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5 Crucial Facts Men In Their Forties Need To Know About Game

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The following article is sponsored by Troy Francis.

These days there is a plethora of advice about game and dating on the internet for men, but a great deal of it is written for and by guys in their twenties. This all good, and you can find some fantastic advice out there, but it doesn’t always fully address the issues and concerns of men who are over the age of forty.

For there are a great many men who have come back to the dating market following a divorce or the breakdown of a relationship. In many such cases there are children involved. Meanwhile there are other guys who have remained single, having been unnerved by the high divorce rate and its potential consequences.

While the basic levers of attraction remain the same however old you are, it’s simply not the case to pretend that pickup is exactly the same for a 40+ guy as it is for a kid in his twenties.

Here are five things that men in their forties need to know about game as they contemplate the new dating scene.

1. It’s Okay To Step Outside The Matrix

The first thing that 40+ guys—especially those who have been married or in long-term relationships—have to realise is that stepping outside ‘the matrix’ of what society deems is correct is OK.  You just have to develop a strategy to free yourself from groupthink and act like an individual rather than a part of the herd.

A great many younger guys have taken this on board, and now the digital nomad lifestyle, plus non-monogamous dating are common for millennials.

For older guys who were brought up with a more conventional outlook, you need to find a way to smash past the voices in your head, disregard those around you and live as you’d really like to live.

That includes not just how you live and work, but also who you date and the kinds of relationships you’d like to have with women.

Face it, not all of us are cut out to be one-women guys with 2.4 kids and a white picket fence. Increasingly, many men are recognising that they don’t fit the mould and they are dying to break free.

The good news is that today you can have any lifestyle you want—the opportunities are endless—as long as you find ways to distance yourself from conventional thinking.

2. It’s Fine To Still Approach Women – As Long As You Do It With Love

A lot of guys who are in their forties—and even younger—question whether it is still ‘ok’ for them to approach women. Game feels as though it is a younger man’s pastime.

And people are all too ready to try to shame men for continuing to have active sex lives by condemning a continued interest in women and approaching as somehow immature or shallow.

Of course this is a nonsense, since interpersonal relationships are among the most important things in our lives. And this doesn’t stop just because you were 39 yesterday and today you’re 40.

And since nearly all of the great art, literature, and music created by our species has had sex and love as its inspiration it is simply not in tune with human dynamics to brand these things as insignificant.

So yes, it is fine to still be approaching women when you are in your 40s—just as long as you do so with love, and you are coming from a positive place.

I don’t mean that in a hippyish, peace and love, bullshit kind of way. I mean that this is not a zero-sum game. You shouldn’t be going out and meeting girls with a view to ‘getting something from them’. No. This should be a win-win scenario where you bring your experience, maturity and intelligence to bear, and she enjoys spending time with you as much as you do with her.

3. If  You Try To Look Young And You’re Uncalibrated You’ll Look Like A Dick

Yes, we all want eternal youth, and yes, society, advertising and the culture in general all tell us that in order to be successful with women you need to look like a 25 year-old Abercrombie model.

While it’s true that all of us, whatever our age, should make every effort to stay in shape and look as good as we can, if you overdo it there’s a real chance you’ll end up looking like a dad dressed up as Justin Bieber.

Not a good look.

What you need to do instead is to spend some time thinking about yourself—your likes and your dislikes, your influences and so on—and then work out how best to channel these visually into what you wear.

It may sound a little pretentious to put it like that but seriously, it’s time well spent, because once you’ve worked through this process you will find yourself wearing clothes far more authentic to you.

If you need help with this it’s well worth booking some time with a personal shopper who specialises in menswear.

4. Relating To Younger Women Is About Dropping Your Ego

A lot of 40+ guys on the dating scene end up meeting girls who are younger than they are. Or they aspire to, at least.

While there’s nothing wrong with this, and the chemistry between a younger woman and a mature man can be electric, you have to face facts—she’s younger than you and her interests and cultural reference points will differ from yours.

