Why Pickups Fail

Last summer in Poznan, the going got tough where I was no longer getting one-night stands on weekdays. I had to fall back to day game and long-form dating in order to keep my sexual activity at a desired level. Nonetheless, every night I went out my goal was still to get laid. Numbers and kisses aren’t bad, but I want to completely seal the deal with a new chick whenever I step out of the door.

For those two summer months, I started to collect reasons why I didn’t get the same-night bang. Many nights had multiple causes for failure. Here are reasons I tracked, from most frequent to least:

25%: Could not isolate solid prospect from her social circle

19%: Not enough women in the venue(s) I went to

13%: Girls I connected with most had a boyfriend

6%: Girl was 100% firm in not fucking same night

6%: I wasn’t horny enough to make committed approaches

6%: I failed to venue change to my place after the kiss

6%: No girl was buying what I was selling (nothing but rejections all night long)

6%: Deadly late game cockblock

6%: Escalated too early and scared girl away

3%: Just wasn’t feeling it

I noticed that reasons for failure fall under three categories.

1. The environment (e.g., not enough girls)
2. My own ability or mood (escalated too early, wasn’t horny)
3. Combination of the above two (couldn’t isolate)

My goal was to reduce failure in situations that I could affect. So I made three immediate changes:

1. I started asking girls if they had a boyfriend. This helped me avoid girls who weren’t serious about having sex.
2. I avoided girls in big groups. Isolation and cockblocks are consistent issues with group approaches.
3. I ditched girls who put out a prudish vibe.

With the three changes I made, I ended up talking to less girls per night but got slightly more closes (a kiss or more).

Log reasons for failure in the next month or two. Every night you don’t reach your goal (getting a number, kiss, or one-night stand), write down why you failed. Look at that list after a while to see if there’s any changes you can make which would improve your odds. My decision to quickly screen for Polish girls with boyfriends, for example, saw an immediate positive change. While a big part of getting laid is to repeat actions that are working, sometimes it’s more about avoiding behaviors or situations that you’re sure are not helping you reach your goal.

11 thoughts on “Why Pickups Fail”

  1. Fewer girls per night, not less. Less is used for non-countable nouns, fewer is for countable nouns. For example, I have a pound of flour and a pound of apples. You take half of each. I now have less flour and fewer apples.

    1. “As far as we have been able to discover, the received rule originated in 1770 as a comment on ‘less’: This
      Word is most commonly used in speaking of a Number; where I should
      think Fewer would do better. “No Fewer than a Hundred” appears to me,
      not only more elegant than “No less than a Hundred,” but more strictly
      proper. (Baker 1770). Baker’s remarks about ‘fewer’ express clearly
      and modestly – ‘I should think,’ ‘appears to me’ – his own taste and
      preference….Notice how Baker’s preference has been generalized and
      elevated to an absolute status and his notice of contrary usage has been
      Less is the original preferred form in the English language historically as opposed to fewer which is a corruption of the language invented by reformists in the last ~250 years. The usage of less for countable nouns can be traced back as far as 888AD.

  2. Logging and analysis have helped me out in so many spheres of my life. Such a small investment for such large rewards

    1. Feminist troll…
      Whether Roosh goes up with a line he’s used successfully to bang 20 women or a loser dweeb rolls up with a “Hi, my name is Bob. This is a cool club, isn’t it” — the lack of so-called “genuineness” is not the deciding factor.

  3. “I started asking girls if they had a boyfriend. This helped me avoid girls who weren’t serious about having sex.”
    Actually girls with boyfriends at a bar with their friends are basically SINGLE .

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