The 7 Deadly Sins Of Manhood

There have been endless debates about what it means to be a man, and while we may never reach a consensus, I believe that we can start with a process of elimination by identifying traits that are clearly antithetical to masculinity. The following seven traits have been chosen as the great sins of manhood that plague men today.

1. Self-Pity


Of the seven sins listed here, this is the most pathetic of them all. This is when a man chooses to see himself as a victim and engages in all sorts of pity-seeking behaviours from crying and complaining to throwing temper tantrums. A man who feels sorry for himself is a man who takes no action to change his circumstances. A man who wonders why his life is so miserable only succeeds in amplifying his own misery. Self-pity is akin to digging your own grave. Any man who commits the sin of self-pity deserves no mercy from this harsh world.

2. Complacency


Complacency equates to lack of drive and resignation—it is essentially giving up without even trying. A complacent man is a drifter and a nobody who only acts when prompted by an external force. And in the original seven deadly sins listed by the Catholic church, this was known as sloth.

The problem with our modern society is that it has become far too comfortable (at least materially) for men. In the past, men would exercise their masculine energy out of sheer necessity as they faced constant danger for survival and conquest. But today, there isn’t such need. Most men work in safe, controlled environments that often don’t even require physical exertion. That, in combination with the fact that men are surrounded with various electronic screens to entertain them induces physical degradation that soon weakens the mind as well. Once trapped, even an ounce of effort starts to feel like a burden.

Complacency is no way to live. Whether you be religious or not, you must have a certain drive or a purpose. A religious man will know the path that had been laid out by his God; an atheist must create a meaning of his own to strive towards. Either way, all men must keep their passion burning and march on forward.

3. Cowardice


Cowards die a thousand times in their lives. And a man who lets fear dictate his destiny is nothing but a slave.

Fear is a trickster that has a funny way of controlling men with distorted and exaggerated imagery to inhibit action. The truth is that most of what we fear is benign. Unlike the dangers we faced during our primal times, the risks we engage in today will almost never lead to physical harm or death. Yet, how often do men submit to the gripping terror of having to approach a girl in the street, or to stand up and speak out against the toxic PC culture? How often do men quit before even starting because of their fear of failure and ridicule?

Fear, much like pain, is inevitable in life. Bravery is not about the absence of fear, but the embrace of it. Many men would do well to laugh in the face of such phantom by focusing more on pushing ahead towards their goals.

4. Distractedness


If you think about it, your entire life is all about focus of your time and energy. Without focus, you are just spilling your life away. Being distracted easily is a sign of lack of discipline, and this is becoming more and more apparent in today’s world where everyone seems to be dictated by the beeps and alerts of electronic devices.

Know that every moment that you becomes distracted is a loss: you lose your productivity, you lose your time, and you also lose sight of your mission. And anything that takes your focus away from what’s truly important to you are distractions. They can be small daily distractions like smartphones, television, and the internet, to more profound ones that derail your life like poor financial management and toxic woman.

Your attention span is finite. Guard it with your life by removing the distractions or by removing yourself from the distracting environment. You are what you focus on, so be responsible for where you direct it.

5. Dependency

Man begging

Dependency and attachment are two sides of the same coin. A man may choose to become dependent on substances and entertainment to numb himself, or get overly attached to objects, people, and matters. No matter what he decides to cling himself onto, he desperately believes that the object of his attachment will bring about happiness and fulfillment. But will it?

According to Buddhist teachings, attachment is the source of all suffering. A man in need of an external source of validation is a chained man who wavers haplessly by the circumstances outside of his life. You should also know that attachment isn’t limited to just objects of desire; you can also become attached to anger and the desire for revenge, to pain and grief, and just about anything from the past and the future in the form of regrets and worries.

Remember: if you don’t want to be dragged, all you have to do is let go.

6. Weakness


Weakness comes in many forms and they are all equally harmful. Physical weakness is utterly inexcusable for a man and no further explanation is necessary. Mental weakness, however, is trickier. It is something that can creep into your soul at any moment, but especially during the times when you are vulnerable. As a man, you must be resolute in your belief that you will be able to handle any challenges that you face. You may not always resolve them to your liking, but you must always show strength and courage.

Weakness also creeps out in the form of supplication. Considering the audience here, I don’t think I need to go into details about all the simps who kowtow to the feminist imperative. Just be aware if and when you find yourself wavering.

Men are not born strong. Much like physical strength, the only way to defeat mental weakness is by training yourself over time through incremental steps: Learn to say ‘no’ to bullshit. Draw the line and stand up for yourself. Head towards fear and discomfort instead of avoiding them. Stop making lame excuses and just do it. You have to push your boundaries to shed your weakness; constantly telling yourself that you’re an “alpha” is not going to make you one.

7. Lack Of Will


Lack of will is the mother of all other sins listed here. A man without the force of will is no man at all. Without that fire which drives a man, nothing would be possible. It is especially difficult for men today—especially young men—to discover and kindle this virtue on their own. Men in today’s Western societies have been all but forsaken and pushed under to make room for entitled women and sexual deviants. In our feminized culture that seeks to destroy masculinity, it’s not surprising to see many men with low morale who have seemingly given up in their fight for existence. As bad as things may be, know that this is a condition to overcome, not something to lament.

Will is much more difficult to cultivate than strength. Some men just seem to be gifted with a strong will, but it is possible to cultivate it. By implementing some of the above mentioned tips and by dedicating every day to be better than the one before, you will forge your own iron will slowly but surely. It also helps to read about other great men as role models to emulate—having real-life mentors and other supportive men are even better. And last, remember: never give up. You just do not give up under any circumstances, life does not permit it.

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246 thoughts on “The 7 Deadly Sins Of Manhood”

  1. Firsties bitches!
    #2 is my favorite. It shows something that is true. No matter if you’re religious or not, ambition is an universal value that has pushed men (and why not, women as well) to strive. The shrimp that sleeps will be dragged away by the tide.

  2. Great article.”Pity…this is the most pathetic of them all” Agree with this. There is nothing more insulting than someone having pity on you or even worse having pity on yourself.

      1. Even as an “enlightened” man you still have to work hard to banish complacency from your life. It’s just too easy. best thing is to rid yourself of unnecessary electronic gear.

  3. Aside from Kratom jokes, articles like this are the gold that keep me coming back. Fuck all this game shite!

      1. Heh, pro-comment right there. Real life chuckle.

      2. Of course, nobody ever had sex before Ross Jeffries and Mystery came along. We were all dropped off by fucking Storks.

        1. You don’t seem to grasp the context of the age you live in. That’s fine, it will come to you eventually, or you’ll end up another lonely Elliot Rogers eyeing a pistol in a gun case.

        2. Exactly. Where before a man can go by simply dating a woman he was set up with at 15 and call it a day for life, the majority of people won’t fare as lucky. With information as wide spread as it is, and women sleeping with a closer estimate of 3 partners to every 1 a man can get, their information is far reaching and ever expansive, and those are conservative numbers. A more honest male to female sex ratio for the average guy to girl in Western culture is more likely 7 to 1, with the gap only closed by alpha men to 7 to 3.
          Game is needed to cover the spread created from the isolating environment the internet age has brought on. And if he believes we aren’t isolated in our thoughts and actions now more than ever, he must be able to say everything he has read on ROK including his truest opinions without any fear of slander. His argument is the equivalent of living in shit and calling it manure.

        3. You don’t have to buy anything. And don’t be snarky, that’s effeminate.
          You either don’t understand the field as it exists today and are mostly celibate, or you’re a natural and can’t understand that what you’ve internalized most men have never been taught. Or maybe you’re just bitter, I really don’t know. In any event to scoff at Game, which demonstrably works in the field, seems a bit silly on a PUA site.

        4. I will try to explain it to you as on this matter you seem to be a bit dense. We speak of game here often, and while for you it is buying a PUA and sarging, Day Game vs Night Game etc. know that is the condensed version. Long before your genetic material was produced, men were friendly, went out in groups to meet women, would know how to dance and talked about where they went to meet women and things to say plus places to go. Heck, some men went as far as passing women down to younger men for initiation into sex.
          In those times marriage was a given by 24 or earlier. Currently we have the highest divorce rate in human history. We are for the first time in human history below replacement levels. We have more access to communication than ever before and yet, still have men who are older than 30 who have not had sex. Not only are women having sex earlier, they are being celebrated for it. Women are also celebrated for going to college and pursuing a Master’s and moving on to a career. Because of these pursuits, most women will differ on marriage until, the time is right. What do you think is happening while the time ain’t right?
          We have women walking around with pierced septums, heads half shaved, divorce rape is a thing, weighing more than 50 pounds over your body weight, playing on Snapchat, being sugar babies is the new prostitute, and my body my right is the norm. Why do you think this is happening? It is because men are still calling these women attractive and the women are still able to get what they want from men as a whole. This is happening while men are being attacked for expressing masculinity. I can go deeper on this but know this, you may say game is not necessary, you may say game is for wimps who can’t get laid, but know women have been playing the game for the last 20 years and whooping our asses. Opt out of game if you want, but you were already a piece on the board before you were born.

        5. This is a very accurate interpretation of our reality/society. It is extremely evident in liberal cities like LA.

        6. Your math doesn’t seem to make sense. If the average woman has had somewhere in the neighborhood of 3 sexual partners, for every 1 the average man has had, then there must be some alpha dudes making up for it (just numerically speaking). There must be some alpha dudes that have had dozens to hundreds of sexual partners.
          Of course I’m just an old fashioned Christian dude, and my wife and I have each only had one sexual partner (each other), and we didn’t do it until we were married.
          Maybe I’m not a “badass alpha” but at least my woman is mine alone.

        7. Actually your assumptions are correct. Office women dressed to the nines show up at the places I haunt looking for their bad boy, routinely. They are *not* banging Bob Pastelshirt back in the office.
          Of course I’m just an old fashioned Christian dude, and my wife and I have each only had one sexual partner (each other), and we didn’t do it until we were married.
          Good for you. Seriously, I’m not being sarcastic, I think that this is fantastic.
          Maybe I’m not a “badass alpha” but at least my woman is mine alone.
          For now. Then you do the one thing that hits her trigger, and she’s out the door leaving your head spinning. Or you don’t even have to do anything bad, she might just read Eat, Pray, Love and decide to take a multi-national “taste different men” tour and you get to pay for it through the courts.
          I hope that doesn’t happen of course. It’s good that there are still some true traditional people out there. Best of luck.

        8. Thanks, and I hope that all doesn’t happen too.
          I’m working on becoming more alpha (within my Christian belief system), already more confident, more assertive, and making big progress weightlifting and shedding fat.
          A couple of great qualities in my wife’s favor are (1) she is a pretty darn serious Christian herself – She regularly reads the Bible (which is a radically patriarchal book when you think about it), not crap like “eat pray love”, and (2) she is from Asia, not America. She is feminine and traditional both culturally and religiously. Plus she is cute and thin. She has proven herself a faithful wife for these past 16 years.

        9. I salute you as a follower of Christ myself. Traditional Christianity was very patriarchal and proper. The modern incarnation of it, at least in the U.S., is so grossly contrary to the actual teachings of the Bible that it’s shocking. One need only sit through a Mother’s Day service and a Father’s Day service to see that it’s been utterly hijacked by feminism.
          I’ve heard that there are still traditional churches out there, but I’ve yet to stumble into one.

