A Simple Way To Understand Inner Game

When you’re new to the game and to the red pill, you hear a lot of terms that don’t quite make sense, even though you think you may know what they mean. “Hypergamy,” “alpha”, etc. The one that always got to me was the concept of “inner game.”

It seemed just like a synonym for confidence, but the way it was talked about in the manosphere was a little different. I wondered how I would know when I had developed it. It’s important not to bullshit yourself when you are embarking on a difficult course of self-improvement, since it’s easy to fall into the trap of saying “yeah, I get this now.” That’s a cop-out and won’t help you in the long run.

After a while in the game, I started to see results. This was big for me, as I had (and still have) a massive sexual appetite that I had no clue how to satiate. I had a few short relationships with girls that made my dick rock-hard, and it made me feel amazing. Seeing how true red pill concepts were when put into action really blew my mind.

However, personality doesn’t change overnight. The way that personality changes requires two things: 1) a new outlook and strategy, and 2) new experiences to test out the new outlook and strategy. After enough new experiences filter through your new strategy, real changes in attitude and personality start to emerge. But that will only happen if you put in the hard work.

I’ve always been a jealous guy. It’s probably my biggest character flaw. I’ve always coveted other people’s things, whether it was a girl, a car, a house, a watch—you name it, I’ve been pissed that someone else has it. But something started to change with me after I had taken some time to digest the red pill and watch the truth of it all unfold in front of my eyes.

I started to notice that, where I used to feel jealousy from hearing about a girl I wanted to fuck banging some other guy, or seeing a chick I would love to bang on a date with some dude more masculine than me, that I wasn’t feeling any jealousy. I truly didn’t care. I didn’t even notice anymore when a girl wouldn’t respond to a text, or would cancel a date.

When I realized that I no longer was feeling this way, it was a complete epiphany. Jealousy is the expression of unrealized ambition—what I had done is figured out how to realize that ambition.

So the advice I wish to impart is simple: the level of jealousy you’re feeling is a direct measure of your inner game strength. I think the same thing can be said for paranoia, neediness, or any of the other classic “beta” traits that those of us who know about the red pill understand are pussy kryptonite. Don’t be afraid to be brutally honest with yourself if a girl’s actions have left you jealous. It’s all part of the journey of self-improvement to becoming a man who is genuinely confident around attractive women.

If you’re starting from a big pussy deficit, it’s going to take a while to get there. There’s no shame in that. You have to experience a pattern of success which proves to you the truth of the red pill. Once that happens you’ll find that you no longer have those jealousy pangs, or at the very least they will be significantly reduced enough to no longer affect your actions.

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44 thoughts on “A Simple Way To Understand Inner Game”

      1. Almost finished with the book. I have been underlining and tagging important sections. Incredible book.
        I will warn people though, it takes a lot of willingness to accept what is being said in the book. Once you read it, it is IMPOSSIBLE to go back to the old way of thinking no matter how hard. You will see the feminine imperitive that Rollo talks about EVERYWHERE. I see it now in advertising, movies, TV. It sends chills up my spine to see the dots being connected in my everyday life.

        1. Yep. Be prepared to have your world shattered, especially if you’re new to these ideas. It will be painful, but 100% worth it. In the book and on his site he talks about guys who try to “plug back in” after they get exposed to his bitter truths. I don’t understand that at all, but I guess for some people the harshness of what he has to say is too much. They’d rather just spend their lives in denial.

        2. Rather than marking the book, I recommend taking notes and making observations in a blank book. Eventually you will have two books for the price of the one.
          One will be that written by Rollo, the other will be one having been written by you.

        3. I see the it too! it’s crazy how it’s right in front of you and how easily it is to miss it. All those years of social programming.

    1. When you first open your eyes and think, “I get this now”, it is really only the first step. You’re going to make mistakes. Don’t worry about it, but learn from them.
      If you want to succeed with women, there are three rules: Approach, approach, and approach. Go over the game film, without punishing yourself.
      À bientôt,

      1. Approaching is so difficult. I am naturally a very shy and reserve guy. But one element that has helped is…that’s right…not giving a fuck.

