The Sexual Revolution created a big free-for-all. Yet paradoxically, it’s been slim pickings for most men. Proverbially, today’s sexual marketplace follows the Pareto rule where the top 20% of men have great success, but the other 80% get the scraps (if even that). Societally, it’s a tremendous recipe for unhappiness when most guys are left out in the cold.
However, for an individual man, it need not be a cause for despair. The reason why is that it actually isn’t hard to get into the top fifth. Yes, it’s easier than you think.
So who gets into the top 20%?
You don’t have to take it quite this far…
Although men tend to put a very high value on looks, women have a wider range of criteria. Thus, there are several advantages that can work towards a man’s favor: social proof, wealth, good looks, personality, etc. How much these are valued may be assumed to vary somewhat according to individual tastes, but these are all good attributes. There’s no clear dividing line of who is in the favored top quintile, but the results in your love life will give you a pretty good idea when you get there.
The more advantages you have, the better, and this can offset disadvantages. For example, Hugh Hefner was so rich and famous that he had more cute babes than he knew what to do with even when he was an old fossil. He had girlfriends young enough to be his granddaughters, all the way up to when it was time to stick in the embalming needles. Chairman Mao had a sea of groupies despite atrocious hygiene and untreated STDs. That’s not a pretty picture, but you get what I mean.
You don’t have to get to rock star level here—membership in the top 20% is your target. However, maximize what you have. We’ll focus on a couple of items which are attainable with time and effort.
Appearance
What not to look like
First of all, over two thirds of the American population is overweight, and it’s not too far behind in many other countries. In fact, about a third is clinically obese. Those in the normal weight range are either skinny, skinny-fat (weak and a little doughy), or muscular. Take a wild guess what’s more attractive. So if you can get some visible muscular definition—and the more the merrier—you’re going to stand out from the crowd.
The “Do looks matter?” question has long been debated. Once again, there are other avenues for success if you’re not muscular (yet). Still, check out your nearest bookstore’s romance novel aisle (also known as chick porn). Did you notice any covers where the guy has the body of a cheeseburger addict, an anorexic, or the typical hipster? I didn’t think so. Looks aren’t everything, but it’s a fact that muscularity causes sexual attraction on sight, just as a lady with curves in all the right places gets your attention. Think that could be an advantage?
Consider this a “fashion don’t” as well
How you look affects how you get treated. Recently, a cute eighteen year old flirted with me a couple of times, no mean feat for someone old enough to be her dad. She also saw me six months ago, but didn’t really notice me. However, she did after I dropped thirty pounds, revealing better definition and vascularity. Other than that, who’s more likely to get pepper sprayed for saying “hi”—someone who’s badly out of shape. or a fit guy? All that is good reason to hit the gym and push the fork out of your face.
Other than that, do all guys dress sharp? Do all guys have good posture? Does everyone even have good hygiene? Those can be fixed pretty quickly. If you have those bases covered, you’re in line ahead of those who don’t.
Proper game
Never supplicate!
Mainstream dating advice hasn’t caught up with the times. The 1950s game that’s still conventional advice doesn’t get you too far these days. In fact, the manosphere and PUA literature are the only places you’ll find up-to-date information. This is one reason of many why most guys today have terrible game. Think you can do better than that? Simply by finding this site, you have access to better knowledge than most guys out there. By taking the critical step of putting it into practice, that alone can get you into the favored top fifth.
Some articles here state that most guys are too scared to make an approach. At first, I found that doubtful. I’ve flirted since early adolescence; back then, that was what everyone did. (I was terrible at it in the beginning, as is everyone; it really is a learned skill.) Today, social media is making people less social. Online dating isn’t a good way of getting practice with personal interaction, and it’s also a sausage fest. Lately I’ve observed that many guys are socially disconnected, and probably using porn and video games as surrogates for human interaction.
Don’t let this happen to you – it totally looks weird!
Apparently a statistically significant fraction of the population really has left the game. Some of the pawns just walked off the chessboard. It’s a sad sight, though their loss is your gain. Obviously anyone who has the guts to start a conversation is ahead of anyone who doesn’t. Much like sales, it’s a numbers game, and doing nothing gains you nothing.
However, it takes more than just opening your mouth. Women hate lame approaches. I see a lot of bad game happening out there. You can distinguish yourself by being better. Social awareness can get you pretty far—it’s not mind reading, but consider it the next best thing. Becoming good at conversation gets results too. Once again, these are learned skills; putting in the practice gets you results.
Projecting positive vibes certainly can help. I don’t mean in a New Agey kind of way; what I mean is that moods are contagious. Being fun and carefree is where it’s at. There are times when you won’t be feeling it, but try to method-act it. That gives you an advantage at the club over mopey drunks, loudmouth drunks, grouchy drunks, awkward drunks, and recently divorced after catching the wife being tag-teamed by a dozen guys in clown suits kinds of drunks.
Conclusion
On second thought, totally go for it.
The sexual marketplace imbalance, in which average women don’t think average men are good enough for them, seems like a cruel cosmic joke. Unfortunately, that’s what we have to work with until things settle back down to normal, which might take decades. In the meantime, it’s better to be a “have” than a “have-not”.
So if you put it all into action, your results should improve. All that I outlined above is straightforward and attainable. This isn’t effortless, so let me qualify things. I mean this is easier than becoming a millionaire, rock star, porn magnate, or President-For-Life of some unstable developing country. Anyway, go out there and make it work for you.
Read More: 9 Steps For Anti-Social Men To Become More Outgoing
You’ll still have to work if you’re in the top 20% but at least you have reasonable odds of success. I know some guys in the top 1% who get very steady looks and smiles from women daily, and while they don’t get rejected as much, they have to put in the time as well. If you want some kind of normal relationship with a girl, you’re going to dedicate some energy, work, and time to the task.
Well said. To receive you need to put in some effort even minimal but there has to be some outreach so to speak.
So clean up and game and you’re in the top 20%…. what a load of ….
Do you have girls giving you inviting stares throughout the night? Do cute girls invite you to the bar to buy you drinks? Do hotties piss off your friends by asking to be introduced to you often? Do you put your foot in your mouth and mess up by saying stupid sh*t several times and SHE still invites you back to end up in bed with her and wonder why? Etc… etc….
Yeah… clean up and game and be top 20%… HA…. do you believe the audience is this stupid?
That doesn’t happen to the top 20. That’s top 1% and maybe lower.
To answer your questions;
1. Evenings when I’m ‘on’.
2. Yes- I socialise and put myself in positions where this will happen to me.
3. Yes.
4. I’m always saying stupid shit and insulting women, and they will- if I do not for what ever reason.
I do the above by leading an interesting life and being secure and confident. There are guys with better physique and game than me.
I don’t say this a lot, but, to be honest it sounds like game is not for you.
i love when stupid people call others stupid. this is not what he said you utter moron
There are many ways, and legal too, to significantly raise your testosterone past whatever your current default baseline is. Do this, and then learn to do it right if you keep at it, and see what happens within the scenarios you so woefully described like some poor bastard that has given up hope.
You know I’m not a fucking doctor and am not giving medical advice, right? I thought so. That was a magic spell and everyone knows those don’t work.
so what the fuck do you recommend, hefner? maybe gain weight, dress like a slob, quit taking showers? clearly, you haven’t had any pussy in years, for good reason
“So clean up and game and you’re in the top 20%…. what a load of ”
If you’re including getting fit and looking athletic and dressing well in “clean up and game” that would absolutely put you in the top 20%, at least in the US. Not that you won’t still have to work to get girls, but the large majority of American guys I know are AFCs (average frustrated chumps) who are some combination of fat or skinny fat, effeminate, shy, lacking in style, have no game or understanding of women, and routinely pedastalize girls. It’s just not that hard to compete with that.
