dick. It’s quite the novel idea actually; usually it’s pretty yields pretty successful results. If that’s not really your thing then by all means continue living in your 1950’s fantasy. Just don’t be disappointed when the only women you attract are sixty years old with antique views on life.
I consistently attract women in their early 20s. (Probably late 20s and 30s too, but I avoid those.)
Sounds like someone who’s single and bitter. It must be pretty easy to put all this effort into these articles when you repel women so easily. Get your head out of your ass and hop off your horse buster because while you sit here wondering channeling your bitterness into poorly written and horribly ignorant articles society keeps moving forward *gasps* Men washing dishes? The horrors! You can post irrelevant articles all you want hun but it’s not going to make any woman want to come within ten feet of you. There’s this thing I think you should try: it’s called thinking with your brain instead of your dick. It’s quite the novel idea actually; usually it’s pretty yields pretty successful results. If that’s not really your thing then by all means continue living in your 1950’s fantasy. Just don’t be disappointed when the only women you attract are sixty years old with antique views on life.
Sounds like someone who’s single and bitter. It must be pretty easy to put all this effort into these articles when you repel women so easily. Get your head out of your ass and hop off your horse buster because while you sit here wondering channeling your bitterness into poorly written and horribly ignorant articles society keeps moving forward *gasps* Men washing dishes? The horrors! You can post irrelevant articles all you want hun but it’s not going to make any woman want to come within ten feet of you. There’s this thing I think you should try: it’s called thinking with your brain instead of your dick. It’s quite the novel idea actually; usually it’s pretty yields pretty successful results. If that’s not really your thing then by all means continue living in your 1950’s fantasy. Just don’t be disappointed when the only women you attract are sixty years old with antique views on life.
Sounds like someone who’s single and bitter. It must be pretty easy to put all this effort into these articles when you repel women so easily. Get your head out of your ass and hop off your horse buster because while you sit here wondering channeling your bitterness into poorly written and horribly ignorant articles society keeps moving forward *gasps* Men washing dishes? The horrors! You can post irrelevant articles all you want hun but it’s not going to make any woman want to come within ten feet of you. There’s this thing I think you should try: it’s called thinking with your brain instead of your dick. It’s quite the novel idea actually; usually it’s pretty yields pretty successful results. If that’s not really your thing then by all means continue living in your 1950’s fantasy. Just don’t be disappointed when the only women you attract are sixty years old with antique views on life.
Sounds like someone who’s single and bitter. It must be pretty easy to put all this effort into these articles when you repel women so easily. Get your head out of your ass and hop off your horse buster because while you sit here wondering channeling your bitterness into poorly written and horribly ignorant articles society keeps moving forward *gasps* Men washing dishes? The horrors! You can post irrelevant articles all you want hun but it’s not going to make any woman want to come within ten feet of you. There’s this thing I think you should try: it’s called thinking with your brain instead of your dick. It’s quite the novel idea actually; usually it’s pretty yields pretty successful results. If that’s not really your thing then by all means continue living in your 1950’s fantasy. Just don’t be disappointed when the only women you attract are sixty years old with antique views on life.
I skimmed the article. I’m getting that the husband should act as a boss to his wife… That doesn’t seem right. Also, the home is the workplace for stay-at-home parents. I just wanted to point that out… If you have nothing else to do, read the play “Les belles-soeurs”. It’s about a bunch of stay-at-home women in the 60s and how crappy their lives are. You can find it online in English (it was written in French).
Being a stay at home wife is a pretty low hours job, and like most people who work part time jobs, it leads to general dissatisfication and unhappiness with life.
You are all bigoted assholes. Just because some women’s days aren’t as busy as others does not mean that all they do is just lounge around doing nothing all day. According to you women must take care of their men, or shall i say pigs. All women are allowed to do is cook and clean for their men? As far as I’m concerned men and women are equals. If you want to make her “keep a journal of everything she does. Every day. and Make her keep a journal of everything she does. Every day
Write down a schedule/to do list for her and make it clear that you expect it to be completed every day.”, then go right ahead you crazy obsessive asshole. Just because a woman isn’t the “classic” 1950s mother doesn’t mean that she isn’t a good mother and wife. I think your friends and family have a bad influence on you and you should probably keep your distance as they are imposing their narrow-minded, uncultured opinions upon you.
Men and women aren’t equals. Men can’t get pregnant.
Your beerbelly will do.
Sure, I have a beer gut, which should stop me from banging girls like openminded, but it doesn’t.
Now, how much does it hurt to know that openminded won’t sleep with you no matter how much you defend her?
Suck my cock.
This site is absolutely disgusting. If you’re going to bash women all over your site and claim your an “alpha male” then don’t patronize woman who take care of their kids and make it a full time job. And if you’re going to say that this isnt a job, then get your tiny dick out of your contradicting ass and realize that women can hold any job that you can. In fact the field of practice, architecture, which Im in now, is run predominately by females over men.
I would’ve commented on other ridiculous blogs on this site, but the comments are shut off, and probably shut off due to everyone disapproving of your revolting blogs and site.
And if you really have to blog about a topic like this, then obviously you’re marriage sucks, and probably sucks because you cant find a descent woman for your scumbag ass.
Please try less, we can all tell you’re trying to compensate for that tiny dick of yours.
7+ inches here–not trying to compensate for anything. You’ll be forgiven if you want a taste.
7 inches? Sorry corncocker your hand doesn’t count.
It’s actually about 7.5″
But even if it weren’t, lots of guys with four-inchers run good game, so come up with a better insult next time.
I really can’t stand you MRAs who first insist that women don’t work and stay home with the kids, and then turn around and piss and moan about how hard it is for you poor, poor men sitting in your cubicles.
“Make her keep a journal of everything she does. Every day.”
Unless you married a child, you can’t force her to do anything.
“Write down a schedule/to do list for her and make it clear that you expect it to be completed every day.”
See above.
“If you can outsource some of your career work to her, do so. Make her edit your emails or reports to save you the time.”
If you insist on being the one with the job, YOU are responsible for doing said job.
“If she’s got the drive, have her start her own business. Being a “mom blogger” doesn’t count.”
Once again, you can’t make her do anything.
