The 5 Pillars Of Manhood

Much has been discussed about what a man should be like, what a man should do etc. However, as I lurked through ROK, I found myself wondering: what makes an adult male, a man? Most people would say that losing your virginity automatically makes you a man. Does it though? With all the man-babies and spineless betas, there are non-virgins among them.

Other cultures had different standards; some tribes in Africa and even some of the earlier European clans required the hunting and killing of a dangerous animal as proof of adulthood. Others required just an age limit (in Jesus’ age, the Hebrew community stated that a male was an adult when he was 30 years old).

Of course, when the criteria are so diverse, there are other core principles behind, that above criteria try to fulfill. I have pondered a lot about that, and I found five core values that a male must achieve to be considered an alpha.

1. Responsibility

This is the discerning value that separates the adults from the children. And by responsibility, I don’t mean bullshit like “take out the trash” or “feed the cat”, I am talking real responsibility, like taking care of the house (along with finances) and at least another human being. That is a core principle that underlies behind the whole “virginity” thing; by the time this “rule” was established, contraception was not nearly as developed as it is today. So, a loss of virginity meant, more often than not, marriage and a child on the way (or the other way around), which meant immediate and heavy responsibility. Other come-of-age rites like the hunting meant that the “boy” was able to take up arms and fulfill his duties as a warrior and protector of the tribe, so more responsibility there.

Responsibility may be core on the whole adulthood theme, but that can be equally said about women too. From here on though, are the attributes that distinguish real men.

2. Discipline

A person without discipline, is a person without a driving force. Discipline, along with determination (see below) are the two things that enable a man to achieve his goals. Working on something not because he has to, but because he wants to (especially if it doesn’t give immediate rewards) and because it is the right thing for him to do, is what separates humanity from animals that act on instinct alone. The military is a great place to actually hone this core value to the best of your ability. Guys without discipline (or guys who lose their discipline) deteriorate quite rapidly, as their whole energy and purpose collapses after half-assed attempts.

3. Determination

Having the discipline is all nice and good, but if you lack the will to start it, you go nowhere. Determination is the brother value of discipline in starting and keep going on your goals, whatever they may be. A male without determination is like a jellyfish thrown by a catapult; he has (or not) the discipline to go, but he splatters all over the place when he hits something hard. Do not mistake determination for courage though; courage is one of the more complex and combined values (see below).

4. Focus

Having the driving force behind your back, it is now necessary to steer the ship; focus is the thing to keep you from going astray. A man without focus won’t achieve his dreams anytime soon. Focus may be difficult to hone, as it is something that does not come naturally and is quite hard to train on. Trying to keep a reminder (usually visual) of your goals on display somewhere where you can see often is a movie-inspired (Rocky IV- when Balboa put a picture of Ivan Drago on his mirror, right next to the picture of his wife) but common way to maintain focus, but it is not the only one. Focused men reach very far into their direction, which can be a double-edged sword. Because focus is about keeping your direction, but not choosing it.

5. Logic

Choosing your direction is something that is provided by logic. And by logic, I mean liquid-helium cold logic. Women tend to act on emotions, and it is up to men of reason to steer them right. A man without reason is best described as a “loose cannon”. This may be the trickiest of the five values to hone and assess, as it is purely mental – physical stimuli is ineffective at large to train your logic skills. Please note that by logic, I do not mean common sense – I can’t stress this enough. The following example of game theory will try to explain what I describe as “logic”:

Suppose three men, that decide to solve their differences with a pistol duel. Mr Black is the worst shooter of them, having only 33% accuracy. Mr Grey is better, having 66% accuracy. Mr White is the best of them, with 100% accuracy. To be fair, the sequence of shots starts with Mr Black, then Mr Grey, and then Mr White, until only one man is left standing. What should Mr Black do?

Common sense says Mr Black to shoot at Mr White; if he shot at Mr Grey and hit him, then it would be Mr White’s turn and Mr Black can be considered dead, but in the off-chance that he hits Mr White, it would be Mr Grey’s turn and he has 33% odds of surviving for the next round.

Cold hard logic, however, says this: Mr Black should shoot the air.