I’ve recently started running outdoors on my uni campus… Whenever I beat my best time I get stared at and smile/smirked at by girls. It’s almost like some sort of prehistoric chemical thing.
That’s exactly what it is….that prehistoric chemical thing is always there, just under the surface and way on top depending on context. It can almost always be brought out. Use it.
And that top 1% guy is probably asking if it is worth it, just as the bottom 80% guy, who has to put in tons more work for little result, is also asking, “Is it worth it?” For a huge percentage of men today the answer is no.
I prefer become hairdresser for girls to get best wom.yn because hugh hef.ner was misog.ynist. also it good for more men to become be tran.sg.ender becaun wom.yn more comfortable wit other wom.yn. Vida.l Sass.oon was a men, but he was still the hairdress pi.mp with all girlies coming to pose lovingly up on him, maybe because he was not long hair love miso.gy.nist like hugh hef.ner and cut hair for equ.lity and end objec.tification of wom.yn.
“while they don’t get rejected as much, they have to put in the time as well”
Because women still have to probe the man’s psyche to make sure he’s a genuine alpha and not another Harvey the Hutt.
Roosh, it’s always been that way for a worthwhile woman, even before the cultural decline of the West. It seems now that more effort is required for a lesser quality woman.
Just create/join small groups IRL.
You can easily be in the top ten there. And you can manage/handle many, many groups. They don’t have to know each other. In fact, it’s better if they don’t.
It’s good for your social life. It’s good for your ‘network’. It’s good to be laid.
Plus, if you get ‘burned’ in one group, it’s no big deal. Cool things down there, and keep ‘grouping’.
Hey Tout, this is a good idea.
Cold calling(day game) is getting tedious at my age.
Have no social circle – so that is out.
Have worked as bartender/lifeguard – so have experienced first hand instant “attraction” – fucking.
I have also joined elite sporting groups – where I was fairly elite amateur. But, was run by professional athletes – who ignore me, and concentrate on the groupies – who also ignore me…
So what sort of groups? Have to think about this. Perhaps something in meetup.com.
“How to communicate with your cats/dogs?”
Being in the U.S. makes you in the top .01%, remember that…
The .01% of betas that is. The state of American women already tells you there is an overall weak alpha male presence in The US. Without a doubt American men make comparatively good providers…but watch out, that cute Pinay or Russian chick you imported will probably screw you over if you don’t keep your eyes on the ball.
“Pinay” I lived in the Philippines and do you really believe a whore you got at the bar is going to turn into a saint in the US?
Chinese-Filipino chicks are a bit different.
But once women are whores part of them likes it and it rewires their sexuality. This is biological, adaptive since in ancient times women got by as reproducers for the male-of-the-moment.
Filipino women are natural philanderers. I GOT A BLOWJOB from a Filipino woman who was married to an old German.
What did you do for STDs ? To protect against, I mean ?
That’s why american men should take advantage of the global market place asap. At 34 years old in southern california, I can barely keep an american girls attention without pretending to be a rich baller.
In mexico, colombia, peru, I’m a freaking superhero. Just being over 5’9 and having a job will get you laid. Now you just need to learn some spanish.
Meh, these places are close but the mixture of Spanish/Arab and Amerindian makes the woman a Hot Tamale.
Plus, Latin American women usually have their eye on the Green Card when it comes down to it.
Finally, and I have been to a great many countries, there is an element of danger down in Latin America if you go there to get laid.
Yes that’s the advantage of being an American man overseas. You instantly carry a “prestige” among the women. America is the richest country in the world after all
David, shoot me a text i am in San Diego 6178708693
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I would not say the US is better in terms of living standard than Australia, New Zealand or any other country settled by Anglo-Saxons.
Except that in the USA, we still have some degree of freedom of speech, freedom of religion, and the right to bear arms
These are three of the most important things in the world.
I said Australia or UK, no an Islam country.
People in Australia and the UK do not have freedom of religion, freedom of speech, or the right to bear arms.
For example – Saying something like “The Bible teaches that homosexuality is an abomination, and that those who practice it deserve death” (what Leviticus clearly says) could land you in prison in the UK.
Likewise, owning an AK47/AR15, or carrying a pistol nearly everywhere you go could land you in prison.
Here in the States, I can do all of those things.
Another thought — Have something to live for. Women are attracted to men who have a purpose, a vision, a set of standards, a philosophy. If all you are interested in is the same pop-culture mainstream way of life that she can get on Facebook, your boring.
Develop an angle – a take on the world – that is uniquely you. This sets you apart not only intellectually, but in status as well. You stand for something.
Good luck!
Valid point. Its a mix of criteria that sets you apart from your peers that she is looking at.
Examples:
1 Are you friends with the Mayor and have his cell and he visits you when no one else in the hood knows his phone number let alone would get a visit? Sets you apart.
2 Can you invest and do so successfully in small apartment buildings or the stock market while your peers are getting drunk/stoned- sets you apart.
3 Are you passionate about (fill in) and purse a dream – sets you apart.
Even physical attributes work to set you apart.
Been married 25 plus years and while I do not have a 6 pack I have no beer belly and my muscles are still well defined and cut. That sets me apart from my peers (in our 50s) who have let themselves go and huff and puff going up a flight of stairs. And yes, at the pool during the summer I still get many looks from women (not saying they are lusting but at a minimum they are comparing me with their tubby unbuilt husbands). And my wife goes to the gym 5 days a week and maintains a knock out figure.
So you need to set yourself apart.
idk man, I’ve been on a hardcore self improvement and career journey for 10 yrs and it has only helped in marginal ways. Women seem blind to character development , and other provider traits. They conflate looks with all the other markers. I compare the dates I got as a 23 year old underemployed wanderer to myself at 30, as an accomplished airline pilot, and the quality has actually gone down, on the dates i’m able to get. That’s the cruel cosmic joke. My brother’s fiance who has seen my progress even remarked she thinks the dating market is completely shot here in the U.S. on a count of the girls I used to pull versus those I pull now, despite a roughly 3x increase in SMV. I’m much more fit and more experienced now as well, but just seems like a lot of wasted effort and loneliness unless I’m willing to dramatically compromise my standards , which is problematic in it’s own ways. Don’t really know what to do. Family members say I’m top ten percent (being overly generous), and past girlfriends (cute 7-8 range) say I’m around a 8 in looks department but honestly the market is just FUBAR.
What are your methods of lead generation? Are you in a city? One thing that worked for me is looking for girls outside of my area. Only recently have I started having success with women in my hometown. I moved away for a few years and had great success when I changed environments. Maybe a change is in the works for you.
Well to be honest it’s been primarily online, a bit at work, and the occasional social circle intro,…barely any bar / nightclub game as those aren’t my preferred activities. My earlier comment intended to suggest it’s the online game that has gone to complete shit, and while this isn’t news to anymore, the statistics show more and more relationships are being initiated online….so wtf is going on? I’ve moved just about every year for the last 6 yrs so that plays a big role I’m sure, but always CA and PNW cities, HNL, and a stint in Chicago.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m getting lots of offers from girls in the 5.5-6.5 range, bless their hearts, but it is demoralizing cause ideally i’d like to find a girl I could stand spending a few years with, and that necessitates I enjoy looking at her, at a bare minimum. If I want hotter, I seem to have to go older (31-35). Just feel like i’m stuck in the mud.
Bro do you even demographic search? The West is notorious for men outnumbering women.
I know what you mean. I do seem to get a date with an attractive and intelligent woman about 4-5 times a year, but it inevitably doesn’t work. They flake a lot, or are unwilling to put in the work to have a real relationship. A lot of these ‘quality’ women will be in a long term relationship with a guy 1000 miles away, the men will break up with them for being emotionally unavailable, then they’ll pine for them. Worse, they won’t put out or you’ll see them once every two weeks on their time, not yours. It’s gotten to the point where I was willing to date a Muslim woman who was completely career focused and moving 90 minutes away for a job simply because she was a respectable adult who would actually talk on the phone and hold an intelligent conversation.