“Make her bring you a hot lunch. Buy one of those boxes that
delivery boys use to keep pizzas warm. If you live far from work and
gas money for her to get there is expensive, get her a bus pass.”
Completely ludicrous.
This wasn’t written by an MRA, and MRAs aren’t really welcome here. MRAs are just men who beat the drums of egalitarianism and feminism, and go “WHAAAAAA!” that it’s “unfair” that men and women aren’t exactly the same way.
As a person who has worked in a high-stress engineering field, and who is now at home with my 11 month old, I struggle to find worth in this article. Yes, my former job was stressful in terms of deadlines and on-demand conformity; but watching a child round the clock, pumping 4 times a day (baby left the boob at 4 weeks for some reason), maintaining a clean house, and ensuring that there are 3 organic homemade meals for all of us (excepting the two dogs and ferrets) – does require work. While it’s true that the stress of working for a corporation is not there, and while it’s true that he nature of the work is certainly less mentally demanding, I find it more challenging in various ways: it requires endurance to continually clean after all of us, to be up and about at all times excepting the child’s nap, and to take him around to show him the world and build his pre-reading skills. Just as completing tasks at work was often boring, and required subjugating one’s personal whims to a demanded focus, so to is, say, for example, reading the 20th baby book straight. I do think the situation changes if, at the time her child is ready for kindergarten, a mother elects not to homeschool and then sits around at home. But for any Mom of a child under 5, I think this nation as a whole suffers in respect; this often is the consequence of poor mothering, producing empathy-deficient offspring who can think of nothing else but to spit on another’s life efforts in an attempt to justify their own assholish behavior. God pity whatever man or woman is stuck with such a spouse – for they truly do not understand that raising a child is teamwork, and belittling the efforts of your spouse is a sure way to tank YOUR greatest investment (you will not succeed in tanking those of others you envy, as envy is a special poison you alone eat when you wish others ill). For my part, I respect mothers, and am proud to be one – at home, at work, wherever.
The author specifically said school-age children, not babies/toddlers.
You know, you have feminism to thank for women actually holding jobs and contributing to the family income. Yet this site loves to complain about those evil feminists and how they’re the root of all societies ills. Haha, do you really not get it? If you want a wife who works and pulls her own wait, you can thank feminism for making that possible.
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I think this blog is true to a degree. However, you cannot group all stay home mom’s together. Myself, I have 3 boys, 7 yrs, 3yrs, and 10 mths. I homeschool them so they are with me all day. I cook 3 meals a day and on occasion we eat out. I do all the chores, baths, work with kids etc. I am the one who stays up with them all night when they are sick, and that is with 3 of them. I bathe them, brush teeth do appt’s. etc. I am the one disciplining them when my hubby is not home, grocery shopping etc. Keep in mind all this is being done even if pregnant and sick to kingdom come. My job is 24/7 I don’t get a break. There are a few time a year (when my husband and I get a way) just us two that I am away from my kids. This is the only time I am away from them. We do not allow them to spend the night at other people’s houses. I help my husband when I can when it comes to his work. I finished my BA while being a stay home mommy. We don’t have cable and T.V. is not allowed on all the time. We do have a Wii but the kids are never allowed on without us being present to spend time with them. I can count on my hands the amount of time the kids are on the Wii in a year. So, I don’t use all the gadgets to occupy my kids. We don’t even own a cell phone or Ipad or whatever those things are called. Shopping and eating with friends happens maybe once a year with my friends and I plan it around my b-day. I am not exaggerating by any stretch of the imagination!!
Now let me say, before I was a stay home mommy I worked full time. I was in the Navy for 7 years, I went to college full time. I worked as an EMT for 2 years. I had many jobs before being a stay home mommy.
Before I was a stay home mommy I thought they had it easy. I just want to say BEING A STAY HOME MOM IS THE HARDEST JOB I’VE EVER HAD. Why, because if you’re doing what you’re suppose to be doing, taking care of your husband, children, and home then it is very tiring emotionally and physically.
Now, any husband that has a wife that does her job, I don’t care what his job is, he will tell you his wife is AMAZING AND WONDERFUL. He will say himself that he would never be able to do what she does.
My husband is AWESOME!!!!!! He always tells me how much he appreciates me and see’s the sacrifice it is to stay home. He never has a problem helping if needed because he knows what I go through. Once when I was horribly sick he was so sweet and told me not to worry about anything and he took care of the kids and house for a few days, really a few, after the few days, he could not believe how much I did and he couldn’t wait to get back to work. Not because he doesn’t love our boys, he is always lovin’ on them, but because if you’re doing what your’re suppose to be doing when you stay home IT’S HARD WORK.
I know my hubby works hard, and I rub his feet, and take care of him, and love on him, and always thanking him and taking care of him if you know what I mean lol. He knows how much I love and appreciate him. I always thank him for wanting me to be a stay home mommy. I didn’t want to do it 7 yrs ago when we had our 1st baby, but my hubby wanted it and so I did. Even though it’s the hardest job, I wouldn’t change it. I know my kids need me and my hubby needs me.
What is the point of the book I just wrote lol? Well, I’ve done both and there has to be an appreciation of both. My hubby doesn’t take me for granted and I sure do not take him for granted. But, from my personal experience, stay home mommy is definitely more work. I’ve never had a job this taxing in my career, but then I would venture to say your talking about a different kind of stay home mommy in your article. If I went by a women who did everything your article says, I would have to agree.
Stay at home moms, especially those who exclusively breastfeed might not be doing “hard” labor but they are mentally anguished. They never get to turn off or take care of themselves. Men get to clock out and then watch some tv or play video games or go out for drinks with their buddies. The EBFing mother spends her entire day entertaining, feeding, and loving another individual while neglecting herself. Just something to think about for all of you downplaying the SAHM’s role. Oh I forgot, she also beared children, labored for 50 hours, struggled through postpartum, and so on. We ALL deserve respect.
This is perfect. My wife is a stay at home ‘mom’. Funny thing is, she has her BSN and could make as almost as much as me. We have been married three and she’s called me up bitching about how tough it is at least 20 times. Every time she gets to complaining I tell her “Send me your resume, I’ll look for some jobs for you, I will gladly stay home”. Not once has she sent me her resume, and doesn’t bring it up again until the next disaster.