        10. That’s the truth. Churches have been hijacked by feminism, and then they wonder why many men bail out on religion, and the men that remain are a bunch of weak pussies, and are addicted to porn.
          I was part of that latter category for far too long.
          The whole “Mother’s Day” vs “Father’s Day” thing is VERY telling.
          Even most of the conservative and traditional churches seem to be full of cowardly wimps and weaklings, bending over backwards to not offend women.
          No wonder they got their butts kicked in the culture war.
          I’m still trying to evaluate whether my current church is worth staying in.

        11. It seems to not make sense until you get some actual numbers. On the ground, women are getting numbers to the tune of 23 and more by age 23-24. Women in college will just say, that’s about right. Others will be too embarrassed to share. Most men by the age of 25 have had 3 to 5 partners for their life. This is where I got my 1 to 7 figure. A lot of this is personal account from young ladies I slept with and those who confirmed the college environment up close and personal.
          From some alphas I ran into who may have had over 1000 partners or even over 100, those men are outliers. Remember 20 percent of men or less are sleeping with 80 percent of women or higher. Obviously with men sleeping with 100 women versus the women who have had 20 men by the age of 23, it appears like the numbers are catching up. But then you need to think of the age of the men. And then there is other aspect of women lying to fit the social norm so they don’t look atrocious.
          There are also invisible numbers that account for real world differences, like the 1000 cock stare, or the entitlement speeches. Secretly I believe, just as men gain confidence and potentially arrogance from sexual conquests, women knowing they are sexing way more, gain certain personality quirks depending on the amount of dick they received. For now, the numbers I posted make the most sense until we do a new honest consensus on sexual partners by the sexes.

        12. Thanks, I was just pointing out that there must be some dudes out there who are vastly exceeding the averages. There is some small group of guys who are banging all these women.

        13. have access to more communication that ever, but there are men who are older than 30 who have not had sex
          I read some kind of horrifying breakdown on the sex stats, and it basically confirms red pill alpha thinking: A small minority of guys are having sex with 25+ partners, where the majority of guys have sex with 3 women or less (in a lifetime).
          Also, I used to work with a guy who didn’t have sex until he married at around 50. Very awkward person. But if you saw him, not a lost cause at all. He was tall and thin, just had zero personality or social skills. You have to figure there are a substantial number of those out there…

        14. It’s so hard to relate to a man accepting that. I know that they may not have a choice though.
          And women are very open about pursuing what they see as alpha now, it’s almost open hypergamy at this stage. I get propositioned all the time now. All the freaking time. Meanwhile a lot of Millenial dudes are going incel. The chicks aren’t even hiding it any longer.

        15. It is scary. That’s why the no game crowd irks me. Not because I disagree with the idea of putting on a clown suit and dancing for a woman. I don’t think a man needs to do or should adopt this in his lifetime. But many concepts are uncovered and explained succinctly in the idea of game whereas if you tried to learn through experience, some concepts you may never get. Life is too short to spend any time lying to yourself and being anti-game yet supporting self improvement is an oxymoron. Game rings true to many men because at the core it is a layer of self improvement.

        16. The girls are also openly going after married guys. At the 50 year old virgin’s workplace was a shorter, fatter, married guy, without a college degree who had mediocre game, and he was banging 3 of the girls there. I partially attribute it to his game, although it was nothing to write home about, and partly attribute it to the girls being attracted to married guys. Like you say, open hypergamy.

        17. We learned about the Pareto Principle in human sexuality portion of Biology. His theory was that the top 20% of men will account for 80% of the future gene pool due to sexual selection.
          Males [being the gender that contribute less to raising offspring] means that they have to fiercely compete to mate. So any initial advantage [looks, physique, etc] are magnified and quickly becomes the new standard.
          This divergence of the genders cause sexual dimorphism in which the more masculine the male, and the more feminine the female, the better chances of reproduction.
          It’s not 100% accepted by biologists, but it makes sense and flies in the face of gender neutral theorists.

        18. It has been a long while. I was getting through the passing of someone near and dear to me so I may have been erratic on posts I imagine. Currently just happy to see some of the changes friends have made for the better this year and personally. Hope all is well with you. Now that some of the insanity is down maybe we can go back to having fun 🙂

        19. There’s a bit of info out there bout youngish people and std’s,
          from memory from a few different “studies”.
          Heaps and heaps of young ladies have std’s but very few young fellows have std’s,
          from memory again maybe 70% to 30% in favour of the young lasses….. and young gays, they have LOTS of std’s.

        20. I’ve always felt churches to be phony and self serving. They are, from what I’ve seen, no longer encouraging patriarchy in the ways they used to.

        21. Sadly I have had honest discussions with many young (under 30) girls. More than 80% of the girls are sleeping and chasing a tiny minority of guys. And worse still, they know they’re sharing the guy, and actively *compete* for his attention. In other words, they’re *not even bothered* by this situation! Unless you’re one of the tiny minority guys, you’re utterly f*****!!
          Then when they’re “tired of the games” (ie.the wall beckons mid 30’s) they completely whitewash their history and reinvent themselves to snare some hapless beta.
          I think all engagements/marriages should come with a mandatory polygraph test, in advance. That would reveal some unpleasant truths for sure!

  4. Good Stuff
    Lack of will is often related to lack of desire, although control of desire / will is equally important
    With much mental ill health, lack of volition / avolition is one of the most difficult things to deal with and aside of any other factors may reflect learned helplessness.
    Learned helplessness is what they teach boys at school these days. If after too many electric shocks you don’t even move when they cattle prod you, there’s a problem that needs addressing

  5. Pity is a revolting emotion to have or to have thrust upon you, or to even see given to somebody else. Whenever I feel that bilge swelling in my stomach, I instead start thinking about ways to help the person that involve teaching him to pull himself up and snap out of his funk. Sitting around sobbing with him is pathetic and a waste of your time, and his.
    On a happy note, there was an opportunity this very weekend to help a friend out and it succeeded, to my surprise. The dude’s fiance and LTR for several years up and left him when he lost his job. Now understand, he’s a good man and he was employed again within 3 weeks, but after 2 she just walked away. Further, she then
    immediately whored herself out to a man that I know who is very wealthy and nearly 20 years her senior. A clear resource grabbing bitch.
    He never really said anything about it after it happened, but I did bring it up when I saw him because I just noticed that a) she was seeing the new guy and b) he was out on the prowl a lot more. He was, what’s the word, not bitter-angry, but he was clearly disgusted with her. He laid out the details in plain order just like I did, said that he wasn’t mad at the dude that she left him for because he said that the responsibility for this entire thing was with her and her greed. That was really unusual for me to hear, most men whine and moan about their oneitis, he didn’t seem to suffer such things. He was very cynical about women in general and told me how he noticed other women in his acquaintance who had done similar things to their LTR’s. He also said that there was no point in even considering marriage to any girl ever again because he realized that the fantasy he was sold is just that, a fantasy.
    Dude was ripe for Red Pill.
    So we talked. He was very, very receptive. I gave him some sites to visit, including this one. This was such an clear conversion out the gate that it rather surprised me. And for him, I am happy and see great things in his future, he has his head screwed on straight.
    The older guy, well, he’s just digging his own grave. He’s a really competent artist who makes a hell of a lot of money, but he pedastalizes every woman who walks within ten feet of him. I’ve tried to pull him away from that mindset but he gets pretty angry at even the suggestion that he not be a simpering blue pill beta, so fuck it, he’s on his own.

    1. Always great to hear someone conquering their environment and their own perceived loss/weaknesses. Losing an ex in a very similar fashion, I can agree with all of his stance, except for on marriage. I have given up on it and feel most men have, in the context of Western marriage. There is still hope abroad.
      Since you mentioned some sites to recommend, not many men can handle the strong dosage of truth within the archives of ROK. What sites did you recommend as additional Red Pill sources?
      The older guy sounds like the old model of a simp; a good old fashion pussy panderer. I don’t have much else to offer a man like that but pity, because I know he won’t change even when broken. He’ll just dive deeper into failure.

      1. ROK, Rational Male mainly. Avoided Heartiste because he’s just gone way too race focused and this man really needs to consider RP ideas and not be distracted with the carnival over at Heartiste.
        The older guy really does exactly what you say. Idealizes one woman after the other in the most pathetic puppy dog way and buys them the moon to the point that it’s revolting to witness. Women know all about him and use him as their personal wallet most of the time, never reciprocating with any kind of “love” or sex and he couldn’t care less. Disgusting behavior. And yes, when he does get into a relationship he never learns from it. Meh.

        1. Thanks for the suggestions. Know a few guys who could profit from all of the good ROK has to share, but know they will be too biased to accept their flaws and ride the assumptive “this is all misogyny” band-wagon. I bought one of the Rational Male collections and what I saw there was gold! I’ll pass this along. Heard a little about Mike Cernovich as well. Bought one of his books, Gorilla Mindset, which was good, but wasn’t sure how his website pans out as an addition to the red-pill model available here.
          Sadly, I’ve seen those type of men before, and they never fail to surprise me how low they will sink. They believe having hundreds of female friends equals sexual interest. They have tons of ‘advice’ for how to treat women better. And until you have one of their, potential girlfriends throw their body your way, you would think, he must be getting some kind of sex. I still can’t fathom having lived an extra twenty years to my own life span and having women I’m sexually interested in take my money, and, even in relationships, provide no sex. I’d go mad!

        2. Direct him and others to “badass of the week” (, not for current social trends, but far more importantly and of immense value, to study the lives of legends such as Paddy Mayne, Larry Thorne, Ernest Shackleton, and Hanzo Hattori … and the extraordinary life and example of Jerry “Mad Dog” Shriver thrown in for good measure.
          That’s all that’s needed: carefully studying how these “men amongst men” lived and conducted themselves, and following their lead.

        3. Someone needs to make an article why women should give sex. Sex isn’t just for feeling good but is the most intimate and closest to understanding the other person. Much more than sitting across from each other and talking. Sex will bring out the most honesty while talking creates a lot more deception

      2. I’ve been thinking about starting a business for men finding wives abroad. I’ve done it, helped my brother do it (married my wife’s cousin, but still) and just recently an acquaintance of mine, a middle manager Jamaican dude I know, just took his first trip down. Says he had been thinking for years about going to Brazil but took the flight down to Guadalajara a week or so back after hearing me talk so much about it. Haven’t been back to his office yet to check in, but got me to thinking; I know a ton about this stuff (mexican women/culture, spanish, the visa process etc.) and could have helped him along the way for a fee. Is there a market for this though? I never saw one other Gringo in all my years down in middle mexico (beaches are different story) and none for sure looking for wives.

        1. Of course there is! Know a white male who prefers Mexican women in particular, the Selma Hayek variety, and is unlikely to ever truly become anything close to a PUA. If possible I would help him but as I don’t have a wife and believe he would want a wife to couple with and be done with sexual pursuits he would be best served if a service like this were available. I imagine many men in the sphere would jump on this as well who are anti-game. I prefer Eastern European women and Caribbean, but as I love all beautiful women, searching still suits a guy like myself.
          Not to throw shade on him, but if guys like Mehow can teach relationship math to men at an independent business level, I imagine men would jump all over this.

