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How Starting My Own Business Developed My Game

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Two years after graduating from college, I cut the umbilical cord from my corporate job and started my own business. Little did I realize how my blue-pill, beta way of life was soon going to transition into a new dimension

Prior to starting my own business, I was fearful of rejection. When going out during college, I would sit at the corner of the bar while all my friends were out approaching earning digits, hook ups, and one night stands. To me the fear of rejection overshadowed the potential for reward that could have been had if I just mustered up the courage to approach. Not only was I fearful of rejection, but I would get jealous of all my friends who had the right game and attitude required to consistently close.

Business taught me the resilience needed to overcome that fear. The rejections I have experienced in business and still experience to this day are more intense and personal than any woman’s rejection at a club or bar.

The constant struggles I encountered on my start-up enabled me to not give a fuck when it came to cold approaching at night. Through my business, I developed two key traits instrumental to strong game: Not fearing rejection, and a strong frame.

As I mentioned earlier, the hundreds of cold approaches I performed and continue to perform with clients regarding my business has enabled me to not fear rejection when approaching a group of women. I have gotten to the point that when I do face rejection, I smile, walk away, and move onto my next target. Getting over this fear has improved my game tremendously.

Some nights, I’ve gotten shot down by a few women, then on my last approach, I end up finding a woman receptive to my game leading to a notch. In the past, after the first rejection, I would have just called it a night and left. But starting my own business has enabled me and will help anyone else new to game and dealing with the initial fear.

As an entrepreneur, you have to be resilient, tough, and have a strong frame of mind. Once you’re at the stage of hiring employees, you realize how you are responsible for all your employees and their livelihoods. At that point, certain blue pill and beta patterns—indecisiveness, loneliness, depression, negative thinking, etc. slowly began to dissipate. You begin to realize that other people look to you to lead them, and your character is not only a reflection upon yourself, but also that business you’ve worked hard to develop and grow. Taking the red pill is not something that happens overnight.

One becomes more red pill and alpha through the experiences and challenges that cultivate him into a high value man that is respected by both his peers and women. Starting my own business has improved my self-esteem and the way I perceive myself. Once you convince yourself that you have become the man that you seek to be, your frame automatically improves.

That same frame you maintain with your employees, clients, and colleagues—confidence, certainty in your decisions, and a positive outlook are the same characteristics you need to approach, escalate, and close the deal. Like in business, with game, you are the product or service you are looking to sell, and the methods by which you convey yourself and the frame with which you sell will impact your likelihood for success.

At first, I was ambivalent towards learning game, and hated having to go out and make approaches to get a girl to like me. Ever since starting my own business, I look at game as a tactic that not only enhances my personal life, but my professional life as well. Game has complemented my business career and will continue to do so—the more work I put in, the better I get. Business has in turn complemented my game by providing me with the strong frame needed to succeed in life.

So gentlemen, as we approach the new year I advise anyone who is looking to launch that new idea or product to go into 2015 with the tenacity required to do so. The life experiences you learn and character you develop in the process can be more beneficial than you could imagine!

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87 thoughts on “How Starting My Own Business Developed My Game”

  1. I made the same observation after starting my own company. When faced with true challenges such as life altering rejections, being rejected by some clueless cunt means nothing. Luckily in my life ive also been faced with intense life threatening situations that permanently changed the bar on my fight or flight response. Am I afraid to approach a bitch now? Fuck no! Challenge yourself in life and your game will vastly improve. Pussy isn’t the ultimate conquest.

  2. Owning my own business helped me tremendously during my divorce. Her leaving me and the nasty things she said hurt me pretty deeply but they, were easy to overcome thanks in large measure to the tough skin I had built over the years of being self employed. Thankfully she didn’t take any of money so that sure helped matters.

    1. You’ve touched upon a very important thing. If you earn your bread and butter from your business how can you protect it when going through a divorce? I know the best way is not to get married in the first place or don’t have a common law wife but what if you are legally married. Prenups can be challenged and destroyed as far as i know. Anybody out there with answers to this problem ?

