Please Take This Personally

This week I’m going to make a brief departure from my usual format of sharing articles from around the web, and invite you to share with us the things you’ve learned or re-learned in the Manosphere in 2012.

The Manosphere has changed significantly since I started reading back in 2008. There’s been a shift in many game blogs toward more of a lifestyle theme, and I’ve seen several of my favorite bloggers close up shop only to be replaced by some of my new favorite bloggers.

Though I’ve made my transition in and out of the ‘Sphere over the years as both a reader and a guest contributor, and though sometimes the information seems repetitive to the point where I’m a little curious as to why it takes some writers 8,000 words to say “don’t be a wuss,” I still glean information.

I think sometimes we underestimate the need to be reminded of things we already know. Well, at least I’m guilty of that to a certain extent. But now that I’m contributing again, I spend a little more time reading than I normally would, and I’ve learned that being reminded over and over of the same central theme keeps me sharp.

I read a post by Roosh several months ago talking about location and game from a logistical standpoint. I’m moving on January 12th to a newer, nicer place right in the heart of the downtown entertainment district as a direct result of that article. Just by mentioning it around work, I already have two girls who are excited to “know someone in the district” so they can crash after a night of drinking. This is going to get stupid – and I mean that in the best way possible. And no, the extra $350.00 per month is not only so I can get the poosy; it’s closer to work, closer to higher-end organic grocery stores, it has a fantastic gym and a resort-style pool, and there are literally dozens of restaurants and bars within three blocks of my soon-to-be new front door.

NexxtLevelUp had a guest post about online dating. I fired up my long-defunct profile and retooled it. I didn’t copy and paste the writer’s recommended profile, but I made it my own and kept the spirit of the intent. I’m already seeing more activity and interest than I ever have in online dating, and it’s only been a week. No, its not a miracle cure, and no, women aren’t standing in line outside my front door – but it’s a noticeable improvement.

There’s a post on the forum about OKCupid’s “Best face app.” I opened an OKC account just long enough to use the app (it took a few days to get my report) and then I shut it down since I prefer Match. I now know my best pictures and what type of online girl is in to me (late 20’s/early 30’s, liberal, heavily skewed vegetarian for some reason – pretty much the opposite of everything I find attractive in a woman). But at least I know what I’m dealing with. The report showed a photo of the other guys who beat me out of the contest when my photo wasn’t chosen, so I have a good idea what my competition physically looks like.

I chat on the phone or text with Bronan the Barbarian and Nate at least once per week, and they keep me motivated in the fitness arena.

And who could live without this brilliant reminder of what the red pill truly is…

I already knew that living closer to the action would bring me more action. I already knew I needed to refresh my account. I already know that putting down the fork and hitting the gym will keep me in shape.  I know these things, and I’ve known them for years.

But I appreciate the reminder, and I always try to take things personally. The examples listed above are just a few things I took action on recently. There’s several more from earlier in the year, but you get the idea.

What about you? Did you take anything personally this year? Is there anything you can point to from the Manosphere in 2012 that motivated you to action? Was there any new concept that opened your eyes – or an existing concept that you’re glad you were reminded of?

13 thoughts on “Please Take This Personally”

  1. 2012 was the best and most formative year of my life (thus far).
    Back in November of 2011, while researching Brazil for a school assignment, I stumbled on Roosh’s site.
    Reading his posts changed my world and on December 28th, I boarded a plane and left America for the first time in my 18 years of existence.
    In 2012 alone I have: visited several countries, started two businesses, taken up weightlifting, learned Spanish, started juicing (vegetables, not steroids), built a better social circle, dated women whom would have been “out of my league” before discovering the Manosphere and done more with my life than I’d ever thought possible.
    Over the past 12 months I’ve learned more about my world and self, than most do over the course of a lifetime.
    Here’s to a 2013, I look forward to what it brings me.

    1. And only 18.
      What I’ve noticed is that thanks to the manosphere, guys are experiencing the “good stuff” at an early age. You no longer need to be 30 years old to travel and enjoy foreign poonani.