        2. Yeah, a good reputable place could do very well I think. The main problem would be the stigma, but with people regularly marrying partners they met online, I wouldn’t think a foreign bride service would be that different, plus you could always just say “we met online” which would technically be true.
          I am semi-seriously considering marriage to a foreigner in the next 5 years or so, and looked into the process. While the immigration rules are incredibly onerous for bringing girlfriends into the states, even short term, every American man has the automatic right to bring a foreigner here as his bride (although it costs $1,600+ to do so). Sometimes I am shocked that the system allows straight white men this luxury. Of course, I guess the government allows it as long as it gets its gold. I like to think that for every hot foreign bride that comes here, an obtuse landwhale is left stranded by herself. NB: I am not necessarily endorsing bringing your foreign bride here, but it’s nice to have that option.

        3. All in all, I’d say we spent about $10,000 out the door, from the fiance visa to my wife’s eventual American citizenship. That’s including trips to the embassy in Juarez and all the numerous government filing fees etc.
          One benefit to it is that you’re required to get married in under 3 months of her entering the US on the “fiance” visa. This left little time to arrange and plan a huge extravagant family wedding. So we went to the courthouse, done in under 10 minutes and 100 bucks.
          Been married 7 great years and probably 10-15k extra in our pockets just from dodging that bullet.

        4. The best part of “south of the border” game IMO is that beta/provider game is very much alive and well. Conversation flow is seen as the responsibility of both parties, far less clown game, everything solely for her amusement.
          There’s still a dating culture too. If you ever get serious with a Mexican woman, it’s important to specifically tell her you’d like to make it exclusive/go steady “Quieres ser mi novia?”
          Not to say it’s perfect, women are women the world around, but it’s less militaristic and in your face. In the modern landscape it’s easy to forget that the romantic stuff can be fun. Like holding your cell phone up to the marauding mariachi band so she can hear it. Or picking out flowers. It’s only when that stuff is slapped back in our faces by our American counterparts that we get jaded and resort to extreme aloofness and IDGAF.

        5. Yeah, more than anything, my experiences dating latina women are just *natural* for lack of a better word. You find yourself naturally flirting and escalating and wooing them (theres a throwback word for ya!) and if they like you, everything just works and there is minimal shit testing.

        6. $1600? Is that all? I spent that in a year just on gas in a long distance relationship. Driving an economy car nonetheless

    2. Self pity is something women do. Because it can actually yield results for them. There are a thousand chumps ready to do absolutely anything to make a self pitying woman’s life easier.
      Not so for men. A mans self pity will be met with indifference at best, ridicule and hostility at worst.
      It serves no purpose, which is why it is so pathetic when men do it

      1. “There are a thousand chumps ready to do absolutely anything to make a self pitying woman’s life easier.”
        You could expand on that and say the same for all 7 points. Women get rewarded by men for all those negative behaviors, while men get punished.

        1. This really was a great article. Sadly, I’ve spent much of my life committing many of these errors. Fortunately, now in my early 40’s, I am finally starting to “man up”.
          (warning, I’m about to go off on a religious rant. You can skip the rest if you don’t like thinking about religious stuff)
          I look at these things from a Christian viewpoint, and in many ways, I think the cowardly man is the man who doesn’t fear God nearly enough. Therefore, he is overwhelmed by the fears of a thousand lesser terrors. The man who truly sees and is terrified of the God of the Bible seems to me to be the man of true courage.
          The man who rightly trembles before God, doesn’t have to tremble before anyone else. The man who sees the Holiness of God, sees his own sin and unworthiness, humbles and submits himself to God, and then sees the Lord Jesus Christ as his righteousness, and the One who saves him from the Wrath of God knows that he is ultimately secure. At the end of the day nothing else matters. Nobody else can do ultimate harm to me. Jesus Christ holds the power of life and death, heaven and hell, the resurrection, and all things. I am His, and I am secure. He is my ultimate Master, and I really don’t have to take any crap off of anybody else.
          The biggest heroes in the Bible were the guys who saw God most clearly. Men like Paul, Moses, David, and Daniel trembled before God to such an extent that they eventually trembled before no one else, and in time changed the world.
          Different subject, but this morning I floor-pressed 185lbs 5X5 for the first time (that’s just the weight setup I have in my basement). A couple days ago, I deadlifted 300 lbs (which is all the weights I have)
          It isn’t much, but not too long ago I was only floor pressing about 125 lbs. I was like a bigger version of that wimpy kid in the above picture. Now, I am probably above average strength wise for American guys in their 40’s.

        2. Carry on brother. Very well said. I have had many of the same thoughts that you put into words so well. Keep getting stronger in every way possible.

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      2. I’ve seen so many women say “Oh i’m so ugly” or “Oh I’m so fat” when in both Cases the women are clearly beautiful, but they are just trying to get some chump to come over and say” Now that is not True, your very Beautiful”. Those Broads just want Validation through pity.

        1. I like “yeah, but luckily some guys will fall for your ‘bubbly personality’…”

        2. Been through that scenario. Tell them “yep you are fat, what are you gonna do about it”. Anything but the chump response

    3. Focusing on practical solutions and refusing to get pulled into a self-pitying man’s frame is a great way to separate the wheat from the chaff. It’s amazing how quickly parasitical individuals move on and find new people to attach themselves to when they realize they can’t manipulate you. You end up with a rock solid core of stable, like-minded friends.

      1. Fantastic observation and 100% true.
        I had (note the past tense) a friend who went through a stint of unemployment and was pretty shaken up about it. He started bitching and moaning about “poor me” and it got tedious. I connected him to another man I know who needed help in his business, and basically handed him a job. This guy’s response a few weeks later? “Yeah man, it’s not really paying as much as I need”, he said, drinking a beer and finally not being threatened with living in his car. Then he starts moping about that.
        Cut that fucker right out of my life. Screw him. You can’t help some people, and he was one of those kinds. There are better things to do than hang around sad sacks.

        1. Ditto, had the same experience. You just gotta ghost those types – not everyone can be saved.
          BTW – GoJ I’ve been a long (2yr) time lurker here; enjoyed your posts immensely when I arrived. But did you disappear for a while? And now… you’re back? What gives?

    4. i got a mailer for a charity that does corrective surgery for third-world children with cleft lips the other day. that got to me, not sure if the emotion i felt was pity or not, but yeah, feeling something like that for grown man in a relatively free and prosperous country is revolting. unfortunately, with things the way they are in 2016, it happens all the time.

      1. That kind of thing may be a bit of an exception to the rule, that is, children born with birth defects and such, because they’re not actually asking you to sit in the mud and cry with them, they simply exist outside of your world. Even then I have the impulse to help and not just sit and wallow in how awful life is to inflict such a thing on them. I guess pity to me always includes an element of inactivity. If your heart is pulled by such a sight and you try to help fix it (a charity as you mention) then that’s not really in the same category in my estimation.

        1. I think #1 in the article should’ve been self pity and not just pity. You have pity for your friend whose fiance left him and you did something virtuous and he will remember and return the favor in your time of need.

      1. I haunt Rational Male and mostly don’t comment there, and of course here as well where I comment way too much for my own good. Heartiste can crank out some top notch articles as well, but it’s becoming almost a WN site as of late. If you can avoid the race articles and stick with the critiques of feminism and pro-game articles, you can get a lot of good info there.

      1. In the way it’s set up in the modern age, yes. He meant it’s sold as a fairy tale. In fact it’s use in an age where women routinely abandon men to the wind and walk away with 80% of his possessions is highly questionable for any sane, rational young man. And now 70% or higher of all divorces are filed by women. To put it bluntly, it’s a trap.

        1. You’re right, but that doesn’t mean we should give up marriage, right?
          I mean, without marriage we can’t constitute family. How can we manage a proper society without family? To me it seems that what is broken is not marriage itself, what is broken is today’s values. Although feminists are inexcusable misleading, the root of their claims are not that wrong. Women were treated like objects in the past, and this is not right. We, as men, are the ones who have to lead society and relationships, so If feminist exist, it was because our ancestors had failed as husbands and fathers, and the fact that most of them didn’t treat their women properly is not a lie. If we properly manage our relationships with our women they will not turn against us. At least not if you know how to choose a women.
          We should not avoid married, instead we should find a solution for this problem. Are not the job of men to solve problems?

        2. The only rational solution is to seek outside the West if you want a family. Where you look is of course up to your tastes.
          I’m married myself, so it’s not like I’m against the concept of marriage.

        3. A young associate of mine was gobsmacked when I informed him that when they divorce you, that pension of yours you so carefully nurtured and paid into, whilst simultaneously paying for her entire life of ease…
          well, she’ll have that too. He was literally like “but but… No, no way. But… WHY??”
          One by one, they’re waking up.

        4. Please shoot yourself, at no time were women deprived of anything. If a man misbehaved he was shot, if a woman misbehaved she was slapped. Things are still the same, women get less punishment and more consideration than a man does. Why was it mostly women and children that survived the Titanic? Come on lemon brain, figure it out, women have had the good side of life from the beginning of time.

        5. Well, there is the Swedish solution. All women, regardless of marital status, receive the same pre-natal and delivery benefits. Given that their birth rate has dropped below replacement, and the effective nullification of traditional sex roles, probably their only option. Before we laugh – them now, us later.

        6. Yes sir you hit the nail on the head. Good women will not take advantage of you, and bad women need to be ruled into place.

      2. Marriage is sold like joining the army. Shown all great they are with no hardship but in reality they both suck

        1. I’m fully aware of the fantasies that has been mixed with the concept of marriage, but I also know that marriage as a institution must exist and MUST work, otherwise society collapses. Therefore, the problem can’t be marriage itself since it is an instituition that you can’t live without with, so it must be something else.
          The problem, in my opinion, is that modern standards became degenerate. In times in which divorces were uncommon, sexual restrainment, religion, and overall more conservatist moral standards was in the core of society. People of these times, generaly speaking, valued their social instituitions, traditions and colective duties over their personal aspirations. Even if premarital sex and sex outside of marriage happened very often, it wasn’t a social norm and was viewd as imoral.
          Today’s society is the contrary, people are selfish and narcisist. Sex became a mere tool of entertainment, and society doesn’t see much problem in this. It is obvious for anyone who understands the implications of sexual debauchery that such social standards would have a critical impact on marriage stability.
          Therefore, we must return the values that created a social enviroment more suitable for marriage, otherwise things will only get worse.
          Forget about fucking around and find a virgin, conservative girl to marry, and be conservative yourself, and you will have far more greater chances of having a happy and lasting marriage life.

    5. Only a man really thirsty will appreciate the water given to him.
      I’ve found it pointless to bring up Red pill principles to a man, if he doesn’t already feel deep down some conflict with what he knows is true, and what he is told is true. Trying to convert a simp is an effort in futility. He will fight you tooth and nail to keep his delusion. What I realized is that, by presenting red pill truths, I was attacking his very identity, and how he relates to the world. Which is something that doesn’t change easily.

      1. Indeed. Targeted talks are my tactic. Once in a while I’ll try to help a guy if he’s really, really stumbling and bumbling around, but just like the old dude in my story, he never listens, just like you say. And they do get angry too, no question.

        1. “When the student is ready… the teacher shall appear”
          In reality, the teacher usually was there right from the start. The student just needs to one day wake up and realise “I’m in a pickle, and I don’t understand why. I need educating”

      2. This is true. I tried to do this a few days ago and it fell on deaf ears. Got banned for it actually. They were THAT damn sensitive about it. Oh well, I guess self-improvement is not for everybody.