You seem to be expecting a king and his servant approach, when a marriage is agreeing to a partnership. A wife is no more accountable to her husband for every thing she does every day than a husband is accountable to his wife for each action taken at work. If a woman is ACTUALLY being a homemaker, then that is hard fucking work. Of course the ones who spend hours every day with friends and shopping doesn’t deserve the title “stay at home Mom”. But the ones who clean the house from top to bottom (and I mean actually CLEAN, not tidy up) and cook meals every day and do all the grocery and essential shopping and get up before their husbands to make them breakfast and deal with bitch teachers and, in your fantasy world, an asshole wanna-be-boss of a husband deserves way more respect than that. My mother was a stay at home Mom and even if she was sick she never went out “shopping” for herself unless Dad made her, never sat down, skipped breakfast all the time just because she didn’t have time. And unlike Dad, her job NEVER STOPPED.
You should probably try thinking before opening your ignorant mouth. Trade places with a real home maker one day, I dare you.
I have worked full time and have stayed at home with the kids. It’s much harder to have a career. If you can afford to stay at home, it’s a blessing but PLEASE view it as such
I was an exec turned SAHM. I’m emotionally exhausted. I would love to have the schedule you have. I get up at 7am every morning to the sound of toddler boys jumping on mommy to wake up. I literally have to repeat myself over and over again to get my kids to put on each item of clothing till they finally get dressed and down the stairs by 8am. The whole time one child doesn’t want to go to school and the other one cries b/c he’s too young to go to school. I make breakfast, have them brush their teeth, put shoes on and out the door by 8:30am. Nothing is quick. Getting into the car is chaotic event naturally with toddlers. “Donovan, get in this side of the car. Don’t step in the puddles. Put your shoe back on! I can’t put your mitten on while I’m driving…” We drive 20 minutes to drop off the older son at preschool that starts at 9am.
Then I have the 2 year old with me and we either go to a play date, the library, Discovery Kids Place (loud and stressful as hell) or we go home and I clean. I clean all day everyday and every time I clean up I give it a fair 10 minutes until it gets trashed again. And it’s not normal mess that an adult makes. A kid that eats spaghetti accidently moves their hands too quick and it ends up on the blinds, the upholstered chair and before you have a chance they wipe their hands on the rest of the chairs because they forgot about a napkin. Well, then you have to get the stains out, sweep, mop, and do whatever so your house doesn’t look like a freakin’ pig-stye by the time the spouse comes home. My kids are bright and disciplined, but they are still toddlers. The mundane task of having to constantly clean up around you, not have any adult stimulation, having to hear fights, whining, and crying b/c, “I’m big.” “No, I’m big. Mommy, I’m big. I’m big!!! (whaaaaaah) is like nails on a chalk board by the end of the day after several weeks. If you get the least bit unnerved when you watch your kids for the few hours that you get home from work, you are oblivious as to how horrible it is after several years of it. Yes, I love being a mom and I am grateful for the opportunity to raise them vs. some stranger that isn’t as invested, but it is [email protected]#%#$% hard. It’s like having emotional sunburn. The lightest touch hurts. Listening to the itsy bitsy spider 15 times on the way to and from picking them up is just annoyance. I literally put myself in time out! When you have little hands popping up under the bathroom door when you just want to poop or piss on the pot in peace is something to fathom. So after cleaning or getting laundry for two hours I put on my taxi cab hat and head to pick up my 3yr old son who is sufficiently exhausted from learning and cries b/c he doesn’t understand that he’s tired. The whole time you are stressed b/c you know if he sleeps on the way home, you are screwed from getting a break for yourself. Every meal, everyone eats before you. You have to repeatedly get up and get extra napkins, clean spills, heat things up, pick food off the floor, stop fights, talk, engage… It’s crazy, but I little smile and am pure giddy when I get to eat a meal without interruption which happens once in a blue moon. And when my husband gets home to relax and play xbox, my day continues into the night with dinner, the second round of dishes and wiping down the kitchen, bathrooms, doing laundry. Oh and the laundry for a toddler (think poop stained underwear and sauced up multiple outfits from the same day). I was sick for a week once and literally parented from my bed. Our house looked like a frat party was at our house and trashed it. I was offered a full-time opportunity and my husband said it wasn’t worth it. You know why? Because he just has to work and do the lawn weather permitting and that’s it. He plays with our sons and is a great dad, but he gets off after his 8 hours. He gets time to himself. I’m up from 7am till bedtime constantly in service to raising two kids to be decent human beings. My kids are literally raved about being respectful and kind and I take credit for that. So all those time outs, those discussions about, “What’s the magic word?…We share….,” etc. are a constant part of my every waking hours. And god forbid I stay up past their bed times to have time for myself to be alive just for me. When I do, I sacrifice the sleep that I desperately need. Everything is an opportunity cost. Do I love being a mom? Yes, but it’s hard as $hit. And the only way you know it is if you do it yourself for months on end. A week or two is nothing. You know it’s ending. You know someone is going to take over at some point. I tell you the down sides b/c you make it like it’s a cake walk. I have a BSBA and I can not wait till my kids are in school full-time so I can go back to work. And why not daycare? Well, besides that it’s 700-8000 per kid (mine are 11 months apart) I parent better than some stranger would with several other kids to compete for attention from. This is grammatically a nightmare post, but I have to get ready to make up for lost time cleaning!
I agree! I’m sick of women complaining that being a stay-at-home mom is the hardest job there is. I have been a stay-at-home single mom to my toddler. Although dealing with an infant or toddler can be frustrating, it’s still not nearly as stressful as working in the outside world, with its deadlines, jerky coworkers, etc. Stay-at-home moms will say they have many unpaid jobs, such as being a chef, chauffeur, maid. But they don’t have to perform any of those roles to a professional standard. And some of them don’t even do those tasks, as they have a maid, have food delivered etc. Stay-at-home moms only say how hard it is to justify their staying at home and the big alimony payments if they should get divorced. If you want to be a stay-at-home mom, fine. Just don’t go on about how it’s the hardest job it is, because it’s not.