      1. Its alot easier to hide what you earn when you have your own business. Also if they give her half of the business, you could quit it and let it collapse and then restart with the same product and clients with a new business 100% owned by yourself.

      2. Incorporate, don’t allow her to become a member/shareholder and pay yourself a minimal salary and small quarterly profit disbursement. Keep the bulk of the profits inside the company. Not foolproof but does afford some protection. Talk to a good tax lawyer for setting it up properly

      3. I copy-pasted this from the comments section of one of Heartiste’s articles
        “Maxim #1a: Women desire men of better quality than themselves.”
        so true….actually it’s so true that my grandma said something of that sort back in college when I was complaining that I got no dates, she heard me and you know what she said?
        “Of course it’s gonna be difficult to find a hot college girl, they want the guy with the career who has a sportscar, what do you have? go for highschool girls” not kidding….
        a story similar to that a guy I met in Uni who had 4 kids,was in his 30s, divorced and studying accounting (careerchange) while doing IT gigs on the side. I asked him what happened and that’s the brief story:
        He got her knocked up when they were both 20, being of italian decent he folded to family pressure and got married. He started his own small IT-support firm, and for 5-6 years worked hard on building it up while his wife had other babies and worked small part-time temp jobs. to make a story short, he felt that the company was growing and needed someone to handle the sales so he got his wife in as a sales manager while he managed the operations.
        his wife followed certifications courses on the side and became a very good salesperson and then after some years decided to go back to school to get an MBA, which he encouraged. With her MBA in hand (he had a technical college degree in IT, not even a bachelor) she started networking with big hot shot clients and bringing in big businesses to the firm. to make a long story short, she cheated on him with baller senior manager in some big firm who was her client, she then told him she wanted a divorce and that she wanted to dissolve the firm and take her share of clients to the new company. She event went to court to force him to do that, he was ordered to sell the firm, and now he’s back in school learning accounting!
        What could a guy in his situation have done so that the traitorous cunt/ex-wife couldn’t destroy him financially

        1. Kept her at home raising the family instead of elevating her to a position more important than his own.

        2. True, learn from the mistakes of others i always say.
          What do you think if the company was held in family trust with the trustees being himself and another trusted person(s) like his father or uncle. It can’t be his children because they are still to young. Would the court still be able to order the sale of his company ?
          Any lawyers or people who have family trusts or business people on here able to answer this ?

        3. Friend of a good friend of mine, I was just informed got took 1.25m in a divorce settlement, crippling his stake in the small tech company he slave for 15 years to create. These stories are far too common I’m afraid.

      4. Do not think just incorporating or being a member (sole or multi) of an LLC or corp makes your business insular from a divorce trial, even if the woman has no technical stakeholdership in the business. The divorce lawyer is paid to create her stakeholdership, prove the money trail, and burn you to the ground.
        It comes down to exactly how and where you from the entity, among other things. Throughout the past 15-20 years, different states have offered different types of protection of ownership. The best options have changed as laws have changed but usually, if a state changes it’s laws on entity formation, the preceding formations are grand-fathered in to maintain their status for a length of time. Often 50 years minimum.
        Do your research, and pony up with preferably a lawyer who is also an accountant. Hyper communicating between 2-5 different legal advises and getting them to agree on the best path can be a fuckin nightmare in itself. And even if you’re opening a domestic business, look for a guy with international experience. Why? Because this country is fucked, and the guys counseling internationally operating businesses know the most badass loop holes you’ll never encounter compared to the average Joe business lawyer.

  3. Developing a business is probably the only way to escape from the corporate slavery world that consumes the vast majority of society.
    Understand, that running a business is not glamorous, but a very difficult venture to pursue, and one that requires patience, time and risk taking. Which is why if you do not embody those three characteristics, then it is best not to go down this line of work.
    When starting a business, you must be aware consciously that even though you are operating on your own terms, you must treat your business, like a business. Which means you must make sacrifices such as having any spare time and more importantly, ready to acknowledge that you will not be making a profit straight away, but will be starting off from a deficit point of view.
    Furthermore, as a business man, you must be ready to deal with competition in the market place and also, constant government red tape, bureaucracy and regulation.
    All of the most successful companies started from scratch and a small place, before becoming the success that they are today. Which is why you as a man and more importantly, as a business individual, must be ready to fully understand of what it takes before starting a business.
    That being said, having a business, truly is one of the most potentially rewarding and liberating feelings to have as a man.
    It really is one of the greatest avenues to pursue and one which is truly suited for a man. One only needs to look back through history to realise that all of the greatest entreprenueurs and innovators of our time were men. And better yet, you do not have to deal with the pyschological bullshit drama that women constantly stir up in the workplace such as false harassment lawsuits.
    To all entrepreneurs who take the risk to start a business, you have my respect.