    6. Wow, after two weeks she up and left him after a LTR, sounds like true love…So much for “Through Thick and Thin”..Sounds to me like this guy dodged a bullet, if he had locked it down with her and got married , she could have really dragged him over the coals in Divorce Rape, she sounds like that type.

      1. I totally agree. He basically said the same thing too.

        1. I’d bet 100 to 1 odds that this woman wasn’t a virgin before she was with your friend. I am pretty sure that she had sexual relations with multiple men BEFORE your friend got together with her.
          A whore is a whore is a whore. She acted like a whore, because she is a whore.
          Looking at Biblical moral law, any woman who has had sex with more than one man is a harlot/whore/adulteress (except a widow whose first man is dead).
          If your girl screwed one other dude before you, and then has screwed you, then she is by definition a whore.
          If you fall in love with a whore, then don’t be surprised when she reveals herself to be a whore.
          (By the way, Biblical moral law is SOMEWHAT DIFFERENT for men. The Bible never prohibits men from having multiple wives at the same time (polygamy). The Bible prohibits men from having sex with other men’s wives, and it also prohibits them from having sex with a woman and then abandoning her.
          (If you screwed a woman, then she was yours, and you had to keep her as your wife for the rest of your life).
          People (including conservative Evangelicals and Roman Catholics) think that screwing around with multiple partners prior to marriage is some sort of lesser sin than adultery. That isn’t the way the universal Biblical Moral Law sees it. The Bible sees it AS ADULTERY.
          Here I am not talking about a young woman having sex with her husband prior to marriage (premarital sex), but rather having sex with more than one man.
          In Genesis 2, God defined marriage by the sexual act saying that a man and woman become one flesh in marriage.
          “Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed.” (Genesis 2:24-25)
          The Apostle Paul uses this exact same language when describing prostitution in 1st Corinthians 6:15-18. Paul tells us that the sexual act creates the one flesh union of marriage.
          “Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ? Shall I then take the members of Christ and make them members of a prostitute? Never! Or do you not know that he who is joined to a prostitute becomes one body with her? For, as it is written, “The two will become one flesh.” But he who is joined to the Lord becomes one spirit with him. Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body.”
          Look at that text once again, Paul just said that if you screw a prostitute, you just “became one flesh – married her”. If that is true for a hooker, how much more true is it for your high school or college girlfriend?
          A girl who lets a dude screw her just agreed to become his wife, and the dude just agreed to become her husband.
          That is exactly what the Moral Law requires.
          “If a man seduces a virgin who is not betrothed and lies with her, he shall give the bride-price for her and make her his wife. If her father utterly refuses to give her to him, he shall pay money equal to the bride-price for virgins.” (Exodus 22:16-17)
          Then, this basic commandment is repeated once again in Deuteronomy 22: 28-29
          “If a man meets a virgin who is not betrothed, and seizes her and lies with her, and they are found, then the man who lay with her shall give to the father of the young woman fifty shekels of silver, and she shall be his wife, because he has violated her. He may not divorce her all his days.”
          Also remember that the Law required virginity of the woman at marriage (obviously doesn’t apply if she is marrying the ONE man she has had sex with)
          “But if the thing is true, that evidence of virginity was not found in the young woman, then they shall bring out the young woman to the door of her father’s house, and the men of her city shall stone her to death with stones, because she has done an outrageous thing in Israel by whoring in her father’s house. So you shall purge the evil from your midst.” (Deuteronomy 22:20-21)
          Remember guys, basically any woman who has had sex with more than one living man is an adulteress.
          Sadly, we live in a society where almost all single women over the age of twenty are adulteresses. (Of course many of you men are adulterers as well since you screw a woman and then leave her to go screw other women.)
          “But I say to you that everyone who divorces his wife, except on the ground of sexual immorality, makes her commit adultery, and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery.” (Matthew 5:32)

        2. “(Of course many of you men are adulterers as well since you screw a woman and then leave her to go screw other women.)”
          The sad reality is that being an adulterer is probably the only way you can get laid and not get screwed over. Even worse is that most women I have known/seen that professed Christianity are complete hypocrites and are no different from your typical whore. There’s this one hoe I knew that’s now a single mom and completely pussifies her son. Even had him dress up as Daphne from Scooby Doo during one Halloween.

        3. Because western Christianity is broken as well as society in general. Instead of influencing society, like it happened in the Protestant Reformation, Christianity has been influenced by society and assimilate pagan behavior.
          But correct christians still exist, just know where to look.

        4. In my early mid-life, as a child of the 80’s, focused on materialism and science, I had no time for religion.
          Now, I know better. I’m still no true Christian, barely been to church. But I know: God laid out a plan for us, and day by day I move a little closer to following it. As a result, my life, little by little, is improving. NOT monetarily; I have more than enough (for which btw, every day I give thanks).
          But spiritually, emotionally and in other ways I cannot articulate right now, it improves. I sleep better. I’m more humble, more appreciative. My circle of friends are a fraction of the size, but by God they are real friends and there’s nothing I wouldn’t do for them. I’m a better Son to my parents, a better brother, and someone my niece and nephew now hold in admiration, as opposed to indifference.
          I started by every so often, in private, saying a simple prayer. I begin by giving thanks – it varies – but simply listing what’s happened that’s good in my week never goes wrong. Then i say the Lord’s Prayer – it’s easy to memorise, and incredibly meaningful.
          Gentlemen, by all means dismiss the above, but if any part of it resonates, do what I do. You’ll thank me one day 🙂

        5. Yep you hit the nail on the head. That is the way that God originally intended it. We have fallen so far away that we might not make it back without a serious ass kicking.

        6. No matter what we say or talk about, in the end it all comes back to our creator. The guy who put the stars in place and laid down the rules for us. When you stray from them you get a bad result. When you follow them you get success.

    7. at least it was just his fiance and not his wife, he was able to avert the crisis ahead of time, hopefully he got an objective glimpse into the true side of women.

    8. Excellent post. My wife gets on me when she comes crying about something and my first response is “how can this be fixed?”. She tells me she just wants to vent and have someone to listen. I told her to get a stuffed bear if all you want is something inert to hold. If you want someone to cry with you, call your girlfriends.
      No man wants to hear a woman cry (it’s painful to watch and annoying).

  6. Proverbs 25:16 if you have found honey, eat only enough for you, lest you have your fill of it, or vomit it.
    Quran 7:31 O children of Adam, you shall be clean and dress nicely when you go to the masjid. And eat and drink moderately; surely He does not live the gluttons.

  7. We need more articles like this. As of late, there are too many articles whining about the injustices of feminism. By now, we all know the players and the stakes in this game. We’ve got to point out our flaws and overcome them. This article does just that. We can only beat them by being the more formidable players in the game.

    1. The feminism ones are for comedy. The site would be boring without something to laugh at.

      1. I kinda agree with both of you… I think it depends on the commenter!
        There *is* too much whining about it going on, but poking fun at it, as you point out here, is a *healthy* response given how far a *hateful* doctrine designed to *break* men has been pushed in the world…
        The very best articles on RoK, in my opinion, are those aimed at helping men self-improve… whether that be physically, emotionally, intellectually, whatever…
        but a humour release-valve can be good too… don’t forget that ‘they’ will interpret some of it very differently to us (cf the Rooshv ‘rape meetings’ media hysteria)

        1. It’s definitely a “Why not both?” situation.
          Everyone can benefit from self-improvement, but it is also important to keep aware of society around us, and as men, impose our will onto it.

  8. Don’t agree with the dependency/attachment one – you’ve got it backward. My advice is wield the iron anchor of a ship in either hand and hook them into the flesh of women, and just be strong enough to drag them by chain and will wherever you go. How else is a man supposed to keep wives and a family?

  9. In summary, and in the words of Marcus Aurelius:
    “The first and greatest victory is to conquer yourself; to be conquered by yourself is of all things most shameful and vile.”

    1. That’s a good paradox. 2 things that are the same, but so absurdly different

      1. It’s exquisite, isn’t it?
        He has a knack of seeing to the crux of the matter and putting it into words.
        Of course implicit in the view is the notion that the ‘self’ left to its own devices manifests precisely the kind of qualities listed in the article…
        This is true.
        The conquest is achieved by, of course, the will…

    2. Or as I’ve heard said in Christian circles, govern your passions or they will govern you.

      1. Indeed… the same thought expressed in another tradition.
        Pretty sure Aurelius was well regarded (as far as a pagan could be) by the early Christian philosophers…

  10. I had all of this sins about six years ago and reading this post and remember my life at that time, i really was a complete weakling. The best thing i ever had was to broke my chains by going to the gym. It just took me that simple but brutal step to change my body and my mind. Remember…you just have to open the door.

  11. great article.
    i once learned an acronym for FEAR: False Evidence Appearing Real. good way to think about it

  12. one point on #7 lack of will, guard your semen with your life. anyone that masturbates excessively should stop right now. depleting yourself of the most powerful energy in the world (that which literally creates life) for the ephemeral pleasure of orgasm (whose aftereffects last about 10-15 min max) should be criminal.
    i’m on a 5-day plan, which means i’ll orgasm once every 5 days. i think cutting cold turkey forever is extreme — everything in moderation. once every 5 days is long enough to test my threshold, but not completely make me crazy from lack of a seminal outlet.
    productivity will go through the roof once you consistently waive opportunities to orgasm, of which there is no limit. remember that. you can orgasm any fucking time you want. so you’re not missing anything by going a few days without busting.

    1. So basically you don’t avoid women, Mandrake, you simply deny them your essence?
      Heh, sorry, I had to go there. Great movie, I need to see it again.

  13. i like the title. much better than “how the 7 deadly sins of manhood will make you less of a man” or something like that. most article titles on ROK would be better if the “how” or “why” were dropped.

  14. We are simply the product of the society we live in. We live in a safe society where it’s not necessary to be ‘Alpha’. In fact, people who show certain masculine traits will not be accepted by society. I know some guys who are frowned upon, because they’re into MMA and other fighting styles. They’re seen as savage and primitive, especially in the higher classes of society. 4000 years ago it was the opposite. Men needed to be Alpha, otherwise you had zero value for the tribe and you would bring the whole tribe in danger with your weakness and cowardness.
    Genetically we’re still the same humans as the ones that had to fight to survive, but we don’t live in such a world anymore, Our ancestors preferred a safe society, because they were tired of the fighting and wanted stability. Does this go against our nature? Aren’t we made to live in a completely safe environment? Maybe partially, but I prefer this safe society above the ‘Alpha’ society you have in African and Muslim countries, where you always have to watch your back, because you’re surrounded by people that want to fuck you up.

    1. Curious, do you live in a big city? I’ve not seen any rejection of masculine traits at all, in fact we celebrate them (even the women do, by and large), but I’m in flyover country.
      I ride a motorcycle, carry a gun openly, lift weights, have a low slow voice, am tall, fly planes, fish, hunt, sport a Stetson, etc. and I have to fend off pretty women nearly daily when I’m out in public, despite the clear wedding ring on my finger. It seems to me, from my own experience, that many women are craving masculinity, or at least the pretty ones are. But as I said, maybe that’s due to a difference in environment.