The most amazing article I’ve read about the whole stay- at home way of life, I guess if you can call it that. It’s embarrassing how in our 21st century society and living in a very advanced cultural existence, that there are still whining complaining uneducated women who refuse to become warrior intellectual ceo’s, poets, filmmakers, to work OUTSIDE the home, as well as INSIDE the home and bring it to the heap. I was one of those women in college who was the brilliant smart, attractive one that guys were terrified to date because they were simply intimidated. Interestingly enough those same guys drew like a magnet to the the mediocre marginally good looking girls who were lazy, never spoke their mind, and were quite-passive aggressive. Yes you now where I’m going with this. Those non-aggressive type women make bad housewives, homemakers, and would do horrible in the workforce because they want a Mr. Darcy to full fill their ever whim. They have a really bad Pride and Prejudice syndrome in which they have entitlement issues up the heap because no one ever told them that they were no different than someone who stands in the DES line for 3 hours in the blazing sun because they refuse to apply for a job, and choose to be on food stamps for the rest of their lives and blame Obama or other government wings for their excessive slothful laziness. The Point is plan and simple. These dutiful hardworking husbands should have thought long and hard about what wife they were choosing. It is far much better to choose the fighting warrior hot red- headed elf, or a Lady of Rohan who takes out orcs of all different shapes and sizes then a women who sits around with ladies in waiting bathing in the sun.
The fact that you acknowledged that being home with your ‘younger than school age’ children is the only reason I’m not completely offended by this article. The last comment on this thread was four months ago, and I’m not going to waste my time (which I have very little of caring for our 7 month old and 4 year old) detailing exactly how this does NOT pertain to someone in my position.
I’d love to hear what you think a day in the life of someone in my position consists of, if you happen to see this comment. I’ll give you a hint – it’s 1:20am & reading your article is the first chance I’ve had to do something for ME all day. I’ll be up in 3.5 hours to make my husband breakfast, too. 😉
How many of these stressed out overworked SAHMs actually try to improve their skills, do job training, and become more efficient? We as a society assume all too easily that a mother knows best. It’s this attitude that leaves families with SAHMs feeling stressed and exhausted for no good reason. There are plenty of parents out there that have invested the time and effort into becoming stress-free parents that understand what needs to be done each day and get it done. They wake up with a purpose and execute. When their children do something that stresses them out, they research it and fix it.
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I would have to say that not just so called modern women but also modern men have no clue about being a man. They have no idea how to romance a lady nor even remember how to open a door. The point being I can open a door all by myself but have some manners and open the door for your wife or girlfriend. I am a stay at home and work at home Mother. I am in my mid 40’s and I have 12 children (8 living at home still from ages 2 – 14), homeschool, cook from scratch, do all the house work and work at home online to boot. My husband occasionally cooks or offers to cook because he knows I work hard and says from his experience of being a stay at home Dad for about a year that he would much rather RUN out of the house to work than have to do all this work. He is 12 years younger than myself. I work very hard outside of my paid job. What I find with today’s men is they are looking for the mother they never had simple because not many women are still true home makers. Home making is quickly becoming a lost art but I am raising up daughters who will know how to make a house a home and young men who will know how to treat a woman and not take advantage of her or think that she is his Mama! A man must know that his wife is not his maid and how very valuable she is. He understands that he can pick up his own socks out of the floor because we own a clothes basket and if children are not allowed to throw their clothes all over the house then he to needs to be a big boy and put his things away as well. What I’m trying to say is that there is balance and thinking you are going to change someone from a princess who doesn’t know how to cook or clean into someone who is a super home maker doesn’t WORK. Equally it’s just as impossible to change a man from someone who refuses to get a job and work or support his family into a provider for the family who isn’t sitting on his butt hours a day gaming on an xbox, ps4 etc or hanging out with the ‘boys’ at the bar. If you married them that way ummmm most likely unless there is a miraculous happening it’s NOT going to change. My point being KNOW WHO YOU ARE MARRYING and if NOT then do not expect to demand or keep tabs and try to change them. Ask those questions like how do you feel about xyz and what do you do in this and that situation but being appalled after your married is NOT an excuse think with your head in making the decision and KNOW you can accept that person without whining or complaining that things are NOT going your way or trying to validate yourself by saying someone does not work as hard as you. You chose that person… quit whining… either you don’t know how to good decisions or you did not take the time to investigate long enough to find out if you were marrying someone who fit the home maker role. Both partners should be working equally as hard as the other and lifting the other one up if they need throughout the marriage. But again KNOW who you are marrying. It’s NOT American women who are the problem it’s all society who want quick easy and not willing to work for what you want marriage included.
While I do know women who come close to fitting the description you’ve noted here, most that I know do a LOT more. Granted, the ones I’m talking about are homeschooling mothers (as am I), and we don’t “send our kids off to school”, or even get a moment alone. EVER.
I can rarely even shower until nearly Midnight. I do ALL housework (except my kids do have to tidy up their own rooms – but I do ALL of the heavy cleaning myself). My husband has cleaned a bathroom all of TWICE in the 22 years we’ve been together – each time was while I was in the hospital delivering a baby, and I had to ask him to do it, lol.
I think he’s done dishes once this year. Literally. I clean on my birthday, on Mother’s Day, Christmas, etc.
He does enjoy cooking (grilling, mostly), so he chooses to do that usually once a week. But he certainly doesn’t *have* to.
When the kids are sick (we have 4), I am the one up all night, I am the one doctoring everyone round the clock. My husband has never cleaned a kid’s bedroom (in 22 years!!), mopped a floor, or cleaned a toilet (aside from those 2 times mentioned earlier). I’m not faulting him for it – just pointing out that not all of us SAHM’s are delegating the housework to our husbands.
I’m only 41 – our oldest was born when we were barely out of our teens (in fact, I wasn’t actually out of my teens, technically). So, I’m not too far out of the age range you mentioned.
Homeschooling is an entirely separate thing and it encompasses my whole life. I *wish* my day ended at 7pm (I’ll have to be *dead* to get those kinds of hours, lol).