I am a somewhat attractive and fit guy (6 or so), went to a 4 year school on scholarship for being valedictorian, make 115k, am a pretty good portrait artist. Most of the ladies, frankly, don’t seem to give a shit. But they’ll flirt with and chase after married men I know.
Just a thought dude, you ever been to an art cafe?
They’re really good places to meet likeminded people and usually they’re just nice little indie venues and the atmosphere is very different to say a starbucks – they’re a lot more sociable.
Shit, that’s how I feel, I’m better in every department in life then when I was 20, and now that I’m 30, I either do just as good or even worse at times lol.
SAme boat. But learn another language and hit latin america or asia… the women will tell you you are handsome, intelligent, hardworking… You’ll hear women compliment their husbands with sweet words NO american woman would be caught DEAD saying. Our women have zero need for men because this society fills all of their needs ( attention, love, respect, money, stability.) They get plenty of attention from social media, distraction and fun from their phones, money from corporate policies that enforce hiring more females, scholarships for women (any scholorships for being a straight, white male?). They are all taken care of. They are only slightly intrigued by that top 1% of men (in my opinion.) I think 1% is more accurate.
The answer is to go where you are treated best. I’ve been studying spanish from home for 3 years. I moved to san diego. Now i have a 20 year old girlfriend in tijuana (I’m 34.) When I go out in san diego I have 35 year old wrinkly white girls shooting me down, insulting me for my clothing, hair, drinks I buy, etc. Absolutely hilarious honestly. Let them die alone with their cats while we save our money, invest our money, and conquer the world the way miserable, married men always dream of.
David, shoot me a text. I am in San Diego.
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I am not doubting this works but I think the why it works is off. Women are women all over the world no matter the culture. And the countries suggested are way more conservative which might not be a pulse unless you want your first sexual encounter to happen on your wedding night. Cellphones and Facebook have saturated the world which is creating the culture that is leaving men at the disadvantage.
So what is changing when you go to a different country? Not the women. It is how different you are now from the rest of their dating pool! The media is pulling for you on this, shrouding you in the romantic idea women will get thinking how worldly you must be because you are from so far away. All those difference you bring with you, your culture, your accent, the way you hold your fork and knife all fling you into the local top 20% by just doing “you”, starting from a reasonable place, of course.
My point is you still need to pull out in front of the pack, and moving to a foreign land is one way to do it.
SirPsychoSexy you are so far closer to the truth than all the other BS put forward in the article and the comments. The dynamic between the sexes in the western world is BROKEN. Beyond repair. Improving yourself guarantees nothing. I’m so glad I was young in a time when it was possible to be yourself, whatever that might be and still have dates, ONS and even a LTR with a hot girlfriend. If I were young in today’s world I would leave the US or any other so called advanced nation so fast it would make your head spin.
Out of curiousity, if you were young today, where would you go?
What are you improving? Would they be considered an improvement to who you want to date?
Not shaving for a couple of days, buying a leather jacket and renting a Harley to show up at the local country club will definitely turn heads. They will get a break from the 2 martini lunch, popped collar, constantly trying to get a round of golf in type of guys they are surrounded with.
The cultural changes the US is going through, I find actually exciting. Long gone are the days where staying at a company for 40 years and bringing home a constant paycheck was sexy… well, sexy enough. My success with women in their 20’s has been 10 fold being in my 40’s than in my 20’s. And it is not stability they are after, my life is chaos, but it is everything I know, everything I have experienced and my seeming ability to be able to jump right in and do anything. Studies have shown that the size of our bank accounts no longer correspond to how happy we are. We are looking for something else like experiences, community and connecting.
Netflix and Chill dates seem counter to what I said but what I have seen is they get to disconnect from the internet, the source of most of their insecurities, spend some time with a person in the flesh and connect with them over whatever they are watching. Going out means looking their best, proving it with a selfie, documenting the date with more pictures and if it is not the fabulous time like what the rest of their bubble are seeming sharing, they have to stress to cover or pick a fight online to create a distraction. What a mesriable existence!
Put yourself in positions to meet new people, there are different ‘starter’ classes for hobbies all the time. Take up a weekend cooking class for 3 weeks, try out mixed volleyball, salsa, water polo, horse riding, archery. I do the same things all over the world and it doesn’t fail.
Even if the girl has a boyfriend you might meet someone cool who will invite you to meet her friends.
What is with all the near hopelessness I’m seeing here, particularly on the comments in this article? I’m not singling YOU out, just noticed as I’ve been scrolling further down. You’ve put in all that time and effort….is there something lacking? Online EVERYTHING is a vast wasteland. Maybe you don’t have the time, or need to take the time, to do whatever is needed to make yourself a presence locally, in the physical world around you. If you have the confidence and SMV you should have, things will flow from there. I saw somewhere years ago saying just talk to every female you encounter in public, obviously where it is appropriate, as in line, at the counter, wherever. Just small talk, whether or not they are attractive, the point isn’t to do anything else but talk. Tried it, turned out to be on-point.
Seems like you could get more solid attention from higher than 5 somethings. Are your standards and expectations perhaps too high to get the ball rolling? Probably not going to find LTR material right off, even if you have the right setup, that’s going to take some time and experience. A man who is consistently getting some has an attractive presence about him far above one that is not. They can smell it. Literally. Doesn’t matter if it came from starting with what you have available, ALL will recognize it and find you more attractive and interesting for it. Maybe think about starting there.
You already said why your quality of pulls have declined. There is something romantic in a girl’s mind about being a listless vagabond, being able to pickup and go visit some other fabulous place she has been fantasizing about.
Being a pilot, well past the PANAM days depicted in that TV Show, will leave you at a deficit. They already think you are an alcoholic because of the boredom of the job reported by the media, they know your profession is one of the lowest paying jobs in the US and you already have a stable of slutty sewartesses that she cannot step-in and show her dominance because of the TSA and that you are simply out of town.
Initially, your career choice seemed right but it sounds like you need to pivot and iterate some life changes. The answer may not have to be a career change. You can front load your game with hobbies and passions that dispel the negatives and instill in them how romantic your lifestyle must be. Since you cannot change the world you have to change yourself.
Lmao at all of this time and effort just to stick your peenor in the smelly, STD-ridden vagina of a tattooed up, pierced American 5 who’d be a hard 4 in Europe, where women tend to look better and more natural.
German-American here and I can state that the armpit hair of the average European girl put me off a bit.
Also any old ghetto black sent into the US army for stealing cars could get a German girl to marry him around the Bavarian base near my grandparents hometown.
German-American males with a bit pride would shake their heads sadly at a pretty German girl with a GI from the ghetto. She’d end up in a poor part of some city in the US, maybe eventually on her own in a new country as a single mother.
Now of course this was 20 years ago when I was only 21 years old and things have probably changed since 1995 like nobody in Europe really respecting the United States anymore.
> German-American
“Muh white European ancestry”
Fuck off, you aren’t German.
And German women are notorious coal burners, anyway.
Thanks for the genes anyway. We’ll pass on the hipsterism and leftardery, though.
“We are all Americans”
Yeah that is why Jews and people whose father is from Germany like Trump are the “same” as the other groups in the US whom they out-earn 10x.
Because “we are all Americans”.
“You aren’t German” The lazy unambitious Beta cucks of Northwest Europe just hung around 100 years ago instead of having the initiative to emigrate to Australia or North America.
Do you think South Asians would be pushing around Italian-Americans in New York or Trump’s own German-American people of Manhattan.