      1. I live in a big liberal city. When I am out with women, I can tell they enjoy my masculine behavior and undertones. However, I can also see the struggle inside of them; they’ve been heavily indoctrinated to reject masculinity, but yet their biological imperative craves it–thus creating a short circuit.

        1. Biology is our trump card. It beats indoctrination 10 out of 10 times, laboratory tested. I guess my point was that I’m betting he’s in a big city. Girls out here don’t seem to be fighting indoctrination, in fact they seem to be going against it as if it didn’t exist.

        2. Indeed. I know many men who will suppress their masculinity in an attempt to attract women (ironic). They resort to clown game and pandering; placing women on a pedestal and agreeing with them on everything just for a small chance of sleeping with them–they think pussy is made out of gold. No thanks, I have standards, principles and self-respect.

      2. Back when I was still trying to date there were a lot of women who had the old feminist chip on their shoulder. If you were a guy-guy (but not a thug) a special order of contempt was reserved for you. Reading Mr. H’s response, I see that thing haven’t changed much in the past 15 years.
        This contempt seemed to be with college educated women. The women who I worked or associated with that had at best 2 years of post high school or just a high school diploma, didn’t have “the chip”. Often they had a number of other problems, but being a man-hating feminist wasn’t one of them.

        1. Your assessment is correct, nothing much has changed. The contempt is with college educated women. I know this because I work in a University. At the end of the day, women like this will never be happy, no matter the amount of degrees, career advancements or beta boyfriends/husband.

        2. I’m of the mind that it’s a regional thing. Maybe I just hang around the right people or something, dunno.
          A buddy of mine is from Louisiana. He’s a tall redneck with a slow southern draw who can charm the pants off basically any woman he meets. He’s the quintessential definition of a “Natural”. He’s a biker, wears a Confederate flag patch on his leather vest and exudes hard core old school masculinity.
          I watched him ply his way with a 22 year old *super hot* girl at a bar yesterday. He had her giggling, twisting her hair, flirting back, showing cleavage and all sorts of other shit, even started basically ordering her to pose for him in different positions, which she complied with eagerly. He made every single sentence to her sexual in some way, even saying “You know what I’ve decided to call her Ghost? Boobalicious. She has one hell of a nice rack!” while laughing. All that kind of thing. This 22 year old is two semesters from graduating from nursing school and she was eating it up, even saying she’d love to get a t-shirt with that printed on it to wear for him.
          Again, you could easily see finding this girl on Allkman’s site. (NSFW) He does this kind of thing to exceptionally hot chicks all the time and has yet to get an upturned nose.

        3. I got out of the dating scene to concentrate on buying up real estate (pre housing bubble days). I ended up marrying a woman I first met online and then visited when I went on vacation. I had put up with enough ‘poison’ from previous relationships to make me run at the first sign of feminist nonsense. Women like that just suck all the hopes, dreams, and happiness out of your life.
          My wife is college educated, with a degree in economics. She graduated from a very difficult university that was thankfully free of cultural Marxism (not in the USA of course). So far eleven years of a really good marriage.

        4. Having traveled for work (later 1990s) in the Midwest and the South, I can say everyone there is far more friendlier than here in the Mid Atlantic area. The women as a whole were far more feminine. Unfortunately (especially in the Midwest) the women had a much higher rate of being really overweight when compared to women say in the NYC metro area (referring to white women only).

        5. Generally yeah. It helps that I live 20 minutes north of THE Ohio State University. No shortage of attractive young women to be found, which puts the burden on non-college women to have to at least try to compete in the old school way (meaning, not get fat and to act feminine). But yeah, if I were to hit the burbs of Indianapolis or Detroit, well, there be whales there for certain.

        6. Cultural Marxism is rampant in US colleges. Kudos to you for finding a good woman and more so for your happiness.

        7. This is true. I can immediately tell with online chicks whether they have kids or not, because the bangable ones on online dating have kids, and the fat ones don’t.

      3. Women are genetically still the same as the ones 4000 years ago, that wanted strong and masculine men to protect them. But humans are also molded by the environment they live in, so women won’t go with men that are seen as ‘uncivilized’ or ‘undesirable’ by society, even though they feel attracted to them.
        I know for sure a lot of white women like black and Muslim guys, who are far more masculine than white guys, but they don’t settle with them, because it will hurt their reputation and status. I’ve heard stories of white guys who got rejected by especially white women, simply because they were a mechanic and not a lawyer. They prefer a beta lawyer instead of an Alpha mechanic.
        I live btw in a beta country in Western Europe and also in a big city. People are PC on the outside but beast on the inside. You know that alcohol removes the inhibitions of people? Drunk people simply show their true nature. Or at least the part that is suppressed. Some turn in beasts while others stay calm, no matter how much they drink.

        1. As I figured, we live in two entirely different and almost polar opposite environments. Usually when I see things that just don’t click and make sense, it comes down to that. Your note that Muslims and blacks are “far more masculine than white guys” made me laugh, but then I consider that you’re in Europe where that’s likely true more often than not.

        2. I think the main reason white women pass up masculine guy for the less masculine (white) ones is the attraction towards financial stability and higher social status, which the females are also intinctively attracted to, and which may overwhelm their attraction towards mere masculine behavior or physique. Though I believe their ideal would be to pair up with on that is both high-status and masculine.
          If the blacks and Muslims of the West climb the socioeconomic ladder a little, it would be the end for most white guys. I’m pretty sure most women secretly go through a “bang phase” of macho non-whites before they decide to settle down with a stable white-collar guy. That will become especially more true as interracial relations are becoming less and less taboo and therefore will be less and less damaging for women’s reputations.
          I think the male equivalent of that one is that of unrefined bimbos or skanky chicks. While men tend to be sexually attracted to them, they don’t generally want to settle down with them.

  15. #5, I think he’s trying to look up her dress..
    Joking aisde. Really solid article that doesn’t get distracted by focusing on the core tenants of the manosphere.
    At some point we were and sometomes still guilty of all these sins. Key is recognize and expunge them..

    1. Men come here to learn, hence these kinds of articles. Given the dearth of male support and lack of fathers these days, there is no shame in having any or all of these things, if you’re looking to fix them and stop having them.

  16. Self-pity really is an ugly thing. I had a coworker who would fish for sympathy by giving everyone this spiel about how his son died at birth. He’s done this to clients, vendors, interns, you name it. After he was laid off he went back and forth between claiming to be poor and spamming his GoFundMe all over Facebook and claiming he landed a consulting gig and is making 4 times his old salary. Addiction to condolences spreads to other parts of a man’s life like a cancer.

  17. These seven sins occur together as a package. Reject the package by finding a burning purpose for your short life.
    Everything gets easier when you have that.

      1. Yeah, I’ve known since I was a teenager what I wanted to do with my life. But I’m an exception.

  18. Solid article . One must not falter in any category either because they are all connected . Self pity leads to dependence leads to weakness and so on

  19. I spend so much time looking at this website it is verging on distraction for me believe it or not. I completely agree with each title in this article. Each man can be great if he can avoid these. The problem is that avoiding them can be much more difficult than it seems and plus you do need to have a bare minimum of most of these in your life. Let me give examples of when you need some of these
    Distraction: explains itself. We all need to break lose from our normal routine and have fun. Just not too much.
    Dependency: no man is an island and needs allies in this world. Maybe you’re not 100% dependent on anyone but you have to allow yourself to at least partially depend on several people in your life. Like depending on your wife to take care of your kids.
    Cowardice: cowardice has kept a lot of people alive. That feeling of fear that has prevented you from doing something dangerous is not always to be ignored. The key is, if you’ve ever backed down from something out of fear (like a fight), then that is an area of your life you need to evaluate and get better at.
    The rest of them, I can’t even think of examples when they’d ever be acceptable. Self-pity has no use in the world especially. Weakness needs to be overcame, and lack of will, will prevent you from achieving your goals even if you have the other bases covered.

  20. What woke me up to who I was and where I came from, was when I started to research my Family tree. To find people who I share my bloodline with who had in some case’s accomplished quite amazing feats or had great success. When you get a sense of that you can’t help but become focused on who you are and what your possibilities could be.

  21. I don’t know how to be a good and loving husband and give her the emotional support she needs without needing her back. When I don’t need her, I don’t act like I love her, and it makes her miserable… to the point its dangerous.

    1. Yes it is. No it doesn’t. Women are generally rewarded for many of these behaviors, across many levels of society. While ideally it would be nice if women were not rewarded for throwing pity parties or for being listless, that’s just not the case.

      1. hmpf — no one ever rewarded me – maybe I live in a different world from your female friends

        1. No you don’t. A woman gets showered with attention and almost praise for wallowing in angst, sadness and self pity. Shit girl, they made an entire movie about it and claimed it was strength (Steel Magnolias).
          Also, look at the law.
          “Oh my God, your honor, I feel like I’m losing everything, how can the world be so cruel, whatever will I do without my children, I’ll be lost, sob, I don’t know what I’d do…”
          “Custody and house awarded to mother”
          Happens every single day. Lawyers actively coach women on this to make sure it delivers the full force of impact.
          Or just normal life.
          Girl: “Oh my god, my boyfriend left me, I’m so sad, why am I such a failure, sob”
          Dude: “Oh gosh honey, he’s so mean and cruel, don’t feel bad, here, let me help you”
          And of course, cowardice, which is a hallmark trait of females. You might know it as cat talking, talking behind somebody’s back, gossip, etc. All attacking people who are not present, and the hens all cluck their approval when it happens.
          So yeah.

        2. I am not a religious person – but my guess is all religions are against these sins in both genders. So — if a female is religious — I assume she tried to avoid these traits.

        3. The article wasn’t about religion, it just used the word “sin” in the title. And most of these things aren’t sins in many religions.
          In any event, whether a female “tries to avoid” these or not, doesn’t change anything I said. Few try to avoid them in any case.

        4. Smart chick, Jeffy here is a repressed homosexual which is why he hold such disturbing views. I came across him on grindr but he won’t let me come across him in real life 😢

  22. Just more man bashing and blaming things instead of the policies of others that caused the problem in the first place.

    1. Telling men to not be weak and effeminate is “Man bashing” then, is it?
      So you think it’s becoming of men to be pity wallowing, weak mental cases, do you?

    2. Even if what you say is true and the problem is all external, do you really think they are mutually exclusive? Wouldn’t you be in a better position to handle any situation with an inner strength?

  23. Just buried my father-in-law this past Saturday. I look at this list and he fits all of it. He was complacent in his life living with a borderline woman and never figured out that he was truly free.
    Because when your wife will despise you no matter what you do, you can do whatever the Hell you want.
    Instead he decided to just die.

    1. Because when your wife will despise you no matter what you do, you can do whatever the Hell you want.
      So much truth in that. I say something similar to some of my married friends, but it doesn’t penetrate their thick skulls.
      A similar analogy I use with gun control idiots: “If you make owning even a .22 as illegal and as punishable by law as owning a machine gun then I surely have no incentive to NOT start collecting machine guns”.

    2. Its amazing how many older men just get into a waiting-do-die mode. They let life and women suck the life out of them.
      They could be traveling the world and fucking whores. That is what I plan to do.

  24. Thanks. I got in a lot of trouble at work today for not getting shit done last week. Succumbed to distraction, which is especially easy when you’re not particularly inspired by the project you’re working on. Definitely not gonna be a bitch and feel sorry for myself though.
    Also doesn’t help that I’ve been drinking excessively and not working out. Easy to be distracted when you don’t feel good.