Because of this many guys will overcompensate and try to pretend that they are twenty years younger by dropping in references to bands they’ve hardly heard of and TV shows they’ve never watched. While it’s good to keep your finger on the pulse of pop culture, you don’t want to risk looking like a fool.

You also must avoid going to the other extreme and become patronising, giving her instructions on how she should live her life.

Instead, drop your ego and learn to relate to her as another human being. You need to tune into the commonalities between you and concentrate on those. When you learn to do this effectively then any kind of ‘age gap’ will melt away.

My ex-girlfriend was fifteen years younger than me and I am currently dating a girl who is seventeen years younger. In both cases, my age was (and is) a non-issue, since I relate on a on a much more fundamental plane than that.

You can learn to do the same thing.

5. The Player Lifestyle Has Its Downsides Too

There’s no point in pretending that the player lifestyle is all milk and honey and endless beautiful girls. It’s not—there are definite negatives. Every decision that we make has consequences and no path is without its challenges.

It’s important that men who are in the 40+ age group bear this in mind before they leap into what they imagine will be a carefree life of pleasurable dating and intimacy.

At the same time, it is important that we resist those shaming voices that would claim that guys who are single into their forties will end up as ‘lonely old men’. This is absolutely not the case—I talk to men of all ages, including those in their sixties and even seventies, who are still dating and having a great time.

Don’t let imaginary mental barriers prevent you from living life your own way.

My New Book ‘Still In The Game’ Will Teach You All These Lessons And More

So, you reached forty. Or maybe you haven’t quite yet. But you’ll get there soon enough. And when you do—whether that’s now or in a couple of years’ time—you’ll need to know precisely what you need to do to get results with the girls you want to date.

Perhaps you’ve been married. Maybe you’re divorced, or a split looks imminent. Maybe you have kids. Maybe the dating scene is a dim and distant memory to you. Or perhaps you’ve been playing the field for a while, but you’d benefit from the experience and insights of a player in his forties who regularly dates beautiful girls all over the world.

After all, when you were at university it was all so easy—you’d simply have a few drinks, go to the bar and meet a girl. These days there is Tinder and Bumble and Happn, not to mention all the social networks like Facebook, Instagram and Snap. Everything seems so complicated.

Plus as a guy in his forties you’re still interested in the same kinds of girls you always were: hot young things with a bit of sass and feistiness. That picture of Emily Ratakowski in her bikini never fails to perk you up. And you don’t see things changing any time soon.

But where will you meet the kinds of girls you like? And how will you make it so that you’re attractive to them? And how will you relate to them? Most importantly, how will you get over the mental barriers that you will inevitably face as a 40+ guy out playing the field?

Still In The Game answers all these questions and more.

  • Understand the challenges, issues and hidden traps that any player in his forties and beyond will face out in the field.
  • Read Troy’s own personal story, revealing the secret truths about how he came to avoid the regular path of marriage and remain a player into his forties.
  • Learn exactly how you can break out of the ‘matrix’ of conventional thinking to free yourself up for a life of sexual and romantic variety.
  • Go deep into the mindsets that you need to develop so that you are rock-solid in your confidence about meeting girls.
  • Find out how to remain young without looking like a dick, and how best to relate to younger women.
  • Discover the precise structure of game that Troy uses right now as a 40+ man to meet beautiful women.
  • Consider relationships and the conflicts that they can bring, and how best you can negotiate these.
  • Take a no-bull look at the downsides of the player lifestyle.
  • Eradicate your fears about the endgame. Do I have to ask where all of this is going? Will I still have to be hitting on girls when I’m seventy? Or can I find huge excitement, happiness and contentment through the player lifestyle?

Let’s face it. There’s a ton of game advice out there but the vast majority of it is aimed at younger guys. And as Still In The Game makes clear, the principles of attraction are the same whatever your age. There are no silver bullets. But the main thing that holds guys in their 40s back from success is not so much game techniques as much as the mindsets that they hold.

If you can just make a few subtle tweaks to your mindset then you will immediately start to make huge leaps forward in your dating life. Still In The Game will teach you how.

Still In The Game by Troy Francis is available on Amazon for Kindle and in paperback now.  To order your copy now click here. 