  4. They are absolutely related. I run a small enterprise on the side myself. Going out to sell yourself and your business takes balls and all of the “No’s” you receive make each victory that much sweeter.
    Look, if you can learn to enjoy getting kicked in the balls as part of the thrill and excitement of life, of pushing yourself, just as much as you enjoy blowing a fat load into some tight hot box, you will be fucking unstoppable. The world is yours.

  6. While I agree with the sentiment of the author, there are some caveats. I left the corporate world 20 years ago. I have started 3 businesses since then. Two flopped and I lost a lot of money. The third has been somewhat successful. I work twice as hard and earn half of what I did in the corporate world. I also don’t get the health insurance and savings benefits. The sad truth is that most “small” businesses hang on by a thread. Fully 95% of businesses fail within 5 years (according to the SBA). Not great odds. Their exists a mythology about entrepreneurship in this country that is not true. You are much more likely to fail than succeed. If you can handle that, then small business is for you. When you do see a successful small business person, he should respected for the incredible toughness and resilience he possesses.

    2. My old man ran a small machine shop most of his life and consequently as he was building the business in the 80’s, I rarely saw him due to his 12-14 hour days. He told me constantly to avoid being a business owner and all the governmental and union interference wasn’t worth it. That said, he supported /raised two successful kids and is now sitting pretty in retirement.

      1. Good for your old man. We need more men like him in society- men who have the balls to start something from scratch and withstand against the pressures of life and can really contribute towards our society in a positive way.

        1. I agree, but bear in mind this was the 1980’s and I’m guessing it was easier getting something going back then compared to now.

      2. The best businesses like your old man’s that I know of, i.e. my friend’s dad’s businesses, are ones that had total family support, and often the entire family played some part in it’s operation. They navigated the ups and downs in the economy. Many of the youth treat it as a family curse, until they get to be middle-aged and realize just how good it really is during the course of an entire lifetime.

        1. To an extant. My brother and I had our working papers at 14 (so he could finally pay us above the board) and started doing what we could. My mom did a lot too. However, my old man’s brother and sister worked for him and were awful workers and free loaders. They had serious sour grapes about my dad’s success.

    3. One of the main reasons why small businesses fail, is because of the business structure of the United States.
      The USA has been taken over by monopolies, corporations and multinationals. Everything in the US, is a chain store, multinational brand store or corporate store. The politicians intentionally created all the unnecessary regulations and red tapes so that it would kill the small man (who cannot compete) and allow the corporations to win. That way, they can get them to go on welfare and become dependant on government.
      No longer in the US, do you see stationary stores, independant mom and pop businesses. Everything is McDonalds, Dennys, Staples, Walmarts etc. Compared to other Western nations, America is the most corporate and monopolised nation on Earth.
      And I don’t just blame the corporations as well. The market place (general public) is to blame as well. As long as you continue to buy your Chinese made cheap goods and not support small businesses, then this is going to be the way.

      1. It’s called fascism….. national socialism with corporate insiders taking advantage…. if you are connected, you’re made.Unless they want something you won’t do, then they wack you…. It’s just like a mafia.

        1. True- the merger of states and corporations.
          But the vast majority would rather play with their Chinese made Iphones and other gadgets and gizmos, rather than to acknowledge the truth.

        2. Absolutely. Everyone on RoK needs to look at the top contributors to Republican and Democratic parties. The same banks and corporations contribute to BOTH. The politicians are beholden to them. They wield massive amounts of power.
          And we seem to be in the process of having new laws passed that allow politicians to take more money. It is corrupt beyond the average American’s imagination.