I did work full time at a corporate job for 4 years, and my husband stayed home (we always felt similarly about us being the ones to raise our kids – not a daycare environment, etc. We simply agreed that whoever made the most money would work and at the time, I was able to make more money). When I was working full time, I still had to come home, fold laundry (he would wash it but then pile it all on the sofa, lol), bathe all the kids, breastfeed, homeschool our preschooler (the oldest was still in public school back then), vacuum, and sweep. I didn’t even get to SIT DOWN until after 7pm, let alone have my day be done. I still had to do the nighttime routine with all the kids, help my oldest with homework, and then get them ALL to bed myself.
I totally love my hubby – but he would NEVER be willing to work full time and then still come home and do all that I had to do when I was working. He’s been a great dad and when he stayed home he was very attentive and nurturing – and at the time that was the priority so I didn’t make an issue out of the lack of housework help. i wanted a happy family, and that’s what we had.
All of that said – I had a close friend for years who has scammed the whole SAHM thing like you Would.Not.Believe for the past 20 years – so I do totally know what you’re talking about. And yeah – it’s pretty nauseating.
I still stay home and homeschool 3 kids (oldest just finished her 4th year of college), PLUS I write to supplement our income, so technically, I’m also working from home.
So, don’t hate on ALL stay-at-home Moms. Some of us really DO take our jobs seriously and work extremely hard and get no time for ourselves (I cannot even IMAGINE what it would be like to get to go to the gym, or visit a friend at Starbucks, or even shop by myself – I haven’t done anything like that in years, literally. I have to work out at home, I shop with my kids in tow, and my husband is the one I go to Starbucks with, LOL!).
And many of us have been doing it nonstop for decades.
I just happened to find this website and while I agree that once kids are in school life should be pretty simple, I cannot agree with the kind of verbs you use such as “make her” … do this or that.
A wife is supposed to be an equal partner in a relationship, not a slave. I’m sure that a good husband can encourage his wife to contribute more to the relationship and household in a more respectful way. Positive comments such as, “I love it when you have dinner ready for me” or “I think it’s sexy when you welcome me with a kiss when I get home” or “Thanks for hanging up my work clothes so they don’t get wrinkled” … you get the picture.
I am currently a stay at home mom of a 1 year old and it is tough to get stuff done sometimes while my daughter is hanging on to my pant leg as I do chores. Someday, when I finally reach that stage in life when kids are in school, I plan to have be working career. until then wish me luck while I try to finish my bachelor degree, educate a child, and keep our house in order.
I have only been a SAHM for a few months, once my second child was born. Before that my oldest (2 years old) came to work with me at my part-time job, since he was a baby. I didn’t become a SAHM because we could afford to do so; we couldn’t afford either option. My son wasn’t going to be able to come to work with me, which meant day care. 1) We didn’t somebody else raising our child(ren). 2) If we paid for day care just so I could work, we would have actually lost money. 3) We didn’t want gov’t assistance just to pay for day care, especially when I can do a much better job raising our children than somebody else. All I’ve ever wanted to be though (despite having 2 college degrees) is a SAHM; I never thought it would happen, but it did. I had this image in my head of what it would be like: cleaning every day, baking muffins, meals, etc. ahead of time and have them frozen and ready to eat, home schooling, etc.; I wanted to strive for more a more traditional role but also make sure my husband is as much of a part of our children’s lives as I am. Well, between an infant and 2 year old and PPD (not to mention the renovations my husband and I are trying to do), I’m feeling pretty good if I get a decent meal made (I love to bake and cook and make it from scratch if I know how). With two very young ones, it is a struggle, but I do the best I can. My husband and I both acknowledge that each of us works as hard as we can each day to do the best we can for our family. He also understands that I’m not myself right now, thanks to good ‘ol PPD, and we are all doing the best we can to get through it; I keep getting reassured that the first year after having a 2nd+ baby takes A LOT of adjustment. Once I find a good groove to get some housework done and take care of the kids at the same time, something about the baby’s schedule changes, so then I have to try to find a new groove to get the housework done. However, my husband and I both agree that we don’t want the house to be a total disaster, but we also agree that a spic and span house is NOT the priority, our children are the priority (learning, playing, food in their tummies, etc.) I’m gradually trying to take on more responsibilities so that my husband has a little less to worry about; for example, he ate out for lunch often times, but now I try to get some lunch made for him before he gets to work, as long as there is time to do it after I get the babies fed (our priority) and before he leaves for work. I actually have been going to the grocery store once a month for over a year and a half, but now I have broke down my meal plans and go to town to the store twice a month. We live in the country, and I avoid making unnecessary trips anywhere as much as possible. We have several years to decide about school, but we are seriously considering homeschooling. I have this “teacher side” of me, and when I take the kiddos somewhere, I do my best to make sure they will benefit/learn from it in some way, but since we don’t have extra money floating around, I try to do it as cheap as possible. The other night, I made one of my husband’s (and mine) favorite supper and just to prepare it (90% from scratch) took me 2.5-3 hours (NOT including clean up time) because I had to stop and feed a baby, change diapers, distract a screaming 2 year old multiple times, etc.; then my husband got home, took the toddler with him to the fire station, and well passed bed- and supper-time we all finally got to eat. lol My husband didn’t complain though. Before our baby was born and only had one child to take care of, it would have only taken me 2 hours making it 100% from scratch). I will say though, my husband (EXTREMELY masculine fellow) will breakdown sometimes from the stress of everything, just like I do. Living in a rural area, there are very few SAHMs, and if you’re a SAHM living in the country, like me, going out with the girls, etc. isn’t really an option. I don’t really care to go out with the girls, go the the gym, etc. anyways; I prefer to be right where I am, home with my babies while they learn and explore new things. I feel very privileged to be a SAHM, and I don’t understand how any mommy could hate spending all day every day with their kids.