No, they can only do this because the populations of Europe bottle-necked around World War 1 with emigration and the Great War. The males at this time emigrated or were killed who were High Testosterone
The rest got killed in the wars.
As a result it is surprising to white Americans how effeminate and lackadaisical the average European is.
Pray tell what is your ancestry?
I doubt you would tell me because you know I would piss on it.
“Muh White European ancestry”
Well I ain’t no Asian or son of Gujarati shopkeepers in New Jersey if that is what you mean.
“You aren’t German”
You probably aren’t white and America is still run by Europeans kind of. Otherwise the rest of you could not make it work for the next 500 years.
“Fuck off”
Why the anger? Are you a European who is jealous that your grandfather did not get on the boat?
I don’t know where you got this “european girls have armpit hair” thing from. Perhaps from the same source as “europeans don’t bathe”? Another asinine remark I’ve heard a few times. No offense to you and I’m not particularly offended myself.
Never in my life have I seen a girl with noticeable armpit hair and I have lived in Northern Europe my whole life. Some hygiene practices may be different between USA and Europe just like there are differences within the EU and wider Europe as well. For example toilet design differs between countries; scandinavian countries tend to have handheld shower heads in addition to regular shower heads for washing the genital and anal region after urination or defecation while France or Italy may have bidet shower sinks.
The vacuum cleaners used in the UK tend to be the vertical type that’s shifted over the floor with the dust and dirt being sucked straight into the container while scandinavian countries tend to use vacuum cleaners with flexible handles composed of the hose and a metallic pipe, which allows for more flexibility and getting into narrow spaces.
I could go on about the differences in doing laundry or washing dishes but I’ve already gone astray for long enough.
All the armpit hair you ever wanted.
Today Britain has been culturally colonized by the US so I suppose bikini waxes or whatever are copied.
You should have seen the bushes on Irish or European girls back in 1994 when I was 20 and went on screwing binge in those halcyon days when Americans were much-loved in Britain.
As for British plumbing…we won’t even go there.
AGE GAP
You were probably born in like 85 or 90 or something.
I’m dated because I have not gotten sex in Europe in like 20 years.
Girls shave the pussy now.
I’m old at 43, son.
The problem is girls will always want +10% more then you can rationally give them, I mean whatever you throw at them they will ask for just a little bit more, more of your time more of your money more attention more gifts more more more.. it’s impossible to keep a woman happy nowadays hence the cock-carousel. The only girl that will stick to you is the one you don’t want ie. the 30+ single mother with a “moccato-mistake”. Sure you can have pussy but you can only “rent” it never own it.
I think you’re coming from the frame of “I wanna fuck every hot girl.”
Instead, condition yourself to think “She should be lucky that I’m approaching/dating/spending time with her”.
‘Pussy will stick to you like bird shit on car roofs’ -Roissy
Exactly Ray. So many men have a mentality of scarcity.
Not really. If you’re a good looking guy you can realistically find yourself a cute feminine girl with traditional values if you know where to look. But you do have to have the looks thing going for ya. Women usually tend to date up and your looks game has to be on point where even with your SMV being higher she still is hot.
I think some of you guys may actually be good looking (or have the potential to be at least) but the way you carry yourselves just sends signals to people to be oblivious to you. Feminine, sweet girls don’t really like incredibly timid men. Modern women are more forgiving but of course they’re the ones we don’t want.
Taking action to,
1. Improve fitness
2. Build connections
3. Practice Game
4. Learn new skills
Will thrust you well into the top 20%. Take the effort to build an amazing life and you’ll get great experiences.
This process we follow. This cycle we ride.
Good luck out there gents.
RAY
“Improve connections”
This really depends on where you live. If you are born in Detroit (I moved of course) than your “connections” are not going to be sufficient.
The biggest dickhead on the planet can be born in LA or Sydney and have better connections than someone born in Alabama.
If you are really fat, just start taking walks every day longer and longer until you can walk for a solid hour every DAY. THEN start HIKING. Get off your fat ass! Yes, YOU!!! And dress like a MAN. Wear a shirt and tie at least that looks good. Use GQ magazine for inspiration. And hit the library and read something useful.
Practice game in the CAFE. Its so CHEAP. PRACTICE acting happy and well-adjusted and well, fake it till you make it.
American women suck, go to Poland, they are all awesome. My 46 year old wife is from Poland, works at home depot and guys are falling all over her trying to help her or apologetically asking for help. She says she feels like Marilyn Monroe and really she is only a 7.
A loyal and compliant 7 is way better than a bitchy high maintenance 9 who feels entitled. The former worships you.
Do you think more people, especially men, should be made to complete Beauty School before a serious relationship instead of j.ack.ing off and watching sports all day. Why can’t more men just find joy in doing their girl’s hair so she doesn’t have to spend a ton of money at a beauty parlor, especially if she’s high-maintenance.
Why can’t more men see the se.xiness and artistry in styling fem.ale hair???
It’s NOT ga.y or anything despite all the stereotypes, plus the tactile nature of it could make for some exciting for.eplay.
SHUT UP YOU SOY BOY CUCK FAGGOT!!!
Wait, there may be something to this. I am not whole heartedly agreeing, but similar situations did yield great results.
At one point, my ex would ask me every morning if her outfit looked right, or if she should wear X or Y, some pointless choice in my mind. Initially, I would say “either” but that did not quell her insecurities at all. She started stressing more and more about it. Seeing this, I started pointing out the trivial. “Naw, not that, see how the buttons are square, everything else is round” or “See how the lines flow, they clash when they get to the strong lines in your jeans” or “You need a different color, you look like a bottle of merlo”. I just dismissed a choice with the tiniest amount of logic needed. It was still all BS in my mind but I really sold it. Then she starting asking me when we happen to go clothes shopping! My manhood took a hit, but then it jumped up defiantly, pointing out that I can now dress her in my version of hotness! Now I embraced those shopping trips. A side effect was, we got through shopping in a fraction of the time., and my opinions in the morning was no longer sought to
In the end, it did make me feel more masculine, being it gave me that much control over my ex’s wardrobe. Maybe this is the chance to get her into a hairstyle you like.
The funny thing is, almost every time I end up in a session with the Daddy/Daughter kink, I start by brushing her hair!
Your advice on clothing is pretty context dependent. Wearing a tie, not to mention suiting up would look pretentious in a lot of situations and is associated with high status, celebrity, money or special events. If you don’t have any of that going for you, you’ll simply look like a fool.
I prefer to wear fitting, clean but personalized clothing that suits my mood and values. My clothes will never raise or lower my value; they’ll simply serve as a concentration starter in the odd case, allowing me to reveal what I’m really like.
There’s an ethnic minority in my country that’s known for using gentlemanly type clothing all the time and I can tell you that they have IQ’s in the 70’s, most of the males serve prison sentences and a small minority ever land low skilled jobs.
If they dressed like the average slob on the street, they might pass for your average Joe and it would constitute a huge status raise for them.
Correct but females are notoriously gullible when it comes to clothing.
Example: Guy “A”and Guy “B” are brothers in law – both are married to sisters. Guy “A” earns 100k and has a JD and works on a prestigious law firm. But he doesnt brag and he wears casual clothes to a family BBQ. No shoes but sneakers and he keep a modest profile. He is known as a lawyer and will be treated reasonably well but that’s it. His clothes and sneakers label him a regular male. His wife of course will adore him but the remainder of the females in the family will not. Only his wife will treat him as a king while the women will put “B” over “A”.