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77 thoughts on “5 Crucial Facts Men In Their Forties Need To Know About Game”

  1. When I was 41 I hooked up with a 21 year old after breaking up with my 27 year old personal trainer. Then there was a 28 year old six footer (I’m 5’10”) with a model’s figure. The week before my 40th birthday I smashed a 22 year old. There were a couple closer to my age and I’m with a 32 year old now, I’m 42.
    It is SO natural for these girls to love older guys. They already have daddy issues and almost all women want a mature guy who knows who he is.
    I work out a little and dress well but not like a kid. I don’t wear suits either.
    Be who you are. It will happen.
    Troy knows his stuff.

    1. “They already have daddy issues”
      So gaming girls as a 40-year-old guy only works if you target girls with daddy issues? Thought so.
      I’d like to know what those girls looked like. Probably nothing worth writing home about, considering that you (probably) date in America.
      On a side note, I’d very much like to know why the fuck do articles like these feature model-tier girls, when we all know that most guys in north America are highly unlikely to score with girls that look like that.

      1. Sounds like a lot of excuses to me.
        The girls I dated are all at least sevens and no one calls them ugly and yes, most women have a daddy issue or two floating around someplace. But, by all means, go ahead and say that ALL women in North America are trash, even if you’ve only dated three or four of them. More for me.

        1. Wayne
          All women who would date me (in the west) are trash.
          As a 50+ guy the pretty ones just wouldn’t. But in Asia, completely different, I can bang 20 year olds with ease (and $25).
          Pal of mine is just trying Jakarta for a change, he says wall to wall hookers at $25 a go. I might pop over for a look next month.

      2. Sugar babies. every single one of those models. Either born into money or sugar babies..of course every locale will have their market of sugar babies and their costs…but like any other whore, the price variation will be wildly different.
        And then of course the ONE time she calls the cops and gets you locked up and out of your house/digs/flat that you set yourself up nicely in, and she skates off with your stuff….with another loose wallet monkey branch.
        Sure who wouldn’t like to get balls deep in one of these ladies, its only creepy when the daddy issues (likely also incest in her past) and your girl is younger than your 8teen and 9teen year old kids, but who am I to judge? Late 40’s early 50s, you playa dangerous game fooling with kids younger than your own. Sorry, I keep my drama free and headache free sanity. not saying I would bed hop with post wall material either. Would rather trip over a rough diamond by accident than play around in goat pastures of kids.

    2. The “be who you are” advice can be stellar good and the worst advice you ever got.
      It all depends on who you are.
      If you are a boring beta with an average life and interests in online games and chess you are better off to fake it, stick to ONS and flings and never put down that mask.
      To simply “be yourself” is a great advice if you are a badass alpha with tons of game and life experience.
      You have traveled the world, qualified to the olympic games in your youth and own a business?
      Sure! Go for it – be yourself and show the world your awesome inner self.
      The girls will love you for it.
      Its just that for every awesome guy who is single, there are the 9 others who mostly suck in life and have very little to show that is anywhere above average.
      Until this changes, the “fake it” part may be all they have.

      1. women want you to “just be yourself” so they can pigeon-hole you faster.
        So, strive for ultimate version of yourself, and act natural, is the ultimate goal.

  3. Just open the door in your bathrobe and accidentally show her your knob. Her knowledge of your colossal 40 something income from a high flying executive job will overcome all obstacles and dispense with the need for small talk. What could go wrong?

  4. As a 40 year old, you’re probably mature, or at least experienced in relationships. You probably have access to wealth. Even if you aren’t a father, you still have a better idea of the concept than the average 20-year old (and all women are subconsciously seeking a father-figure).
    Keep up your physique, don’t hide from salt and pepper hair, and you’ll do fine.

      1. Don’t know, don’t care.
        I want to get laid.
        They need $$$.
        It’s a no brainer.
        I never said I was an “alpha”.
        In fact, if this site has a search facility, you can see that for 2+ year I have described myself as an “Omega”. Not sure if that is the correct term for myself, but as I said above, I really don’t care.