The aftermath is easily explained, why this is truly the best option; Mr Grey and Mr White will certainly go for each other, as they pose a greater threat, and whoever survives, Mr Black will have 100% odds of having a one-on-one duel where he has the first shot.

That kind of machine-like logic is shunned by many; namely almost all SJW and other emotional goons, with the appropriately non-logic argument “it’s cynical/negative/inhumane” – notice that none actually says “it’s wrong” because it is not. Believe it or not, it was actually logic that led me to the manosphere. But I digress.

You may be puzzled by the absence of other high-held values, but if you look close enough, you can see that those values are just combinations of the above. Bravery can be a calculated risk. Workout can be a logical means to hone discipline. Game can be a combination of all five to the goal of sex. Minimalism is the logical consequence of applying logic and discipline to your life.

While declaring that those principles are the pillars of manhood is surely arrogant and quite prone to error, it is something I have deducted after much, much observation and thought. You may agree or not, but the truth is, whenever someone lacks any of the above, or loses it along the way, we all see the aftermath. These core principles are the foundations on which you can build your castle, whatever form that may be.

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45 thoughts on “The 5 Pillars Of Manhood”

  1. i can admit i lack the first 4 at 19 years old. its just so easy to do nothing… Sigh

  2. Great article. I am currently struggling with focus. It is so difficult to focus these days with internet and smartphones.

    1. Had to get a handle on that myself more than a few times. Overblown multitasking with tech can manufacture dilettantes and thins the herd of masters. It’s kinda sneaky since it feels like productivity is being increased, but sometimes it is increased wrongly.
      Suddenly you can be left wishing for that non-existent 25th hour in the day so you can get it all done, but it never comes.

    2. If you work on a computer, buy a special work computer and disable its wifi. Or just remove all browsers. I use Freedom, an easy blocking tool that lets you turn off wifi for a determined amount of time. I also go to cafes and public places where there is poor or zero wifi.
      Smart phone: Keep it in the other room on silent.

  3. Terrific article. I see nothing arrogant about it. And I see how few men in Western Society there really are.

  4. This article needs to be read by the tonights protesters at the #Deploraball
    and soon to be nut job protesters on inauguration day

    1. These are character traits designed to trap men into servitude. What men need to learn is a bit of self interest. Learn to fuck them and walk away from them, white women ain’t good for anything else. Her body, her choice, so let her face the consequences of her actions ALONE.

      1. Focusing on your own goals because you desire to achieve them is a trap?

      2. western women are NOT good for anything else; it’s not just because “her hole, her choice”, there are more reasons for it:
        =what they sow is what they reap
        =being ungrateful, disobedient, bitchy and arrogant
        =being selfish, self-centered and irresponsible
        =not respecting cultural and traditional values
        =being slutty & whorish, yet demanding chivalry
        There is no need for MEN to learn how to FUCK women and there is no need for women to learn how to get FUCKED by MEN. Every female species on this planet needs to get fucked (reasons: desire, lust, heat periods, PLEASURE and hey, it’s FREE !) by MALE species, that’s how the nature works !
        Don’t mention color; majority of women, especially western women are ain’t for nothing, other than spreading !

  5. Sounds like the sort of shit women force on men …… responsibility, I’ll accept some, when women accept some.

    1. You don’t think that this attitude is part of the problem at all? That the sibiotic relationship begins and ends on men’s actions and not on their reactions to women?

      1. I don’t think you can turn the clock back. Accept and move forward. Adapt yourself to survive in the new environment.

        1. I think the idea of adapting to the new environment is a good one, I take that very seriously as well as the idea that you can turn back the clock.
          I am not sure how this removes the yolk of being great, being responsible, being a strong man from you. Reassessing modern masculinity is one thing, adding to the problem of weak men because you give up and just say what the fuck is quite another

        2. And this is why being focussed on the jews, feminists and so on is wrong for a man.
          We are not victims; we let this happen.
          Men built this civilization and it has always been up to us if it falls and if it rises again.

        3. Never could follow the Jews as the Big Bad logic myself. Sure they have too much sway for such a tiny group put they are hardly a threat to me & mine. Feminists of the butchy Hillary type are going extinct soon & the slutty feminists do have one useful function.