  25. Just a sec… *Yawn* Oh crap dropped the remote control under the chair. Oh well, I didn’t want to watch t.v. anyway.
    I’m hungry, think I’ll order a pizza….
    Damn, they put me on hold.
    Why does everything have to be so hard?!
    🙂 🙂

  26. This whole article sounds like, “just man up and keep feeding this tyranny like a good little slave”
    There comes a point where you ARE a victim of a horribly unjust system. Working harder to keep their pockets full and guns loaded does you no fucking good.

    1. That’s true, but only you are channeling it all into the context of living for the expectations and standards of others.
      You can still be healthy, ambitious, focused and driven without becoming a disposable utility.

    2. No. The article does not say say “just man up” – it says become a man and stay there. You will encounter these self-shit tests and you must overcome them.
      “….and keep feeding this tyranny like a good little slave”
      WTF does that mean?

      1. It means the more you “man up” and go to work, discipline yourself to become more productive, and generally be a stronger asset to society, the more this tyrannical hell society will be fed by your taxes and creativity. “Manning up” means funding your own oppression without complaint.

        1. You are overthinking the issue. Essentially you are saying life is a cluster fucc so be the pussy and not the the dick.
          I’m not sure you get the idea of this blog. But hey, it’s not mine.
          I pay lots of taxes. Six figures in recent years. I’m not oppressed.

        2. You put words in my mouth, kid.
          Follow this if you can:
          1. Work hard, develop yourself as a man (everything on this list)
          2. Government comes in and takes everything you’ve earned, makes a nice profit something-for-nothing.
          –this is where you and I split–
          You. Reliably get up and do it all again = good little slave.
          Me. Fuck this shit. Tyranny is only stopped by war, and all my countrymen are too neutered to defend what’s theirs.

        3. “You put words in my mouth, kid.
          Hey Big, played Pac-10 football in the 80’s so drop the kid shit and I know the company of NFL linemen.
          “Follow this if you can:”
          I don’t follow, period – especially your thinking which is self-pitying drivel. But hey hopefully you learned something – this is a site where men help men.
          I own three business in this world you loath and I have work to do. Later.

  27. Procrastination is what got me. That’s kind of complacency. I worked during my 20s, but was a fat videogamer in an apartment. I have since lost weight, stopped the videogames, and gotten a house. My problem is that I have to up my game to pull a low to mid 20s girl more than if I were 5 years younger.

    1. That changes. As an upper 40’s aged man it’s not even a challenge any longer. Hell you’ll start getting openly propositioned for sex once in a while. If you alpha up (sounds like you have) and then get a few more years under your belt you can basically write your own sex-checks and the girls will line up to volunteer to cash them for you. It’s unbelievable how open hypergamy is becoming.
      Here was my weekend. Keep in mind that I’m married and was just out with a couple of my buddies (nice weekend, went motorcycle riding). I had on my ring and was not hitting on any of these girls, just talking to the general audience in my most charming fashion, where she happened to be.
      HB6 – about age 35 or so, open proposition to take her home and fuck her. This is not guesswork, she said straight to my face “Please take me home, I want to have sex with you” as bluntly as I’ve ever heard a woman say it. The look on her face when I said “No thanks” was priceless.
      HB9 (yes, they exist) – mid to late 20’s, slid me her phone number after showing me photos of her “workout results” unbidden (aka – Here’s me almost naked in various poses, wink wink). She’s a fitness model (I’ve seen the proof, she wasn’t lying). According to my buddy (the man from Louisiana I mention below) she’s had the hots for me for a while now. Fuckin’ A man, it figures.
      HB8 – mid to late 20’s, Up front approach and instant hands on me before I even knew she was behind me. Turned, don’t know this broad from Eve, and she starts rubbing on me and asks if she can sit down and buy me a drink (the correct answer is “No, I’m married, but my buddy over here isn’t, his name is Louisianadude, have you two met?”)
      HB7 – Ibid the HB8, different place and she was early 30’s.
      One one fucking weekend. Meanwhile younger guys are sitting incel (Millenial men I mean). This is a really, really strange time to be alive.
      Outside of my own experiences, I have several friends in the 35-45 age range who experience similar things. If you have the alpha aura and are a bit older, it’s catnip.

      1. “Meanwhile younger guys are sitting incel (Millenial men I mean). This is a really, really strange time to be alive.”
        You know, I have a Theory that extreme doses of viewing Pornography and masturbation to porn is what is killing millennial Men’s game with women,…You take a guy who hasn’t fapped to porn in a month, and you set him loose in a bar to go talk with women, and I don’t care if there are Ten guys trying to hold him back, that pent up sexual tension is going to have him talking to every Broad and Blond in the joint and he’s just not going to give a shit about it at all, nothing will stop him, and then you take a guy who faps to porn every night, and in extreme cases, multiple times in a day/night, and his drive is gone, that God given strength is just sapped right out of him, that potent Drive when allowed to build simply is a call to nature to go do it’s thing, and the guys Fapping all the time don’t have that anymore. Just a theory though, and when I was Younger I had a Serious Porn problem, and it totally killed my game with women, and the Gym…and “Low Energy” …it sucked..but I bet that has a lot to do with Millennial Guys Problems.

        1. No doubt about that. It’s just that it’s like these chicks don’t even acknowledge that the Millenial men are in the room, they’re invisible to them. Which I suppose leads back to your point as these guys aren’t even bothering to approach or crack a conversation open.

        2. Women generally aren’t going to approach Men, unless of course that Man offers something so Irresistible they can’t help themselves, and one of those Irresistible things is Confidence, when a New Man enters a room, a woman will sum him up instantly , I mean heck, I can sum up a Man instantly the second he walks into a room, but while I’m doing it to see if he’s competition or compatible, women are doing it for “Mate compatibility” and they look for Resources , Status, Looks, Intellect or Confidence, (In various Combination or All of the above), but women particularly like Confidence, because it is something they completely lack , and because in terms of “Mate compatibility” a Man who is Extremely confident can offer Many things that really turn women on , and a major Factor that women like about Confidence is a Man who can Lead, and that show’s a woman that Man is not afraid to lead her (and Fullfill her fantasy’s) and he can also lead other Men which means he has the Ability to be successful, and obviously that Means Resources, and it’s obvious what women like about that, plus a Confident Man is Fun to be around, he’s not a “Debbie Downer”. In my experience from when I had a huge porn problem, I had very little confidence, I don’t know the science, but as I disciplined myself away from porn ( I thank God) as my energy went up, and I began to hunger for women, I started to Really, Really feel confident, so my belief is those Millennial Guys you talk about, are probably watching untold amounts of porn, are loosing all there Drive and energy, and as a result are lacking confidence, and as a further Result, the women in the room aren’t even acknowledeing their existence because they summed them up as unconfident loosers the moment those Guys stepped in the Room.

      2. Everyone’s journey to the red pill nirvana, for lack of a better term, is different. One method is to fake your confidence until you make it, and the other one is to not care anymore. Both work well with self-improvement. I was never able to fake confidence, but being increasingly set to go, along with burning out whatever desire I have for a relationship, puts me in a great place financially and in society.
        My desirability to women seems to be going up as my opinion of, and desire to have, them goes down. Fuck it, maybe I’ll go buy a motorcycle.

      3. A beard helps. I’ve only been growing it for about 5 months now and I regularly get compliments on it. One young red-head at the store told me she liked my beard after she carded me for my beer (my driver’s license showed me clean-shaved so it threw her off). I think it gives me a for serious/intense look without you having to glare at someone.

  28. “By now there is no way for you to recollect the immense effort that you needed to establish self-pity as a feature of your island. Self-pity bore witness to everything you did. It was just at your fingertips, ready to advise you. Death is considered by a warrior to be a more amenable adviser, which can also be brought to bear witness on everything one does, just like self-pity, or wrath. Obviously, after an untold struggle you have learned to feel sorry for yourself. But you can also learn, in the same way, to feel your impending end, and thus you can learn to have the idea of your death at your fingertips. As an adviser, self-pity is nothing in comparison to death.” – Don Juan Matus, from “Tales of Power”, by Carlos Castaneda –
    “Erasing personal history and its three companion techniques are the sorcerers’ means for changing the facade of the elements of the island. For instance, by erasing your personal history, you deny use to self-pity; in order for self-pity to work you have to feel important, irresponsible, and immortal. When those feelings are altered in some way, it is no longer possible for you to feel sorry for yourself.” – Don Juan Matus, from “Tales of Power”, by Carlos Castaneda –
    “Warriors are incapable of feeling compassion because they no longer feel sorry for themselves. Without the driving force of self-pity, compassion is meaningless…for a warrior everything begins and ends with himself. However, his contact with the abstract causes him to overcome his feeling of self-importance. Then the self becomes abstract and impersonal.” – Don Juan Matus, from “The Power of Silence”, by Carlos Castaneda –
    “Self-pity is the real enemy and the source of man’s misery. Without a degree of pity for himself, man could not afford to be as self-importance as he is. However, once the force of self-importance is engaged, it develops its own momentum. And it is this seemingly independent nature of self-importance which gives it its fake sense of worth.” – Don Juan Matus, from “The Power of Silence”, by Carlos Castaneda –
    “Warriors are incapable of feeling compassion because they no longer feel sorry for themselves. Without the driving force of self-pity, compassion is meaningless. For a warrior everything begins and ends with himself. However, his contact with the abstract causes him to overcome his feeling of self-importance. Then the self becomes abstract and impersonal.” – Don Juan Matus, from “The Power of Silence”, by Carlos Castaneda –
    “The art of stalking is learning all the quirks of your disguise. To learn them so well no one will know you are disguised. For that you need to be ruthless, cunning, patient, and sweet. Stalking is an art applicable to everything. There are four steps to learning it: ruthlessness, cunning, patience, and sweetness. Ruthlessness should not be harshness, cunning should not be cruelty, patience should not be negligence, and sweetness should not be foolishness. These four steps have to be practiced and perfected until they are so smooth they are unnoticeable. Knowing what intent is means that one can, at any time, explain that knowledge or use it. A nagual by the force of his position is obliged to command his knowledge in this manner.” – Don Juan Matus, from “The Power of Silence”, by Carlos Castaneda –

    1. I’d suggest:
      a) hitting the gym, even when you don’t feel like it–you will feel better afterwards
      b) GTFO – travel abroad, relax, just observe and enjoy a traditional society, whether you feel like approaching their women or not