Just want to start off by say yes I’m a SAHM with 7 kids two of which are foster kids and have emotional, medical and behavioral issues, I cook most everything from scratch, keep an immaculate home, do all the laundry and iron 5 uniforms 4 of which are pleated skirts (that’s a lot of pleats), weed all the gardens, pick up the yard, help with homework, carpool, sew all their costumes myself, volunteer at their school and every school event, BTW we don’t have cable , video games or cell phones by choice so my kids don’t watch garbage on TV I actually interact with them, not to mention all the arguing, fighting, back talk, he said she said, complaining and laziness because mommy does everything for them and I still manage to make time for my husband at the end of the nightie and did I mention I also work part time at outside the house. I have also been a landscaper, painter, mover and general laborer among many other things which in comparison was about the same physically however much easier mentally. Also a job requires you for specific hour of the day as a SAHM your on call 24/7 365 days a year. Also your mommy may have done things the old fashioned way but she only had two kids that’s not that hard sweetie and by the way you are 22 yrs old and still have a lot to learn about life . I’d love for you to walk a day in my shoes these kids would chew you up and spit you out. Haha
Not sure how I ended up on this page, but thanks for the laughs. Hubby thought the same thing you did about 8 years ago. Then he was laid off and I went back to work. He was in charge of the 5 year old and 1 year old. Six months later he was back to work-he never again complained about what I did all day. He is now back to taking care of the cars and mowing the lawn (since I bought him a riding mower-that way I could release that ‘job’ as well) He now tells other people (who complain I should get a job) that taking care of the kids IS my job.
I feel this site contains contradicting messages to women – Should we stay at home looking after the kids because that’s our “purpose”, while feeling indebted to our husband’s for having a full time job? Or are we supposed to work full time – something which this site seems to deem horribly unattractive in a wife?
I just quit a decade long full time career to stay at home with my children and support my husband’s travel requirements for his job. This is so fucking much harder than my career, and so much more important. It’s hard and wonderful and exhausting and demanding on so many levels. I am sacrificing my earning potential and personal career path, because I want the others around me to prosper. It’s the right thing to do in my case, but I wouldn’t expect you to understand such matters. Walk a mile.
Is this really what our generation considers being a SAHM?! I don’t forsee my life as a SAHM being anything like this, nor do I want it to be! In what way is a woman sitting on her ass all day a SAHM? My son is currently 9 months and the only thing I hope for as he gets older is the ability to fold the laundry, do the dishes and clean without having to stop 20 times before it gets done. I fully intend to homeschool him in the future. Even if I didn’t I still don’t see my life being anything like the so-called mothers mentioned above.
While feeding, changing and actually interacting with my son (not sitting him in front of a TV) I do several things. Almost every single day the house is vacuumed and steam mopped. On some days I do one then the other the following day. The dishes are done during the day and after dinner. I can’t stand dishes on the counter and our sink is small, so this can’t really be avoided unless I DO sit on my ass all day. His bottles are cleaned everyday, laundry is done at least every other day, the house is cleaned daily, all meals are made from scratch and I even make cookies or a cake from scratch for my husband to take to work once or twice a week. I also take care of 3 animals, take my son for walks and do various projects and repairs around the house.
I don’t go to the bar, go out to lunch with friends, sit in front of the TV or sit online all day. My life is my home and family.
This idiot author is only 22 years old. What do you expect from a child who knows nothing of home making?
So you are a guy without kids? The perfect knowledgeable mother then haha. Talking through a hole in your arse on the internet. How original and clever lol.
I see a lot of negative comments on here, I don’t think that the OP was talking about women who homeschool, or those who homestead, or those who spend 10-15 hours each day making sure their families are well taken care of. They are talking about a particular brand of stay at home mom who sits in the 400,000 dollar house (that her husband pays for), goes to mommy walking clubs and “bible studies” (gossip fests), has lunch with her friends (on her husbands dime), and then goes and racks up credit cards (on her husbands money), goes and orders take out EVERY NIGHT, while her kids are 13, 10, and 7, and then complains that she works SO hard and no one appreciates her. I am a stay at home mother and personally I hate it. It is literally not working. With automatic clothes washers, automatic dishwashers, machines that do nearly every aspect of work for you plus not cooking (since prepackaged was invented and preferred by the typical suburbia household), stay at home mom is an obsolete term, and I should know, I’m there. if you WANT to work you are made out to be a monster who doesn’t give a damn about their kids. Well I’m sorry, I think that is a front for those who ARE unbelievably lazy and do not want to be shown up by someone who can do more. I think the OP is spot on about the typical suburbia housewife (excluding farms, homesteads, homeschoolers, etc).
I ended up here looking for something else and found the tittle intriguing. I am a stay at home mom, but with a 5 year old that just started school a month ago, 21 month old and 7 month old. I understand this article is about mom’s who continue to stay home even after the kids are in school. I don’t know, I always just assumed once the kids were old enough that all of them were in school, I’d be working again. It just makes common sense.
I don’t know what other stay at home mom’s do as I’ve never been the type to get into that “clicky” non-sense that women engage in (comparing themselves to others, judging others, talking behind their backs… I can’t stand this behavior and will not be part of it). Anyway, I do my best to keep the house clean/comfortable (could I do better, yes). I get up at 6:15 every morning to get my daughter ready for school (I have to get the other two ready as well since my husband is on his way to work before it’s time to take her to the bus stop). I keep busy trying to make extra money from home, which is why my home isn’t perfectly spic-and-span clean. There’s only so much time in the day, and I’ve decided to try to make us some extra money while I stay home with the kids, that means the house isn’t perfect looking a lot of the time). I’m hoping that if I’m lucky, by the time the kids are all in school, I’ll be making enough money from home that I don’t have to work at the gas station, or Wal-Mart, I’m thinking ahead here, but also, if things haven’t taken off by then, so be it. Gas station clerk it is. My husband knows this is what I do for a large portion of the day and is okay with this. But again, I always have meals ready (even if it is just a hamburger helper), my husband sure as hell isn’t doing the dishes at night?!! … Honestly I can’t believe that anyone who is NOT working and does NOT have small children at home would expect some of the things mentioned here (hell, I even mow the lawn, not my husband).
The thing is, I know my husband works hard, and he knows I work hard, it’s just in two completely different ways. I don’t think either of us would care to switch roles either as we each know the other has their own stresses to deal with.
Anyway, I always assumed that stay at home mom’s knew they had a part to uphold, and I wonder if there are really that many that fit into the type of category you describe in this article? Again, I don’t know, I keep to myself generally and avoid getting into the catty bullshit that most women find “fun”, so I have no basis to really know.
I’m still not understanding why someone wouldn’t find at least a part time job after the kids have gone to school? It makes no sense to me.