Guy “B” has no degree and is in debt. He borrows (and fails to pay back) from his in laws and has had a string of bankrupt businesses. But he wears a jacket and tie at all family gatherings and expensive shoes and sports a luxury watch. ALL the women in the family will look up to him and he will be served first by his mother in law as well as any other females (save A;s wife) and treat “B” with great deference and respect “as if” he is a king. His mother in law will dote all over him even though he takes her and her husband’s money as “loans”. No doubt she fantasizes about him as well. The women in the family will be more attracted to “B” because “B” markets himself as a winner despite the fact that “A” is substantially far more successful. But because “B” wears higher end clothing and markets himself via his suit jacket, watches and shoes as a winner he will be treated as such by unquestioning female family members.
This is just the way it is women are impressed if they see nice clothes and watches, cars of course as well. Men would be more analytical and logical and figure out the guy is a scammer and a mooch. Women are f more easily fooled by outward externalities. Always been this way.
Good ideas and a balanced description. I understand that many guys in the West, especially the US, feel negative about the odds on the dating market. But there are things that you can do:
1. Make sure to look as good as you can. Instead of checking your privilege, check your body, style and hygiene. All of these things can be altered before you consider more drastic and in some cases borderline homo measures such as plastic surgery, testo injection, whitening of teeth, heels if you’re short, and botox.
2. Practice confidence and converation abilities on a more or less daily bases. Learn to be a bit cunning without being a complete asshole, such as running different types of games in parallel and talking to multiple girls on the same time.
3. Make a temporary relocation. Check out the least obese cities and states in the US: https://www.mensfitness.com/weight-loss/burn-fat-fast/the-fittest-and-fattest-cities-in-america
Then try some other Place like Thailand, Colombia or the Philippines. Have some easy lays overseas and improve your confidence.
It is only considered homo to take care of oneself by many beta neckbeards who have no idea how to interact with women. Ironically many of them idolize good looking men who take care of themselves.
I will say you don’t have to go to these super liberal thin cities (I take it you’re not American since you recommended them) in order to get laid. The dating markets therein are in favor of cunty cosmopolitan broads.
I recommend not even going overseas. Go to small towns in the US. You will be surprised how much easier it is to be on your game and succeed. You don’t have to be around 3rd worlders and the women are more feminine.
Those thin cities are all liberal bastions for blue haired lesbian looking women. The reason everyone is so thin is because of their large gay populations/vegan lesbians and the fact lots of these Cosmo fags and dykes spend their life in the gym. Then the straight guys are skinny soy boys. Not that that’s a bad thing for competition but it just is part of city culture. The girls in cities are easy to lay and they are thin so at least that’s good. But city girls (especially thin ones) are definitely huge feminists so I do not recommend anybody spend a significant amount of time around them. Cities just foster weak masculinity. When they foster strong masculinity, it goes in the direction of Blacks shooting each other for “stripes”.
No, I would want guys to experience life in small cities where “progressive” values haven’t really taken off. The women will be less confrontational, less triggered, and less bulldyke like. They are sweeter, more feminine, and 50% of the time they are White in smaller cities. Some small cities actually get toward the 75% White mark as well. I don’t think White guys need to travel overseas and bang brown women when there are good gems to be found in less populated Western areas. Are they red pilled and perfect? No of course they are not. But the way I see it I would start small in my own country first before I went abroad. I moved away from my big city to tons of smaller and less urban environments and that is where my game flourished and notch count started increasing, and I didn’t have to go overseas or to some liberal shithole. Also, the thin women in many of those cities are of the Crossfit thin variety, aka with broad shoulders, narrow hips, and very visible abs. Their thin bodies are thin many times because they look like boys.
Thin isn’t everything. Nowadays in cities women who are thin are a result of unhealthy behavior that materialize into masculine bodies. Or at least very boyish
First of all I am pretty open for metrosexual influences, although it kind of a balance. I remember that my peacock post received both praise and criticism:
More on similar topics:
https://syncreticpolitics.wordpress.com/2017/10/29/5-ways-to-create-a-positive-image/
https://syncreticpolitics.wordpress.com/2017/10/23/345/
As for your other points I agree that one can relocate to smaller places in the US, either for short-term liaisons or for finding a more conservative female to marry. Still I think that to try the sexpat lifestyle at least once or twice is indeed a good move, especially since one travels for a lot of other reasons than pussy. Poosy paradise means tropical paradise in many cases.
Tropical paradise usually means Third World too. No thanks. I like White women and they don’t tend to live in tropical paradise as natives.
ADAMS
“Philippines” It is a dangerous place to get laid, bro. I lived there and at one point co-owned a bar in the Philippines.
Take a sex holiday there at your own risk.
I did. No problems unless you make something stupid.
GEN X
Disagree, lot’s of foreigners run into problems in the Philippines at night out bar-hopping.
Would not recommend it for Whites.
The problem is that the top 20% is a moving target. What do women want? MORE! No matter how much you improve yourself they will always want more. I am talking about the feminism imbued western woman that was raised on a constant stream of you go girl ism, you should have it all, men are scum and women are goddesses. I don’t know about Poland anymore, but do leave the first world west. The women here are not worth having, even if you can get one by working your ass off to be in the top 20%.
Poland is already ruined. Social media like Snapchat took over and there’re only brai dead femi nazi zobies. First hand info.
Worth pointing out that the 80/20 rule applies to women too. There are just as many sexual loser women as there are men. Now, the dynamic still favors women. After all a 1% sailor just in port will bang a sexual loser female, prostitute, because, like all men, it’s biological and he’s got to “go”. And that muddies the situation, seemingly putting woman at the advantage. However, women and men crave different things with sex and the commitment of the 1%er is something the whore will never get. It causes great dismay and angst for the female. If you boil down feminism to its core root, it’s really the andrea dworkins of the world that never even got a modicum of attention from the archetype quarterback prom king. Because of that, these women construed it as a refusal and personal indictment, so, they created feminism. Look closely, feminism is all rooted in jealousy and envy e.g. it’s all women who delusionally think they are worthy of an alpha. Likewise, all men crave the hottest females. Our task is to educate the 80, because right now they’re on the left, which stands because the left is for losers. In every other endeavor of life that’s the appropriate place for them, but, now politics has fused with the sexual dominance heirarchy and there is absolutely no equality here, moreover and worse NO recognition of this truly “unfair” dynamic. And there are two outcomes from here forward 1. This inequitable dynamic will be reconciled like all the other “injustices” but this will necessitate 1%er women sleeping with the bottom left bell curve. Yep, including this invalids! Think they’ll go for it? 2. An acknowledgment that “equality” does not and can not ever exist. As follows, you’re stuck but for a man you can improve but there is no improvement with being a make feminist, in fact, female “empowerment” is a enormous, and perverse, obstacle that keep men from fulfilling themselves. I.e. it’s the male imperative to climb the dominance heiracrhy to prove and, therefore, win the right to reproduce e.g. get the or a girl. I see option 2 happening, not only because the men will smarten up but the top women will never f$&k a mongoloid and nor should they. What pisses me off is this whole thing has been known for eons. In fact it’s all over the animal kingdom too! It’s this “progressive” bullshit that is making us recreate the wheel. Just a huge waste of fucking time.
Libtard ideology is the refuge for genetic subordinates.
To me, feminism always reeked of mediocre women who could not fulfill the standard, evolutionary female role and subsequently became quite upset and sour they are not men. Feminism isn’t even about inequality or whatever else they constantly whine about, it’s a deep disdain for men for BEING men. I think feminists have been around forever, I mean liberal tattooed females are nothing new. The problem is that this small percentage of women creates such a strong hub which begins to indoctrinate other fruitful, naive, beautiful women from fulfilling their basic female roles.