  2. 2012 was a year of great change. I went travelling, moved to London, got an extremely well paid job, started dressing well, stopped fucking about in the gym and actually figured out how to build a great physique, saw my success with women increase exponentially, became motivated enough to start several projects geared towards getting me out of full time work within the next two years, made new friends, moved into a pimp apartment, and started writing a blog.
    All of this happened synergistically with the discovery of the manosphere. It triggered an explosion of self-motivation, confidence, and belief in myself. Although I had read game for a few years, I had no idea that this collection of like-minded, inspirational individuals was out there. I think the potential had always been there, I just needed that shove to show me the way.
    There is something for every part of your life – health, wealth, style, women, you name it. I’ve been trying to introduce everyone I know (who I think would be receptive to it) to the manosphere, and I hope to meet some of the other bloggers in 2013.

  3. “I think sometimes we underestimate the need to be reminded of things we already know. ”
    That’s why I read a few select blogs daily (Roosh included) and listen to Tom Leykis. It keeps me sharp.
    To me, game is like weightlifting in that consistency is how you reach your goals. Success comes from a linear progression with occasional plateaus that you have to work through. It’s a life choice that requires dedication and it’s not always easy.

    1. Leykis — now there is a strongly underappreciated asset in this neck of the woods!
      Leykis was — on broadcast radio — preaching about not spending more than $40 on the first date and trying to hit it as soon as possible, while a lot of game bloggers were popping pimples in junior high.
      Leykis helped get a lot of dudes a lot of pussy on the west coast in the 1990s and 2000s. Not just that — he had great advice on getting a chick to get an abortion if you knocked her up, keeping your assets in a divorce, and what we now call “relationship game”.
      Anyone who wants to take a break from just reading should check out his old radio archives (or his new podcasts). Amazing shit.

  4. It was something simple…take a more dominate frame with women.
    Speak in statements, not questions.
    Be proactive, not reactive.
    Correct them when they act anything other than feminine, reward them when they are.

  5. I value my anonymity but i can say that the manosphere helped me in a great deal of ways this year.
    Currently caring for my father who needs regular hospital visits, that and a lack of work and most friends far flung regions of the country and post uni, means that times have been quite tough. sex life was null and void, and beginning of the year i still ate like shit.
    A short list of the things that have happened, i’ve changed and the people to thank for them:
    singledudetravel got me up off my butt last year when i felt shit and my dad was diagnosed with [redacted] and i resolved to climb kilimanjaro with my best friend. began training, shittily at first, but by end of july 2012 i did it.
    lost 20lbs of weight due to mark’s daily apple (paleo) and lean gains (okay they’re not technically manosphere but they’re fraternal blogs)
    Starting taking up gym sessions hard, from about august onwards, thanks to roosh’s starting strength recommendations,
    rediscovered the wisdom of the entrepreneurial spirit and how to believe and focus on your own goals, consistently, almost selfishly, to go for what you want in life thanks to dangerandplay
    remembered what hot beautiful women were like thanks to thanks to krauser ( got motivated and went on a short epic trip to prague)
    freedomtwentyfive and frost kept my desire to live a location independent lifestyle strong
    inmalafide went away but ROK took its place. some good things go, some good things come
    countless hours of information and links via roosh’s twitter, i’ve incorporated lessons and started to get back the kind of social (and sex) life i had back in my university whoring days
    planning on releasing a few books for kindle, (thanks to roosh) and got some kickass connections on various forums on how to get to number 1 in specific subcategories
    started learning french via memrise recommendation and getting back into good connection with old hot french girls i knew, (leveraging connections to profit)
    much more hopeful about 2013, i’m happier, and i owe that to my own drive, which in turn has been really been supplemented and boosted by the manosphere

  6. I’ve started becoming better with my money, more aggressive, and have grown the balls to start my own blog after it hit me that my favorite writers all sucked when they began and only got better over time. I have big goals and a plan to reach those goals. Makes me excited and lets me know my life is only getting better and better.

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