1. Don’t be a follower on your free time
People do a lot of things they don’t want to do. This can be acceptable for some course of employment or obligations to friends and family. But where I have a problem with it is when people feel obligated or coerced into doing things they don’t like in the guise of leisure and entertainment. Peer pressure and social conformity are powerful tools. Doing things for enjoyment because you think others do them for enjoyment is beta.
2. Having fun should be fun.
Logic would dictate if do something that you like, you must like doing it. I have seen the “go along to get along” and herd conformity in activities such as watching sports, drinking to excess, following social trends, and doing things they see other people have fun doing. I’ve also seen the flip side of that in that people avoid activities they enjoy because they fear might be found to not be mainstream or “trendy”. It seems to be a symptom of a living a life not of your own.
3. Observing the herd in the wild.
Watching a wannabe hipster choke down a craft beer he doesn’t like while wearing the uniform of the “non conformist” to fit in with the crowd to pretend he’s having fun is one example. There can be many causes for this. One might be the need to fit in. He might feel the need to imitate those who are actually having fun. Or it might be he just doesn’t have the stones to tell people he doesn’t like doing such things so the cycle continues. In the end though it doesn’t matter his motivation because he cheated himself out of fun and the pursuit of his own leisure and happiness. Seems like a rather hollow existence to me.
4. Have at it.
Herd creatures like women and girlie men fall victim to conformity to the point where it interferes with their leisure. Or it might be that being part of the herd is more fun than anything else to them, either case I do not care. The target audience of this website is masculine men and they should pursue what they want to do, not what they’re told to do. If you like doing something then don’t stop doing it because somebody else doesn’t like what you doing.
Caveat: unlawful activity is unlawful, also this is not an excuse to play World of Warcraft. If pounding club bitches through the mattress is your thing, have at it. If you like building as SR 71 blackbird model jets repeatedly because they are all black and have no external armament, have at it. If you like being mechanically asphyxiated with synthetic fiber leggings while you rumble your girl’s ovaries by displacing volume in her pelvic cavity, have at it.
5. Don’t be a social zombie.
Speaking of conformity in social norms, it is wise to look into the motivations behind certain influences in society when it wants you to act a certain way. Some influences are rather benign and lookout for the best interest of society, such as not stuffing your face with lard every day. Other influences are not as altruistic and they could actually be the opposite of the benign ones such as fat acceptance.
Some marketing campaigns are designed to motivate people to do something for fun. Marketing might be social political and/or material. People drink Bud Light mostly because they see the ads plastered everywhere and their friends do as well. An easy way to identify the more weak-minded in society is by comparing liquor trends with advertising budgets. Some of these weak individuals actually become free advertising for the company’s when they say silly things like “Ciroc is the best”. If you do things because other people are doing it or you think it is the cool thing to do or because you have to in a certain environment (socially speaking, not legally), then you might actually not be thinking with your own mind.
6. Broadening horizons through leisure.
I discovered trolling certain people. I came up with a game that only seems to work on the East Coast and in liberal cities but it’s rather fun to play. It is a game to draw out the betas and rustle their jimmies. I order a rum drink that is either pink or white and is served in a martini glass with a pineapple, cherry, or whatever fruit I can think of. As I sit at the bar, quite a few people will make a comment. If that comment is insulting, 100% of the time it came from a beta. This might be the one instance where a beta feels safe confronting and insulting somebody in such an environment.
Like an ant lion laying in wait, I relish when they stumble into my trap. Usually they say something along the lines of “why didn’t you order a man drink?” I reply with “I didn’t realize beverage selection was the measure of a man, I always thought it was the capacity for violence.” At this point the beta and/or omega usually becomes visually perturbed and I continue “You measured me as a man with your method, can I measure you according to mine?”
I find this game fun on so many levels. First of all, the betas are reminded of what they really are. Second is that it is intriguing to women who might be watching. Third, it is intellectually agile enough to make the academic types butthurt. I’ve noticed two things while playing this game. One is actual alpha males never ask anything about my beverage selection other than curious questions. Another is I actually like most of these fruity drinks and I order them outside of this game because I enjoy them.
7. Conclusion.
Have fun doing something because you like it and be your own man. Common sense would dictate the wearing a bathing suit to funeral might not be the greatest idea. Don’t be somebody’s unwitting pawn to meet their sales numbers because you felt the need to belong. Make decisions with your own mind. But to paraphrase Topgun: don’t have your ego write checks your body can’t cash.
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This is a weird article. Can’t put my finger on why. Is the author new to the manosphere?
This is definitely a good article but one for the young squires on this board. And I think now that ROK’s readership demographic is spanning the age spectrum. Nothing wtong with that whatsoever, and perhaps articles may have to be categorized by age group.
proof reading needs to be improved
The motto of this article should only apply to responsible men.