      2. I don’t fault consumers for purchasing products with the highest utility. That is simply an undeniable fact of capitalism. I fault the average consumer for allowing their elected officials to pass legislation that is unconstitutional and promotes crony capitalism, which destroys a truly competitive marketplace.

        1. If America (and the rest of the world) continues to allow their states to be run by fascists, then society will continue to crumble further and we will eventually see the breakdown of civilization.
          But don’t worry, those so called “job recoveries” will calm the zombies, I mean, the general public down.

        2. Yes, I think eventually western societies will have to change or risk collapse, but I think the powerful beneficiaries of the current system will make this last as long as possible so you and I will be long past our primes to take advantage of a collapse. The wage and job gains from the economic lows from the last economic downturn are pathetic compared to what the wealthy have recovered. If you look at growth over the last 30 years, the wealthy are doing far better with the vast majority remaining either stagnant or worse off in real terms.

      3. ” The politicians intentionally created all the unnecessary regulations and red tapes so that it would kill the small man ”
        So true. It sucks.
        The other disease is automation. I do not see a bright future. Just a situation where one is mandated to have to choose between serving coffee or cleaning toilets. Not a day goes by that I don’t regret not having children.

        1. Automation has passed the point of diminishing returns. a lot of people are unaware that, for example, a ‘combine harvester’ costs nearly ten times the amount, in ongoing maintenance and initial outlay, than the same amount of ‘work’ that could be gotten out of individuals with tractors and standard harvester rigs.
          most mass produced finished goods are far less durable and valuable than their individually-produced contemporaries, and this shows.
          In essence, this is all a function of keynesian economic theories and their application to mass production.This is shortsighted in the extreme, and we are now witnessing the failure of keynesian economic theories in all areas of life, from 12 dollar wal-mart shoes that barely last a month, to the onset of a spectacular economic recession that economist have bee struggling to ‘put off’ (and worsen) for decades.

        2. As someone with a lot of experience with automation, I can tell you that it produces exactly what you tell it to, and does it better than a human operator. What I think you are perceiving in degraded quality has to do with the push to reduce cost by management.
          It actually takes a fair bit of skill to make something just good enough that you will buy it and will squeak out the warranty period, forcing you back into the store for a replacement.
          Making something durable or over deigned is easy, which is why parts from small companies or old time machines are generally tougher and more expensive. The parts were engineered on a smaller budget, (mass prototyping is not an option) affording less time to really stroke the part for maximum efficiency, or it was done a long time ago when the tools to design to cheapness where not readily available.

      4. Its vital to structure your business correctly. Its also vital to have a damn good lawyer, accountant and ins. agent on your side. Without you make many mistakes, lose money and struggle too hard. I speak from experience having learned the hard way. If you dig into the archived articles found at http://www.boldanddeetermined.com you will find a wealth of information pertaining to how build and structure your business properly. I wish I had that information when I was starting out. It would have saved me a lot of trouble

        1. This times a thousand. I made pretty good money for a while doing transactional law, aka cleaning up other people’s small business messes. You know how many smart, successful business owners don’t know that they have to file state compliance filings or how to properly transfer membership interests?

        2. These are the very components that have made my path back to entrepreneurship a much more calculated approach this time. I have a quality mentor with a ton of international business experience this time, and by proxy, the checks an balances of his legal/accounting connections going forward.
          My past business grew from a headache that paid well, to a nightmare that paid great, to an anchor that nearly drown me for good. Never again will I make those mistakes.

      5. That’s pretty much the plan. Once just about everybody owned the means of their own production.
        “Give Me Liberty” by Gerry Spence is a good starting point for explaining how people “accept the system” the way it is, no matter how bad, and how black slavery in America was traded for “everybody slavery” (the point being that people accept that just as much as they accepted black slavery).

      6. to be fair, ‘because of the business structure of the US’ is often also simply an excuse the lazy make for their own inability to work and create their own business.

      7. Most small businesses fail because they haven’t thought it through properly. Very easy to start, very hard to follow through as well.