  29. “A man of knowledge is one who has followed truthfully the hardships of learning, a man who has, without rushing or without faltering, gone as far as he can in unraveling the secrets of power and knowledge. To become a man of knowledge one must challenge and defeat his four natural enemies.
    “When a man starts to learn, he is never clear about his objectives. His purpose is faulty; his intent is vague. He hopes for rewards that will never materialize for he knows nothing of the hardships of learning.
    “He slowly begins to learn–bit by bit at first, then in big chunks. And his thoughts soon clash. What he learns is never what he pictured, or imagined, and so he begins to be afraid. Learning is never what one expects. Every step of learning is a new task, and the fear the man is experiencing begins to mount mercilessly, unyieldingly. His purpose becomes a battlefield.
    “And thus he has stumbled upon the first of his natural enemies: fear! A terrible enemy–treacherous, and difficult to overcome. It remains concealed at every turn of the way, prowling, waiting. And if the man, terrified in its presence, runs away, his enemy will have put an end to his quest and he will never learn. He will never become a man of knowledge. He will perhaps be a bully, or a harmless, scared man; at any rate, he will be a defeated man. His first enemy will have put an end to his cravings.”
    “It is not possible for a man to abandon himself to fear for years, then finally conquer it. If he gives in to fear he will never conquer it, because he will shy away from learning and never try again. But if he tries to learn for years in the midst of his fear, he will eventually conquer it because he will never have really abandoned himself to it.
    “Therefore he must not run away. He must defy his fear, and in spite of it he must take the next step in learning, and the next, and the next. He must be fully afraid, and yet he must not stop. That is the rule! And a moment will come when his first enemy retreats. The man begins to feel sure of himself. His intent becomes stronger. Learning is no longer a terrifying task.
    “When this joyful moment comes, the man can say without hesitation that he has defeated his first natural enemy. It happens little by little, and yet the fear is vanquished suddenly and fast. Once a man has vanquished fear, he is free from it for the rest of his life because, instead of fear, he has acquired clarity–a clarity of mind which erases fear. By then a man knows his desires; he knows how to satisfy those desires. He can anticipate the new steps of learning and a sharp clarity surrounds everything. The man feels that nothing is concealed.
    “And thus he has encountered his second enemy: Clarity! That clarity of mind, which is so hard to obtain, dispels fear, but also blinds. It forces the man never to doubt himself. It gives him the assurance he can do anything he pleases, for he sees clearly into everything. And he is courageous because he is clear, and he stops at nothing because he is clear. But all that is a mistake; it is like something incomplete. If the man yields to this make-believe power, he has succumbed to his second enemy and will be patient when he should rush. And he will fumble with learning until he winds up incapable of learning anything more. His second enemy has just stopped him cold from trying to become a man of knowledge. Instead, the man may turn into a buoyant warrior, or a clown. Yet the clarity for which he has paid so dearly will never change to darkness and fear again. He will be clear as long as he lives, but he will no longer learn, or yearn for, anything.
    “He must do what he did with fear: he must defy his clarity and use it only to see, and wait patiently and measure carefully before taking new steps; he must think, above all, that his clarity is almost a mistake. And a moment will come when he will understand that his clarity was only a point before his eyes. And thus he will have overcome his second enemy, and will arrive at a position where nothing can harm him anymore. This will not be a mistake. It will not be only a point before his eyes. It will be true power.
    “He will know at this point that the power he has been pursuing for so long is finally his. He can do with it whatever he pleases. His ally is at his command. His wish is the rule. He sees all that is around him. But he has also come across his third enemy: Power!
    “Power is the strongest of all enemies. And naturally the easiest thing to do is to give in; after all, the man is truly invincible. He commands; he begins by taking calculated risks, and ends in making rules, because he is a master. A man at this stage hardly notices his third enemy closing in on him. And suddenly, without knowing, he will certainly have lost the battle. His enemy will have turned him into a cruel, capricious man, but he will never lose his clarity or his power.
    “A man who is defeated by power dies without really knowing how to handle it. Power is only a burden upon his fate. Such a man has no command over himself, and cannot tell when or how to use his power.
    “Once one of these enemies overpowers a man there is nothing he can do. It is not possible, for instance, that a man who is defeated by power may see his error and mend his ways. Once a man gives in he is through. If, however, he is temporarily blinded by power, and then refuses it, his battle is still on. That means he is still trying to become a man of knowledge. A man is defeated only when he no longer tries, and abandons himself.
    “He has to come to realize that the power he has seemingly conquered is in reality never his. He must keep himself in line at all times, handling carefully and faithfully all that he has learned. If he can see that clarity and power, without his control over himself, are worse than mistakes, he will reach a point where everything is held in check. He will know then when and how to use his power. And thus he will have defeated his third enemy.
    “The man will be, by then, at the end of his journey of learning, and almost without warning he will come upon the last of his enemies: Old age! This enemy is the cruelest of all, the one he won’t be able to defeat completely, but only fight away.
    “This is the time when a man has no more fears, no more impatient clarity of mind–a time when all his power is in check, but also the time when he has an unyielding desire to rest. If he gives in totally to his desire to lie down and forget, if he soothes himself in tiredness, he will have lost his last round, and his enemy will cut him down into a feeble old creature. His desire to retreat will overrule all his clarity, his power, and his knowledge.
    “But if the man sloughs off his tiredness, and lives his fate through, he can then be called a man of knowledge, if only for the brief moment when he succeeds in fighting off his last, invincible enemy. That moment of clarity, power, and knowledge is enough.”
    “Anything is one of a million paths. Therefore you must always keep in mind that a path is only a path; if you feel you should not follow it, you must not stay with it under any conditions. To have such clarity you must lead a disciplined life. Only then will you know that any path is only a path and there is no affront, to oneself or to others, in dropping it if that is what your heart tells you to do. But your decision to keep on the path or to leave it must be free of fear or ambition. I warn you. Look at every path closely and deliberately. Try it as many times as you think necessary.
    “This question is one that only a very old man asks. Does this path have a heart? All paths are the same: they lead nowhere. They are paths going through the bush, or into the bush. In my own life I could say I have traversed long long paths, but I am not anywhere. Does this path have a heart? If it does, the path is good; if it doesn’t, it is of no use. Both paths lead nowhere; but one has a heart, the other doesn’t. One makes for a joyful journey; as long as you follow it, you are one with it. The other will make you curse your life. One makes you strong; the other weakens you.”
    “Before you embark on any path ask the question: Does this path have a heart? If the answer is no, you will know it, and then you must choose another path. The trouble is nobody asks the question; and when a man finally realizes that he has taken a path without a heart, the path is ready to kill him. At that point very few men can stop to deliberate, and leave the path. A path without a heart is never enjoyable. You have to work hard even to take it. On the other hand, a path with heart is easy; it does not make you work at liking it.”
    “I have told you that to choose a path you must be free from fear and ambition. The desire to learn is not ambition. It is our lot as men to want to know. The path without a heart will turn against men and destroy them. It does not take much to die, and to seek death is to seek nothing.” – Don Juan Matus, from “The Teachings of Don Juan: A Yaqui Way of Knowledge”, by Carlos Castaneda –

  30. Not going to lie, I swear the complacency paragraph is my life.
    Got over the six figure mark and then stopped reading and pushing to learn figured “I made it.” Goal in life, when I was teenager to be at 75k then just travel, when I can and leave the rest up in the air. Now I need some new certifications (CISSP, etc) and open a book and can’t read past the first page each time.
    In the past, I could read a deitel deitel(dry book, like reading a dictionary) from front to back with no problem. Will also add distracted, I got the wlil power and knowledge that I know I need to get on it but just keep pushing off for some stupid reason. I’d rather lift weights or jog or gamble than go to a book.

  31. Men need to grow and learn from the mistakes they make. Mistakes are inevitable. How you respond is what matters.

  32. The greatest way to break out of these ruts if you’re in them? Force yourself from your comfort zone(s). You will be faced with plenty of challenges, both good and bad, and will learn from them. The only way to gain strength is by putting in the work. You don’t gain muscle from lifting weights one time. It requires dedication and commitment, even on days when you’d rather sit your ass at home.
    In the same way, you don’t become mentally strong by sticking to the same routine. Are you passionate about something that you’ve neglected because work, family, etc. got in the way? Guess what? It’s not in your way. You are. Personally, my passion is writing. It took me a while to rediscover it, but when I did, my life improved tenfold. The discipline it required to write an entire novel, several short stories, and a couple of movie scripts not only allowed me to explore my passion, but strengthened my relationships, led me to a healthier lifestyle, and made me a better employee (for which I’ve been greatly rewarded).
    It is extremely easy for Western men to become lazy and complacent. Breaking those habits is difficult, and requires a certain amount of mental strength in and of itself. But once you do break those habits, you’ll find an entire world that’s yours for the taking…but only if you want it bad enough.

  33. Great article,a positivity and self-improvement groundwork article. If I were to add anything to this article, is to find ways to use these roots of masculinity to define the type of man that you want to become. Use bits and pieces of influential role models that attract your attention the most from film, books, personal life, politics, wherever. Apply bits and pieces from these role models that most appeal to you because more than likely we admire the parts of others that we see in ourselves.
    With a combo of working on this article’s virtues as a base of self-improvement then looking towards living (or fictional) inspirations you can get closer to understanding and defining the man you are and wish to be.

  34. “No beast so fierce but knows some touch of pity. But I know none, and therefore I am no beast.”
    (I don’t understand it very well but it sounds cool and looks good in the comments section.)

  35. “When dark inertia increases , obscurity and inactivity , negligence and delusion, arise. When lucidity prevails , the self whose body dies enters untainted worlds of those who know reality . When he dies in passion , he is born among lovers of action ; so when he dies in dark inertia , he is born into wombs of folly . The fruit of good conduct is pure and untainted , they say , but suffering is the fruit of passion , ignorance the fruit of dark inertia . From lucidity knowledge is is born ; from passion comes greed ; from dark inertia come negligence , delusion and ignorance . Men who are lucid go upward ; men of passion stay in between ; men of dark inertia , caught in vile ways , sink low “…. From the Gita : Krishna counsel in time of war , circa A.D …. I think the Bhagavad Gita is a good book men ought to check out for inspiration to live a pure life . I found out about this quote / verse, from Robert Greene’s 33 strategies of war . I don’t totally understand the verse , but I sense profound meaning when I read it . If anyone here is familiar with this verse I’d appreciate their interpretation

  36. Excellent article which resonate, most of these “sins” tend to accompany and invite each other.

  37. Man I go back and forth between these things, one day I can feel the man and want to take on the world but other times I feel like shit and wonder if I will ever become successful.
    I am 26 so I still have time to get my shit together, I may feel bad about things at times but I never blame anyone but myself, whether it be boredom, getting women or getting money its all in my control.
    I am willing to admit my flaws but changing them is a different story.
    Getting in shape and being healthy, Im lazy as hell, I am not fat and have a fast metabolism so I never felt the need to get into awesome shape, obviously thats bull I would love to be build and just feel great physically, I never put the effort though.
    When it comes to women, I never become the man I want to be, I want to make it clear to women that I just want to smash, I am not here for a relationship, I never can build up the courage to approach women and it seems like I only get action from sluts.
    When it comes to a career I never have any plans, I just want to make money, I work a pretty shitty job but I never make any moves to change my position.
    I am not living up to my potential as a man, I blame no one but myself and its up to me to fix them, first step is being honest about it though. I do wonder what made me like this, childhood? Society? No proper male guidance?
    Either way I have to fix these issues, I know I have some great qualities, physically and mentally, I just have to live up to my potential, I know its there. Unfortunately I depend a bit too much on alcohol to bring out that side of me, when I drink its like everything flips, I turn into that fearless alpha, speak my mind, have no social fears and so far any advance on a girl has never failed me, its amazing because I even suprise myself what I am capable of.
    I ask myself whats stopping me? Me.