With regards to women. from what I have seen in the UK, over the last thirty years, women doing what they want to in terms of ‘fun’ has decimated meaningful relationships for the most part, led to a rise in single motherhood and its attendant problems and led to a decline in men’s ability and desire to improve themselves. I’ve seen all sorts of useless men with attractive women; the men are short (not that this is an issue) but they are not even physically muscular or even alpha in personality. They are the most useless men alive, on welfare. It is not limited to British people; immigrants are just as bad. However, a narcissist mentality that incentivizes fun and irresponsibility makes it harder on those that do work to shoulder the burden. It de-civilizes society.
I take offense to this because as we speak my girlfriend is pegging me and I love every inch of it.
Pegging? Is that something to do with her sticking her fingers up your ass while sucking your dick? Or what?
YOU FAGGOT
One word: Expatriate. It’s what many of us are either working on or already doing. I’ve found that only Western women have this sort of “rot” going on. It hasn’t infected women in many other parts of the world.
Yep to this article.
But I also think it’s good to check out some herd activities at least once to see if your preconceived perceptions are wrong. e.g. Karaoke. Tried it, hate it, but at least I now know what it’s all about. Another example: getting high. I was one of those judgmental pricks who thought all stoners were dickheads. I grew up, got curious, tried it, now I love it (though now living in a country with a death penalty for drugs has put a temporary stop to that).
1. Mark Flowers is a true dedicated Christian but a non denominational and non church going Christian, a praying man upon his knees and he gives all credit to his survival to a personal relationship with Jesus Christ as his savoir and protector of him and his loved ones. Mark has to continually break all curses in Jesus Christ’s name, sent by witch craft and the Satanic agenda.
2. Mark Flowers is a fighter, a man that will never bow to any evil corruption, to DEATH.
3. Mark Flowers has had the fatherhood of his children stolen by the masons / system / The Australian Government.
4. Mark Flowers is a survivor of more than a decade of intense murderous Freemasonry Gang Stalking {a term he coined} and raised in the Federal Magistrates Court Parramatter Sydney Australia in 2009 & 2010 whilst defending his rights to father his children.
5. Mark Flowers has had so many attempts on his life in the process of Freemasonry gangstalking that they are too numerous to list, most have been whilst driving in road traffic accident setups by gangstalkers . But all manner of threats have come against Mark Flowers, One time a sour mason wielding a hammer at Mark’s head got a lesson in respect and kicked off Mark’s property. The police always fail to follow such death threats against Mark Flowers.
6. Mark Flowers has self-represented in some 60 appearances in the Federal Magistrates Court, the District Court and the Supreme Court in Australia and all with nil formal education, in fact Mark left school at 14 years and first job was in a lumber yard.
7. Mark Flowers is a Father first, and a former children’s safety film producer, but the dogs of gangstalking were released on him for doing so. Mark has been fighting ever since and will never give in, as the eternity in spirit and fear of God through Christ Jesus motivates him to be fearless against evil.
If I fall in this good fight it will be into the arms of my saviour Jesus Christ.
Brother Mark
http://www.markflowers.org/
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Who gives a fuck?
well if you don’t care about stopping the Illuminati from killing you all through World War 3 or through some man-made virus they created to wipe out 90 percent of the human race, then that’s fine.
Talking =/= fighting. Just saying. If you’re sooo concerned, get off the internet and go do something about it. Me, I’m waiting for WWIII, the world could do with a bit of population control.
Hmmmm, this article is almost spot on in it’s inflection to the manosphere, but something is off. I can’t quite put my finger on it?
Other than that, your taunting “trap” about a fruity drink almost reminds me of something I use to do. I like Tokyo Rose/Three Mile Long Islands (a Long Island with the rum and coke replace by sprite and Midori).
However, as I have done a few professional level fights for MMA, if a guy challenged me like this I could do one of two things.
1. Say, I prefer to make money when I fight rather than facing scrubs.
2. I accept.
Not everyone who thinks it is a fruity beverage is a weak ass beta. And not every weak beta is a chump in a fight.
Lastly, make sure the Tokyo Rose is shaken and not stirred.
My data entry method has left some grammar issues and repeated words. I shall be more diligent in my proof reading in the future.
A fair point. I used to be a “gentleman” beta and I’m also a former boxer.
This seems to have been written by someone lacking in life experience.
It espouses the male take on ‘you-go-girl’-ism.
This was a good column but it strayed a little from what I think was its central point. It reminded me of How I Found Freedom In An Unfree World by Harry Browne, and his warnings against Group Traps and Identity Traps among others. Great unintentional manosphere book by the way. I read after reading Roosh’s review of it.