      2. Burton,
        Paying for sex is better than no sex at all.
        Not to mention most men are paying for sex one way or another.
        Yeah, I got a couple of free ones when I was a teen.

        1. The pure essence of paying a woman to let you insert your penis inside her is, to me, quite beta.

        2. @Burton
          As JD stated, would you rather not got laid at all? OR be with some plain jane, fat pig, ugly dog, or, worst of all, an old bag???
          If I can afford to bang 18-29 y/o 7s/8s/9s & 10s, why shouldn’t I do that? Are you saying that banging some decrepit 45 y/o with wrinkles and cellulite would be better because she would let me do it “for free” or because she might “love” me? (love — talk about a BETA concept) Will never happen. No old bags for me. Beta/Omega or not. Labels mean very little to me anyway — unless I am the one labeling myself. Take care.

        3. @AutomaticSlim I think you’re forgetting the reality that only one subset of women will prostitute their bodies for money. And I think we can all envision what type of woman they are.

        4. @ Burton
          Here in NYC they range from ghetto girls to ultra elite super models. While I don’t go for the $1500/hr super model types, I am able to go for the elite types. These are college girls and other young women who need to supplement their jobs with extra $$$. They are very attractive and many are quite “classy”. Yes, some are also crazy BPD types, but as long as they are young and hot, who cares?
          You seem like a decent guy, and you are absolutely entitled to your opinion. I have a feeling we will just have to agree to disagree on this one. But in closing I will say, I will NEVER date wrinkled old bags in their 40s just because I can get them for free. NEVER! I will keep paying hot, 18-29 y/os until I croak. TBH, I wouldn’t bang bags like Jennifer Aniston or Gwyneth Paltrow if they offered to pay me. Too old. To each his own, I suppose. Take care & have a good week.

        5. @Burton, @AutomaticSlim
          yep – what type of person?
          $400 and up – they are young and hot.
          Same at strip clubs these days.
          Maybe the same chick who pole-dances one night, bangs AutomaticSlim the next, then goes on a date with an Alpha – and perfects the sweet little innocent aura.
          Or you can go to the wine/cocktail bars and work-work-work for a worn out cigarette-voiced lawyeress — who, although rather nasty, have terrific ethics.
          I am in limbo myself – holding out for “the one” while working to afford one of AutomaticSlim’s recommendations – daily…Or relocate.
          I’m 55 – so mostly done with the super efforts – waist of time and money – and women are getting worse…

        6. @ SL
          “Relocation”…yes!
          John Dodds (pjc) had the right idea all along!
          I’ll get the gumption to do it one day…one day…
          In the meantime, and as long as I can afford it,
          NYC has plenty to offer.

        7. @AutomaticSlim I agree that we’ll probably never come to see eye to eye on this one but that’s what makes this website great. I also never thought I’d see the day where a dude would forgo coitus with Jennifer Aniston. Interesting time to be alive that’s for certain.

        8. @ Burton
          Just curious. How old are you?
          You don’t have to be exact if you don’t want.
          Just the general age range.
          I am 52, btw.
          Lots of reasons/circumstances in my life why I am the way I am.

      3. Burton, you are going to pay for sex one way or another. The up front rental is better than buying. Better than spending loads of time trying to pick up girls too.
        Just go to Eastern Europe and bang away to your hearts content. Come home, save up, go back and do it again.
        You’ll feel younger, handsomer, have a spring in your step and, if you know how to make love, the girls will be asking you to come back – yes, they want the money, but they really want a guy who knows how to make the earth move.

  6. I’m 55 and I have no trouble hooking up with 20-year-olds, as beautiful as you could ask for, whether I am in the West or anywhere else, with no money involved, not even paying for dinner or drinks (Lord knows I don’t have any money anyway). YOU are the one who decides whether you’re too old for her or not, and whatever you decide, she will sense it and she will agree with you. So, younger guys, your future looks bright. I do just as well now as I did in my 20s, maybe even better, with the same kinds of women.
    One thing I have noticed through, is when you get past 40 you can’t date young women anymore — because she knows if she is seen in public with you, people will assume she’s a prostitute or a gold digger (if she’s the same race as you, she might be able to pass you off as her daddy, but if she’s a different race from you, there’s no way that one will fly either). So you have to hook up with her instead. And it’s always no strings attached.