    4. I appreciate you recognizing the challenges related to starting a small business that seem to be overlooked far too often, especially here on ROK. The refrain of “start your own business” is tantamount to saying “just invest better than market average to retire sooner.” Yes, it is possible, but also extremely rare that someone has all the traits needed IOT succeed in either endeavor. And the costs for erring can be enormous.

    5. In the US, government is now in the business of picking winners and losers in the market. That’s the subject of a different thread. The OP is correct in that starting your own business takes balls, and the personality traits required to do that make approaching women feel about as stressful as taking a coffee break.

    6. This.
      Making good business/investment decisions and being a cowboy start-up entrepreneur are not necessarily the same thing.
      Everyone’s situation is different…

    7. Yes, as someone whos been in business for themselves since 14, I can say this is 100% correct. Entrepreneurship is NOT a get rich quick scheme. The reality is I have always had a desire for it, but I would have preferred if I was cut out for a corporate job.

    8. I find ‘small businesses’ to be less lucrative than being ‘self employed’
      Unfortunately a lot of small business creators are not so much interested in creating a product as they are in creating the small business. They think that being the ‘idea man’ and the ‘mover and shaker’ is enough.
      This is complete hogwash. ‘entrepreneurs’, or those that ‘create’ businesses rather than building them, are generally absolute failures unless they are in a corporate structure.
      However, those who actually create a product, and are entrepreneurs ‘second’, almost always succeed if their product is desired by the public. the 95% failure rate so often quoted is more like 99.99% among sleazebag ‘idea men’ that think they are going to get rich off the work of others, while the 5% remaining is almost entirely those who start a business with a product, and work themselves.
      For instance, my ‘business’ is a success. I employ two people part time, and make quite a good living at it. You may consider it ‘hanging by a thread’, but it certainly will serve to support me for my life. It is the only business I have ever started, and I have been doing it for almost 13 years, and it is not an insane amount of work or sacrifice.
      You CAN succeed in a ‘not punching someone else’s clock’ lifestyle, just be prepared to do the work yourself, don’t lose yourself in dreams of being a CEO of some multinational… if it happens, it happens. (look at Steve Jobs) but if you keep your goals achievable, one step at a time, and focus on what you need instead of megalomaniacal dreams of world domination, you won’t be one of that 95%.

      1. You got it.
        I have to deal with a lot of people who started small businesses in software and from what I gather, most of them are doing it because they could not hold down a real job.
        I can tell when they don’t actually read and use the solutions I send them. It’s as if their social media addiction has driven them to become “self employed” but there they are with real work to do, and won’t do it. Instead they sit there and try to get someone else to do this.
        I have dealt with druggies in other fields of expertise who do the EXACT SAME THING.
        So to be self employed or have a business and be a success you CANNOT be a typical special snowflake product of post modernism where you expect to swindle and trick your way through life. You have to be ready for real work, meaning you have to be like great grandpa who stepped off the boat in 1890 and was celebrating thanksgiving in his own home and all of his family 2 years later.

        1. yeah, I do a lot of art for indy game developers, and I will NEVER accept a ‘piece of the action’ for my payment from a new developer… because game developers that are selling interest in their finished product almost never succeed in finishing or selling their product.
          I cannot tell you how many wannabe indy game developers have an ‘idea for a game’ and want others to do all the work while they rake in the profits.
          Ironically, I have been involved in several successful indy games.. and strangely, the developers who pay ‘up front’ for their artwork seem to succeed far more often… I have even taken them up on a ‘piece of the action’ for payment for a second or third project, which also succeeds.
          In short, ‘success stories’ are not luck, they are those where the creator is willing to put his money (and labor) where his mouth is.
          Here’s the secret: Ideas are WORTHLESS. Keeping an idea ‘secret’ simply hinders your ability to produce. Ideas, no matter how ‘good’ they seem, have absolutely no value… and I can guarantee that no matter how smart you are, or how ‘amazing’ your idea is, someone else has thought of it first.
          That’s one of the reasons I am so utterly disgusted by American Patent and trademark law. It is ridiculous and designed to reward lazy slimeball ‘dreamers’ for basically doing nothing, and punish those who actually produce.