    1. It’s all about tuning yourself over and over again until it’s your core programming. 26 is still young where it takes years to master it all. Keep it up! *respect*

  38. Self check for future inspection. I’m posting here so that maybe others readers can find similarities and react on it:
    1. Self-Pity
    Never had to deal with this one. If anything I’m too harsch on myself which can have negative impacts as well. Taking everything too seriously can be harmful. From now I try to relax a bit more and guess what? Things work out much more easily this way. I’ve always loathed internally guys who self pitied themselves, I see it as a very feminine trait.
    2. Complacency
    Guilty. Once you fall into it, it can be hard to rebounce. I always was driven but I discovered that you can put yourself in a corner very easily if you’re not careful. Everytimes i got out of this state was for spiritual reasons.
    3. Cowardice
    Guilty. I’ve lied to get out of situations where I put myself into. Or just hid my head in the sand and ignored the real tasks I had to overcome.
    Funny thing, many times once I summon the courage to do the task I find myself thinking: “Holy shit that’s it? That’s the reason I delayed this task for 2 months? It wasn’t such a big deal afterall”.
    4. Distraction
    Guilty. Technology really makes it easy. I’m a sucker for interesting articles or videos, especially those with redpill/politically incorrect underlines. I found myself spend days just reading stuff or watching videos. I always knew it wasn’t healthy but kept doing it anyway.
    5. Dependency
    not guilty. I don’t care for material posessions. I can handle loneliness pretty well. I have great friends and family, so I guess that helps.
    6. Weakness
    I work out and can control what i eat. I’ve done nofap for 800 days in a row (don’t ask me how I did that, it still seems insane to me!). Of course i still have weaknesses in many fields still crippling in often. But I
    7. Lack Of Will
    Never had this until couple years ago. Always was super driven, started a business after college. But for the first time of my life, once my business was stagnating, I found myself losing motivation and I felt a complete lack of will. I guess it was bound to happen, you have to experience lack of will to understand the importance of will.
    Although in the back of my mind I still have the same desire to be successful as I had when I was in high school. I don’t understand guys who lack ambition, I really don’t.
    There are many other pitfalls in which a man can fall into. It’s an everyday struggle to recognize and fight them. But it’s what’s life is all about.

    1. Surely the man who can recognise he falls to weaknesses at times is as much if not more of a man than some of the apparently/allegedly unflinching ‘frame’ maintainers who regularly appear on these blogs & indeed write em?
      We all fuck up. We all have moments to reflect on that make us wince. We all have times of complacency often brought about by ambiguous attitudes to where we are heading in current job/relationship maybe even the long term ideal careerists. Many if not all have triumphs & disasters with women depending on what you’re after from that.
      I figure I’ll not really take too many directives from another man on any of this stuff but it’s interesting to read some of it. Everyone has different points of reference thru experiences & expectations so the sins can be applied relevant to them. It’s not where you’ve been, it’s where you’re at. Adversity is something to overcome & yeah, sometimes to feel a bit thwarted by. But not defeated.
      I fear much of the Manosphere seems to be about opportunists & tall talers bragging/exaggerating about alpha status & shaming ‘betas’ with these shit tests on manliness. Uh huh. So quite a few of these grandees are master gamers who happen to be married. So they keep that going while maintaining their external game effortlessly AND putting feminism to bed…so to speak! Clap clap clap..
      I mean, really. Whether we are ‘sinners’/betas or all powerful alphas, whether hypergamy is rampant & women are insane (almost undeniably) isn’t this all getting a tad precious? Pretentious even. Go be the big man, the small man, the game player or MGTOW. Go forth & prosper, multiply or embrace celibacy. Do what thou will. Just be a fucking man! And discount of what feminazis, sluts & other men of any brand might think of you!
      I prefer some of the notions behind the Manosphere than dare I say, the over analysis & bragging! Surely that stuff suggests fear of something and/or having something to prove – does that not contradict the alpha way? Triumph/Disaster. Same imposter etc..

  39. Sometimes I have the common fantasy of being able to go back in time and tell myself then what I know now. If I could, I’d give my young self this article.

  40. #8: Casting Blame on others.
    Also harmful, is casting the mistakes you make on others. When I was younger, I would cast blame on my family or my circimstances. I rarely took responsibility for my own fuck ups. As soon as I started to take that responsibility however, that my mistakes are my own, and I have the ability to correct my mistakes; I became much stronger as a man.

  41. Corey, excellent article. I always enjoy seeing this sort of advice on ROK. Men of today suffer such an excess of these seven things that, sometimes, it is almost impossible to tell that you’re in the middle of it. Forest for the trees.
    Keep it up.

  42. No beast so fierce but knows some touch of pity. I know none, and therefore, am no beast.

  43. I found that most men don’t know they’re afflicted by these. Meditation helps identify your weak spots. 1o minutes first in the morning, 10 minutes before bed. No excuses.

    1. Meditation is total weakness in men.
      Next you’ll be doing yoga and leaving to find yourself.

  44. You know, I think a major problem with this article is that these are all already traits that society punishes men for. I think that in itself is pretty strong evidence of a lack of empathy towards men.

  45. I guess all men undergo some of these at one time or another & we all have varying experiences of success, failure, satisfaction, frustration, disillusionment waddeva.. Everything is a phase & some phases can last longer than others depending on your mindset as it’s happening. And circumstances you’ve arrived in. Overcoming self-disappointment or indeed disappointment in others (women) is about as difficult as it gets depending on how far you let yourself go with something.
    I figure that’s where red pill thought can cut thru some of the mental fog. It’s probably pretty decisive in reassessing yourself as a man. Clinical assessment. What have YOU fucked up? Not who else is to blame. Can blame women for deflecting you or punishing you in some way (& accepting it!) but that bit is almost a given. Many if not all will accuse/blame you of all the sins whether applicable or not to justify discarding you or disparaging you.
    But even if you are guilty….so fuck?!
    It’s your life to learn. I think it’s natural for even the most reluctant self-assessors amongst men to look inwards for answers even if they figure they have been affected by external factors one way or another. The important thing is to swallow the bitter medicine & figure out the actions required to break the chain. How often do females seek in that way? There is plenty of literature on this for them which ultimately says “it’s not you it’s them” etc.. Men know that the true path is via self-improvement no matter how long they might deny themselves. Who gives a shit what anybody else thinks when you know there’s something driving you to do better inside. Can bet your life that the people casting doubt/aspersion at any signs of that drive will be all too predictable – females & males. Quite often some of these sins you might partially recognise in yourself are projections from clueless inadequates.

  46. Thank you, a great article. Frequent articles of this style are definitely needed to keep our focus and cut with the bullshit.

  47. My father always said never trust a woman who want’s unprotected sex on the first date. She either wants a baby or has a STI and wishes to pass it onto you. Have the courage to use a condom. I’ve lost two friends and a cousin to AIDS – one was my ex girlfriend who wouldn’t change her ways and kept on bare backing with drug addicted men. I’m clean.

    1. He was wrong,……… Never Trust a Woman …… there, fixed it for your dad.
      As for AIDs, unlikely for heterosexual men to catch it, even if he’s fucking a junkie whore without a condom.
      She’s banging junkies without injecting herself? Seems unlikely. I’d guess she caught it from a needle, not a cock.

  48. The problem is all these traits are celebrated and accepted by modern society. To be a strong, enlightened, decisive man is to be an outcast these days. We have a lot to learn from Asian and African societies where physical prowess and intellectual capability are widely revered.

    1. Exactly! It’s male strengths that created all of the comforts, constructs, and opportunities that women enjoy in today’s evolving society. Men have always been the providers, the protectors, the innovators, and the doers. Life was primitive. Men changed that. Women benefitted. Now that man-made technology has mitigated female deficiencies and diminished male strengths, misandry has become fashionable and profitable. Women gain power through blatant female chauvinism, the denigration of men, the demoralization of our sons, and constant false flag claims of collective victimhood. That is the hypocrisy of feminism.
      Girl power is merely the ability for females to take advantage, without acknowledgement or appreciation, of the infrastructures, technologies, and opportunities created through the hard work and innovation of men. Man power made girl power possible.

  49. Men like the people who write these articles often accuse feminists of causing male suicides. You are wrong. It is articles like these that cause men to take their own lives.

  50. Got to that article a bit late. By some months.
    Definitely bookmarking this. Right on many spots. Disturbingly many spots.
    Damn. I need to re-evaluate a couple of things…

  51. “Any man who commits the sin of self-pity deserves no mercy from this harsh world.”
    A man who calls another a “self pitying victim” without walking a mile in the shoe’s of the first is a rip-roaring a–hole who may (will?) eventually find out what a sh*tty and unforgiving world this planet really is.
    What is an alpha, without their beta minions and female worshipers?
    So easy for the fortunate to claim “self pity” on those who are, beyond a shadow of a doubt, unjustly spat and shat upon for their entire lives due to their genetic physical attributes and nothing else.
    An omega ectomorph who perseveres…is there anything on this planet than can be any tougher? Most can’t go it alone for a few months. We do it our WHOLE LIVES!!!

  52. necro post, i know…
    but dam this piece hits all the right spots, in todays social climate its very hard to not feel #1 & 2 for sure.

  53. As much as I hate to admit it, I succumb to all 7 of these. At times I wonder why I even come on RoK… to see others just do better in life than me? What a mess.

    1. If you are able to get a handle on one then you are a better man, better able to tackle the next on the list. Every journey begins with single step.

      1. Yea. It’s one thing to be aware of your problems and accept their existence. It’s another thing to do something about them. In a way, if you have the former but lack the will for the latter what’s the point of being self-aware? It’s more or less self torture, or an insane form of self-depreciating pleasure if you become indifferrent to your condition.

        1. Dude get out of your head and stop analyzing it. You recognize the value of growth, commit to making small steps towards that. There is no need to become a different man just a stronger one.

        2. Go out, get drunk and fuck a whore ……. works for me.
          In the west, all white men are victims of their government.
          You can’t change it, you can only accept it, leave, or die.

        3. You’re right. I’ve been unemployed for a while now. I should be going to college, but student loans, terrible economy. Seems irresponsible to build up that much debt this young. That’s what I need to get going more than anything: stable finances

    2. Start weightlifting dude. It changes the way your brain works. When you’re squatting with 180kg on your shoulders, you quickly realise that you need to ‘get serious’. It develops your will, determination, and ability to tolerate pain, and this flows out into all the other areas of your life.
      Even Socrates (in Plato’s Republic), recognised the need to men to engage in physical exercise before their minds could be of any value.

  54. This site has become popup virus cleaner hell. Unreadable. Not happening on other sites

  55. 1. Gluttony and over consumption
    2. Sloth and general laziness and lacking motivation to do anything
    3. Jealousy: easily feeling insecure and jealousy towards others
    4. Unnecessary Anger over things you can’t control (politics, race, religion discussions)
    5. Wasting Time
    6. Being arrogant that you start feeling invincible
    7. Putting some fem

  56. Make a virtue opposing article now. I have a lack of drive, lack of willand I don’t care much for living.

  57. You know when you feel safe and secure and then bam everything falls on your face? What’s that called?

  58. Thank you for posting this. Of all of them #1 is my biggest sin. It’s the worst. When I pull myself up after a bout with this, I’m better and things move more according to what I want. I hate that I feel that way at times, but I always come to my senses. Now the trick is to not let it happen anymore.

  59. In my opinion, you missed the two most important ones “lack of self-awareness” & “lack of humility” But it’s possible I am wrong. There are wiser men than me. Lol. But seriously.

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