  8. Absolutely terrible advice for a guy in his 40s and one presumably with game (money/resources) to mess around with chicks half his age. In this #metoo culture! Are you f’ing kidding me? Furthermore, if you are that mature and capable, you couldn’t possibly be cool with the idea of hanging out with the vapid and empty flesh bots that make up the majority of 20 something 6s, 7s and 8s. And let’s be honest…unless you have game AND big $$s, there are zero 9s and 10s choosing you over similarly ranked 30 something guys.
    All guys no matter age should red pill and up their game. Single, divorced, or even married. It matters not. But to tell a 40 something guy new to game he should and can successfully target 20 something’s is stupid, irresponsible, and possibly even dangerous advice in today’s culture.

  9. I’m 60, never married (thank god), and the women/dating thing is thankfully mostly in my rear view mirror. But I’ve had some rare dating opportunities with a select few much younger attractive women, and its miles ahead of the washed out delusional old sea hag wall victims my age. Yuck! My dogs and cat are better company than these vile old hateful wenches! Why drink spoiled milk, when you can drink fresh milk. The pushback and animus I’ve personally received out and about has been from old sea hags and their emasculated husbands. I also make a point of avoiding venues patronized by young Turks and dick swingers who want to hassle an old guy like me with his much younger date. Whatever their agenda, a younger woman is like heroin in your veins.

    1. Agree on the Sea Hags.
      I hate ’em too.
      Sea Hag-dom starts in their mid 30s.
      Some can hold it off a bit longer, but it is rare.

  10. What if you’re autistic like Roosh and even though you’re 30 or 40, you feel like a college student who thinks it’s 2005 and safe to write satire pieces? Is that an advantage? Wouldn’t younger chicks feel turned on at a 40-year-old who acts like an Alpha frat boy? I cannot brains. I has the dumb today.

  11. I’m 31 and I tend to make 18 and 19 year old females giggle. I read somewhere on Roosh’s personal articles how to make women laugh, and it worked! I think younger women like it when an older man entertains them in a Roosh-y way so to speak. Going like a Daddy figure only works on females with daddy issues and they’re likely mentally unstable. One minute they want your wallet, next minute they want you to fuck them like their first time! These daddy issue chicks are #probz.

  12. LMFAO…let the kittens approach you. If they don’t, stomp your foot and blow out air like a horse to snap their brain into paying attention to the proper thing. Wish was kidding…yet, it’s actually worked. Don’t ask me how, there is some abstract art / fine line that can’t be defined. Playing stupid as if don’t notice them babbling in circles works. Telling them you don’t like younger girls works. Anything works if right kind of not give a fuck asshole.

  13. Ever since I got on /pol/ ROK has become super boring and repetitive. It’s just not extreme enough for me.

  14. Lol what a funny article lol
    Good luck trying to game young pretty women, old lads ! Good luck with that 👍🏽… Good luck trying to game these modern social medias driven hotties, with zeppelinian egos…
    In our days of gaming you have to be a liltle celebrity to bang 6+ if not enjoy the 5’s or solid 3’s…
    But I wish you good luck again fellow game warfare comrades. It is not as easy as 10 years ago.

    1. Its now old 40 year old women dating 26 year old men.
      Above average guys are struggling to hold onto their 3s and 4s. Chads are racking up numbers on the 5-7 range and the 8+ females are all Instagram whores.