        1. Approaching is a skill that will develop the way any other skill develops–repetition, analysis and improvement. If you want to build muscle, you do reps in a gym. If you want get better at approaching, you…approach. Sure, it’s easier for naturally extrovert guys, buy you can do it to. Just be indifferent (emotionally) to the outcome, and learn from your mistakes.
          À bientôt,

  1. Not giving a shit is *HUGE* mojo….that is not always apparent, but with time, comes wisdom…
    À bientôt,

        1. Even better: don´t give them what they want, give them what they need, after they earn it.

    1. yeah, it’s incredible what happens when you don’t give a damn…. not just with women, but in life in general…. burn some bridges, you’ll be amazed at the new ones that appear from the mists of life….. the only strange thing about it is the fine line between abundance mentality and outcome Independence against pure ambivalence and laziness… one to watch. There is a magical ‘zone’ where you don’t care much for the outcome and it all falls into place.

      1. Exactly in this moment I’m stuck in some kind of zone where my abundance mentality and outcome indepencence turned into ambivalence and laziness, don’t know how to get out of it. Don’t know how.

  2. And when you learn about red pill forget trying to teach others about it. You will be left disappointed that they are still believing in fairy tales, nice guys and other propaganda. It’s best to hope that one day they will find it on their own. In other words you can lead a horse to water but you cant make it drink.

    1. When the student is ready, the teacher will appear.
      This doesn’t mean that the teacher will find the student, it means that the student will notice the teacher, who was there all along, waiting for him to wake enough to learn.

    2. I’ve learn the that the hard way. Like religion and some similar character building beliefs, Red Pill cannot be thought to the Uninitiated. The only way to learn it is for the person to want it themselves, without outside interference.

      1. The only way to teach it is to live a good example for others to see. Be a walking reminder to the blue pill people in your life that your way is better.

  3. Hmm, inner game. I always show quite a bit of passion when dealing with women, usually passion for myself and my worthiness and none for their uselessness. In Europe being alpha makes you a king among men, especially above the flaccid skinny fohawk chinbeards roaming the streets with a latte.

    1. December always makes me feel like SHIT, the BETA starts to kick in…the cold eats away at my confidence and I always feel tired and exhausted. Tried to increase the exercise and change the diet, still not enough.

        1. I knew it had something to do with the seasons. Lack of exposure to sun light seems to be a big influence. Says on the net to expose myself to light as much as possible during the day, be it artificial or natural. Thanks for the lead Ron ! God bless !

        2. Vitamin D3 1000 Iu for every 25lbs. and Htp-5 try those out. We all lack seretonin too which is the happy neurtransmitter, htp-5 is the precursor to seretonin.

        3. No Problem Johnny. I used to have it pretty bad. But I found if you focus on increasing your natural testosterone profile, which you should already be doing seeing you are on this site, it will take care of a lot the symptoms. Such as increasing your mineral intake such as zinc, magnesium, Vitamin D, and increasing your monosaturated fat and cholesterol intake will do the trick. Think natural such as eggs, free range meats, and cruciferous vegetables. Happy hunting!

  4. I personally look forward to the next chick even if the current situation is working.I find that having a wondering eye keeps my “i could give a fuck” attitude strong and up to date

  5. I think I may have accidentally taken and overdosed on the red pill cause I broke my ex’s heart before I discovered this site

  6. What Frank said is completely the truth.
    You need to truly detach and understand how valuable you are as a man. Not only will you get quality women, but you will have a more fulfilling life as well.( which is the main goal in everything.)
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  7. Also the no fap regime plays a fundamental role in achieving that inner game because, for me, it makes me still thirsty/hungry, but more balanced, conscious of it and like I don’t care that much if that girl still wants to reply to my messages or has just typed a plain, simple “yes” to basically tell me to f*** off. Always keep in mind the abundance principle.

  8. If you feel shy a round a woman I suggest that you trust that. It is to protect you from troubles. You may think that you miss an opportunity but you are only liying to yourself. Woman in america are out of their senses, trust your feeling.

  9. You were not jealous. You coveted and envied other people. Apparently nobody edits these articles.

  10. Hmmm…I am thankful I am not a jealous guy. Really has never gotten to me. My biggest flaw Is i’m too relaxed & not assertive enough when a gaming opportunity presents itself. But I’ve improved greatly on that in the last 2 years.

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