    2. So until women accept some responsibility, you’re telling me that you’re perfectly justified to shit on your fellow hard working man, defaud him, steal from him and harm him without taking any responsibility?
      That’s kind of a really, really bad answer, hoss.

      1. Where did I say any of that?
        I rarely interact with any man except on a ‘pass me another beer’ level.

        1. Your missing the power and solidarity of brotherhood. Perhaps you need to attain more real men in your life? If your only interaction is with hoes then you eventually become one yourself brother!

  6. Quality read.
    Save & Print for later study.
    Thank you for this contribution it helps us build the world of tomorrow.

  7. Feed yourself through the necessary channels:
    1. Physical – gym, contact sport, climbing, or anything else that really tests you
    2. Intellectual – master Intellectual domains … preferably at least one direction useful to your life.
    3. Well-being – believe in something that gives your life purpose and meaning. Not necessarily religion. Just have a place in your mind beyond the day-to-day routine and people’s trivial shit.
    My 2 Cents

  8. “Most people would say that losing your virginity automatically makes you a man.”
    No, if you once were a virgin, you are definitely not a man.

  9. Well said, Mr. Brendan. I agree. Fresh approach to the disciplines of logic as a science of the sensibilities. Something about disappearing into long stretches of “machine-like logic” (as the article says) that stoke or deepen the suspense of delayed gratification. Some might go so far as to say these approaches are among the finer things in life.
    It can also be said that if you know a man long enough, eventually you’ll see him restraining his violence. Among other attributes, applied logic keeps us out of the danger zone of our own natural negative impulses (as opposed to positive spontaneity, which logic occasionally abides to hide away from, and not block certain essential acts of risk-taking that must defy logic in order to feel “alive inside”).
    Life being as dynamic as it is, the harnessing of logic has evolved to be highly nuanced.

  10. I always liked this from Robert Heinlein
    A human being should be able to change a diaper, plan an invasion, butcher a hog, conn a ship, design a building, write a sonnet, balance accounts, build a wall, set a bone, comfort the dying, take orders, give orders, cooperate, act alone, solve equations, analyze a new problem, pitch manure, program a computer, cook a tasty meal, fight efficiently, die gallantly. Specialization is for insects.

  11. Be careful of Nr.1. People can abuse it, and try to shame you on pretty much everything with: “You are so unresponsible” “OMG, grow up” ad nauseam.
    Only keep your real responsibilities.

  12. Never trust a man with two first names. I’m kidding, of course. 🙂
    A female coworker just quit her high-paying job, sold her house, cashed out what little retirement savings she had, broke up with her boyfriend–all on a whim–and is “traveling the world”. She expects to do this with around $90,000 in total. When I pointed out the illogical, irresponsibility of this, I was quickly surrounded by the other female hyenas, yipping and snarling at me.
    “You go girl!”
    “Good for you! Find yourself!”
    “You don’t need no man!”
    Ad nauseam.

    1. What would she have gained in staying in her job? She can always go back and find some sort of job, even if she loses 10-20K p.a. in the future. She will probably be able to pick up work in other countries too.

    2. She’ll be back when she’s out of money, somewhere after the 32th encounter with a “fellow traveler” in a hostel. Back for the beta with a job and a house and ready for impregnation 5 minutes before the last good egg dries out. Or she will get pregnant and does the same but cuck a beta.

  13. The problem I’ve found is “manliness” is physical. It’s about being biologically real and biologically competent. This is difficult in a technological century. Why?
    At one time a man could learn a physical skill that he could master, earn a living and pass on his competence to the next generation, gaining respect and self esteem. This is no longer possible. A man can become obsolete in a matter of decades, his children are more up to speed on current technology. He becomes irrelevant to his family.
    Today what is valued is the ability to be programmed with education to serve technology. If you can’t you’re irrelevant. But the bar is always changing. What was true yesterday is wrong today. Look at investing, the old rules no longer apply. That’s what’s killing men. We now live in an age of emotional ups and downs that defy logic and physical competency. There is nothing logical about an economy that wants robots to replace humans. News is nothing more than hysterical gossip about what “might” happen.
    Women dictate what a man should be and men are silenced if they disagree. Being a man no longer fits, the economy or social mind set. Be a man for yourself, just don’t believe this society will applaud you for it.

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