      1. “Its now old 40 year old women dating 26 year old men.”
        yep…
        the world has reversed. And those 40 year old women have 6 figure salaries…
        and 3 digit “N” counts

      2. Yep there is this aspect to the dating market for 40+ yr old men, that gets skipped over. Not every woman late 30s up look like an old sea hag or is desperate to snag any guy her age. Take a look at Elle Macpherson in her 50s (scroll down for recent bikini shot). I realize women like her are hardly typical, but of all the older (mid 30s+) women I know who still have decent sex appeal, they are sort after (mostly for flings) and they know it, and aren’t dating average joes their own age. Most i know are livin the sex and the city life (minus the glamour) and most have/are doing the cougar thing or still fucking your alpha/player types before trying to snag a mature aged guy in a good paying management position or one with his own successful business, just as the sun sets on their smv. The wall might be 35 from the perspective of a guy in his early 20s, but its not so cut & dry for men in their 40s as long they get a boner over the woman and she has minimal baggage.
        This thins out prospects for single men in their 40s who are open to dating in their age bracket or a bit under despite woman chastising them for chasing younger women, which is the smart thing to do to expand their market opportunities. The men in their 40s are competing with the guys in their 20s, and 30s for the same sweet young things, and though the maturity, confidence & experience that comes with age is an advantage, not everyone is going to be a winner.

        1. Old women can sometimes appear passable in photo’s, makeup and good lighting but up close and personal is a different matter.
          Visually, their feel, touch, voice and often even their smell alerts a mans sensors like an alarm that this bitch is Old!.
          Only thirsty or deluded fuckers can push through that reality.

  15. Instructions for 40+ men Seeking Fresh Poon
    1 – Rent it.
    2 – Talk only to sexy women who initiate.
    3 – Let desperate chicks find you.
    4 – Use them and throw them into the gutter.
    Starting Now in 2018 till the end of the world – > 2019
    HINTS to NOT being a MeToo victim-
    1 – Do not “game”
    2 – Do not go to any club or “social hotspot”
    3 – Do not go on dates
    4 – Do not approach
    5 – Do not reveal your true name or home address
    6 – Ovulating, hungry bitches will offer ass to you as soon as they see your indifference
    7 – Remove self-consuming lust from your life
    Economic Lesson –
    Rent a College 7 for $200
    -VS-
    Sexless Dates-Drinks-Hotels-Concerts-Trips-Gifts-Therapies-Lawyers- $200,000+

  16. Good article. If you guys like this, you should follow blackdragonblog.com. He usually speaks about dating in your forties, how to find friends with benefits, open relationships, from a businessman perspective.

    1. If that’s where you’ve learned some of the cringe worthy lines you’ve told us on here , no thanks

      1. When I was younger and had long hair and a beard, I was told I looked like a murderer (Charles Manson to be exact). It had its pluses and minuses.

  18. As far as how to dress, look at classy movie stars about your age (past or present, preferrably past) that you admire and try to mimic that look. Old James Bond movies are good ones to start with.

      1. Depends.
        You have to be built a certain way to pull it off.
        I look terrible in them. ..

        2. @ SL
          Mark Strong.
          Did you ever see the movie “The Eagle”?
          He was very good in that.
          He played a penitent Roman Legionnaire.

  19. Just remember boys, as that nubile little nymphet is jumping on your bone, she is FERTILE and would love nothing more than locking you down with a bun. So sad to see older men with 2-3 young kids and this sad tired look on his face.
    One big mistake older men getting back into the game make is lack of grooming and basic table manners.

    1. Cinders,
      I’m 62, my latest son is 6 ……. no sad looks on my face.
      But I am a bit tired after a 30Km cycle ride and a 10Km hike this morning.