        2. Oh Dear God!
          MUH TRIGGERS!
          Seems like almost every damned ad in Seattle Craigslist is from some special snowflake type who thinks they have an idea that will take down Facebook and Twitter and they want developers that they cannot pay, but offer a piece of the action.
          I’ve actually spoken to a few of them just for the lolz and the practice of dealing with these people and they sound like every drug head I knew in the 80s who, after a long binger and running out of inheritance money, would decide they were going to start some business and become a success overnight. I don’t know what drugs these people of late are on but I think the pattern is more of a mind that is on an addiction than a substance addiction. In other words it’s the end point and not the medium of addiction that we are dealing with, and the same results at the end.
          So how many of these indie devs are really addicts – their addiction being video games? I have known real game developers and just developers in general. I can tell the real ones from the addicts easily. The real ones don’t have time to play every video game that comes out. The addicts will min-max every new game that comes out in a matter of days.
          What are they doing with the rest of their time?
          I have worked on a few games though not as a game developer (most of the grunt work in games is the art and graphics anyway and I don’t do art and graphics) and once put in 36 hours straight behind the keyboard working on…….. an algorithm.

        3. I will tell you what… doing the environmental art for a game or two will permanently cure you of game addiction. A decade back I was an MMO fan, and today I can barely stand to play a few games of hearthstone or a couple of hours of this or that a WEEK.
          Weirdly enough, ditching games entirely improved the hell out of my sex life, even though I was spending at least twice as much time working as I was used to.

    9. Very true, many people fail a few times before it works, and even when it works, money comes and goes for quite some time before you can get constant money.
      A good corporate career on the other hand, can generate good money constantly, if invest most of it each month and make it grow, you stand much better chances getting rich than small business owners.
      By the time the average entrepreneur succeeds, one can have enough money invested to get as much from their cash as the owner gets from his company.
      Why don’t most people with corporate jobs get rich then? Because money burns their hands, if they have more than they need, they buy more shit instead of investing it…
      It’s not the corporate job that makes a man rich, it’s investing the constant cashflow.

    10. Absolute truth. The figure in Australia is fail in two years. You better have some serious balls if you go the small business entrepreneur route. You’re going to be working harder than if you’re working for a boss.

    1. Come on… it’s not like this is the only topic… but it’s fine if you prefer men, Pandora!

  8. Entrepreneurs, I suggest a great book to get your mind into a good frame for modern business. The title is “The 4 Hour Work Week”.

  9. Meh… a lot of this is true, but conducting a job search (for a corporate job) also engenders similar traits..
    Get used to rejection.
    Cast a wide net
    Practice communication (interviewing)
    ….and so on.

    1. …and once hired you leave your future in the hands of the male hating land whale in HR.
      My friend, having worked in the corporate hell hole for a number of years and then grinding it out as an entrepreneur for the last 7 – there is no comparison. Your corporate job is a velvet prison cage that will slowly through the insidious effects of meetings, politically correct seminars, ass kissing of people you hate, compromise, useless endeavors and tasks that waste the companies time and money but because you were told to do them by the fuck up masquerading as your boss you have convinced yourself that its real work will slowly over time turn the strongest of men into nothing but a shell of ones former self. You will either have turned into an utter sociopath in order to get ahead or you will settle for mediocrity and “retire” as nothing but a pathetic man child. This is corporate Amerika circa 2014. Neither option is pretty.

  10. I would have much rather heard about how starting your own business increased your self-confidence, caused you to take more chances, enhanced your creativity and drive, or maybe even made you a rich man. But no, it’s all just “hey duuuude, I can totally pull some puss!!” There’s more to life than getting women to want to fuck you. Quit putting that shit on a pedestal and be your own fucking man.

  11. A pet peeve of mine is when someone says that he owns a business but doesn’t mention what kind it is. That’s like asking someone what he does for a living and he replies “I have a job”.
    I think it would have been relevant to the article if the author mentioned his line of work.