Living in central CA it’s wine this wine that. Everybody, especially amateurs, gets red. Don’t get me wrong I love my reds but on a hot summer day I want it chilled, so I got with a dry, and I do mean dry, blush, chilled, effervescent. Suddenly all the the betas are chirping. I love to school them as my first job in JRHS was a winery in Amador county-all about the whites and blushes. Yeah dork, there is more that Napa Cab in the world.
Living in central CA it’s wine this wine that. Everybody, especially amateurs, gets red. Don’t get me wrong I love my reds but on a hot summer day I want it chilled, so I got with a dry, and I do mean dry, blush, chilled, effervescent. Suddenly all the the betas are chirping. I love to school them as my first job in JRHS was a winery in Amador county-all about the whites and blushes. Yeah dork, there is more that Napa Cab in the world.
B-but I spent years making my Night Elf druid. The journey was its own reward!
I remember Tom Leykis talking about this in a sense. He was talking about how when he was grinding his way up the radio pecking order, the women of his time were out banging dudes, traveling to exotic places and essentially being careless with their lives and finances. Then once he reached success, he started doing things he always wanted to do. He wanted to go to Spain, but the woman he was with said something along the lines of “You don’t want to go there. I’ve already been there, and it’s not that great.” He basically said, “I don’t care what YOU think. I have not been there, and I want to experience it for myself. When YOU have the money to go somewhere you want, then we can go there.”
I have also found that this article ties into the logistics of dating. Women are often pretty clueless about what they DO want to do, but they have a lengthy list of things they DON’T want to do. With that in mind, I tend to simply say “I plan on doing X. If you are interested, you should come along.”
Minus one point for taking his useless woman instead of acquiring one locally at the destination.
Hell yeah. They can’t even decide what they want to eat, but they sure as shit will shoot down all your suggestions.
“I didn’t realize beverage selection was the measure of a man, I always
thought it was the capacity for violence.” At this point the beta
and/or omega usually becomes visually perturbed and I continue “You
measured me as a man with your method, can I measure you according to
mine?”
So do you actually get into fistfights, or do you just say clever things that imply you *could* start a fistfight?
I don’t drink in bars, but it sounds to me like I’m not missing much.
fight club 101: most people will do almost anything to avoid a physical confrontation.
this is absolutely true. most men will weasel out of the situation when you put violence on the table. especially men that feel the need to validate their own existence by trying to put people down.
very true.
Nate Fick, “One Bullet Away: The Making of a Marine Officer”- Two guys in a bar bump chests, get up in each other’s
faces, and yell. If a fight follows, it’s about honor, about saving
face. That’s posturing. Marines on the battlefield must exhibit
predatory behavior. In that bar, a predator would smile politely at his
opponent, wait for him to turnaround, and then cave in the back of his
skull with a barstool.
I used to get into around 1 or 2 a month when i was in the regular army, but those were more like soldier brawls, not one on one. In the past four years it has been 3 where i have been able to do some damage before someone intervened. As for actual “cocktail connoisseurs” taking it to the next level, thats a big goose egg.
but what if i genuinely LIKE guns, money and blow?
Who doesn’t.
i put the pic above the section that it goes to.
epic line: “I didn’t realize beverage selection was the measure of a man, I always thought it was the capacity for violence.”
love your reasoning.
I am one of those that you would call “alphas” according to your perception of “alpha”, but if I see you drink one of those drinks in a way that I perceeve to be faggotish, according also to your external looks and passive communications, if I’m in the mood I would probably throw you a playful line indicating your dubious sexuality. If then you would answer (outcalibrating the playfulness) with your butthurt answer (that you perceive to be “alpha” and useful in screening out who you perceive to be “betas”), I would feel pity for you or, if I’m in the mood and you said it in a challenging way, I would play your game and provoke you into attack me so I could beat the shit out of you. Or if I’m in the mood, simply give you the “what a fucking weirdo playing the alphafaggot just because he read on the internet it’s cool” and walk away.
Point is: you are a delusional sheep following not mainstream sheeps, but internet blog sheeps
Or you just might get the shit beat out of you, tough guy.
I’m sick of seeing internet memes (ie. Willy Wonka) used in articles on here. Memes are for 13 year olds. They are about as funny as the content of this article is “ground-breaking”.
I actually would ask about the girlie drink to see if it was good. I’m a beer guy myself, but I’ll drink the occasional fruity drink. In fact, I use it as test to see if a girl is into me when I talk to her. If she has a girlie drink and I ask her what it is after we’ve talked for a while. Then, I ask her if I can take a drink to taste it, and if she lets me, it’s an indicator of interest.