1. Hasn’t it occurred to any of the negative commenters that a working mother would have to still do all of the housework, cleaning, cooking, childcare etc. while still working 8-12 hours outside the home? You don’t need to be a SAHM to do all of the chores and childcare that was mentioned. You HAVE to do the majority of those things, whether you work outside the home or not. Do all of you honestly think working mothers don’t do all of the same chores that you do?
I’ve met quite a few women who’ve worked 8-12 hr long days, and then came home and did the laundry, cleaned, and cooked meals from scratch for their kids. Staying at home doesn’t magically mean you do more work or put more effort into the household.
2. On the other hand, for school age children specifically I believe that if they’re old enough to go to school, then they should start doing their own chores, laundry, cooking, cleaning etc. To have a child over the age of 12 who doesn’t do his/her own laundry, cooking, and vacuuming/moping/housework, is very silly to me. There’s no reason at all why a child can’t take responsibility for the majority of their own care after a certain age. I did all three of the things I mentioned from the age of 10-11, when I was a child. And when they reach teens, they need to have a part time job, online or in-person is irrelevant, but they should be contributing to the household income, or should be saving up for when they move out.
3. I think homeschooling is inappropriate for children over 5-6 yrs of age. I realise some kids may have learning disabilities, or there could be extreme circumstances that they need to get out of, but otherwise I would want my children to be self sufficient; aka not depending on their parents to plan out their day, or make their curriculum/schedule. Public school would be perfectly fine, and I would expect my wife to work as soon as the youngest was in school.
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can’t make up my mind on if you’re actually being sincere or aiming for “shocking” and exaggeration. I am a SAHM to a 4 year old boy and a 10 month old boy. I chose to quit my job and stay home with them, but that doesn’t change the fact that it is hard work. I have a bachelors degree in nursing and worked several extremely busy and stressful hospitals. So yes, I can comprehend hard work. I’m sure you’ve heard this before, but it is a different type of hard work. I cook 99% of all the food in our house, I clean and do all of the laundry. I am lucky if I get any breaks or time to myself during the day. How is that possible? Put the baby down to make food, commence screaming. Put the baby down so I can I dunno brush my teeth or pee? Commence screaming. It’s day full of constantly saying no, while trying to teach and encourage. It’s a day where everything takes 10x longer to complete than if you did it alone and the day reappears everyday for years. It’s draining on your self worth to have a valuable college degree and not get to further your career or make money. I would love to hand off my kids and have a challenging medical case to assist on, but I love my kids and their well being more.
Alrighty then, first of all I am SO glad my husband doesn’t think like this. To him, a man is supposed to be the breadwinner. I don’t know where you got your make believe schedule for stay at home moms but let me just say you’re way off buddy. I get up and make breakfast for the family, pack up all the lunches and start dinner prep depending on what we are having. I drive the kids to school and either do my grocery shopping, go to an appointment or come straight home and clean. Then I go visit my mother in the nursing home and bring her a treat that she likes. I do this every day, my mom has nobody else. I go pick up kids, help with homework, make dinner, clean up, run to various activities, get kids showered and ready for bed, fix them a snack, if my husband needs anything done like something mended or finding papers, I do that. Get the kids to bed, finally fold and put away all the laundry. I do this every day….weekends are interesting because the kids are both home. As for part time jobs…sure but are you going to watch my kids on sick days, holidays and vacations? No? Didn’t think so. And I have two kids, both in school. Oh and a baby on the way.
You’re a badass. That’s all I’m gonna say.
Unfortunately some housewives haven’t taken their job seriously, but assuming she is actually managing the home well, then her job is just as important and she works just as hard as her husband, if not more. Imagine taking care of multiple children, breastfeeding, changing diapers, cooking from scratch, cleaning and organizing, laundry, errands, and grocery shopping, meal planning, ironing, and the list goes on. some days will be more chaotic and some will be less. but that’s the same as any other job that a husband may work outside the home. some days there wont be as much work to do and he may spend time on facebook too, or other days he may be super swamped with demands from his boss. whos to really say overall one works harder? it shouldn’t be a competition. both people just need to work at their job seriously, and if some days are more relaxed then others, then just enjoy it!
I realize this blog is old, however, I feel the need to “check in” as I feel im a decent sahm. I’m 27, husband is 29 (amazing amazing man, hard worker, very responsible). We have a 3 1/2 year old girl and it is HIS CHOICE for me to stay home (until our daughter starts kindergarten) for which I am very thankful. I feel like I very much do what is expected of me. I clean house every single day. He always comes home to a clean home, a clean child and warm home cooked meals every night (except for the occasional pizza or date night), laundry is always done, etc. I also make sure that I keep myself in shape and looking nice for him every day and never deprive him of..ahem..*sexy time *. HAHA Some may say I’m bragging on myself and the truth is..I sort of am bc I try my hardest to be the opposite of what people think stay at home moms are. I don’t want to be the shitty wife who stays at home and neglects everything. I want my husband to be proud of me just like I am of him. 🙂 Just my story/opinion. Have a wonderful day everyone!
So sorry you’ve only met this type of SAHM. I am a SAHM and do work a lot. I have a toddler (I know you said its a different story, but let me share), I wake up several times at night to comfort and breastfeed. I do all the housework while watching for the little one. He is in the tantrum phase and believe me, its quite stressing to deal with that all day. Plus, I cook from scratch, make our own bread, bathe him everyday, run errands, shop for food (My hubby takes the car so we walk). Sometimes he is so demanding I can’t do a lot of the things I have to because he wants me to hold him at all times. When he goes to sleep at night and hubby comes from work, I serve dinner and he usually is really tired. But my day is not even close to end…. I still have to iron, clean the kitchen, pick up toys, make bread, do more laundry, and still be willing to spend some “romantic” time with hubby. So yes… I believe both mine and hubby’s work can be stressing, same level. I did go to college but chose to raise my own children.
PS: I don’t have a dish washer or dryer.
I grew up in big family. 7 brothers. Not to compare apples and oranges, but 2 kids versus 7? My mom worked and did household chores and cooked us good food. By herself. Call me a feminist or some other bullshit insult, but this actually made me respect moms more. Except mommy bloggers. Screw them.
I´m lost, zillions of post here bitching about women who work intead of take care of their families, then i found another post bitching about housewifes. Where the hell i have to do ???? I should marry a housewife, i should marry a corporate woman i should keep playing videogames till 50…????