I completely agree, but this goes to show just how off we are. It makes no sense to have a small minority of losers control society. Indeed, I’m perplexed by the fact that feminism is compromised of loser females the cool girls would never associate with in school, and also adult life. And these loser females are so pathetic they resort to lesbianism because no one will sleep with them. Or the available stock of men willing to sleep with them is insufficient, to them of course. So you have this very perverse situation where the losers are leading the cool girls and telling them things like become a lesbian! And many women, because they’re fucking gullible and emotional and have conflicted relationships with men, buy into this. Some even go all the way and go lesbo. The losers also appeal to their egos by saying that women are better than men etc. And so you do see incidents where otherwise worthy genetic stock that is more than capable of finding a suitable male mate to optimally create new progeny, e.g. an efficient transendence of evolution, is manipulated and becomes a lesbian, sometimes even opting for a butch mate (which means a person excluded from the mating pool e.g. very unsuitable genes) and then turkey bases herself with genes from a completely unknown individual. This is the devils work. But, to the loser female, she gets the ultimate satisfaction of destroying! Because at the root of all this, she’s angry most for being born.
And these are the kinds of people currently influencing women today.
So it must stop.
It’s the stark reality and most naive feminists or semi-feminists are unaware of. It’s sad, really.
Or you have some beautiful, feminine women, TRICKED into slaving away at college, a career, and postponing settling down… until suddenly they are 35, overweight, wrinkly, and no one is interested in them. So they blame MEN for not appreciating their hard work…
It was feminists and lesbians who tricked them into thinking we want a 35 year old, stressed out business woman. We don’t.
Is it possible to be in the Top 20% if you are not a white man? I am under the impression that only celebrity non-white men are in the Top 20%.
I think it is possible in most Western countries, but not in East Asi (if you are not white or Oriental) and harder in Latin America. A really good-looking and successful Indian, mulatto, East Asian, or Middle Eastern man can do well in many locations, but only white men appear to do well pretty much everywhere.
I agree. It is very rare when being white does not play to my advantage wherever I travel. Sure, not every woman overseas (or in the US) is going to swoon over me and my whiteness; but, it is an advantage with most women. Just my $.02
Cracker Daddy
Actually the 1990’s was a great time to be a white American in Europe or Britain.
Sadly anti-Americanism rose in the Bush era.
A really successful Mulatto (I leave out Indians and East Asians) or Middle Eastern can do better with white American girls than the average white man.
Around the world the white man is seen as the standard bearer for what a man is supposed to be and the creator of the greatest civilizations the world has ever known. All women around the world know this and even though it is natural for people to prefer their own kind/race, those women that do consider going outside of their race will choose a white man.
As long as the other races of men stay in their own nations they can be in the top 20% of that nation, however in a multiracial nation they will struggle.
I doubt it. I have a hard enough time with a Mediterranean complexion. I wouldn’t imagine how much harder it would be if I looked Indian or Filipino.
FITZ
Al Pacino and Stallone have Mediterranean complexions and chicks have always like “Italian Stallions”.
What about Banderas.
Girls either love Mediterranean men or they hate them. No in between just like many Med cultures of extremes. Anyway, the women I have dated have all been into Italian guys, Spanish guys like the ones you listed. I see the guys they’re into and they are always wogs.
But girls into the Chad type (robust Middle American jocks) tend to not not really be into the Med look. Of course most of these women are middle American. The good thing about me is I have Germanic features so I don’t really look overly ethnic and girls seem to be OK with that but sometimes my dark hair and eyes makes them think I look too dark for them as they like Whitey White types.
But if I had the features of an Italian American (many whom are Sicilian and would pass for Arabic) I would have to practically date either other wog women or White girls with a special thing for Arab looking men. I knew this Italian guy back home who looked super ethnic he could pass for some type of Levantine or Iraqi. Actually what am I talking about one guy. They all look like that. And they all either date Italian girls or girls who like Italian guys. That’s it. I at least don’t raise many eyebrows in Southern Ohio where most people look Germanic like I do. I just happen to have very dark hair almost black and same with my eyes. My complexion is Mediterranean too but I don’t have stereotypical Mediterranean features (those fine features seen on many South Italians and Arabs). They look very distinctive and Eastern to my eyes. I at least still look Western European so girls don’t really get an ethnic vibe from me. They just prefer brown haired blue eyed guys in my city sort of like a Nick Lachey type of guy. Very Middle American looking in coloring.
FITZ
You have a point: Italian-Americans are often short or medium-height (5’10 average) although most are buff and they are kind of oily and Pacino or Stallone would not be considered studs whereas on the East Coast they are “Stallions”.
Sicilians are Arab as hell. They’d rather pretend to be “part-black” because think this is more studly.
Stallone and Pacino would look like King Farouk.
Being from Michigan I’ve noticed that Hillbilly chicks are attracted to Italian-Americans but these macho guys usually just use them as a “gomar” on the side of the Italian-American girl they actually marry.
Deep down, Italian-Americans like Mexican men or Arab men regard Anglo-Saxon girls as whores.
FITZ Sicilian Girls in Southeast Michigan
Sicilian girls Dad’s actually would hurt a WASP for messing around with their daughter if she was under 20. Or her brothers.
Sicilians had their own barrio of sorts in Detroit. They were regarded as being “Latinos”.
It was hard to get Sicilian girls to put out and they did not tend to dress quite as whorishly as Anglo girls because their Dad again would not like it.
They had big tits and sexy curvy bodies and were quite tan with big brown eyes.
Sicilian here. I often get confused for Latino or Lebanese now that I live in SAn Diego. I’ll tell you, Italian women do NOT like me. They want blue eyed, military white boys.
I am a little luckier than most Sicilians since I’m 6′ with green eyes, but it does NOTHING for the girl who wants a really white looking dude. That’s fine tho. I only date Latinas. They are the sexiest women in the world and they love that I’m taller with cool liking eyes. Latinas treat their men like Italians used to back in the day.
Every man should go where he’s treated best. If you’re not happy with the female situation in the US, take a number. None of us are. Learn some Spanish and get your ass to Colombia or Peru where the women actually love men.
Well that sucks for me as I prefer White women and not really into Latinas. But lucky for me I know where to find the White girls into me and how to make them compliant. No need for me to go to Latin America or the Third World.
It’s nice to know but without a long term reproductive goal women just are not worth the trouble.
I must now go oil my neckbeard.
The leather jacket is the key.
Being fat helps no one. Your dick looks smaller, you have less stamina in bed, you’re an easier target, your face looks round and undefined. You basically sort of revert to a chubby childlike state. Think that’s attractive? I don’t want to see any guy with a pant size above 34 to talk about how they want a thin woman and aren’t chubby chasers. Get on YOUR game first before you expect things of others. I hate seeing guys with mediocre bodies have the audacity to expect women to maintain their shape when they are lazy fucks themselves. They think because they knew or heard of a fat guy with mad game that they can get away with the same. Meanwhile they sit on their ass and bitch and complain.
If you want to stay fat, fine. But know women are hypergamous and that purposely keeping yourself fat out of pride (laziness) is doing you nor your health favors.
The way I see it, be the guy women masturbate to even if they never got to know you.
Physician, heal thyself………nailed it!
Pudgy muscular guy here.
It is hard if you have any kind of job to skip food so that you can lose weight and concentration at the same time.
Keeping weight off requires hours at the gym.
My big mistake was smoking cigarettes from 14 – 30. Quit them and your metabolism will readjust.
It is a realistic goal to try to make it to the top 20% of men. However, once you have achieved that, you might realize that there are many other things you could do instead of chasing girls. You could start a business, travel to other countries for prolonged periods of time, learn other languages, write a book . . . All these things will provide you something in return, even if it’s just experience or lessons in life. Winning at the game of chasing women implies that there is something to win. Women are inferior to men and unable to truly love someone and to ever be happy. Their hypergamous instinct will always motivate them to try to get more, more and more. Focus on yourself and your own journey towards your lifetime achievement goals. Love is just a trick by evolution to make us breed. It’s a chemical reaction largely based on the hormone Vasopressin for guys. There is nothing divine about it.