    2. Why is not knowing the business a peeve or relevant?
      I own four corporations and wish to maintain my anonymity. Two of my firms are in highly specialized industries and their mention could compromise my wishes.

      1. Search warrants can be served for computers. I respect your anonymity, and completely understand this reasoning.

      2. I didn’t say knowing the exact name and location of the business…. just the type of business.

        3. “Doctor, I Can’t Say No”
          “Ladyfingers”
          “MoonPieraker”
          “Charlotte Royale”
          “You Only Eat Twice Between Snacks”
          “All the Food in the World is not Enough”

  13. I can’t stress the importance of timing when starting a business. Each sector has the potential to fail due to bubble economics. I had the joy of losing a burgeoning business to the trailing effects of 9/11, went back to school and graduated directly into the recession.
    Only this year, finally, have I managed to yet again start another business which is only partially mine, part time, and from ground zero. no pun. Be very careful dumping too much into any sort of fixed assets.
    We simply can’t trust the world’s governments to play nice with us, nor one another anymore, nor protect us from hackers and terrorists which will plunge an economy faster than a feminist cries rape.
    And ALWAYS remember this. You’re never as well off as you think you are in small business. If you’re clearing 100k per year, live off 40-60k, because the ‘rainy day fund’ can become a ‘rainy half decade fund’ very quickly.

  14. Good article. Ive found that even going from college land to actually working also improves game even if it is with a large business. For example, I work in retail and you have to learn to be social really fast, or you wont survive. You may retain your job, but youll be miserable. Im definitely one of the most satisfied people at my job despite knowing its a miserable hellhole. I make it fun by engaging with coworkers and customers in dynamic and exciting ways. Everyone else seems pretty depressed and when I jokingly “fire” them, all of them say “YAY!”

  15. Nice perspective. You take your personal stamina gained in business and apply yourself in game. A great exercise in directing your energies.
    I didn’t hear any whining about being ‘entitled’ to pussy and not being handed it despite your state of evolution/development. I can remember back when I felt ‘entitled’ to pussy. As an immature child I would have loved to have a piece of the centerfold babes in the nudie mags back when I was 10 hanging out with my buddies sneaking peeks at the drug store magazine rack but I lacked the fortitude to follow through with much more than riding my bike from point A to point B and figuring what to do next. But still I felt that I deserved some pussy. Hell I was 10.
    Only when you grow and mature in all areas of endeavor and development, your base mass as a pussy magnet increases proportionally. The more sovereign and wilder you are with respect to the herd, the less effect that the restraints imposed on the herd will affect you personally. It is the livestock penned in breeding stalls that are either denied pussy or that have pussy delivered to them on a platter like an arranged marriage, but the self determinant wild and free renegades pick and choose what they want.

  16. If you are self employed and able to live on your income, amd not dependant on a boss, and bide your own rules is very powerful.

  17. To truly start a successful business, you have to come up with a great, innovative idea that can fill a new niche market never targeted before. Especially in this crisis-stricken era. You have to create a need. I think an Internet-based business can have more chances of being successful than another usual business.

  18. I don’t think depression is a blue pill trait, full stop. It can be if you sit around the house feeling sorry for yourself all day. I’ve been depressed, and what helped me was exercise and just getting shit done, no matter how small. Some people have said I must not have been “really” depressed then, to which I replied, “Fuck that noise.”
    Self-employment has its ups and downs. When I first started, it was always either feast or famine. But all of it is worth it if only to never deal with ditzy 23 year old HR harpies anymore.

  19. Wow, what a wanker Mark Cuban looks like in that picture. Probably bumping some Eminem on his plane there while he jerks himself off.

  20. For all of you here lamenting the challenges of starting and running your own business, and those challenges are very, very real, may I recommend “The E-Myth Revisited” by Michael Gerber? He has lived it all (even suffered through a horrendous bankruptcy, after which spend years paying back ever one of his creditors) as a small business owner of a small business consultancy service. A great, great book! His most quotable quote? “Work on your business, not in it.” Also, “Most so-called small business owners are not entrepreneurs, but competent technicians suffering an entrepreneurial seizure.”
    Get it. Read it. Learn from it. Then start again.

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