  21. I love when any man or woman says “looks dont matter” to which my girlfriend “we have eyes too we are not blind “

    1. Looks certainly matter if you’re planning on ever being only 2 inches away from her.

  24. I’m a bit of an expert on this topic. I’m 49yo and I only date 8s and 9s under 30. I don’t do 10s not b/c i can;t score them but because the cost:benefit simply isn’t worth it to me personally, as generally they are too expensive and too dramatic. I date younger for many reasons, the obvious of course plus millenials have been raised on porn and are much more receptive and open to sexual acrobatics. Another is that many of them are surprisingly mature for their age in the dating department whereas some of the most annoying, prudish and childish women I ever dated (in my blue pill days!) are self entitled, jaded 40 somethings. As others have commented, in many parts of the world, an age gap is not a big deal at all and in some cultures such as the Phillipines is outright encouraged. however, in the US, if you’re going to play this game successfully, you will need one or more of the following:
    1) Above average to very good looks.
    2) Good to great physical conditioning including sexual stamina and endurance in general for long hours consummate with 20 something youth. You must be willing to take very good care of yourself with respect to diet, exercise, and regular detox for that youthful glow and vitality!
    3) A noteworthy sense of adventure that is clearly a cut above and backed up by your travels and social media.
    4) Something clearly extraordinary about you with respect to accomplishments, life insight and experience.
    5) An exceptional seductive skill, the ability to charm and a deep understanding and of key importance, an acceptance of the female psyche.
    6) An above average bank balance, typically top 5% of income earners.
    7) Access to or availability to provide exciting and entertaining options generally not available with men in their 20s.
    8) A very high emotional intelligence which is to say you are the alpha male “bedrock” lion that provides reassurance when all their swirling insecurities kick in.
    9) Willing to do straight up “cash and carry.”
    10) High IQ and high social competence – i.e. dress, style, dance, self defense, management of people, a social group of other high value accomplished males.
    Very few of us have all of 10, but even two ro three of these will open up a world of possibilities previously unknown to you 😉 While this is true of all game, it is ESSENTIAL for age gap dating. Beautiful young women are basically looking for you to “save” them – in a myriad of ways – from 20 something guys who have no clue. So it better be obvious that you’ve got life figured out; they can date a loser in Mom’s basement who’s their own age!
    They are specifically attracted to you because you are bringing life experience and sexual skill to the table that they cannot get elsewhere. This is evidenced by the top male porn stars (Rocco Siffredi, Shane Diesel, etc) most of whom are late 40s or even early 50s. It takes a man about 20 adult years to figure out how to manage hot women effectively so if you take care of yourself — and completely “free your mind” of the feminist matrix and get on with dating who you like, apologies and hesitation be damned — your 40s and 50s are your golden years of red hot nights with young little sexpots. Personality wise, you will deal with the proverbial “hot mess” daddy issues, but also women who don’t have a strong family connection (dysfunction, religious, bad first marriage, etc.) and finally women who are gifted, accomplished or artistic and have very high IQs, the latter of which are my favorite.
    I would recommend three books: Troy Francis’ mentioned here which I have, “Dating Younger Women” by Dean Cortez and the out of print “The Professional Bachelor” by Brett Tate. Books alone are not enough, you will need real field experience to do this. Your best option for getting started in the US in this area is the EDM nightclub scene, a culture that is most accepting of the age gap playboy lifestyle. Make friends, watch the best seducers, learn from them. I actually started here as I’m in the music biz and learned all this by accident, thankfully avoided all the drugs and kept my good looks, then moved on to flying solo with day game and online dating.
    Online, everyone male and female alike lies about something. With women, it’s usually kids, smoking, and poly boyfriends. Ergo, it is best to lie about your age to get your foot in the door, as once a woman is attracted to you, just as her lies don’t matter if the sex is awesome, it rarely matters to her that you lied either so long as you deliver! I am currently going out with a 19yo at a top engineering school who is a competitive swimmer, lifeguard and national level concert pianist. We’re working on getting her a fake ID and she’s absolutely thrilled 🙂 Never let anyone tell you and the person you make happy tell you how to live your life; they don’t have to live it… YOU do! This is the essence of the alpha mindset. Cheers and good luck! 🙂

  25. If you’re much older, imagine banging up some young woman and paying child support for 18 years and see where that puts your retirement age.

    1. Best not to live in a country where they have child support laws. In SE Asia you can impregnate as much as you like with no loss to any income you have.

  26. Good to see some advice geared toward older males. Roossh’s elderly openers obviously come more naturally, and to be successful any pickup routine you do, no matter what age, it needs to be perceived as organic otherwise the best script in the world wont save you.

  27. Guys don’t want to be judged/condemned for having active sex lives but how come it’s ok for guys to condemn women for having active sex lives by calling them sluts, whores, etc.?
    How can you approach a woman with love when you don’t even know her? And let’s be honest – a lot of guys ‘approach’ women, date, etc. for one reason only and it’s not love. It’s to get a free (or cheaper than a hooker) orgasm.

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