I dont know how to reply to comments on here, but its important to realize that you gotta date within your league. Yea if you grab a hot russian model she will divorce rape you for the green card.
I am within the top “20%” due to good looks and income. But i chose to date a russian chef below my smv due to the fact she cooks and cleans for me. And pussy is pussy, it gets old and they all feel the same.
Grab a passport, travel abroad. Meet a nice girl that is thrilled about cooking, cleaning, and raising children. They exist.
TONY
“They exist”
I had a British man who converted to Islam in Dubai and did the whole thing in order to marry an Arab girl, thinking that she would behave.
But she became modernized when they moved to Marble Arch.
I quite Eddie Murphy as stating that you would have to go to Africa and “marry a woman buck naked riding a Zebra”.
One reason Asian and Muslim girls marry a white guy is to enjoy the benefits of the West.
Top 20% will get you attention from overweight, old chicks, sure. I’m definitely in the top 20% and it is STILL a struggle to get a cute girl who isn’t fat.
Sure, ugly, skinny girls like me.
Sure cute fat girls like me.
Ugly, fat girls LOVE me.
But cute, non-fat girls… Huge challenge. There are literally hundreds of men messaging them per day between text, email, and social media. I am also asking myself “is it even worth the time, money, energy, and frustration.” Flake rate on a cute, skinny girl is 90-95%.
I have a client who is the CEO of an 8 figure business. He’s also jacked, ripped, and is famous online. Sure, he get’s 20 women per day asking him out in private messages. Those women would rather be his booty call, than be a girlfriend or wife of a good dude in the top 20%.
It’s like primate behavior all over again. Alpha gets 90% of the mates. Betas do the bitch work and die in wars.
My only recommendation is to keep spinning plates. Always have some 10s, 8s, and 5s you are talking to to fill the void when another one flakes. It will protect your pride and stop your dependence on one woman. Chances are, none of them make it to long term relationship status anyway before going crazy.
Get out of SoCal. If I lived in SoCal I doubt I would be able to score as much as I did in flyover country. Plus in flyover country the hot girls are actually hot and aren’t covered in makeup and fake shit to enhance their appearance. I get the impression SoCal girls are super plastic from what I have seen.
Yeah you’re right. I’m here for the career. I also feel like I cracked the code on southern california.
1. Any woman over 30 is done. She wants expensive dates, a sports car and a big house. Stay away. (I’m 34)
2. Any girl under 23 is here to PARTY (read: fuck). So go to the college bars and lie about your age (I say I’m 26). It’s awesome fucking girls 10 years younger who are impressed with a free drink!
3. If all else fails, and I find myself in a dry spell, I go to Tijuana. The clubs let 18 year old Latinas in who are dying to act like American sluts. Top notch bottle service costs like $40 bucks and girls are dying to be seen at the table with me! Winning!
* but yeah, when I’m 40, I will move to a small town with an 18 year old and start a family.
Well, speaking from experience, I’ve attended a Playboy Christmas Party and it was during the time that Hugh Hefner was dating those three blonde triplets. You may think those chicks were hot but I can attest that they weren’t even the hottest chicks in the club. There were drunk 8s, 9s and 10s everywhere. There were also good looking guys that were well dressed and in great shape but, those chicks weren’t having any of it. The reason being, at that level, those guys are a dime-a-dozen. They all look the same. Clones. They would have done much better in a gay club. If you want chicks at that level, you gotta break the mold. You gotta leave your boring-beta-docker-butt persona behind and go disheveled RockStar or some approximation. Normal doesn’t cut it at the top of the food chain.
Or just avoid said atmosphere with dime a dozen skanks
You’re right. At the top of the food chain, women have had plenty of providers in the top 10-20%. At that level, bad boy game would probably kick in. But like someone said above, women always want 10% better than what is physically possible. For that reason, those women will still be going home saying “where are all the good men at?” hahaha.
Flip the script and make them feel like THEY aren’t good enough. Human nature really.
You’re correct. At that level you’re dealing with women who have an addiction to the Jet-Set lifestyle. They are use to $400 a plate dinners, shopping sprees in Beverly Hills and an endless line of men showering them with expensive gifts. But just like Heroin, the euphoria eventually wanes and you need to increase the dosage just to get the same effect. This is all taking place at the same time that their looks are being to fade and the new crop of party-girls are piling on the scene. It not as glamorous as it is the first time around and eventually, for the majority, you have no choice but to come face-to-face with jetset-withdraw. Such is the price to be paid for burning the candle at both ends.
Im am top 20% in rooshes most hated city, DC. Women will eye fuck the shit out of me in a starbucks. And i am brown skinned. Beware the idiots that you listen to. Like mofos pumping and dumping a stock on ihub for their own agenda.
Be yourself, be successful, dont be needy, travel, procreate with a good foreign woman. They exist.
Still feeling upset at being an Indian or Arab or Arab around white Americans whose “European race” you did not belong.
A Gen Y idiot like you would not know his ancestry because your Yuppie parents got all PC in the 80’s and 90’s when you were hatched and decided ethnic pride was wrong.
Or maybe your mother just doesn’t know the man who blew his beans up her well enough for you to know.
“You aren’t German” Al Pacino is not Italian, he is Italian-American. Cosby is not African, he is African-American
“Muh white European ancestry”
I’d rather look like Mark Wahlberg than Bill Cosby so yes, I am grateful to have German-American ancestry.
So is Trump, for that matter.
Better than being an Iranian-American always having to tell me people he is not Arab or a Groid or Indian or an Asian.
If you put me in Munich or put Al Pacino in Rome or Bill Cosby anywhere in Africa you would think we were locals until we opened out mouths.
I’m efficient. I just pay for it. I only Chase checks B……
I agree about the overweight thing because it doesn’t make sense for men who are “fat” to say they want hot, thin women, but the same thing goes for women who are “fat” that says they want hot men.
The problem is that fat girls nowadays can get men who are thinner than them because of how the sexual market is in favor of women in a very unbalanced way
Humans respond to incentives. The low percentage of quality women in the West these days is putting thousands of men off in making an effort to attract the opposite sex. I live in Australia. I’m 35, 6.2 feet tall, self-employed, hit the gym 4 times a week, dark hair, well travelled and educated (BA, two masters degrees), speak languages and play guitar. My female friends tell me I’m an attractive, good-looking and interesting guy and say they cannot understand I haven’t had a girlfriend in the last 3 years. The reality is, and I’m not ashamed to admit this, I don’t get any female attention in this country and, as a result, haven’t had sex for nearly two years. I’ve tried online dating for some time. In 12 months I received zero messages from women. ZERO. A 55 year old divorced woman gets dozens of messages a week. I’m totally invisible to women in this country. If they happen to find me attractive they don’t make any move to show. I’ve joined salsa classes but the majority of women dancing are middle aged women in their 50s. The few young and attractive ones are already taken. In Australia, I feel like I, as a man, have to do all the work to attract females. Women do nothing, they just dress up and wait for the man to do everything. It’s an unbalanced game. I have to jump through hoops to get some female attention, hit night clubs and game drunk women to get some “success”. On top of this, the quality of women in Australia is so low (tattoos, dyed hairs, overweight, entitled, loud, feminists, etc…) that there’s no incentive for me and for many men to even bother any longer in trying. I checked out of “gaming” women and the dating scene a long time ago. Too much effort for very little, if any, reward. I only focus these days on my life, my goals and mission. If a woman that I find attractive and she finds me attractive too happens to cross my path, great. If not, which is usually the case, so be it. After 8 years in Oz, I’m moving back to my home country Spain (I hold dual citizenship Spain-Australia) next month and I can’t wait.
SBUR Australian Girls in the Philippines
I owned a bar in the Philippines and many Australian passed through, including female Australians on “Gap Year”.
