In the last year and a half that I’ve live abroad, I’ve learned one thing over and over again—it sucks having to leave people behind. Good friends are hard to come by, and I’ve met quite a few of them during my nomadic time.
The problem is that when you’re moving every month, you’re inevitably going to be meeting, making, and then losing friends. Constantly. It’s enough to wear most people down, and in turn I think it results in more “permanent expats” rather than 24/7/365 nomadic travelers.
However, even if you settle into a place on at least a somewhat permanent basis, you run into another problem—often times, the people you want to meet (Red Pill aware and have their life together) are currently living that nomadic life.
You might meet a great wingman in your city, go out a half dozen times, then he packs his bags and leaves. This process gets rinsed and repeated constantly, depending on where you are in the world, the weather, etc.
Why Language Exchanges Are A Great Alternative
Over the last few months, I’ve been sporadically attending language exchanges in my “home base” city. Not because I have a huge work ethic to improve my Russian, but mostly just to socialize and have a good time.
I’ve found that it’s a fantastic avenue for socializing in multiple ways. I’d highly recommend it to anyone who lives abroad or spends considerable time in a country where English isn’t the native language spoken.
Without further ado, here are five reasons you ought to check out a language exchange.
1. Instant Social Proof For Game
Short of becoming a rock star, I’ve been hard-pressed to find a quicker way to gain instant, alpha-of-the-group social status compared to a language exchange.
If you’re a native speaker, you are instantly going to be the highest value person in the world simply because you can communicate better than anyone else there (other than other native speakers).
Girls and guys are both going to try to engage you—be prepared to be talking and communicating the whole time. If you’re the only native speaker in a group of 10, you are never going to get a break.
Simply put, you have the most value of everyone in the room—so the girls are going to flock to you. Granted, it’s not a “seduction” environment. It’s going to require some finesse and game to get the girls from the exchanges on a 1-on-1 date.
Bonus: If you are actually living in the city on a somewhat permanent basis, this works even better in your favor. You won’t see the Stag parties overflowing a language exchange when they are only there for a weekend. Generally speaking, most people who attend these exchanges are staying for at least a little while.
2. Easy Flag Hunting
If you’re interested in adding a few new flags to your notch collection, you’d be hard pressed to find a better opportunity to meet your pick of new opportunities.
As long as you are in a reasonably sized and international city, there is one common thing most girls living there have in common—they want to improve their English. It’s usually the only language they can all communicate in.
I’ve never seen a wider range of girls from different countries all put together in one room, and easily approachable. Of course, this does come at a downside—there’s often quite the diversity of guys with bad game stinking up the joint.
However, this point is pretty much moot—as I mentioned above, if you’re a native speaker, you are the biggest prize there.
3. Making Friends
Last year, I got lonely at times. When I was constantly moving, there were times I didn’t have any guys to hang out with. No one to just go play pool or grab a beer with. This wears on you over time. Sometimes, it’s just the simple things in life.
Well, the language exchanges are also a great environment to meet some new buddies. Just screen carefully for the ones who have their lives together and aren’t spending their weekends marching in parades.
By nature, these nature exchanges promote a sense of “openness and accepting”, so there are plenty of Libtards waiting in the wings to attack you about Donald Trump.
Generally speaking, you’ll have something in common with the other native English speakers. They likely made the move from their home country abroad—so there’s common ground right there.
If you make buddies with some local foreign guys, even more doors can be opened in regards to local girls you might not normally have had access to.
4. Free Drinks (And A Warning)
Most hosts of language exchanges buy you a drink if you are a native speaker and go to the group where your native tongue is spoken. And they won’t be the only one who buy you a drink.
I’m not kidding—you can pretty much expect to drink for free as long as you are being a charmer and engaging everybody. They’ll make sure your glass is never empty.
5. It’s Simply Good Fun
It gets exhausting, and I wouldn’t recommend going every week—but I’ve found language exchanges to simply be good fun. It’s a good reason to get out of the house on a random night, a good way to meet both buddies and girls, and it’s fun to be the most desired person in the world.
I wouldn’t hesitate to recommend it to any nomads living in reasonably large foreign cities. Start by browsing MeetUp, Facebook, and other social sites to find the best information. Find the best ones, and have fun.
To learn more about how to get these girls out on dates, check out my program on texting. For more information about living abroad, read Eastern European Travel.
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10 thoughts on “5 Reasons To Hit Up Language Exchanges If You Travel Abroad”
If you work as a wall guard once Trump gets his ass into gear, you’ll get a language exchange everyday while making money and serving your country. “Dar la vuelta ahora! (Turn around now!)”
Ha Ha Ha ! I just simply “laugh” when I read some articles, like this one !!
Well, you can enrich your spanish even more: “a la cuenta de tres empezare a disparar, frijoleros hijos de puta”.
It’s a good idea. I speak Spanish and Russian. Years ago I had about 80k in the bank, no debt, and I was planning a year off. Figured I’d surf in Central America during the winter, then hit Ukraine in the summer. My plan to meet people was volunteer work and yoga classes.
I got married instead.
Ha. It’s not so bad. Love my little baby girl, and my wife meets all of the criteria in that article Roosh wrote about the ideal wife a while back. I always knew I wanted kids, so I’m convinced I did the right thing. Still, the wanderlust does hit from time to time.
It’s all good. I’m just being facetious. I’m glad you are happy and I’m glad that your baby girl has a great dad. I have to admit that I’d like to “settle down” sometime in the near future too.
No worries, I got that. Are you over 40? I usually advise guys not to even think about marriage until after 40, and then only if she meets the criteria in that Roosh article and is at least 10 years younger. Wine and milk, as they say.
There’s still going to be some wanderlust and Coolidge effect even then, but if she’s a good woman and you want kids it’s worth it.
Excellent article, Kyle! I’ve been intending to learn a few European languages for quite some time, and you’ve given me good reasons to get to it.
When you say ‘native speaker’ do you mean you’d be the alpha if you spoke English? Or if you spoke the language of that country?…..ie, if you’re in Russia at a language exchange you speak Russian?
Some good points in the article that are good for younger guys just opening their eyes to travel and the world.
Being in my mid-30s and residing abroad gives me a different perspective. Not to down a good ROK contributor, but after a certain point, guy groups and wingmen are just gay. You’ve got to learn how to hack it and kill it on your own. Social proof is different now. Even babushka gets her social proof from her smartphone. Keep up with the times.
Putting yourself in a mixed group and trying to be the cream that rises to the top is a longshot dice roll, especially if you’re not a natural. I recommend playing the strengths of technology. Meeting online 1 on 1 is a more sure shot and a better time for all involved. While you’re competing with Maciej and Wilhelm at the language club, I’m slapping Svetlana’s tight ass at home.
I’ve learned more Russian horizontally in my bedroom in EE than what you’ll get competing over other dudes in a language club.