My wife has a nanny 5 hours each day. She cooks on average once a week. We have a cleaning lady come over to clean the house. I make a good living. And we have constant arguments about me helping out “50/50” when I get home from work. This is utter BS. Her dad and my dad in their time never lifted a finger after coming home from work. They went golfing in their free time. I’m practically at 40/60 helping out when I’m home and she’s giving me the damned business. These women are spoiled rotten and these artarded “reality” shows (like the harpies on “Real Housewives”) are not helping.
Then she’s got harpy friends who’ve divorced their perfectly-good non-cheating husbands and she’s threatening the same. If it weren’t for my little girl, I’d seriously consider it.
Oh, and she says she’s “starting a business” and needs the time off. So she claims to be exhausted at the end of the day as much as my full-time paying job is. Except that her business is making zero money, the long term goal has near zero income. I call it a hobby (if you can’t make a living off of it) and she gets offended by it.
I run into this all the time with my Spouse.
God help me if I even suggest I am tired or have less free time than her.
I work full time as a Mechanic and go to school full time.
My normal day consists of:
Waking up at 8am (I work later than most people) tending to my daughter (feed, change, give bottle), wait for mommy to come downstairs so I can go to work. I usually don’t have time for breakfast. If I am lucky, she comes down in time so I am not late for work.
At work, I don’t get a coffee break. I work in the heat and humidity. I go to class at 12:30 and go straight back to work at 3pm. Lunch consists of wolf in down a sandwich between cars.
I usually leave work around 9 or 10pm, usually with my S.O. berating me for being late.
I come home and am greeted by a stack of dishes. IF I am lucky, my child is still awake, but it’s a mixed blessing because now I get to put her to bed because SHE needs her BREAK.
I then go about tidying the house, and getting trash out, as my spouse doesn’t have the “time” to clean up after herself. She goes to bed and I’d I am lucky I get there by 2am. 3am baby wakes up and I tend to her.
Rinse and repeat all week.
Weekend comes and I do laundry and re tidy the house…meanwhile wife complains that we do everything late. Keep in mind that she doesn’t drive so I get to cart her around. If there is appointment for her or baby I get to leave work and do it which costs Me time and money.
I cook occasionally.
I also clean when it gets bad because she thinks she does but really does NOT know how to clean.
She has time for Facebook.
She has time for blogging.
But according to her I have more time than her.
I also have to pay for counseling services because we obviously argue a lot, but I love her dearly and don’t want to be without her.
And…if I decide to go hang out with a friend once in awhile I am being self centered.
Yet SHE works harder than me. With one child that I help with.
Yup, mmhmm.
Reason #9753890743 staying at home and working for your man is a stupid idea. I love my career and am so glad the only time I’m dealing with assholes like this is watching HR terminate them for harassment.
You want an inferior woman who cooks, cleans, doesn’t complain, and openly tells you how much more important you are in comparison to her, because you get to file taxes at the end of the year? You’re a monster. That woman you describe, she is real. You use to call her “mom” and she is the only woman that is responsible for take care of you. Well until you become an adult. Good luck with keeping a marriage. Could you imagine what it would be like being married to someone that MAKES you keep a journal of what you did all day, judges the meal you prepared for them because it doesn’t taste like grandma’s cooking.. belittled by your child’s other parent because YOU raised THEIR child while they were at work and while they only had a “measly” hour lunch, 2 hours of childless commute time, adult interaction, a paycheck and when they get home?! Guess what!? You (the lazy stay at home parent) get to cater to your working superior spouse. Damn. Being a stay at home parent sounds like a dream come true, huh? I am assuming if both parents worked nobody would have to cook, clean, raise kids, grocery shopping, plan birthday parties, make the monthly budgets, schedule and provide transportation for Doctor appts, make home repairs, do laundry, make lunches, handle the actual task of paying the bills, take care of pets [scooping litter, picking up dog poop etc], you wouldn’t have to worry about getting involved at your child’s school, or taking them school clothes shopping, or preparing the house for winter, or organizing the kids closets and removing all the clothes they are rapidly growing out of. Nope not you. Not the working parent. You just pay for it. Thank goodness. If you were my spouse I’d prefer you be the one working, because I wouldn’t be able to get through an entire day of house work, child care AND listening to a grown man bitch about how much harder he works. Maybe you can take your wife to work with you and you can show her what she needs to be doing in order to be deemed an equal in your eyes. Most sahm come from middle class, we can’t afford the upper class sahm lifestyle you seem to know so much about. You got your info from out bitching working husband. Usually, you wouldn’t ask a chef how your steak taste, being that you are the one eating it and he can only express an opinion from his perspective.
My bf stays home and I’m the bread winner. He takes care of our daughter and the house. He loves it. And he’s totally smart and sexy. So this article can go to hell
You sound very butthurt. Equality is also a very abstract term.. I doubt this can every truly be achieved in the context many people place it. But equality in terms of not believing one is better than the other is something that should be achieved. Discussing family roles is also a complicated matter as there are a lot of factors to consider. You need to take yourself off that pedestal. Congrats on being smart enough to be a computer engineer. As a smart person though, you must be well aware that not everyone has the same skills as you. What you obviously lack is empathy and the intelligence to appreciate others for their own unique attributes, regardless of how their intelligence level compares to yours (based on however that is you decide to define intelligence). Further, I hope you find a woman willing to take part in your same selfish-sounding entitled assholery. I hope she also bakes you lots of delishious resentment pies from scratch with the ingredients you financially provided. You sound like quite the catch.
Thank you! I just have impossible time respecting y at home mom’s.I’m just saying my mom worked 40 hours a week and did all of the stuff a SAHM does so I’m not seeing how SAHMs contribute anything. Their leeches to their husbands, most not all have limited education.to me their examples of weak women.
That is nothing but a complete male fantasy in the year 20 fucking 17!
Unless you got s wife through religious arranged marriage or sharia law, that’s it. You can’t tell no wife to do anything regarding house cleaning or laundry unless your a real alpha make. Otherwise they play the “exhausted mommy” role. Even when they forget all your kids are in school full time and you are the dad, slowly dying from marriage.