Damn those Oz chicks were crude. Even my Manila bar girls could not believe how crusty and skanky the average White Australian woman is. They drank like sailors and often fought physically with other women as well.
I attribute this to being the descendants of HARDCORE LONDON PROSTITUTES and Aboriginal whores who screwed freed English convicts for grog or whatever.
My Swedish friend chose to marry a Lebanese Muslim woman in Sydney. He did not like Muslims personally but at least she did not live in the pubs on the beach blowing 4 duded in one afternoon.
Keep in mind that these are the top 20% of men ON OKCUPID in 2009. Before tinder came out. Do you think people like Brad Pitt, Tiger Woods, models, and even that rich frat boy you went to school with are using online dating? Mostly No, they have plenty of girls banging on their doors, enough social circles and IOIs in real life to not need online dating. Most of the actual top 1-5% are not on okcupid or tinder. It doesn’t mean girls aren’t insanely picky but It’s more top 30% of men get the majority of attention.
This is why in the black ghetto or in Asia female STD’s are higher than males because a “harem” forms around one successful male and in the case of blacks if he has Syphilis he gives it to all 6 women. The black man that is poor in the ghetto gets no sex at all except from hookers. Whites have a more egalitarian sexual marketplace because long ago our Agrarian ancestors realized that Harems and concubines and all the rest meant an unbalanced society of rapists and bastards.
Ehhhhhh…poor Blacks get laid all the time. How else do we account for all those bastard children?
Their female partners are not as high IQ as white men’s female partners.
Sure poor whites have bastard children, but less of them.
The other aspect is that for lower IQ women seeking a big dick and a fairly decent muscular build this is easier to find.
Stupid people have more sex
I would add something that’s rarely mentioned on the website: master a music instrument. It’ll make you a better man.
In most cases you’re only a notch above the girls attracted to you.
If we only go by looks, girls have zero intention of fucking a man less attractive than they are. Us guys, we can usually go a few points below (I think 2 points at max) and not have a problem. For strictly sex, I am of the belief men can go 3-4 points below their own level just to bust a nut. Male thirst is strong and can’t say I am immune. But for relationships I think many guys are OK dating down A BIT way more than women are. Women see dating down as beneath them as it doesn’t fulfill their sexual role of the sexual gatekeeper.
The reason I see this is because I think deep down we know we make women better. So they don’t have to be perfect for us. We can make them that way. We make women better to the point they sometimes surpass us in attractiveness and them they begin to feel resentment.
Let me ask you all a question – if every man is in the top 20%, then who are the other 80%?
What I mean to say with this: If every man would improve to the current state of an upper 20%, would it really help him or would women come up with new and harder to improve criterias to single the new top 20% out? In the end, aren’t we all just raising the bars on ourselves?
Most men naturally won’t improve.
True enough, but when are we gonna get past hedonism and stop trying to pretend it is ‘revolutionary?’ This is just simply trying to find a niche and make peace with the system. No, you are not ‘beating’ anybody with this. We need to come clean and at least admit that we are not trying to end anything, but simply perpetuate what we have in order to enjoy fleeting pleasures that are engaged in for validation morse than the pleasures themselves.
A tip. You can’t be in the 20% of the general population (it’s rather the 5%, in fact), but you can be in the 20% of any small group including women.
Choose your groups wisely, and if you are any way better than the competition, you’re basically Casanova.
Just have multiple groups, and try new small groups on a regular basis. (Don’t stay in feminists groups because there are a lot of hungry pussy, of course)… If you know how to handle this, you can be picky and have several ‘prospects’ at any time.
FAIL. Faggot James Dean in Illustration 1 as an ‘Alpha’??? Impotent Joo-Poof and His Tranny farm Hugh Hefner??? – Sex is NOT a graph. Fuck a pseudo-pig or stay home and dream of non-existent succubi. Idiots.
DEEN
Actually the guy comes off as gay in his straight orgies.
You say all this, but their is a large number of average dudes with wives, long time girlfriends, or dates regularly. Guys who never work out, don’t run a thriving business, or don’t give a shit about red pill are in relationships.
The only thing guys should be working on is “What can I achieve to better my life, and what makes me happy?”. Simply getting laid for the validation of another person with their own independence and direction in life is like chasing your own tail.
I truly feel that being physically fit, with a slight emphasis on the show off muscles(Shoulders,Tri,Bi) + Some effort in dressing yourself goes a hell of a long way. If you aren’t going to put in any work why the hell would any woman be interested anyway? I honestly don’t feel the face is as important women as it is to men. Just look like you could throw a man across a dance floor if need be and you should be okay. Also don’t be a pussy.
For women, 80% of men are “below average”.
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Maybe the girls I meet in rural Eastern Washington are just too Podunk to be picky but I never had much trouble ince I got fit, dressed sharply and applied the most basic concepts of game. My Chicago friend assures me that it’s harder in large cities.
Be careful with the testosterone shots, guys. My friend, a low-key guy, took twice weekly T-shots and turned into a complete shithead. Addicted to porn, started hitting webcams and finally got sextorted with the Skype sex scam. What a fucking moron. He almost lost his job because the scammers figured out he is a media guy and emailed his employer, demanding money. No more T shots and a month later he is fine and his wife MIGHT NOT take him to the cleaners.
i’m fucked.
The 20% rule is true. But everyone can’t be in the ‘general’ 20% (wich is more like 5% in real life)
There’s a good tip to be known. People doesn’t live ‘in general’. They belong to groups, and you can actually became pretty easily in the 20% of much groups.
With preparation you can manage to jump from group to group instead from ‘women’ to women’.
Plus it’s good for your social network.
Sounds like a headache to me…you guys can have my share of slores. I will be content alone.
All I can tell you is that desperation has a smell and women are tuned to it. My best luck was when I didn’t care and or was alone.
All this is just BS. I’ve been jacked enough to be in magazines several times and during those times I would go YEARS without getting laid. I had enough social proof in NYC clubs that I would skip the line that wrapped around the corner yet got NOTHING. I worked the door and guest list at NYC bars for singles networking groups and saw no difference in my opportunities. I had not one but THREE exotic cars and all I got was compliments from guys. I donned some pretty good fashion, played the bad boy part and went out every weekend for years – got me scraps with low end 3’s and 4’s. I took 2 years off of my life that cost me over $200,000 in savings and opportunity cost and still struggled to get sloppy moms that no other guy wanted. I traveled with coaches from NY to CA in 30 days and didn’t get laid ONCE. I have personal phone numbers of well known coaches that I called on a whim for ON-SITE advice and still nothing. I took jobs as well as volunteered that required wearing an officers uniform thinking that could help – NADA. Took enough shots of testosterone that it was pouring out of my skin – made no difference. I talked to and still continue taking to girls every chance I get yet although my number close rate is decent at best, my texting flake rate is nearly 100%.
I’ve done it all yet get laid with over the hill moms with some physical or mental issue once every 3 years. So please spare me the BS of what you have to do to get laid.
What has this all taught me? – what we all knew from the very beginning – she has to find you attractive and within the range of 5 to 10 years of her age. That’s the meat. Everything else is just gravy. It cost me over $210,000 and 8 years to find out for myself what our forefathers knew all along.
AKA – LUCK. It’s all about luck or whatever cosmic term you want to call it.
Some of you clums have it. Some don’t. Some have little some have more. It’s all in the cards the cosmic dealer has dealt you. Action. Inaction and all that other stuff is just BS. Guys who have gotten laid since early in their life will continue to do so. Those that have not will continue to do so.
Call me defeated. Call me cynical. Call me whatever you want but you’re the fly banging his head against a glass window pane trying to get out. And we all have seen where that fly ends up – dead nearby that same window his been trying to get through.
Good luck to you all. You’re gonna need it.